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Post by zibazinski on Jul 23, 2015 10:02:52 GMT -5
They aren't always small! People tend to think 'homeschooling' looks like 'take a school classroom and bring it home substituting me for teacher' ... It really isn't like that and can look about a million different ways to suit supervisors and kids. You have so much patience is the homeschooling myth that gets the most laughter from HS moms, well, apart from the socialization one Take my word for it - homeschooling for me and my kids would be a disaster. My boy is 5.5 and we're STILL having poop in the underwear issues. A few months ago he was in tears when it would happen because of how I responded to him when he'd tell me. So no, I won't be homeschooling any time soon. And we've managed to recover some of the damage I've done to him regarding this. But using this as a mirror to homeschooling = a horrible plan for my kids. I'm not saying no one should home-school, just that I and DH would suck badly at it. And likely fuck up our kids interest in learning as well as their being reasonably happy and well adjusted members of society as adults. Try those wipes that you can flush.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 10:02:42 GMT -5
Gay marriage.
Managed to lose another 'friendship' over this one I think.
She thinks its because I 'care that she is a conservative Christian and will base her beliefs on the bible and I can't be friends with someone like that..'
Can't seem to explain I don't give a care at all about that... but that since I know she is, she tells me ALL THE TIME she is, goes in to her beliefs all the time, and I have NEVER tried to change those beliefs, or even questioned them.... that maybe she could stop suggesting that her rights are being threatened, she can't say what she feels any more, she can't be a conservative Christian in this society... etc. etc...
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 23, 2015 10:11:18 GMT -5
Can someone explain to me how you keep all the details straight enough to actually catch people in the crap you guys do? (Hopes that is vague and specific enough all at once) I don't care enough to remember the details that well, it's just entertainment for me.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 23, 2015 10:13:26 GMT -5
Gay marriage.
Managed to lose another 'friendship' over this one I think.
She thinks its because I 'care that she is a conservative Christian and will base her beliefs on the bible and I can't be friends with someone like that..'
Can't seem to explain I don't give a care at all about that... but that since I know she is, she tells me ALL THE TIME she is, goes in to her beliefs all the time, and I have NEVER tried to change those beliefs, or even questioned them.... that maybe she could stop suggesting that her rights are being threatened, she can't say what she feels any more, she can't be a conservative Christian in this society... etc. etc... Anyone I've ever known that called themselves conservative Christians are people that I can't be friends with. They're much more hateful about different people than my heathen self will ever be. I do have a couple of friends who just call themselves Christians, if they call themselves anything at all, and they are decent human beings. No, wonderful humans.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 10:17:08 GMT -5
She is not a bad person. I don't share the same beliefs, but we have never had an issue. Mainly, I've come to realize, because I try to keep everything on common ground and while she might be very open about her beliefs, I tend to keep mine close.
I really don't care if that continued.
What I find is my line in the sand though, is when you are the party who is going around talking all the time about your beliefs and opinions AND start suggesting that you are being oppressed from being who you are and unable to share your beliefs and opinions. Don't call me intolerant of God's people and unwilling to let you be who you are when you are the one who actually GETS to be who you all over the place...
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Post by happyhoix on Jul 23, 2015 10:25:30 GMT -5
I can proudly say that I have NEVER stepped foot into a Chuckie Cheese, but my kids have had the experience several times so they won't grow up having missed out. I just send them with other people. I always tried to do that. When DS was small, other parents would arrange B-day parties there on Saturdays, when it's crammed with screaming children, singing bears and shouting parents. I would try to get DS a car pool ride so I wouldn't have to attend myself, but all the other parents were all doing the same damn thing. Stupid mean parents.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 10:25:39 GMT -5
Ok. I have a gay etiquette question.
If I've been told someone is gay, can I ask them about it ? Because I wouldn't ask a heterosexual about it, I'm guessing not. I get the feeling he's hiding it though and while I wouldn't want to 'out' him anywhere he didn't want people to know, I'd like him to understand we are totally supportive/ok with that...
I think its probably not ok to ask about.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jul 23, 2015 10:28:16 GMT -5
Gay marriage.
Managed to lose another 'friendship' over this one I think.
She thinks its because I 'care that she is a conservative Christian and will base her beliefs on the bible and I can't be friends with someone like that..'
