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Post by Deleted on May 23, 2015 6:55:33 GMT -5
Do you get along with your siblings?
I have one sibling that gets mad no matter what. When she announces she is coming to town, we think "oh shi#, what is going to set her off this time?" At Christmas she got mad because my dad asked her to return a shirt she bought him because it was too small (two sizes). She claims she is never buying him anything again. Last time she came to town she got mad because I wasn't home when she came over, even though she did not give me a time she would be there. I was at the store.
My dad's siblings are so bad, they move each others headstones around in the family plot. They all want to be right next to their dad. I am trying to convince my dad to remove his headstone and be done with it. He doesn't want to be buried there anyways.
My mom's siblings are fine. Mom passed away ten years ago, but they still call me to get together.
Are all families f-ed up?
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Post by Shooby on May 23, 2015 6:58:19 GMT -5
You deal with it by not dealing with it. Those who want to get mad can get mad and they can get over it or not. Not your problem!
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Post by mollyanna58 on May 23, 2015 7:25:51 GMT -5
My dad's siblings are so bad, they move each others headstones around in the family plot.
Lots of families have a drama queen like your sister. As Shooby says, just ignore her antics.
Moving headstones around? That's, um, let's say intense. And literally heavy lifting.
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Post by Deleted on May 23, 2015 7:48:13 GMT -5
LOL. I just remembered another story . . .
Last month my sister came to town. She said she was at a craft show and bought Dad a jar of jelly she thought he would like. Okay, that was nice. After she left, Dad went to try the jelly and it had a TJ Maxx price tag on it. WTF?? Why?
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Post by Artemis Windsong on May 23, 2015 9:09:58 GMT -5
No. My old brother is a class a jerk in refusing to give to me my rightful inheritance. May he rot in hell where is already is in the booze bottle.
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Post by zibazinski on May 23, 2015 9:38:40 GMT -5
LOL. I just remembered another story . . . Last month my sister came to town. She said she was at a craft show and bought Dad a jar of jelly she thought he would like. Okay, that was nice. After she left, Dad went to try the jelly and it had a TJ Maxx price tag on it. WTF?? Why? In her defense, sometimes people buy crap and sell it at these fairs.
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Post by Tennesseer on May 23, 2015 9:49:23 GMT -5
No. My old brother is a class a jerk in refusing to give to me my rightful inheritance. May he rot in hell where is already is in the booze bottle. While I can appreciate your feelings, that is quite a lot of animosity for you to bear for just one person and it's not healthy. This is your brother's problem and not yours. Try to change that hate (?) or gross dislike to pity for him. He is a tormented soul.
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Post by zibazinski on May 23, 2015 9:53:28 GMT -5
My mom was the drama queen. She's gone. Peace in the family.
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Post by zibazinski on May 23, 2015 9:57:41 GMT -5
Although I have to admit, we had a family picnic and my uncle prayed before the meal and in the middle of it he farted loudly. Well, we all started laughing and my aunt got mad bcuz we laughed. Well, shit, it's funny. Sorry. But not really.
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Post by zibazinski on May 23, 2015 9:58:02 GMT -5
So I guess we still have SOME drama
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Post by Tennesseer on May 23, 2015 10:19:42 GMT -5
Although I have to admit, we had a family picnic and my uncle prayed before the meal and in the middle of it he farted loudly. Well, we all started laughing and my aunt got mad bcuz we laughed. Well, shit, it's funny. Sorry. But not really. My dad used to call accidental loud passed gas as "rats in the attic"
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Post by Deleted on May 23, 2015 10:48:19 GMT -5
My dad's siblings are so bad, they move each others headstones around in the family plot. They all want to be right next to their dad. I am trying to convince my dad to remove his headstone and be done with it. He doesn't want to be buried there anyways. They are just plain crazy girl!!!! If families weren't so effed up, this board would be really boring. Much more fun to deal with drama that you can't blame on yourself
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Post by Bonny on May 23, 2015 10:54:12 GMT -5
@turkeylurkey,
Are you a new poster or did you used to post under another name?
If you're new, welcome! Yes there's plenty of family drama in poster's live.
