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Post by Phoenix84 on Jun 16, 2015 19:06:06 GMT -5
Respect, what does it mean to you?
How does one earn it? How do you give it to others? Do others in your life and in society give it to you?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2015 19:08:44 GMT -5
I wish Aretha was a poster here.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 16, 2015 19:09:06 GMT -5
It means giving the same considerations to all people regardless of gender, color, creed, beliefs, politics... you name it.
I'm the type of person who offers respect until it's proven to me somebody doesn't deserve it by their behavior. I get respect from respectful people.
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Post by chiver78 on Jun 16, 2015 19:21:16 GMT -5
It means giving the same considerations to all people regardless of gender, color, creed, beliefs, politics... you name it. I'm the type of person who offers respect until it's proven to me somebody doesn't deserve it by their behavior. I get respect from respectful people. I can't like this one enough. that 2nd paragraph, I'd add trust to it as well. obv I don't go sharing my deepest darkest secrets to my new BFF, but I inherently trust those I call my friends until I am given a reason not to. and once you lose that trust (and respect, for that matter) then you have a long road ahead of you to regain it. a good friend recently told me (very long story short) that his reaction to something that was said about me was that "you wouldn't steal from a thief!" and I took it as the compliment that I think he intended it to be. sent from my electronic distraction
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Post by obelisk on Jun 16, 2015 19:32:54 GMT -5
It is the way you approach your family/friends and last work life. I had a very pleasant run in in a foreign country last month when I was approached by a competitor that stated I was well respected in the industry, I was floored! It was more than 5 years ago since I worked for this company. My recommendation is not to burn bridges especially when we are all working for the same goal: that is to support my family. I am a corporation with my wife as CFO. Nothing else matters.
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Post by billisonboard on Jun 16, 2015 19:56:37 GMT -5
Great topic. It is really making me think. What is respect to me?
I attempt to treat each person who I meet with kindness and acceptance which to me isn't quite the same as "respect" but that word could be used I guess.
I think I respect competence, a job well done (and the effort to do it well even if the end result falls short). I respect people who do something/anything well. But it is conditional. I can respect a person for their parenting skill yet have no respect for them in a discussion of world events.
I have to go to work (hopefully doing it well). I shall ponder (and hopefully read) more.
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Post by Bonny on Jun 16, 2015 20:03:07 GMT -5
I think one earns respect.
Being respectful is the way you treat other people unless they prove themselves otherwise.
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Post by mroped on Jun 16, 2015 20:14:26 GMT -5
Treat all the same as you want to be treated.
"Look down on people only if you help them stand up!". I don't recall who said it but it stuck with me!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2015 21:08:12 GMT -5
Respect is what I feel for persons of integrity. And, to me, integrity is using your brain and your heart to discern a way of living that hurts no one and serves many. There is an old saying that integrity is how you behave when no one is looking to which I say That "other" thread made me very sad 'cause I wanted to believe we were better than that here on YM/YMOT.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jun 16, 2015 21:24:02 GMT -5
It means giving the same considerations to all people regardless of gender, color, creed, beliefs, politics... you name it. I'm the type of person who offers respect until it's proven to me somebody doesn't deserve it by their behavior. I get respect from respectful people. While I agree, I'm not sure I'd call what you describe respect... more like courtesy, manners or just "treating others as you would like to be treated."
I imagine respect itself more as something that is not given to everyone, but to people in your life who earn it through their actions or character, or some other thing about them that you respect.
I think respect can take on different forms for different things. I respect my boss because of his knowledge and experience in my field. I respect my parents for their wisdom. I respect my friends for their character.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 16, 2015 21:48:06 GMT -5
It means giving the same considerations to all people regardless of gender, color, creed, beliefs, politics... you name it. I'm the type of person who offers respect until it's proven to me somebody doesn't deserve it by their behavior. I get respect from respectful people. While I agree, I'm not sure I'd call what you describe respect... more like courtesy, manners or just "treating others as you would like to be treated."
I imagine respect itself more as something that is not given to everyone, but to people in your life who earn it through their actions or character, or some other thing about them that you respect.
I think respect can take on different forms for different things. I respect my boss because of his knowledge and experience in my field. I respect my parents for their wisdom. I respect my friends for their character.
How is that different? People have all kinds of abilities that you can respect upon first meeting them. Here is what it means to me: : a feeling of admiring someone or something that is good, valuable, important, etc. : a feeling or understanding that someone or something is important, serious, etc., and should be treated in an appropriate way : a particular way of thinking about or looking at something And I respect your opinion.
