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Post by shelby on Jun 4, 2015 12:39:17 GMT -5
My sons 7th B-day party is saturday is it OK to have beer for the adults? I fell like there may be some type of unspoken rule about that. I just don't know if I can make through without some type of alcohol. Also any suggestions on food?
Lastly when did it become normal to send siblings along to the party and not RSVP?
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 4, 2015 12:42:34 GMT -5
My sons 7th B-day party is saturday is it OK to have beer for the adults? I fell like there may be some type of unspoken rule about that. I just don't know if I can make through without some type of alcohol. Also any suggestions on food? Lastly when did it become normal to send siblings along to the party and not RSVP-ing? It would suck if you didn't have beer. |
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Post by weltschmerz on Jun 4, 2015 12:45:23 GMT -5
When in doubt, pass the pot around.  Lord knows you need SOMETHING to get you through a kid's party. |
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Post by yogiii on Jun 4, 2015 12:45:56 GMT -5
I don't think it's a big deal unless the adults get drunk.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 4, 2015 12:46:30 GMT -5
Are you sure the parents are staying? My DD's 7th party was a month ago and 1 parent stayed - but that was because a. she didn't want to go home and b. she knew I needed another adult (DH was sick)
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Post by yogiii on Jun 4, 2015 12:47:39 GMT -5
Are you sure the parents are staying? My DD's 7th party was a month ago and 1 parent stayed - but that was because a. she didn't want to go home and b. she knew I needed another adult (DH was sick) When does that switch happen? At 5, all the parents are still there so far for us. |
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Post by shelby on Jun 4, 2015 12:48:38 GMT -5
From the other class parties all the parents stay....we live in a small neighborhood everyone knows each and the moms love socializing.
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Post by andi9899 on Jun 4, 2015 12:48:44 GMT -5
I say it's absolutely ok. I had beer at my kid's parties when they were little. We never had a problem.
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Post by shelby on Jun 4, 2015 12:51:08 GMT -5
I would love a drop off party less stress and food to buy.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 4, 2015 13:09:38 GMT -5
Are you sure the parents are staying? My DD's 7th party was a month ago and 1 parent stayed - but that was because a. she didn't want to go home and b. she knew I needed another adult (DH was sick) When does that switch happen? At 5, all the parents are still there so far for us. I don't know - I expected parents would stay and they didn't. This was our first kid party. Up to now, we'd only hosted family parties. But in March we went to a 7th b-day party for one of DD's classmates. It was held at a local environment awareness type park and most of the parents stayed. But there was a program of sorts that included a naturewalk and tapping of maple trees for syrup. I'd asked if they wanted parents to stay or what and was told it was fine either way. All in all, it was pretty interesting. |
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Post by MJ2.0 on Jun 4, 2015 13:15:41 GMT -5
My sons 7th B-day party is saturday is it OK to have beer for the adults? I fell like there may be some type of unspoken rule about that. I just don't know if I can make through without some type of alcohol. Also any suggestions on food? Lastly when did it become normal to send siblings along to the party and not RSVP? 1. have some type of alcohol 2. BBQ or order pizza, basic snacks, cupcakes/brownies 3. people are idiots |
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Post by giramomma on Jun 4, 2015 13:28:22 GMT -5
I would feel weird having beer at a birthday party for my kid. But that's just me. I'm not anti-booze or anti hiding it from my kids (they are allowed to have sips of whatever we're drinking when they see us drink.)
Around here, kindy is when you transition to drop off parties so 5-6. Thankfully, I've never had to deal with the sibling issue. I'd get pissy about that. Folks are pretty good about RSVPing.
ETA: Can you imagine the Gira Household infront of other adults
All the kids: "Can we have a little of your Hard Mikes , Mom?"
Me: "Oh no, we only do that when no one else is around!"
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 4, 2015 13:29:47 GMT -5
From the other class parties all the parents stay....we live in a small neighborhood everyone knows each and the moms love socializing. do they have beer? |
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Post by giramomma on Jun 4, 2015 13:31:34 GMT -5
From the other class parties all the parents stay....we live in a small neighborhood everyone knows each and the moms love socializing. See, when we have parties the parents are all like "OMGosh. I can go to the grocery store without kids. THANK YOU!" |
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Post by shelby on Jun 4, 2015 14:14:52 GMT -5
From the other class parties all the parents stay....we live in a small neighborhood everyone knows each and the moms love socializing. do they have beer? No, but I am going for it anyways. |
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Jun 4, 2015 14:30:10 GMT -5
No, but I am going for it anyways. Be the party rebel! |
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Post by NastyWoman on Jun 4, 2015 14:32:24 GMT -5
Are you sure the parents are staying? My DD's 7th party was a month ago and 1 parent stayed - but that was because a. she didn't want to go home and b. she knew I needed another adult (DH was sick) When does that switch happen? At 5, all the parents are still there so far for us. As Bob Dylan sang "the times the are a'changin' " however when my kids were little, the parents didn't stay once the kids were in Kindergarten. And the year before that less then half of them stayed. Then again, we also didn't get our kids taken away if they dared walk outside by themselves before age 10 or so... |
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Post by Ryan on Jun 4, 2015 15:19:41 GMT -5
Since my son has turned 5, it's more of a dropoff party. We'll have our real good friends stick around and socialize, but most people drop/go.
