Is this how some people think or are they joking?

[billisonboard]

Nov 12, 2015 17:41:35 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

... As long as I'm not doing anything wrong, I don't stop doing what I want to do because of what random people might think either.

Hell, even if I am doing something wrong, I don't stop doing what I want to do because of what random people might think either.

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Nov 12, 2015 18:06:32 GMT -5 billisonboard said:

Nov 12, 2015 17:41:35 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

... As long as I'm not doing anything wrong, I don't stop doing what I want to do because of what random people might think either.

Hell, even if I am doing something wrong, I don't stop doing what I want to do because of what random people might think either.

Bill is a bad boy!

[Robert not Bobby]

Have more open minded friends.

One of my most interesting and beautiful colleagues is a lesbian, and we spend time together, because we respect each others work and are there for each other. Krista is my right hand lady and I would do anything for her, well almost.

No one has called me gay.

Wait...that is a different dynamic.

[weltschmerz]

Nov 12, 2015 15:31:22 GMT -5 billisonboard said:

Nov 12, 2015 15:19:46 GMT -5 Value Buy said:

Even in my isolated little world I know that's a big fat NO.

So how do you say to Mary that she shouldn't invest time in getting Sam interesting in dating her because Sam will never be interested in dating her. Isn't there a fun way to say it or does it have to be a proper descriptor?

Depends. Is Sam short for Samantha?

[billisonboard]

Nov 12, 2015 19:45:57 GMT -5 weltschmerz said:

Nov 12, 2015 15:31:22 GMT -5 billisonboard said:

So how do you say to Mary that she shouldn't invest time in getting Sam interesting in dating her because Sam will never be interested in dating her. Isn't there a fun way to say it or does it have to be a proper descriptor?

Depends. Is Sam short for Samantha?

Either/and yes/no.

[haapai]

It's just a--holes. 

I won't assume that all of the folks doing this are coming from one side of the aisle.  Sometimes queer folk can be a--holes too. 

[kareninwa]

A similar thing happened to me at my current job several years ago, although I just found out about it a few months ago. I used to hang out with another single woman in my department. We'd do lunch, dinner, go shopping, see a movie, etc. Back at a time when we had Thurs/Fri as days off, so it's always nice when you find a friend who has the same weird days off as you do. Fast fwd to earlier this year, and I found out from my trans-gender co-worker that everyone at work was talking about how me and my co-worker friend were "dating". Everyone believed it, too. Now, I live in the Seattle area, and work about 25 miles north or so. Most of the people I work with live north of work. I grew up in the Seattle area, and always looked at the "north-enders" as less sophisticated than those of us who lived closer to the city. I feel that calling 2 women who are friends and do things that friends do as "dating" is country bumpkin, at least in the context this happened in. Granted, I do have a cousin who owns a successful gay bar in Seattle, and my friend and I used to go there. But seriously, who wouldn't go to their cousin's gay bar The best night to go was the Firefighter calendar night! Sadly, there is no more Firefighter calendar night, which is a sad state of affairs indeed. But that's another topic of discussion!

KarenInWA

[Tennesseer]

Speaking of lesbians, thank goodness this judge came to his senses after his senseless and ridiculous ruling this past Tuesday.


Order to take baby from lesbian couple reversed


SALT LAKE CITY — A Utah judge reversed his decision to take a baby away from her lesbian foster parents and place her with a heterosexual couple after the ruling led to widespread backlash.

Judge Scott Johansen signed an order, which was released Friday, that will allow the 9-month-old baby to stay with April Hoagland and Beckie Peirce, a married couple who live in the city of Price.

It comes after Johansen said in court Tuesday that the baby would be removed from the couple's home. Utah officials and the couple filed court challenges demanding the judge rescind the order.

In his first decision, Johansen cited research that shows children do better when raised by heterosexual families. However, the American Psychological Association has said there's no scientific basis that gay couples are unfit parents based on sexual orientation.

Order to take baby from lesbian couple reversed

[NancysSummerSip]

Tenn, I think the only reason he came to his senses is because he got called out on it in the media. Had this case not come to light, it might not have happened. Judge Bonehead needs to separate his religious beliefs from his judicial duties, or get his fanny as far from the bench as possible.

[Deleted]

Nov 8, 2015 18:38:57 GMT -5 nutty said:

My two best friends are a lesbian and a bisexual. By association I have been declared a lesbian or bi, I am not sure people are joking or not but it is starting to annoy the piss out of me. Is this normal thinking for normal people or just assholes that think this.

Actually I do this. I have a few friends that are gay and if the single ones are hanging out with someone that is same sex that I don't know I kinda figure they are dating. I realised this because I just saw a pic on FB of one of them with a woman I don't know and that is exactly what I thought. That made me realise that they have a circle of about 6 or 7 women friends that socialise together a lot, I know for sure that at least a few are lesbians so I assume the others are. It's not a compliment or insult. It's just what I figure.

[Robert not Bobby]

Nov 8, 2015 18:38:57 GMT -5 nutty said:

My two best friends are a lesbian and a bisexual. By association I have been declared a lesbian or bi, I am not sure people are joking or not but it is starting to annoy the piss out of me. Is this normal thinking for normal people or just assholes that think this.

 No. To me it is completely normal thinking. One of my colleagues, Krista...has a moving, not static, sexual orientation. She is in full blown lezzy mode these days.

Who you hang around tends to define you, in other peoples eyes.

Don't worry about it...be who you are.

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Nov 12, 2015 17:41:35 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

Several years ago, a coworker that didn't like me spread a rumor that me and another coworker that I'm friends with were girlfriends. Did I get upset? No. My friend has been happily married to a man for years and I'm single and love men. I know who I am and what I like, so that kind of stuff doesn't bother me.

I went out on Beale Street in Memphis with a close relative and her husband. I hadn't seen my relative in a while and for whatever reason, she grabbed my hand as we were walking down Beale. So, she's holding her husband's hand on one side and mine on the other. I told her people were going to think her husband was one lucky guy lol. I didn't care what they thought. If my relative was happy to be out with me and wanted to hold my hand, I wasn't going to make her stop just because people might think we were gay.

I'm a pretty private person IRL and I've learned the hard way that when you don't tell people all your business, they'll make up stuff about you. I don't even bother getting offended. Especially about what some random person that has no impact on my life thinks. As long as I'm not doing anything wrong, I don't stop doing what I want to do because of what random people might think either.

Yeah, and I still won't tell all my biz to everyone.  It is what it is with folks and I've given up on what the losers and haters think.  And, sadly, some of my friends too.  Right now, I would rather be here than with my IRL judgmental friends and neighbors.  But, if they are truly friends, I guess they wouldn't be judgemental