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Post by gregintenn on Jan 18, 2016 11:58:04 GMT -5
I just learned that a guy I graduated high school with dies suddenly yesterday from a heart attack. Damn! He shouldn't be old enough for that. He was a good guy, and left behind a young family. You never know. Cherish each day.
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Jan 18, 2016 12:03:41 GMT -5
Sorry Greg. Yes too young. When I lost 2 of my college fraternity brothers my wife asked when could we retire. I said anytime. A financial adviser at Fidelity confirmed that we could. So in 2010, at 62, we did.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jan 18, 2016 12:03:48 GMT -5
Yeah.....I recently found out that one of my DD/PhD students I helped train died of pancreatic cancer. This woman was a health nut, was making a name for herself in her field and had recently gotten married to a widower with 2 young children who adored her. She was only a couple years older than me.
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Post by gregintenn on Jan 18, 2016 12:05:21 GMT -5
Sorry Greg. Yes too young. When I lost 2 of my college fraternity brothers my wife asked when could we retire. I said anytime. A financial adviser at Fidelity confirmed that we could. So in 2010, at 62, we did. I'm 42! Don't feel bad for me, but a prayer for his family would be nice.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jan 18, 2016 14:11:19 GMT -5
My husband, age 52, has been struggling with this for a few years. Unfortunately, our choices dictate we are not in a financial position to retire without living in our camping trailer and eating cat food.
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Post by daisy on Jan 18, 2016 14:23:04 GMT -5
Prayers to your friend's family Greg - 42 is far too young to go. I can only imagine how devastated his family is right now.
Yep - after surviving a myriad of health problems (any of which could have killed me at the time and still might) DH has retired (at 55/now 57), I have quit my full time job (50)and we are plotting the rest of our lives. Thankfully DH has a pension which will keep us from needing to panhandle - but we looked at each other and said, "This is stupid, you hate your job, I hate mine - done".
We are not wealthy but with him working at a job he enjoys PT and my promising business, we will be fine. All it takes is a second to realize how short life really is.
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Post by GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl on Jan 18, 2016 15:08:55 GMT -5
My husband, age 52, has been struggling with this for a few years. Unfortunately, our choices dictate we are not in a financial position to retire without living in our camping trailer and eating cat food. We're in a similar boat. Partly through poor choices and partly because life happens when you are making other plans. We are diligently trying to maneuver and put things into place, however, so that there might be a possibility before we are eligible for social security (which would be "early" retirement for us given our circumstances).
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 18, 2016 15:15:03 GMT -5
I've already heard of 4 HS classmates dying, and I'm only 33. One I know died overseas while in the armed forces, one died in a very unfortunate work-related accident, and one was a drug overdose.
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Post by bean29 on Jan 18, 2016 15:27:27 GMT -5
My husband, age 52, has been struggling with this for a few years. Unfortunately, our choices dictate we are not in a financial position to retire without living in our camping trailer and eating cat food. LOL,
Us too, but thankfully DH says he is never going to retire (he has slowed down a lot though).
Gregg, the one that really shocked DH and his friends was the loss of the older brother of one of their college friends. I think he was late 30's. The younger brother passed at 49 about a year ago.
This is why we plan with contingencies like having life and health insurance in our portfolio, and make sure we have most of our debt paid off before we reach retirement age.
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Post by gregintenn on Jan 18, 2016 15:41:59 GMT -5
My husband, age 52, has been struggling with this for a few years. Unfortunately, our choices dictate we are not in a financial position to retire without living in our camping trailer and eating cat food. LOL,
Us too, but thankfully DH says he is never going to retire (he has slowed down a lot though).
Gregg, the one that really shocked DH and his friends was the loss of the older brother of one of their college friends. I think he was late 30's. The younger brother passed at 49 about a year ago.
This is why we plan with contingencies like having life and health insurance in our portfolio, and make sure we have most of our debt paid off before we reach retirement age.
I'm insured and debt free, but I'm not quite ready to leave this big blue ball of fun just yet. I doubt he was either.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2016 15:52:00 GMT -5
It doesn't get any better as you get older Gregg. Cancer and car accidents seem to be the worst offenders.
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Post by tallguy on Jan 18, 2016 16:17:16 GMT -5
The one that hit me was the friend I had played basketball with for years, and who was in my wedding, who had a heart attack and died at 36. I was 33 at the time. I've been relatively fortunate though. Of course, that may be because I haven't kept in touch with that many people. My condolences on your loss.
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Post by gregintenn on Jan 18, 2016 16:35:58 GMT -5
I've already heard of 4 HS classmates dying, and I'm only 33. One I know died overseas while in the armed forces, one died in a very unfortunate work-related accident, and one was a drug overdose. i don't know why, but that seems worse than the others. Makes me think of that young man who was recently sucked into a wood chipper his first day on the job. What line of work was your friend in? A couple of weeks ago, another guy I grew up with was working with his son roofing a barn. His son fell off the roof to his demise. We've had a rash of deaths around here lately.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 18, 2016 16:38:08 GMT -5
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Post by whoami on Jan 18, 2016 16:39:50 GMT -5
I am 48 and know of 3 people my age who have had heart attacks. 2 when we were all 40 and one in the last month. They all survived and none had obvious risk factors.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 18, 2016 16:43:24 GMT -5
I hope he had life insurance. It's bad enough to lose your husband but to financially struggle afterward is horrible.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jan 18, 2016 16:47:46 GMT -5
I've already heard of 4 HS classmates dying, and I'm only 33. One I know died overseas while in the armed forces, one died in a very unfortunate work-related accident, and one was a drug overdose. i don't know why, but that seems worse than the others. Makes me think of that young man who was recently sucked into a wood chipper his first day on the job. What line of work was your friend in? he definitely wasn't a friend... but I don't know what he did. I believe he was in a cherry picker that either broke or heavily malfunctioned. He was married to another classmate who he had two small children with.
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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Jan 18, 2016 18:19:35 GMT -5
I just had a class member die on the 4th, we are 37. Another girl in our class killed herself last year. There has been some other deaths in the family of people in my circle, but not that I know personally. It sucks
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Post by cronewitch on Jan 18, 2016 20:00:30 GMT -5
My first classmate death was from drunk driving in high school. Everyone was shocked. My SIL lost one of her brothers to brain cancer when he was about 40. We lost three children to a house fire in 95 but mostly we lose the elderly when it is time. I was just thinking this morning about wondering who is next, what order my SIL will lose siblings. She is 64 and had 6 siblings most are married and 60-70 or so and even her baby brother's kids are late teens now. My brothers are 66-68 and already showing signs of shorter life. Oldest had a stroke and heart issues and bells palsy, youngest has liver problems, not from drinking, keeps getting biopsies and some have nearly killed him from infections. I expect we will have some losses among those of us over 60 in the next 20 years I will be 87 and might have way fewer people in my life. I don't think ISO will live long either he is 68 and smokes and drinks and over eats bad food. To be expected not so bad as losing young adults and children, Mom lost a young cousin with a wife and three kids to a heart attack just after third son was born.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jan 18, 2016 22:19:04 GMT -5
I lost my best friend from junior and senior high school when we were 35. Her dentist overdosed her when pulling out her wisdom teeth. Yes, her husband ended up with a big financial settlement, but as he has said, he'd rather have had his wife to help him raise their 2 year old son.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 18, 2016 22:25:13 GMT -5
Omg.
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