Angel!
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Post by Angel! on Apr 19, 2015 12:24:07 GMT -5
I use to be very close to all my coworkers and think of them as family. But in the last 2 years we've gone from an office of 4 to 11, so things have changed a lot. I'm still close to half the office, they know details of my personal life and we've hung out outside of work. But there are now definitely a few I have no interest in being friends with and don't share with. The office has become filled with cliques and drama.
But, I also don't mistaken most of my friendships with anything other than vicinity and convenience. If I left or they did, we would keep up on Facebook, but that would probably be it.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Apr 20, 2015 21:06:02 GMT -5
At my job at the federal government, we couldn't discuss much about the job outside of the work. A lot of incestuous relationships resulted. Lots of workplace marriages and divorces and babies and custody battles. I had two workplace relationships. One ended badly. The other ended after we were both retired. I am still friends with many of the people I worked with there.
At all of the jobs I have had since, I consider the people co-workers and that is all. I don't get involved in their personal lives.
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Post by andi9899 on Apr 20, 2015 23:16:59 GMT -5
I have dated a coworker twice in my life. One was Baby Daddy who we all know ended badly. The other turned out to be married. He even wanted me to keep having sex with him after I found out and called him on it. Men.
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Post by Value Buy on Apr 21, 2015 7:59:24 GMT -5
We were pretty close. the only person I refused to have any conversation with other than business related was HR. They were never to be trusted. Freaking turncoats. Everyone of them.
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Post by ohmomto2boys on Apr 21, 2015 9:23:03 GMT -5
I have been at my job for over 20 years, so everyone knows things about me...divorce, marriage, kids. When I was in my 20's - early 30's a bunch of us hung out a lot and played golf frequently. Now, I keep to myself. I'm friendly with everyone, but they don't need to know what I do every weekend and I really don't care to hang out with anyone from work anymore.
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Abby Normal
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Post by Abby Normal on Apr 21, 2015 10:52:22 GMT -5
Most of us have been here quite a while, so we know a lot. My group tends to be more friendly with each other (it's always been this way no matter who I hire) but it works well for us as a team. We all vent or share the more joyous aspects of our lives simply because we are all around the same age. Amongst the rest of the staff, we chat in general. I know what my bosses kids and grandkids are all doing. My boss was actually the first to come visit me in the hospital after DS was born- even before my family made it because they live out of town.
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Post by cael on Apr 21, 2015 12:35:08 GMT -5
There are only 5 of us (6 soon with a new guy), and I'd say I'm super close to my one coworker and our clerk, pretty close to our nurse (she's only been here a year). Our personalities all mesh really well, my really close coworker (technically my direct supervisor) and I are super close to where we know what the other is thinking and have become a good team and good friends over 7 years. The big boss has gotten better but it won't ever be a relationship like we have with the others, lol. At my old job, I had a team I oversaw and we were all a pretty tight team - I was good to them and they were good to me. Still talk to a few of them, and that placed shut down 7 years ago now. OTOH, the employee who left us a few months ago was a nightmare and none of us were close to her, she was just toxic and awful so there was nothing beyond what we were professionally obligated to do/be with her. My husband and I were coworkers when we started dating, technically he was a boss to me
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Post by Bonny on Apr 21, 2015 13:07:41 GMT -5
I give them a lot of information that seems personal, but in reality none of it is sensitive. Cute anecdotes that make it seem like you know me and my family life. But, I went three years without telling anyone about my daily health problems. It only came up because I took two days off in a row, unplanned to see two different doctors. My boss asked me what was wrong, and I said "Nothing serious, just chronic." I didn't tell anyone else anything. Keeping certain tidbits to myself contributes to the facade that my life is better than yours.LOL!
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Post by Bonny on Apr 21, 2015 13:13:05 GMT -5
Many of our close friends are former colleagues. The folks we socialize with the most here in the SF Bay Area are former colleagues of mine. I left that job 21 years ago. Of course I did talk both of them into moving to our little town. They have since forgiven me.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2015 14:14:13 GMT -5
I have worked at my current job for just over 5 years. I don't really socialize with my work mates but we do a lot of social activities that are work related. I know a lot about most of them, then know the basics about me.
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