attack of the poodle beast

[Chocolate Lover]

I'd have had a meltdown of epic proportions if someone's dog that I begrudgingly let in destroyed any of my furniture. None of the in laws would be talking to me. Ever. Again. I tend to say what I really really think when royally ticked.

[Deleted]

Does elderly uncle have homeowner's insurance? It might cover damage caused by his dog. They may jack up his rates, but not your problem.

[Sam_2.0]

Good idea, Athena. Lisa - send the bill & advise that you would be glad to make a claim through his homeowners instead if that would be easier

SIL brought her service dog to our house. Not like I could say no to that one. But he was very young and still in the middle of his training. DS was 2 months old and I had just laid him down on the couch. That dog went TEARING through the house and straight onto the couch. Thankfully I snatched up DS just in time. I was not happy at all. This year the dog was much better but I still worried about him being around 6 little kids when he's not used to any at all. SIL ended up crating him to keep him away from the kiddos. Stressful all the way around.

[Green Eyed Lady]

Exactly, Sam. People don't get that dogs can be stressed out also. If you throw them into an unfamiliar setting with strangers and different stimuli than they are used to, they can definitely act out. People think they are doing their dogs a favor by dragging them with them wherever they go, but often they are not. They are stressing them out. In addition, if a dog is allowed to run roughshod in his own home, he doesn't get that he has to follow rules in another.  Really smart and loving people can be really ignorant when it comes to animals.

[Tennesseer]

Jan 8, 2016 13:50:44 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

 Midnight doesn't like strangers, the list of approved people is pretty short (us, the kids, my dad, MIL) and she gets very nervous around other dogs.  We do not travel with her, she stays at home and my dad watches her (in exchange for me watching their dog).  I would never dream of taking her to someone else's house and expecting them to put up with her.

I would also never write off her behavior.  We are well aware she is a nervous dog.  The only kids we allow around her is our own and we warn any adults coming over that she's not the type of dog you can run over to and start petting, she has to get to know you first.

She peed all over my dad's shoes the first time they met.  I told him that's what would happen if he made eye contact and approached her.  You have to let her approach you.

Some people I knew years ago had a white German shepherd. The people made the poor thing neurotic. They even used to yell at him when he licked himself 'down there'. Scolded him for doing something natural. I went to visit them one time and the dog was nervous but happy at the same time to see me. I was sitting on a couch and the dog excitedly jumped onto my lap and proceeded to pee on me. Wasn't mad at the dog but mad at the parents for treating the dog so badly.

[andi9899]

Jan 8, 2016 16:21:10 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Good idea, Athena. Lisa - send the bill & advise that you would be glad to make a claim through his homeowners instead if that would be easier

SIL brought her service dog to our house. Not like I could say no to that one. But he was very young and still in the middle of his training. DS was 2 months old and I had just laid him down on the couch. That dog went TEARING through the house and straight onto the couch. Thankfully I snatched up DS just in time. I was not happy at all. This year the dog was much better but I still worried about him being around 6 little kids when he's not used to any at all. SIL ended up crating him to keep him away from the kiddos. Stressful all the way around.

They give them to you before they are trained all the way? I would think that it would be harder to train them that way.

[MarleyKeezy78]

Christmas at my grandma's, the house had four dogs and all were well behaved thankfully! We take our dog Cassie places she is welcome, she is between 8-10 years old and super chill. I wouldn't dream of taking her places if she was a nightmare, nobody needs that stress. Sorry you have the stupididty of others 

[lisamomof4]

thanks all  ...there are times i wonder if i'm loosing it, so nice to i'm not so off base....this has been a huge topic at home the last few days ...near as we can estimate father eddie is 97? 98? and we don't think he has much of anything and honestly aren't sure how much he really understood or saw....DH's father is a different story but will get nothing from him...'it's the cost of hosting'...i sometimes dream of running him over when he behaves like this. told DH if he made better money things like this wouldn't be an issue . I hate it when he hurts DH. DH is very respected in his field and he loves what he does but we're never going to be rich...i think however that he actually enjoys what he does is worth it....his older brother is a crooked politician in st. charles , other brother is major big wig in multinational corp. but he and wife have no children and is one of the loneliest people i know.

my sister has had her dogs over but are very well trained, she respects my rules and they are either sleeping in the kitchen or outside playing. brothers dog prefers to hang in his crate with door open and just observe...neither will bring their dogs when there's a large group

Dh's whining was based off of sticker shock...it's been 18yrs since we purchased leather sofas and he for some insane reason thought they ran 'around 500'....man at times makes me think he lives under rock...lol....

