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Post by weltschmerz on Oct 21, 2015 21:47:17 GMT -5
Older woman (much older) - younger man (by decades) is disturbing. IMO Why is it disturbing? You see plenty of 55 year old women with 70 yr old men.
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 21, 2015 23:16:05 GMT -5
Older woman (much older) - younger man (by decades) is disturbing. IMO Why is it disturbing? You see plenty of 55 year old women with 70 yr old men. I find that perplexing as well. And, in many cases, I jump to the conclusion that he has money. Not always true - but it often is.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Oct 22, 2015 7:01:08 GMT -5
Why is it disturbing? You see plenty of 55 year old women with 70 yr old men. I find that perplexing as well. And, in many cases, I jump to the conclusion that he has money. Not always true - but it often is. I'm pretty sure it is almost always true...or else they got together when they were very young. While at 40 the thought of dating a 25 year old guy would have seemed icky (the mentality of a 25 year old guy is just not on par with that of a 40 year old me!) the thought of me at 55 dating a 70 year old guy is
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Post by NoNamePerson on Oct 22, 2015 7:04:20 GMT -5
I find that perplexing as well. And, in many cases, I jump to the conclusion that he has money. Not always true - but it often is. I'm pretty sure it is almost always true...or else they got together when they were very young. While at 40 the thought of dating a 25 year old guy would have seemed icky (the mentality of a 25 year old guy is just not on par with that of a 40 year old me!) the thought of me at 55 dating a 70 year old guy is
My thoughts exactly
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Post by Ombud on Oct 22, 2015 8:34:23 GMT -5
Let me get this right: your mom's BF died so your pimping her out to find another guy to support her?? Yet you were upset that BF's DD thought you might have viewed him as a meal ticket? What about giving her that 25k cash suitcase?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Oct 22, 2015 8:43:05 GMT -5
Let me get this right: your mom's BF died so your pimping her out to find another guy to support her?? Yet you were upset that BF's DD thought you might have viewed him as a meal ticket? What about giving her that 25k cash suitcase? Don't be silly. Loony has plans for that money. Her daughter will be graduating from college soon and will need to start shopping for looking for a husband. That requires a little pimp-out money, ya know. Oh, and Loony's husband is getting a little lame now that he's getting older. Before you know it, he'll be out to pasture and she'll have to start casting around for a newer, younger model.
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 22, 2015 9:31:24 GMT -5
I knew one couple where he was 15+ years older than she was. He was a minister - so not wealthy. She had a power-job and pretty much supported the family. She was also quite pretty. He wasn't notably handsome. He must have been a great guy.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2015 9:52:10 GMT -5
I knew one couple where he was 15+ years older than she was. He was a minister - so not wealthy. She had a power-job and pretty much supported the family. She was also quite pretty. He wasn't notably handsome. He must have been a great guy. When DH and I married, I was 50 and he was 65. That was 13 years ago and our marriage is still solid. Our situation was similar to the one above; we moved halfway across the country for my job and he retired, started taking SS and kept up the house and the cars and did all the cooking. DS wouldn't be half the fine young man he is without DH's influence. (Heck, even my Ex's family have said that!) I'm married to my best friend and we've shared so much, including travel to most of the major capitals of Europe. (And we're not done yet!)
If I'd ditched him because of the age difference back when we started dating, I might have found someone equally compatible my own age. Or, I might have found someone who wanted a meal ticket and brought nothing to the table in return. (Which is pretty much what my Ex was the last 5 years of the marriage.) I'm glad I stayed with DH.
Apologies for the tangent from the OP, but the stereotype of the Rich Old Geezer/Much Younger Gold-Digger couple doesn't always mirror reality.
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Post by tloonya on Oct 22, 2015 9:54:48 GMT -5
How long ago did her boyfriend pass? She may still be grieving and need more time before she starts looking. As far as the age difference, I do think it is odd that someone so much younger would be actively seeking a partner her age. I am significantly older than DH, but it was a case of us being attracted to each other as individuals in spite of the age difference, rather than actively seeking someone with an age difference. I would watch for a potential con. Craigslist is too risky these days for you to expose your mom there. I have an acquaintance that met her husband on Craigslist, but she took her life in her hands every time she met a strange man at a hotel room. Hotel room?
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Post by tloonya on Oct 22, 2015 9:58:23 GMT -5
Have you LOOKED at the personal ads on Craigslist? Half the men seeking women ones have pictures of the guys shlong. No way. Please say you are kidding.
"Nope. This guy doesn't look like a good match for me. We have nothing in common. Plus? He's a Democrat. WAIT!! Look at that!! I've changed my mind."
Does this really happen? Are there women out there who would go out with a man because of a picture of his....you know?
you need to get out more often. AFF is the site for you to start.
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Post by tloonya on Oct 22, 2015 10:00:30 GMT -5
Older woman (much older) - younger man (by decades) is disturbing. IMO Why is it disturbing? You see plenty of 55 year old women with 70 yr old men. I SAID why. Older men don't repalse me like old women.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Oct 22, 2015 10:01:37 GMT -5
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Post by tloonya on Oct 22, 2015 10:26:00 GMT -5
Let me get this right: your mom's BF died so your pimping her out to find another guy to support her?? Yet you were upset that BF's DD thought you might have viewed him as a meal ticket? What about giving her that 25k cash suitcase? Mom is caring for woman with Parkinson right now. However woman doesn't speak Russian and mom feeling like she wants more communication. So after she had mentioned it I thought about a partner in life. And of course if he is going to support her financially I would be very happy about it.
