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Post by katedenorm on Mar 9, 2011 16:55:26 GMT -5
Prayers and thoughts for you and your family. Stay strong.
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Post by Frappuccino on Mar 9, 2011 18:00:42 GMT -5
I am praying for you! I wish you and your family strength during this difficult time!!! I am so sorry you have to go through this.
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Post by motherto2 on Mar 9, 2011 19:19:09 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear about your husband. Please know that my thoughts and prayers go out to you all.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Mar 10, 2011 2:10:14 GMT -5
I am so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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Post by NastyWoman on Mar 10, 2011 2:45:26 GMT -5
refresher hug to keep up your spirits. Wishing you much strength
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Post by mtshastawriter on Mar 10, 2011 10:13:46 GMT -5
I wanted to post a quick update and thank everyone for their prayers and thoughts. We now know that the infection is in my DH's heart/heart valves and is 100% fatal. He has been on the strongest antibiotics they can give him, but his body just doesn't have enough fight left in it to battle the infection. I have given permission to stop his dialysis treatments in hopes that will allow him to be more heavily medicated and pass as quickly as possible. It is obvious to anyone who visits that he is no longer mentally "there" and is suffering greatly. I took our kids down to see him yesterday and I think someday they will be glad to have gone. Wish I had good news, but I very strongly believe that when it is your time then it is your time and fighting it doesn't really do much to help the situation. Thanks for the suggestion of the other message board - I will go check that out now.
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Post by katedenorm on Mar 10, 2011 10:16:20 GMT -5
More thoughts and prayers for you and your family. Take care.
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Post by qofcc on Mar 10, 2011 10:17:06 GMT -5
So sorry to hear that... best wishes to you and your family. Keep strong.
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Post by Agatha on Mar 10, 2011 10:36:24 GMT -5
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Mar 10, 2011 10:46:01 GMT -5
I am so sorry. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts. <<<hugs>>>
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Post by bean29 on Mar 10, 2011 10:53:50 GMT -5
As someone else said. Prayers ongoing. Please come back after you have dealt with everything and give us an update on the MRSA. I am going to see my Dad this weekend becasue as you said someone can be healthy one week and then something like this happens.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 10, 2011 10:55:33 GMT -5
I have given permission to stop his dialysis treatments in hopes that will allow him to be more heavily medicated and pass as quickly as possible. <snip> Wish I had good news, but I very strongly believe that when it is your time then it is your time and fighting it doesn't really do much to help the situation. Thanks for the update. My son had to make a similar decision last year when his father (my Ex) went into kidney and liver failure at the age of 63. When there's really no possibility that they'll return to a decent quality of life, it's time to let them go peacefully and in comfort. I'm glad your children agree- that makes it much easier.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Mar 10, 2011 11:48:56 GMT -5
Please come back after you have dealt with everything and give us an update on the MRSA. I am going to see my Dad this weekend becasue as you said someone can be healthy one week and then something like this happens.
The OP's husband has been medically compromised for years. Because he could walk and drive did not mean that he was healthy as one would normally define health.
While MRSA can and does hit healthy people, the OP's husband does not have the resources to fight the infection - which puts him into a different class.
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Post by azphx1972 on Mar 10, 2011 12:17:37 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear.
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Post by echoecho on Mar 10, 2011 13:48:12 GMT -5
Please know that my thoughts and prayers are w/ you and your family.
There may be an assist to the pain situation - ask your physician about"palliative sedation". To be simply put, it's a way of sleeping your way to death. It is not however, euthanasia.
At end of life it is often difficult to properly address pain, especially as you've explained "It is obvious to anyone who visits that he is no longer mentally "there" and is suffering greatly."
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Mar 10, 2011 15:20:29 GMT -5
You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I'm so sorry you had to make this difficult decision. God Bless!
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Post by mercee on Mar 10, 2011 15:24:41 GMT -5
The nursing home did that for my mom...made her "comfortable" right at the end...always asking my permission to give her more if she seemed uncomfortable. It made it very peaceful for her...and for us.
**hugs & prayers**
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Post by ❤ mollymouser ❤ on Mar 10, 2011 15:50:30 GMT -5
My prayers are with your husband and your entire family. I am praying for peace and comfort and wisdom and strength. ((( hugs )))
Please let us know how we can help.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 10, 2011 16:04:16 GMT -5
hugs.
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Post by debtheaven on Mar 10, 2011 16:37:41 GMT -5
Oh Shasta. I'm so sorry. I wish you all strength. (((Shasta)))
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Post by daylight on Mar 10, 2011 16:42:44 GMT -5
I am praying for you, hopefully you will all have the strength to keep going.
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Post by cael on Mar 10, 2011 16:58:31 GMT -5
OP.. prayers for you & your family
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Post by thyme4change on Mar 10, 2011 17:18:24 GMT -5
Well...I'm sitting here at my desk crying. How do I explain this if someone walks in?
I hope you find peace.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Mar 10, 2011 20:12:07 GMT -5
My prayer for you is that all good things come your way and works in your favor. We are in agreement for healing and your request is put on the cross of Jesus for healing. All financial and surrounding issues are put on the altar of G-d for healing, and we thank You in the name of Jesus. Amen.
Edit: I added the altar portion.
File for indigent status with the hospital. You have to ask for the paper work. I think that means you cannot pay. Someone on another board did this when being admitted.
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Post by money100 on Mar 10, 2011 21:55:07 GMT -5
mtshastawriter, I am very, very sorry for what you're going through and have gone through. You're a tough lady and I hope you get the financial and emotional help that you need.
There are lots of good suggestions here from smart people but I also know you have a lot on your mind. I will be sure to ask my Christian friends to pray unceasingly over your family.
I wish you the very, very best.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 10, 2011 23:13:04 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear this. You are in my thoughts.
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Post by NastyWoman on Mar 11, 2011 0:52:22 GMT -5
I am so sorry to hear this. You and your children are in my thoughts.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Mar 11, 2011 2:20:16 GMT -5
(((Shasta))) I am so sorry. May your future have many blessings coming to you and your children after such a hard road. I had to make the decision for my real father when I was in my twenties. Nobody else from my family would fly to where he lived or help so it was all on me. Although I know I made the right decision (he was brain dead with no chance of recovery) it's still hard.
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