Can't seem to explain I don't give a care at all about that... but that since I know she is, she tells me ALL THE TIME she is, goes in to her beliefs all the time, and I have NEVER tried to change those beliefs, or even questioned them.... that maybe she could stop suggesting that her rights are being threatened, she can't say what she feels any more, she can't be a conservative Christian in this society... etc. etc... I agree with you AND with her. It is not difficult to be a practicing conservative Christian. I do what I want when I want and will continue to do so...at least in that regard. It IS difficult to voice your opinions in a discussion. Just try it here and see what happens. Peoples' heads explode.
I've decided it's not all that important that people know what I think so I rarely volunteer it anymore. If asked, however, I will not shy away from the question. That gets all kinds of flack, but I'm used to it. I do sometimes feel like people are trying to silence me after asking me what I think, but I can live with that. I just don't allow them to.
There are some people who just look for trouble. Nothing you can do about that. If the friendship is no longer possible, it's no longer possible. People come and go out of our lives all the time. Mourn the loss and get on with it. It doesn't appear that you've done anything wrong.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jul 23, 2015 10:29:19 GMT -5
Can someone explain to me how you keep all the details straight enough to actually catch people in the crap you guys do? (Hopes that is vague and specific enough all at once) I don't care enough to remember the details that well, it's just entertainment for me. You need to keep a spread sheet and a Word document where you copy all pertinent posts you may want to bring up later.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 10:34:35 GMT -5
Gay marriage.
Managed to lose another 'friendship' over this one I think.
She thinks its because I 'care that she is a conservative Christian and will base her beliefs on the bible and I can't be friends with someone like that..'
Can't seem to explain I don't give a care at all about that... but that since I know she is, she tells me ALL THE TIME she is, goes in to her beliefs all the time, and I have NEVER tried to change those beliefs, or even questioned them.... that maybe she could stop suggesting that her rights are being threatened, she can't say what she feels any more, she can't be a conservative Christian in this society... etc. etc... I agree with you AND with her. It is not difficult to be a practicing conservative Christian. I do what I want when I want and will continue to do so...at least in that regard. It IS difficult to voice your opinions in a discussion. Just try it here and see what happens. Peoples' heads explode.
I've decided it's not all that important that people know what I think so I rarely volunteer it anymore. If asked, however, I will not shy away from the question. That gets all kinds of flack, but I'm used to it. I do sometimes feel like people are trying to silence me after asking me what I think, but I can live with that. I just don't allow them to.
There are some people who just look for trouble. Nothing you can do about that. If the friendship is no longer possible, it's no longer possible. People come and go out of our lives all the time. Mourn the loss and get on with it. It doesn't appear that you've done anything wrong.
The thing is, IRL I never respond the way I might here. I have never tried to change her beliefs. At best I might argue that, as the US is not a Theocracy, we can't really interject religion into our law, no matter what our personal beliefs. This place is an outlet because I do think I keep so guarded IRL.
I hope you don't feel that you can't say what you think here, even if we don't believe the same things.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 23, 2015 10:35:26 GMT -5
Can someone explain to me how you keep all the details straight enough to actually catch people in the crap you guys do? (Hopes that is vague and specific enough all at once) I don't care enough to remember the details that well, it's just entertainment for me. You need to keep a spread sheet and a Word document where you copy all pertinent posts you may want to bring up later. I have a really good memory for things I've read. So while I'm not trying to remember what I"m reading, it's how my brain seems to be wired.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jul 23, 2015 10:38:51 GMT -5
I agree with you AND with her. It is not difficult to be a practicing conservative Christian. I do what I want when I want and will continue to do so...at least in that regard. It IS difficult to voice your opinions in a discussion. Just try it here and see what happens. Peoples' heads explode.
I've decided it's not all that important that people know what I think so I rarely volunteer it anymore. If asked, however, I will not shy away from the question. That gets all kinds of flack, but I'm used to it. I do sometimes feel like people are trying to silence me after asking me what I think, but I can live with that. I just don't allow them to.
There are some people who just look for trouble. Nothing you can do about that. If the friendship is no longer possible, it's no longer possible. People come and go out of our lives all the time. Mourn the loss and get on with it. It doesn't appear that you've done anything wrong.
The thing is, IRL I never respond the way I might here. I have never tried to change her beliefs. At best I might argue that, as the US is not a Theocracy, we can't really interject religion into our law, no matter what our personal beliefs. This place is an outlet because I do think I keep so guarded IRL.
I hope you don't feel that you can't say what you think here, even if we don't believe the same things.
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That's exactly why I said I didn't see where you'd done anything wrong and had tried to preserve the relationship as best you could.