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Post by tloonya on Oct 22, 2015 10:28:20 GMT -5
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Oct 22, 2015 11:12:49 GMT -5
Ok. What is AFF?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Oct 22, 2015 11:13:32 GMT -5
I knew one couple where he was 15+ years older than she was. He was a minister - so not wealthy. She had a power-job and pretty much supported the family. She was also quite pretty. He wasn't notably handsome. He must have been a great guy. When DH and I married, I was 50 and he was 65. That was 13 years ago and our marriage is still solid. Our situation was similar to the one above; we moved halfway across the country for my job and he retired, started taking SS and kept up the house and the cars and did all the cooking. DS wouldn't be half the fine young man he is without DH's influence. (Heck, even my Ex's family have said that!) I'm married to my best friend and we've shared so much, including travel to most of the major capitals of Europe. (And we're not done yet!)
If I'd ditched him because of the age difference back when we started dating, I might have found someone equally compatible my own age. Or, I might have found someone who wanted a meal ticket and brought nothing to the table in return. (Which is pretty much what my Ex was the last 5 years of the marriage.) I'm glad I stayed with DH.
Apologies for the tangent from the OP, but the stereotype of the Rich Old Geezer/Much Younger Gold-Digger couple doesn't always mirror reality.
I'll second that. DH and I have close to the same age gap as Athena does. We married younger than they did. No kids and no previous marriages for either of us. It's not about gold-digging. Sometimes, you dig for something else far more priceless in a person - and actually find it.
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Post by tloonya on Oct 22, 2015 11:23:36 GMT -5
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Post by tloonya on Oct 22, 2015 11:25:42 GMT -5
Adult Friend Finder where people think that all they have to do is take picture of ding-dong or pickachoo and they will get grabbed. Ratio is 1 woman per 100 men, so men are really trying!!!
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Oct 22, 2015 11:30:40 GMT -5
I'm not going to ask how you know this. And I'm not going to ask what a pickachoo is. I'm just going to say thanks for the information and put Adult Friend Finder of my list of things never to do ever for one second. Buy hey! If it works for some people, who am I to judge?
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Post by tloonya on Oct 22, 2015 11:45:19 GMT -5
I'm not going to ask how you know this. And I'm not going to ask what a pickachoo is. I'm just going to say thanks for the information and put Adult Friend Finder of my list of things never to do ever for one second. Buy hey! If it works for some people, who am I to judge? Archie told me! Ok, you listed all the questions you don't want answered? Another I am pretty sure you can google pikachoo and you will find out from Chelsea Handler herself what is that. And yes there are lots of happy frustrated people. Its the whole new world. But I am out of there. I didn't know what it was and became a member and was like WOW WTF And I ran...but images aren't leaving my brain.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Oct 22, 2015 11:52:28 GMT -5
I absolutely believe it's a whole new world....which is why I just stay home in my own little one!
You crack me up.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Oct 22, 2015 11:54:18 GMT -5
I do not want to date a 47-year-old man. Well, unless he was really hot. And tall. Sorry if I'm shallow for that.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2015 12:40:23 GMT -5
I do not want to date a 47-year-old man. Well, unless he was really hot. And tall. Sorry if I'm shallow for that. What? 47 is old now! I only have a few months left! Personally, I think a lot of men become more handsome and distinguished in their 40's. I've married older and married younger. Probably should try one my age once.
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Post by mroped on Oct 22, 2015 12:44:17 GMT -5
Looking for a man for your mom? Well then...keep looking!
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Post by MJ2.0 on Oct 22, 2015 12:54:27 GMT -5
I do not want to date a 47-year-old man. Well, unless he was really hot. And tall. Sorry if I'm shallow for that. What? 47 is old now! I only have a few months left! Personally, I think a lot of men become more handsome and distinguished in their 40's. I've married older and married younger. Probably should try one my age once. 40 is my limit right now, but I'm sure that will change. I tend to go for the younger ones.
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Post by cktc on Oct 22, 2015 13:00:16 GMT -5
You should just have them all over for a pot luck. Maybe you will all hit it off and can make it a weekly thing.
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Post by tloonya on Oct 22, 2015 13:13:12 GMT -5
I absolutely believe it's a whole new world....which is why I just stay home in my own little one!
You crack me up.
Come out. I had learned SO MUCH about people I had never thought possible. What have YOU learned in your lil world? I bet Archie isn't posting because he is already signed up to AFF.
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Post by tloonya on Oct 22, 2015 13:15:55 GMT -5
Looking for a man for your mom? Well then...keep looking! Thanks for your permission like if I needed one like if I am not already looking
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Post by tloonya on Oct 22, 2015 13:17:07 GMT -5
You should just have them all over for a pot luck. Maybe you will all hit it off and can make it a weekly thing. Specially the one who said he has tons of money and can make people disappear. I LOVE THAT CAT! Thanks
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Post by tskeeter on Oct 22, 2015 13:26:30 GMT -5
Guys looking for someone to be their unpaid nurse (and leave her with nothing, again, when they die). Or, looking for a purse, to support them in the style to which they wish to become accustom.
but, then again, you're looking for someone to support Mom, too. Kind of mercenary.
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