[zibazinski]

Well, if you're going to buy a new one I think I'd the old one on FIL's front lawn along with a big sign. The old guy probably is clueless but everyone needs to know that no guest dogs will be welcome inside the house and that if the trick is tried, you'll miss them at the gathering. In a way your FIL is right. I no longer had some children over under any circumstances because they destroyed my house while their mom just watched like some zombie. When we were asked to babysit, I said either at her house or neutral territory. She didn't ask why because I'd have told her why. 

[lisamomof4]

zibazinski...yep i no longer help out watching a few children because they have no concept of acceptable behavior at others homes....sorry your kid has a runny nose i'm going to wipe it...no they can't just smear it across my furniture/floors... ....i also have this weird rule of eat what's on your plate...i don't care if mommy says you don't have to eat vegetables...at my house you eat what you're fed...this also goes for mommy...

both couches were damaged...but are structurally sound as are the arms and backs so we're going to have slip covers made for the seats and put them in the rec room in the basement....FIL it would appear thinks everything we own is cheap junk because we aren't financially loaded  ...whatever...i will not share my financials with someone just to correct their ignorance

 i need to give up showing courtesy to some folks i guess...the entire 'learn by example' just isn't having any effect

[whoisjohngalt]

told DH if he made better money things like this wouldn't be an issue

Wow, I thought my FIL was an asshole, but I think yours wins the prize.

[moneymaven]

Jan 10, 2016 19:26:34 GMT -5 whoisjohngalt said:

told DH if he made better money things like this wouldn't be an issue

Wow, I thought my FIL was an asshole, but I think yours wins the prize.

Too close to call. You both put up with a lot!

[TheOtherMe]

When my house was brand new, my niece arrived with her two kids and two dogs.  Both of the dogs are friendly, but one was big.  Dogs and kids go running around the house because mom isn't very good at making them mind.  Niece calls dogs and big dog comes to a screeching halt on my brand new hardwood floor and scratched it.  I felt so bad.  It's 6 years later now and it has more scratches, but the first one was not one I did.

She has never brought the dogs back--in the house.  A few times, I have realized they were in the car when she came.  That dog has died and they now have a totally out of control dog that even my sister won't allow in her house.

[Green Eyed Lady]

Jan 10, 2016 4:54:07 GMT -5 lisamomof4 said:

thanks all  ...there are times i wonder if i'm loosing it, so nice to i'm not so off base....this has been a huge topic at home the last few days ...near as we can estimate father eddie is 97? 98? and we don't think he has much of anything and honestly aren't sure how much he really understood or saw....DH's father is a different story but will get nothing from him...'it's the cost of hosting'...i sometimes dream of running him over when he behaves like this. told DH if he made better money things like this wouldn't be an issue . I hate it when he hurts DH. DH is very respected in his field and he loves what he does but we're never going to be rich...i think however that he actually enjoys what he does is worth it....his older brother is a crooked politician in st. charles , other brother is major big wig in multinational corp. but he and wife have no children and is one of the loneliest people i know.

my sister has had her dogs over but are very well trained, she respects my rules and they are either sleeping in the kitchen or outside playing. brothers dog prefers to hang in his crate with door open and just observe...neither will bring their dogs when there's a large group

Dh's whining was based off of sticker shock...it's been 18yrs since we purchased leather sofas and he for some insane reason thought they ran 'around 500'....man at times makes me think he lives under rock...lol....

Dang!  What a sweet guy.  I don't care if I made 5 million a year - that doesn't mean I'm happy to replace something someone else is responsible for damaging.  That comment was way out of line. 

