I think I'm having a panic attack

[t-dog]

It's the housing situation.  Haven't slept in a couple of days and I'm feeling very overwhelmed and like a totally sucks parent.  

[billisonboard]

A panic attack is the abrupt onset of intense fear or discomfort that reaches a peak within minutes... www.adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/panic-disorder-agoraphobia/symptoms

Nope, it isn't a panic attack.

[Lizard Queen]

[Deleted]

Could you just rent something close to school for a while until a house comes up? 

[GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl]

It will work out, t-dog.  Maybe not in the time frame you want, but it will work out.


Spread the word at DS's school that you are looking for a rental.  I found the ones we stayed in the past 10 months (in my very own neighborhood) by doing just that -- they were never officially on the rental market.  One was a new purchase by someone in the neighborhood looking to move up but it needed some work.  I rented it dirt cheap while they worked with an architect, found a builder, and got permits.  That took almost 4 months alone.  The other is someone who is away on an assignment for a couple of years and wanted to rent to someone who would also act as a caretaker, not just as a tenant, so they were very picky about who they rented to.  There are also older folks who are moving in to assisted living but who aren't ready to sell yet, or job transfers but they want to eventually move back, etc.  Many of these are only rented by word of mouth, so start telling EVERYONE in your neighborhood how your house sold so quickly and how now you need something relatively short term until you buy again.

Keep us posted!!!

[happyhoix]

Very sorry. 

Everyone has sucky parent moments. Everyone. If they deny it, they are just good at having their sucky parent moments where no other adults can witness it. 

Have you tried unisom before? Everything is worse when you are sleep deprived, maybe that will help. 

This will pass. Your kids will be fine. This is just a hard patch in the road.   

[giramomma]

I'm sorry you are feeling like this.

I'm not the type to go see a dr for anxiety, but my NP was able to prescribe me some Xanax to help get me through when I had huge amounts of anxiety (for me, it was around centered around my job, and to a large degree, it still is.)

Otherwise, what can you do to take care of yourself? You know, the oxygen mask goes on you, first.

When I am overwhelmed, I find that lists help me organize my thoughts: whether it's a to do list or a pro/con list. I also don't make my lists three pages long. I just put a couple items on each day. And, then I'm done.

[busymom]

I totally agree with giramomma that when you feel like life is getting out of control, start off by making a list of what you MUST do.

In your case, this is the order of how I'd begin my list:

                      1.  Find a place to rent for my family to live

                      2.  Find a storage unit where I can send most of my stuff long before I need to be moved out

                      3.  Make an appointment with a RELIABLE moving company to deal with the rest of your stuff

I started your list.  Now, you fill in the blanks, & get going.    DH was working a crazy amount of hours during our last move, & I got stuck doing the prep work for our move.  Getting boxes, even cleaning out the garage (which DH was SUPPOSED to do himself).  Begin your organizing & throwing out of what you don't want to take with you TODAY.  Best wishes! 

[ArchietheDragon]

more beer

[t-dog]

ArchietheDragon - wish I liked booze right about now, but the reality is it just brings on a migraine which results in even more pain.

[Deleted]

Do you actually want to cancel the sale, or is this a temporary anxiety thing?

Go get a real estate attorney if you ACTUALLY don't want to sell & stop signing documents that move things forward. Your last couple threads sound more than anxious, more like terror stricken. Have a discussion about what it would cost to terminate the sale IF that is what you really want to do. 

Do you think your realtor underpriced your home since buyers initially wanted you to pay for an expensive list of repairs & then when you said no; they just picked up the cost? Or you were overestimating the cost of the repairs, I think you said they were substantial.

Good Luck on this! 

ETA: Saw your last posts on the other thread. Get a RE attorney to advise you.

[t-dog]

Yeah I really want to cancel the sale.