But moving around headstones is truly unique!
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Post by Peace77 on May 23, 2015 12:32:14 GMT -5
I have one sibling that won't speak to me. I guess she's mad but I don't know what's wrong and she won't tell me.
Another sibling came to nearby city and called me as she was waiting for the shuttle to the airport to return home. She told me that she had flown into the airport closest to me and spent $80 on a cab ride to the city. I would have told her which airport to use or given her a ride if she had bothered to say something ahead of time.
Another sibling came to the area to visit someone and I happened to find out because they posted about on Facebook.
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Post by msventoux on May 23, 2015 16:05:11 GMT -5
We hated each other growing up. I was extremely introverted and sibling was very obnoxious and extroverted. We get along okay now, though we're not extremely close.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 23, 2015 16:14:35 GMT -5
Now that my brother lives several hundred miles away we get along great!
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Post by Jaguar on May 23, 2015 16:25:15 GMT -5
Bat Shit Crazy sister just retired 3 weeks ago, and comes around here, but she doesn't come near me, cause I can say NO clearly and loudly.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 23, 2015 18:25:03 GMT -5
DS and I got along great when we lived 700 miles apart. Now so much now that we live 20 minutes from each other. If only I had known what she is really like and that I wasn't seeing who she really is when I would visit for a few days.
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Post by Tiny on May 23, 2015 18:44:38 GMT -5
I get along with my older brothers and their wives... but, to be honest, we don't have a lot in common - There's a big age difference between us. I have no kids and never married - and never really felt comfortable talking about the guys I was seeing with 'family'. Judging from some of the comments my sis in laws have made about sex... I'm probably more, um, progressive? then they are - but then they are married to my brothers... so there is the ick factor involved. Anyway, I'm an introvert and happy as a clam doing stuff on my own. I love my sibs and I like my SILs, a lot. I think I get along fine with their wives although, I suspect their wives think I'm weird -- which is ok with me. Now, my cousins and their kids... there's some scary drama going on there -- screwing each other out of inheritances, sleeping around, holding grudges, and who knows what else. Not my monkeys, not my circus. I have a friend, who is estranged from her family. Apparently, her family didn't live up to her expectations so she started giving them the 'silent treatment' and the 'cold shoulder'. At one point she vented to me, spitting mad, that her sister had the absolute gall, <-- her words, to ask why my friend was angry... my friend was like "I shouldn't have to TELL her - she should know!" LOL! I do feel bad for my friend - her anger at her family colors all aspects of her life.. and it's taking a bigger toll as she gets older (she's the youngest - and some of the people she doesn't talk to are dying or becoming seriously ill...) She was pretty bitter when she found out a cousin she was moderately still talking to had died, 6 months earlier. Just made her madder at her family - because they didn't have the decency to tell her about the death (mind you, she hasn't had contact with her immediate family in about 5 years... and before that it might have been contact once a year or so). FWIW: I don't get why the 'silent treatment' is so awful? If you aren't talking to me and giving me the cold shoulder, etc... I'm OK with that... I get that you are mad but atleast have the decency to TELL me what's wrong when I ask. If you tell me "Well, you should know!" well, then I guess you're gonna be spending a lot of time and energy being mad at me - while I go happily about life without thinking about you much.
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Post by lisamomof4 on May 23, 2015 19:10:49 GMT -5
is it bad it makes me feel batter to know that i'm not the only one with weird family?? i think i get along fine with most of the siblings... the problem child for us is my mother and her most current DH....haven't spoken to them since christmas ...long/short made several bigoted comments and they were called out on it, told it was not ok and that it was to stop and to apologize....yeah nope, so they stormed off to next mooch off my sister and complain about my lack of hospitality and didn't i know it's rude to correct others and as my mother she is final authority....lol and i'm the food nazi because i don't let them just have free range...i've since heard she has told several family members i'm having a raging hot affair with my just turned 25 SIL.... .....cause like 'ya know i'm a beast that way .....best part i've cut off my $$$ subsidies to them and they are furious i'm told over my lack of 'christian kindness'...this from a woman i literally can not recall ever going to church my entire childhood...