And no. I feel I CAN say anything here. I just choose not to sometimes. Mostly because it gets into the same circular argument every time. Some days, it's worth it. Some days it isn't. You know how that is. Depends on my mood....which changes like the weather!
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jul 23, 2015 10:39:32 GMT -5
You need to keep a spread sheet and a Word document where you copy all pertinent posts you may want to bring up later. I have a really good memory for things I've read. So while I'm not trying to remember what I"m reading, it's how my brain seems to be wired. Not me. I can't remember what was said this morning. I tried to get the details straight in another thread the last couple of days. Never happened.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 23, 2015 10:41:54 GMT -5
Let's see. Spanking or not gets some people going. Bad parents, welfare abusers. Baby daddies that make more babies they can't support. Teacher bashing always is fun.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jul 23, 2015 10:45:20 GMT -5
I'd say no. I do not want to be spanked.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 23, 2015 10:45:35 GMT -5
Frustration, anger, exasperation and general disgust at having to still be dealing with other people's poop for 7 years running.
I guess I wonder if 1) not having the time to deal with this along with everything else 2) having other people know that he still does this ... etc. play a part?
Lots of things that were 'issues' when I worked, weren't issues any more later because there was just more time, I wasn't in a rush to get some where, no one else needed to be involved. We could just stay home if it was an issue, how I talked to the kids changed... etc. There is more time, for more options, and less pressure...
Not saying that well. May be losing interest, lol.
Want to reiterate too that I don't know that I would have been good staying home with infants all the time. I think we all have stages/ages we are better suited for...
This usually happens at home, not at school or dcp. What I think is going on is that he's having fun playing and he doesn't want to stop playing to go to the bathroom. So when he finally DOES go to the bathroom, there's poop in his underwear. Sometimes a lot, sometimes just a skid mark. But 99.98% of the time, I'm the one cleaning the underwear, the washcloth and checking his butt. And this is damn near daily. He's 5.5 and I'm out of ways to talk to him about this. The only thing that seems to work is to consistently ask him how his underwear is and to remind make him go sit on the toilet and try to push every 30-45 minutes or so. He's not bad at wiping, for the most part. We used flushable wipes with our daughter, while we didn't clog the toilet, they were used enthusiastically. We'd rather not go back there again.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jul 23, 2015 10:46:33 GMT -5
@hickle You're So Vain, You Think This Thread is About You!!!! Hey, don't judge, just trying to do my part here and I'm bored to tears
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 10:50:36 GMT -5
5.5 isn't too young to take of his pants, rinse them and put on a new pair, or at least put them in a bucket of soap and water and put on a new pair, if he can wipe ok. Don't be mean about it. Its not a punishment. Its just our responsibility to clean up ourselves.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jul 23, 2015 10:57:36 GMT -5
Y'all need to temporarily stop feeding posts to this thread. It has an unfair advantage over the multiple baby daddies thread which is locked at this time.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 10:59:23 GMT -5
Go this thread!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 11:00:25 GMT -5
Seriously though, this has got to be one of the slowest slogs to 10 pages I've ever been on... we need more help! getting this thread to 10 pages Can't be ONLY thing I accomplish today..,
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 23, 2015 11:01:46 GMT -5
Y'all need to temporarily stop feeding posts to this thread. It has an unfair advantage over the multiple baby daddies thread which is locked at this time. That means we should speed up so we can at least catch it! It has the advantage here after all.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 23, 2015 11:02:15 GMT -5
Can someone explain to me how you keep all the details straight enough to actually catch people in the crap you guys do? (Hopes that is vague and specific enough all at once) I don't care enough to remember the details that well, it's just entertainment for me. You need to keep a spread sheet and a Word document where you copy all pertinent posts you may want to bring up later. That sounds like actual work. I come here to not do that.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jul 23, 2015 11:03:50 GMT -5
Y'all need to temporarily stop feeding posts to this thread. It has an unfair advantage over the multiple baby daddies thread which is locked at this time. Quit telling us what to do! I'm keeping track of your bossiness on a spread sheet, young man.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 23, 2015 11:05:02 GMT -5
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Jul 23, 2015 11:05:35 GMT -5
Seriously though, this has got to be one of the slowest slogs to 10 pages I've ever been on... we need more help! getting this thread to 10 pages Can't be ONLY thing I accomplish today.., That's cause only the really cool people are posting here. There aren't that many of us.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 23, 2015 11:06:15 GMT -5
G!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jul 23, 2015 11:07:12 GMT -5
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