As far as the booze goes, it depends on the type of party. For my son's 7th b-day, I expect most of the parents will drop the kids off and pickup. In that case, if it's just us and another couple parents, I'm not really going to have alcohol there. It seems weird to be sitting around drinking when you're in charge of other people's kids.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2015 16:22:22 GMT -5
Are you sure the parents are staying? My DD's 7th party was a month ago and 1 parent stayed - but that was because a. she didn't want to go home and b. she knew I needed another adult (DH was sick) When does that switch happen? At 5, all the parents are still there so far for us. I guess I live in a really rude area. From Kindy on parents basically shoved the kids out of the car & took off. |
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Post by debthaven on Jun 4, 2015 17:11:00 GMT -5
Have you invited the adults? Or are they the kids' parents who are staying? In my experience the parents rarely stayed (they ran off as fast as they could lol) but my kids are older so this was years ago.
We have never served alcohol during a kids-only party (but we did if it was a major birthday and we had invited both kids and adults).
But at the kids-only parties, we always greeted the parents who came to pick up their kids with beer / wine and some snacks.
Again, this was a while ago, I understand that things may have changed. But in my day, as today, sending the kid who was invited with a sibling who was not is just plain RUDE!!!
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Post by debthaven on Jun 4, 2015 17:20:39 GMT -5
As far as food goes, at that age, finger food. All my kids were born between May and Sept so often DH would often BBQ. He usually chose a theme.
Otherwise carrot sticks, radishes, cherry tomatoes. Pizza. Baby hamburgers and hot dogs were always a huge hit. Chicken brochettes (when the kids were a little older). Or breaded chicken cutlets cut up into small pieces and served with toothpicks (I still do that for my kids' parties.)
A HUGE hit (but again, when they were a bit older and there were fewer kids) was homemade pizza. I'd buy the ready-made, roll-out pizza dough, tomato sauce and moz, and the kids would make their own pizzas.
You could also do a "sundae station": several flavors of ice cream, a few sauces, whipped cream (but no nuts).
More about finger food: DH is British and it is traditional at British parties to have (separate) cucumber, ham, and cheese sandwiches.
You take a regular sized loaf of white or whole wheat bread (or both or even multiples of both), divide each loaf into 3, do 1/3 cucumber, 1/3 ham and 1/3 cheese. Then you cut each sandwich in quarters. You can also cut off the crusts if you want (I do, DH doesn't). Voila, you now have a huge pile of dainty, kid-friendly, finger food sandwiches LOL. This works for adults too ... my boss (who is also British) does this every year for our international pot-luck Christmas lunch.
For family parties I buy a bakery cake but for kid parties I used to buy a mix and icing and make my own sheet cake, which you can then decorate with candy, small toys, Lego, etc.
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Post by kittensaver on Jun 4, 2015 17:35:01 GMT -5
Lastly when did it become normal to send siblings along to the party and not RSVP?
It's not normal.
The parent(s) are - choose as many as apply: rude; clueless; thoughtless; tired of their kids; desperate for some kid-free time; unable to say no to a child throwing a fit because they are not invited.
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Post by milee on Jun 4, 2015 17:43:44 GMT -5
I don't think it's a big deal unless the adults get drunk. Or unless you have a pool or it's a pool party without a designated life guard. You'd be horrified if you knew how many kids drown within reach of adults or in the middle of a party because everybody figures that with all these people around, someone is watching the kids... |
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Post by mroped on Jun 4, 2015 17:53:04 GMT -5
Huh! Kids birthday party!  Get some beer and the adults will stick arround. Pizza for the kids and you are set! Ours don't even want parties anymore-16 and almost 14. They just wanna go to a concert of their choice or have a couple friends overnight. And the cash ofcourse! No gifts, just cash. Litle buggers looove money! |
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Post by yogiii on Jun 4, 2015 17:57:50 GMT -5
I don't think it's a big deal unless the adults get drunk. Or unless you have a pool or it's a pool party without a designated life guard. You'd be horrified if you knew how many kids drown within reach of adults or in the middle of a party because everybody figures that with all these people around, someone is watching the kids...  yeah I didn't think about that one. I live in a frozen state. |
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Post by debthaven on Jun 4, 2015 18:04:33 GMT -5
Milee that is SO true! My close friend (from Australia) had a great pool (rare here) and once the kids knew how to swim, she would invite her DDs' entire class for an afternoon pool party (but not at the same time). She and I were always the designated life guards. She lived here for 12 years and she always said she never figured out how all the French women could drink and socialize with each other with their backs to the pool.  She recruited me every year, twice a year, and I was very happy to do it. The non anglo-saxons were totally clueless about water safety issues. (That has somewhat changed recently thanks to awareness campaigns and new laws about safety covers or fences on or around private pools, but those laws had come in just before they went back to Oz.) Neither she nor I ever touched a drop of alcohol during those afternoons, but then she would invite my family for dinner and we always made up for it LOL. Our oldest DDs were best friends, and her DS2 and my DS3 were close too. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 4, 2015 21:47:31 GMT -5
I can't imagine parents but particularly you having anything alcoholic at a kids' party. I can totally understand sending your kids to bed and having several afterwards, though.
If it is an all ages party, then maybe. But you would specifically invite the parents so that they could watch their own kids. A party where there might be a lot of drop-offs . . . no way. But then I stress a lot about safety. Groups of kids do more stupid things than single kids. |
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