Not a "Baby Shower", but a "Baby Sprinkle"

[Ryan]

I don't know if this is a recent trend in my area, but I've seen 3 of them in a pretty short time frame.  It's common to have a baby shower when you have your 1st but after that you're on your own.  

The "Baby Sprinkle" is a scaled down baby shower for the subsequent babies (still register for gifts though).

What is more surprising is that the person who is having the baby doesn't realize how tacky it is to go back for another bite at the apple.  

[hoops902]

Apr 28, 2015 14:43:43 GMT -5 Ryan said:

I don't know if this is a recent trend in my area, but I've seen 3 of them in a pretty short time frame.  It's common to have a baby shower when you have your 1st but after that you're on your own.  

The "Baby Sprinkle" is a scaled down baby shower for the subsequent babies (still register for gifts though).

What is more surprising is that the person who is having the baby doesn't realize how tacky it is to go back for another bite at the apple.  

I'm not really sure I understand why people have such disdain for 2nd baby showers.  People who get married again have 2nd receptions.  People who get new homes have 2nd housewarmings.  People celebrate more birthdays than just their first, same for anniversaries. 

I guess I get the logic, I just don't get how that logic doesn't apply to a ton of other things that people seem perfectly fine with.

[NancysSummerSip]

I'm not really sure I understand why people have such disdain for 2nd baby showers. People who get married again have 2nd receptions. People who get new homes have 2nd housewarmings. People celebrate more birthdays than just their first, same for anniversaries.

I think the difference may lie in the fact that when it comes to subsequent marriages, homes, birthdays and anniversaries, a "no gifts, please" rule can be put into effect and accepted by guests. Whereas the second baby shower may come across as a more obvious gift grab (why else do people have them in the first place but to get baby stuff, right?), since no one would likely put "No Gifts, Please" on a baby shower invite.

Thinking about it, it doesn't make sense, given that the baby-to-be has no say in any of the party plans.

[Abby Normal]

I don't have an issue with second showers.  Though I may not buy as much- simply because they would most likely have all the big stuff they need anyway.

I look at it this way.  I still have family that insists on buying me something for my birthday.  And I've had more than 40 of those!

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

Ryan, in most cases, the baby shower is organized and hosted by friends or family of the mother-to-be (or parents-to-be).

People host/attend them, because they want to contribute something for the new baby, and to celebrate its upcoming arrival.

The mom-to-be is usually the guest-of-honor - not the organizer.

I don't see what difference it should make if it's a first child or second/third child.

[Pants]

A couple friends have tried to pressure me hard on having a "small" shower for the baby I'm about to have. Up to the point of mentioning they needed me to send them a guest list because they found the cutest invites! 

I hate showers with a fiery passion that knows no bounds. Never again. 

If I WASN'T that type of person, though, I could see the pressure to shower/sprinkle another baby getting to moms, even if it's not something THE MOM came up with. 

(PS - I'm still not entirely sure there's not going to be a surprise sprinkle at some point, although I have threatened my friends with bodily harm.) 

[gooddecisions]

Many of my friends and co-workers approached me about hosting a baby shower for me when I was pregnant with my first. I turned them all down because I didn't want to put additional financial strain on the host or my friends. I ended up with 3 surprise showers. I couldn't believe how nice everyone was to do that for me. Believe it or not, there are people out there that actually want to celebrate a new life. Nobody was more surprised than I was- which probably means I've been on this board too long.

That said, I also love getting invites to my friends' showers. But, I don't have any asshole friends, so I'm delighted to celebrate and bring generous gifts- whether the first or subsequent.

[zibazinski]

I was given a baby shower by my MIL's best friend.  My MIL had given her daughter one so it worked out. When my second was the opposite sex I was overwhelmed with PINK!!! But I didn't need anything but diapers and wipes really.