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Post by mroped on May 23, 2015 19:21:16 GMT -5
See! There is some good in being at 4000 miles away from the closest sibling. All others are at 5000 miles! Let there be Peace!
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Post by andi9899 on May 23, 2015 20:04:13 GMT -5
My sister and I get along well. She annoys the crap out of me sometimes, but I love her. We are polar opposites, so there are times when we don't see eye to eye. But for the most part, it's all good.
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Post by andi9899 on May 23, 2015 20:23:27 GMT -5
I can't imagine such contempt and drama in my family. We have little spats, but nothing crazy. I do have a cousin who's wife is an instigator. I just don't tell her anything personal or feed the monster. Her husband and another cousin don't talk anymore as a result of her constant meddling. Other than that, we just all tolerate her. Beyond that, I can't think of much that has gone down.
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Post by lynnerself on May 23, 2015 20:57:09 GMT -5
My sibs and I get along OK, but we are not close. I can gco months (or even years) without actually talking to them. We do keep up with each other on Facebook however.
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Post by thyme4change on May 23, 2015 23:37:21 GMT -5
My family is pretty boring. We all get along. My husband's family had a few odd ball things, but at the end of the day - things are pretty peaceful over there. I grew up thinking that adults could just handle things, because we never had any drama. To this day when I meet grown adults (my age and older) who act like middle-schoolers I think to myself "Grow the f**k up."
I've met a couple of notably crazy families recently, and I can't do much but roll my eyes and shrug my shoulders and think "Grow the f**k up."
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Post by steff on May 24, 2015 1:17:10 GMT -5
I get along with both of my brothers. with my youngest brother very well. My middle brother is a pain in the ass, annoying, frustrating, and likes to idle on difficult, but that's just him and always has been. We still all 3 get along. My youngest brother & I just tend to seek each other out when stress levels are high & have entirely too much fun laughing at the crazy when we shouldn't.
We make the effort to include and get along with my difficult brother because we see just how crazy it can be between my mom & her bat shit flipping nutso sisters. I'm thankful every day that I have brothers instead of sisters. In my family a sister is basically your adversary/enemy.
speaking of crazy, my bat shit crazy Aunt S in Virginia has a wedding to ruin tomorrow! I'm so disappointed that the two bat shit crazies here couldn't get it together so we could go laugh at the crazy in Va.
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Post by daisy on May 24, 2015 1:38:31 GMT -5
No drama in my family; pretty boring actually. We all get along, although we don't live near each other there are lots of phone calls and FaceTime convos checking in. My brother was just texting me about the movie A Million Ways to Die in the West and we were comparing our favorite parts. My sister lives in Europe and we FaceTime whenever we can. Mostly I think we get along because my mother never tolerated drama of any kind so we never fell into that habit. When my dad passed away I was 9 mos PG, my sister was at school in England so my brother handled everything: closed out the estate, paid whatever taxes there were and wrote us checks....she and I bought him the furnishings for his man-cave as a thank you. Now my DH's family THRIVES on drama and finger-pointing, UGH!
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Post by zibazinski on May 24, 2015 5:56:28 GMT -5
I was married to a family like that. All of them. In my family it was just my mom I don't miss that BS
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Post by moneymaven on May 24, 2015 8:32:30 GMT -5
Yes, it's kind of sick but all of us siblings get along. We spend a lot of time together on our own volition and enjoy each other's company. We do drive each other crazy sometimes, but we do keep each other grounded and realistic.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on May 24, 2015 8:53:11 GMT -5
No. My old brother is a class a jerk in refusing to give to me my rightful inheritance. May he rot in hell where is already is in the booze bottle. While I can appreciate your feelings, that is quite a lot of animosity for you to bear for just one person and it's not healthy. This is your brother's problem and not yours. Try to change that hate (?) or gross dislike to pity for him. He is a tormented soul. Pray for those who spitefully treat you, persecute you and love the unlovely. I picked him up out of the cutter 30 y.a. and put a roof over his head for that long and this is the payback I get. The anger is more than justified.
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