Please don't run over him. 

[Sam_2.0]

Lisa - between your FIL and your SIL's family, you have got your hands full! I GOT IT! Next time MIL shows up with her family, send her over to FIL's LOL! Oh to see how that would go down. Well, actually, they would probably get along famously and want you to host them both at the same time

[Sam_2.0]

Jan 8, 2016 19:36:15 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Jan 8, 2016 16:21:10 GMT -5 Sam_2.0 said:

Good idea, Athena. Lisa - send the bill & advise that you would be glad to make a claim through his homeowners instead if that would be easier

SIL brought her service dog to our house. Not like I could say no to that one. But he was very young and still in the middle of his training. DS was 2 months old and I had just laid him down on the couch. That dog went TEARING through the house and straight onto the couch. Thankfully I snatched up DS just in time. I was not happy at all. This year the dog was much better but I still worried about him being around 6 little kids when he's not used to any at all. SIL ended up crating him to keep him away from the kiddos. Stressful all the way around.

They give them to you before they are trained all the way? I would think that it would be harder to train them that way.

It's a weird situation. It's a PTSD service dog, I kind of think she just got him certified so she can take him everywhere.

[happyhoix]

zibazinski...yep i no longer help out watching a few children because they have no concept of acceptable behavior at others homes....sorry your kid has a runny nose i'm going to wipe it...no they can't just smear it across my furniture/floors...

At Christmas, my niece brought her three small kids to my house. Everyone of them had a bad cold and cough.

Three year old stood in front of the dessert table, transfixed by a beautiful plate of Christmas cookies that my DIL brought. Started coughing big wet coughs. His mom and grandma were both standing nearby and told him to cover his mouth when he coughed. He covered his mouth for the next cough, then took his hand down and coughed again (those cookies were pretty damp at that point). Mom and grandma laughed, thinking this was so cute. I'm imaging all the germs floating out over the dessert table. I give him a cookies and redirect him away from the table, making a mental note not to eat any cookies, but I forgot to tell DH. He eats one, gets a horrible cold, and four days later, I catch it from him. Just today started feeling a little better.  DS and his wife also both get sick with it. I had DH call his mom (82) to see if she caught it, but she said she's been fighting the crud for 3 months now, so she doesn't know if she got another batch or if it's the old stuff.

Seriously, if you've got three little kids with runny noses/coughs and sneezes  and you really want to bring to the Christmas party anyway, try to keep them away from the food tables!!!

  

[MJ2.0]

ew! I would have just thrown all the cookies in the garbage.

[lexxy703]

Or given them to the three sick kids to eat.  I definitely would have removed them from the buffet.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Our 5 year old makes sure to tell you to the proper way to cough is into your elbow b/c if you cough into your hands you spread germs.

Said as she coughs right in my face.

[zibazinski]

Jan 11, 2016 14:51:40 GMT -5 happyhoix said:

zibazinski...yep i no longer help out watching a few children because they have no concept of acceptable behavior at others homes....sorry your kid has a runny nose i'm going to wipe it...no they can't just smear it across my furniture/floors...

At Christmas, my niece brought her three small kids to my house. Everyone of them had a bad cold and cough.

Three year old stood in front of the dessert table, transfixed by a beautiful plate of Christmas cookies that my DIL brought. Started coughing big wet coughs. His mom and grandma were both standing nearby and told him to cover his mouth when he coughed. He covered his mouth for the next cough, then took his hand down and coughed again (those cookies were pretty damp at that point). Mom and grandma laughed, thinking this was so cute. I'm imaging all the germs floating out over the dessert table. I give him a cookies and redirect him away from the table, making a mental note not to eat any cookies, but I forgot to tell DH. He eats one, gets a horrible cold, and four days later, I catch it from him. Just today started feeling a little better.  DS and his wife also both get sick with it. I had DH call his mom (82) to see if she caught it, but she said she's been fighting the crud for 3 months now, so she doesn't know if she got another batch or if it's the old stuff.