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Post by Opti on Jun 16, 2015 22:08:29 GMT -5
Respect is what I feel for persons of integrity. And, to me, integrity is using your brain and your heart to discern a way of living that hurts no one and serves many. There is an old saying that integrity is how you behave when no one is looking to which I say That "other" thread made me very sad 'cause I wanted to believe we were better than that here on YM/YMOT. I do not know how to interpret this, so I am going to expound on it kinda sorta.
I *know* there is no way to live that will be approved by 100% of the people, all the time. In any given situation, there are many wrong choices, and a perfect one may not even exist. When I read the bolded I see it with P&M board eyes, so I have a knee jerk reaction. I do believe one should live to make the world a better place and be kind as often as one as able. I do not believe in the right wing political belief of some, that being financially independent, in and of itself makes you a better person than anyone else.
I had my eyes opened more than twenty years ago, by someone who thought living as an urban Saduu(sp?), was the ultimate. If the people and God wanted one to survive, the people would feed you, and if not you would starve, die, ... or maybe change "professions", because obviously you sucked as a minister to the people. LOL squared.
FWIW. Responding to what I perceive, and want to talk about. Not necessarily what you wrote, donethat.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jun 16, 2015 22:09:17 GMT -5
I do think there is a matter of being respectful in general to all people in the sense that someone doesn't think that he/she is the center of the universe. For example, I don't get to drive like a maniac because I believe I own the road. That's I need to realize that I share the road. Now, I might cut someone off because I'm running late. I might not be paying attention and accidentally drop below the speed limit annoying the person behind me. Either way, I'm not being respectful.
However, there's a difference between general respect between humans and respecting specific traits about other people. Those traits could include work ethic, creativity, critical thinking, organization, etc.
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Post by Opti on Jun 16, 2015 22:10:45 GMT -5
I'm like Bills. I'll have to think on how I'd choose to define it.
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Post by mmhmm on Jun 16, 2015 22:39:02 GMT -5
I tend to default to respect unless there is some obvious reason not to do so. I respect people as fellow human beings, warts and all, for the most part. One has to earn my disrespect.
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Post by cronewitch on Jun 17, 2015 19:28:25 GMT -5
All different kinds of respect. I respect people I admire for their traits like honesty, hard work, effort, cheerfulness. I respect people I admire for their works. I respect everyone's rights, doesn't mean I like them or admire them. I respect the rights some have over me, respect for authority, doesn't mean I admire the person.
You can't demand respect except to have rights respected and to be treated with respect. You can think anything you want but I will not appreciate you saying mean things to me or taking my things. Sometimes you must show respect when you don't feel it like if introduced to the Queen you might respect the office even if you think she is an old witch. Treating each other with mutual respect makes things run smoother like if a police officer stops someone they need to respect his authority to do it and the officer should respect the citizen even while writing a ticket or arresting them you don't call each other names.
Respect is a feeling but you can also show respect with words and actions or lose respect for someone and them for you.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2015 20:06:16 GMT -5
Respect is what I feel for persons of integrity. And, to me, integrity is using your brain and your heart to discern a way of living that hurts no one and serves many. There is an old saying that integrity is how you behave when no one is looking to which I say That "other" thread made me very sad 'cause I wanted to believe we were better than that here on YM/YMOT. I do not know how to interpret this, so I am going to expound on it kinda sorta.
I *know* there is no way to live that will be approved by 100% of the people, all the time. In any given situation, there are many wrong choices, and a perfect one may not even exist. When I read the bolded I see it with P&M board eyes, so I have a knee jerk reaction. I do believe one should live to make the world a better place and be kind as often as one as able. I do not believe in the right wing political belief of some, that being financially independent, in and of itself makes you a better person than anyone else.
I had my eyes opened more than twenty years ago, by someone who thought living as an urban Saduu(sp?), was the ultimate. If the people and God wanted one to survive, the people would feed you, and if not you would starve, die, ... or maybe change "professions", because obviously you sucked as a minister to the people. LOL squared.
FWIW. Responding to what I perceive, and want to talk about. Not necessarily what you wrote, donethat.
For me, and all I ask is that everyone perceive that I am saying "FOR ME", respect is what I have for a lot of folks. And my respect has absolutely nothing to do with their financial situation, their political perspective or any other external qualifiers. My respect has everything to do with where their mind and heart is, how they respond to the world around them. I respect an honest perception of humanity, flawed as it is, with love and compassion. Know this, there is nothing political about my position on respect; sadly I find little to respect in our current body politic and its discourse. Perhaps ironically, I am usually perceived and often shunned within my peer group as a "far left liberal". Labels rarely help and usually hurt. I don't visit P&M any more b/c it seemed pretty negative and I don't need that in my life. I really love the fact that we can have this sort of conversation here; it's a rare opportunity.
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