Surgery - Just In Case Planning - am I missing anything?

[shanendoah]

I am having surgery on July 15. It is a fairly routine surgery for which they expect me to remain in the hospital one night and go home the next day. However, just like with any time you go under general anesthesia, there's a chance you don't come out.

I am NOT going to write my husband or daughter sappy letters. I'm just not. That seems silly for something this routine. Because I really do expect to come out just fine. (I've been under general anesthesia before.) BUT, since I handle all of our finances, it seems irresponsible of me not to create a list of log in and passwords for our bills and other online accounts, just in case.

Here's my list. Am I missing anything? (As a note, he knows at least some of these already, but I can't guarantee he'd remember them, should something happen to me.)

Computer password for my laptop (it's also the admin account for our daughter's laptop)
Cell phone password
Email accounts & passwords - hotmail, gmail, private domain
HostGator account & password
Blog admin links and passwords
FaceBook
LinkedIn
YM

Bank Accounts - both his log in and mine (we're primary on different accounts, so something can only be done from his account, others can only be done from mine)
Online Savings account
Credit cards - citi, chase, amex
Mortgage accounts
Comcast
Magic Jack
PSE (gas)
Electric/Water/Garbage/Sewer (paid via bank account bill pay)

Contact info for HR Benefits (life insurance)
Contact info for my boss/main office

[shanendoah]

And to add to that, should I email him a document with all this information, print one out with everything, or just give him a piece of paper with my computer password, and then have a document on the desktop with everything else...

[Abby Normal]

Years ago I created a spreadsheet that we use to track all of our passwords and logins.  From the mundane to the critical.  It is password protected with something obscure that he can remember ( I had to memorize). That way, in case something happens he would know where to begin.

I wouldn't print it out.  That defeats the purpose IMHO.

[joemilitary]

do you have a living will? Do they know your desires if you become a vegetable?

funeral- creamated? burial?

does he have a power of attorney for things that might be only in your name?

copy of where life insurance policy is?

[Deleted]

I have a similar file that is password protected on my computer. It is also saved in dropbox.

To be honest, I sometimes have to refer to it to remember what my password is to some website like Verabradley.com.

The file has a clever name, I think. DH knows the name and knows the password is his screen name in a past life.

I actually put a copy in the safety deposit box for my kids. I need to print out a new copy for them.

[Deleted]

Jun 30, 2015 17:05:26 GMT -5 shanendoah said:

And to add to that, should I email him a document with all this information, print one out with everything, or just give him a piece of paper with my computer password, and then have a document on the desktop with everything else...

Print it out. You are protecting yourself against hackers, not so much burglars, so a copy in the desk files should be fine.

Does he have your Social Security #? What if you got disabled during surgery - make sure records he'd need to file with insurance/social security are available.

HealthCare directive, Durable POA, Will also need to be in place.

[cronewitch]

I made a list in excel and saved on a thumb drive so it isn't on my computer. If you have brokerage accounts include them and this message board so he can let us know if something happens to you. Good luck.
Another thing you could do is photocopy all keys then write what they unlock on the copy so he doesn't have to keep keys forever that were for the house you sold 20 years ago.

Before you go make some freezer meals for the recovery time so while not feeling 100% you or he can toss them in the oven.

[Peace77]

There is a website for this exact purpose:  Getyourshittogether.org

[Knee Deep in Water Chloe]

I've nothing else to add other than best wishes for your surgery. 

[taz157]

Jun 30, 2015 20:23:06 GMT -5 Knee Deep in Water Chloe said:

I've nothing else to add other than best wishes for your surgery. 

[shanendoah]

I'm not trying to protect the info from hackers or a break in. Just want C to be able to pay bills if something should happen to me.
But I do need to include retirement accounts, which I'd forgotten, and Prosper.

YM (this board) was on my list.
Insurance card is in my wallet. Social security is in the file cabinet with passports, marriage certificate, etc.

The will is only if something happens to both of us. C gets everything if something happens to me, and that's what I want. Community property state, so nothing that is mine alone, other than student loans. I should get him contact info for that, though, so he can notify and those would go away.

As my spouse, he has the ability make all decisions, so no need to a durable POA. He does know my wishes, should vegetation occur, but I might as well type them out here, so that they can also be made a matter of "public" record.
I do not wish to be kept alive indefinitely via machine should I become vegetative. If the doctors believe I need short term assistance via a ventilator or something, that's fine, but no years on machines keeping a body alive. UNLESS he and my parents can get organizations to pay them stupid amounts of money to "fight" over my fate (like the Schiavo case). If keeping this body alive can cover all of their expenses for the rest of their lives, go for it. But since that's not likely, as my parents are also on board with the no vegetative state thing, just unplug me.

C is actually the cook, so not really worried about meals while I recover. Pop Tart will be visiting my mom from one week before to two weeks after, so we won't have to worry about her.
Need to figure out if C wants to stay the night in the hospital with me, and if so, arrange for a dog sitter.

[joemilitary]

Just email me that sheet, I will keep it safe and pass it to your husband if the unfortunate occurs

[toomuchreality]

Jeepers! You are thorough. I'm impressed!



Good luck!

[justme]

Jun 30, 2015 20:16:25 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

There is a website for this exact purpose:  Getyourshittogether.org

I honestly didn't think that website was legit. Lol

[shanendoah]

joemilitary - funny enough, one of the things I'm considering, if I do a print out, is to actually give it to a friend, who can give it to C if something happens, but otherwise would give it back to me. C is a little freaked out by the surgery (almost everyone he knows who has gone into the hospital has died), so giving him the "just in case" sheet may not be the best thing for his mental health.
So it's possible it will be printed out and given to, or emailed to, our former roommate, who is C's best friend, or another close friend that I trust, so that I know he will have the info if needed, but don't freak him out too much in the process.

[Peace77]

Jul 1, 2015 11:08:12 GMT -5 shanendoah said:

joemilitary - funny enough, one of the things I'm considering, if I do a print out, is to actually give it to a friend, who can give it to C if something happens, but otherwise would give it back to me. C is a little freaked out by the surgery (almost everyone he knows who has gone into the hospital has died), so giving him the "just in case" sheet may not be the best thing for his mental health.
So it's possible it will be printed out and given to, or emailed to, our former roommate, who is C's best friend, or another close friend that I trust, so that I know he will have the info if needed, but don't freak him out too much in the process.

If you do this, put the info in an envelope and write on the seal.  This way you'll know if the friend opened it.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

You might want to bring either an extension cord or a power strip with you to the hospital.  

In my (extensive) experience, power outlets are at a premium in just about every hospital I've been incarcerated admitted to.

[Peace77]

Jul 1, 2015 8:45:24 GMT -5 justme said:

Jun 30, 2015 20:16:25 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

There is a website for this exact purpose:  Getyourshittogether.org

I honestly didn't think that website was legit. Lol

Yes, it's legit.   It was developed from the author's need.