Seriously, if you've got three little kids with runny noses/coughs and sneezes  and you really want to bring to the Christmas party anyway, try to keep them away from the food tables!!!

  

Oh god, DH's ex did this to a huge Passover dinner and got everyone there sick as a dog plus the 83 year old hostess. DH begged her not to go. They were still married at the time.

[andi9899]

That ranks right up there with sending your kid to school with pink eye.

[whoami]

My Nephews seem to have the plague pretty much all winter and since SIL work sched is so erratic, they end up at my parents house which pisses me off. My mother is in her mid 70s and has a compromised immune system and doesnt need to be exposed to that crap.

I came right out and said it last time I was there and my statement hit the floor like a lead weight. I dont think anyone knew what to say. 

I dont care who was insulted either....if SIL wants to work (she doesnt make enough to support them alone so my brother quitting isnt an option) she needs to get a job that lets her stay home with her sick kids since they seem to be sick from the time school starts till June. 

[gs11rmb]

Jan 11, 2016 20:08:52 GMT -5 whoami said:

My Nephews seem to have the plague pretty much all winter and since SIL work sched is so erratic, they end up at my parents house which pisses me off. My mother is in her mid 70s and has a compromised immune system and doesnt need to be exposed to that crap.

I came right out and said it last time I was there and my statement hit the floor like a lead weight. I dont think anyone knew what to say. 

I dont care who was insulted either....if SIL wants to work (she doesnt make enough to support them alone so my brother quitting isnt an option) she needs to get a job that lets her stay home with her sick kids since they seem to be sick from the time school starts till June. 

Just curious why you are so angry with your SIL, rather than your brother, for dropping off sick kids with your parents.  Why shouldn't he seek out a job that allows him to work from home?

[whoami]

Jan 12, 2016 13:04:43 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

Jan 11, 2016 20:08:52 GMT -5 whoami said:

My Nephews seem to have the plague pretty much all winter and since SIL work sched is so erratic, they end up at my parents house which pisses me off. My mother is in her mid 70s and has a compromised immune system and doesnt need to be exposed to that crap.

I came right out and said it last time I was there and my statement hit the floor like a lead weight. I dont think anyone knew what to say. 

I dont care who was insulted either....if SIL wants to work (she doesnt make enough to support them alone so my brother quitting isnt an option) she needs to get a job that lets her stay home with her sick kids since they seem to be sick from the time school starts till June. 

Just curious why you are so angry with your SIL, rather than your brother, for dropping off sick kids with your parents.  Why shouldn't he seek out a job that allows him to work from home?

Because my brother builds roads in the woods. He's done that type of work all his life....he's going to quit and do what from home?  

I realize don't understand the demographics and employment opportunities where they live because if you did, you would understand what a ridiculous suggestion him working from home is. Besides, given he brings in 98% of the money, it would be pretty stupid for him to quit.

SILs boredom with being home should not translate into exposing my parents to potentially life threatening illnesses. 

[gs11rmb]

Jan 12, 2016 13:50:15 GMT -5 whoami said:

Jan 12, 2016 13:04:43 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

Just curious why you are so angry with your SIL, rather than your brother, for dropping off sick kids with your parents.  Why shouldn't he seek out a job that allows him to work from home?

Because my brother builds roads in the woods. He's done that type of work all his life....he's going to quit and do what from home?  

I realize don't understand the demographics and employment opportunities where they live because if you did, you would understand what a ridiculous suggestion him working from home is. Besides, given he brings in 98% of the money, it would be pretty stupid for him to quit.

SILs boredom with being home should not translate into exposing my parents to potentially life threatening illnesses. 

What I'm trying to point out is those children are as much your brother's as your SIL's, yet she is the one viewed to be in the wrong.  Their childcare arrangements are as much his responsibility as hers, regardless of who makes the most money.

[❤ mollymouser ❤]

When it comes to pets, our home is FULL.  Uninvited pets do not get free run of the house. I suppose an uninvited dog could either make himself at home outside in our enclosed Catio, or it could be crated. But it's not running around loose in my house and traumatizing my cats.