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[alabamagal]

Grapes work wonders. And no cutting up involved

[Chocolate Lover]

Another vote for Miralax, worked on my oldest way back when he was a kid.

[t-dog]

Since the Chron's diagnosis my son has been off grain and hasn't really had a stomach ache since about a week after the change. He loves taco night because he can have corn tortillas.

[andi9899]

May 29, 2015 13:00:14 GMT -5 giramomma said:

May 29, 2015 12:56:35 GMT -5 andi9899 said:

Is she not old enough to cut up her own apples? If not allowed to use knives, is she not capable of eating an apple that's not cut up? I'm sorry to sound harsh, but dad seems to be creating a bit of a monster. My sister coddles her kids and my niece is very diva like and highly sensitive. She cries whenever she is corrected or doesn't get her way and she's 11 and going into the 6th grade. She is not going to be prepared for the cold world when she comes into adulthood.

Actually, I don't think this is the case.

My DD just made cupcakes for DH's birthday all by herself. We even gave her access to the oven. She's pretty independent. She just likes to blame others.

I do think she relates better to him in general. So it was easier to say "well, dad didn't help me out." Than say "Yes, I should have made better choices."
 
I tend to expect more out of the kids than i think most parents do. My oldest deals with it differently than MDD does.

I see. I so wish this was the case with my sister. She is smothering her kids!

[Deleted]

My daughter had surgery on her kidney when she was 14 and almost a decade later, she still won't drink water. Not drinking water isn't the reason she had to have surgery, but you would think that everything she went through before and after the surgery would make drinking water a no-brainer if it will help avoid problems.

Obviously, I don't have any good advice for you on that issue. :-(

[whoisjohngalt]

May 29, 2015 13:08:25 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

May 29, 2015 13:00:14 GMT -5 giramomma said:

Actually, I don't think this is the case.

My DD just made cupcakes for DH's birthday all by herself. We even gave her access to the oven. She's pretty independent. She just likes to blame others.

I do think she relates better to him in general. So it was easier to say "well, dad didn't help me out." Than say "Yes, I should have made better choices."
 
I tend to expect more out of the kids than i think most parents do. My oldest deals with it differently than MDD does.

Then expect her to drink her own water...    IMHO making a kid drink water is not a hill to die on.  If she feel shitty (pun intended) she will learn to drink more water in the future. 

You'd be surprised.  My 5 yr old got very dehydrated one day, he felt like shit and was all scared and  crying. 

For the last 3 days I reminded him about 100 times to drink water.  Since I am a  bitch, I kept telling him that if "feels like he did after the train show again, don't come crying to me, I'll be going out to the movies instead of making him feel better"

[whoisjohngalt]

giramomma - there is an excellent book (well, I liked it) - Parent Talk: How to talk to your children that builds self esteem and encourages responsibility.

I didn't really care about self esteem part, but the part about encouraging responsibility was very interesting.

My oldest inherited the "it's not me, it's the world" gene from my IL's and needless to say, I was getting more than a little pissed off hearing how everything is not his fault.

I've using the language from this book with him and he is slowly loosing the whole "it's never my fault" attitude. 

[973beachbum]

I know I am going to go against the grain here but I don't think this is a diet issue.  And long term laxative use isn't a good idea.  Get a Dr to check her out throughly first to make sure it isn't something like Chron's first, but I really think it is a battle of wills issue.  And clearly she is winning.

Kids are stubborn and basically everyone has the right to tell them what to do.  The only thing they can totally control in life is what goes in their mouth, and what comes out their rear.

While it may have bad side effects she is getting what she wants.  Mom and Dad are fighting and the whole house has to stop and pay attention to her every move.  Trust me some days just pissing me off is the most important goal of my kids day.

This is the type of thing that can cause serious problems.  So first get a Dr to make sure it isn't a medical issue but if it isn't then this has to be stopped.  A blocked bowel is life threatening and it isn't possible to follow a kid around all day to make sure they do things like drink.

[Peace77]

Beachbum,
The illness you are referring to is Chrohn's.

I agree that a check up is a good idea if this is a chronic issue.

[973beachbum]

May 30, 2015 10:57:08 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

Beachbum,
The illness you are referring to is Chrohn's.

I agree that a check up is a good idea if this is a chronic issue.

i know what it is I just can't spell.

[Wisconsin Beth]

May 29, 2015 13:57:47 GMT -5 alabamagal said:

Grapes work wonders. And no cutting up involved

Yep, my 5+ DS was pigging out on grapes at Grandma's Friday night and Sat. morning he had diarrhea.  Thankfully at Grandma's house....  He's fighting about pooping too but in his case he just doesn't want to stop what he's doing/playing to go to the bathroom, he drinks a ton of water most days.  So last week we started a new rule - every 30 minutes he has to stop and go sit on the toilet until I'm satisfied. 

My kids don't poop at school either.  We're just starting to get into the lying/evasion with both kids so I don't have any advice, just want to wish you good luck with her. 

[toomuchreality]

Yuck! I HATE water!  I will drink fluids, but not plain water. I pretty much have to carry a drink with me everywhere I go, so I don't become dehydrated again. It's a PIA, but you do, what you have to do.

I think the comment about you can tell someone what to eat, but you can't make them eat it, is very true.

I'm not sure she is old enough, and has had enough life experience, to really 'get' the impact food and water have on her bodily functions. Kids tend to expect/understand instant changes/results.

Sorry you are going through this.
Good luck! 





How's she doing today?

[tallguy]

May 30, 2015 10:57:08 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

Beachbum,
The illness you are referring to is Chrohn's.

I agree that a check up is a good idea if this is a chronic issue.

Actually, it's Crohn's.  But who cares about spelling, right?  

[Peace77]

Jun 6, 2015 19:42:09 GMT -5 tallguy said:

May 30, 2015 10:57:08 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

Beachbum,
The illness you are referring to is Chrohn's.

I agree that a check up is a good idea if this is a chronic issue.

Actually, it's Crohn's.  But who cares about spelling, right?  

You're right Tailguy.

[tallguy]

Jun 6, 2015 19:49:16 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

Jun 6, 2015 19:42:09 GMT -5 tallguy said:

Actually, it's Crohn's.  But who cares about spelling, right?  

You're right Tailguy.

Actually, it's Tallguy.  But who cares about spelling, right?  

(Unless some women have been talking...?  Uhh, never mind.) 

[Peace77]

Jun 6, 2015 19:51:14 GMT -5 tallguy said:

Jun 6, 2015 19:49:16 GMT -5 Peace77 said:

You're right Tailguy.

Actually, it's Tallguy.  But who cares about spelling, right?  

(Unless some women have been talking...?  Uhh, never mind.) 

  Oops.   Sorry.  Maybe I need new glasses.