What Are Your Biggest Regrets ?

[Jaguar]

So what are your biggest regrets so far in your life ?

My List :

Let's see I could have had the world's top surgeon work on me when I was 7, but I said no cause my own surgeon was teaching in Vancouver. I was waiting until he got back.

Going into the absolute worst college program jewelery arts, it should have been computers cause it was the right time for that. I love everything about computers.

Getting scared of the energy I was getting doing Transcendental Meditation. I went in really deep, really fast and touched on a deeper part of myself and I freaked right out.

Not getting into Brainwave Entrainment earlier, because it has brought so much positive into my life.

Not doing my medications and doctors appointments when I should have. I could have caught big issues earlier.

Not saving money when I had it.


Who is next ?

[billisonboard]

Becoming addicted to ymam

[Jaguar]

Mar 31, 2015 17:29:52 GMT -5 billisonboard said:

Becoming addicted to ymam

YMAM is not an addiction, YMAM is a need. There's a difference I hope.

[mollyanna58]

Mar 31, 2015 17:27:55 GMT -5 Jaguar said:

Let's see I could have had the world's top surgeon work on me when I was 7, but I said no cause my own surgeon was teaching in Vancouver. I was waiting until he got back.

Why would a 7yo be making decisions about her surgeon?

[Jaguar]

Mar 31, 2015 17:54:24 GMT -5 mollyanna58 said:

Mar 31, 2015 17:27:55 GMT -5 Jaguar said:

Let's see I could have had the world's top surgeon work on me when I was 7, but I said no cause my own surgeon was teaching in Vancouver. I was waiting until he got back.

Why would a 7yo be making decisions about her surgeon?

Because my mother wouldn't make decisions, it was a huge stink in my family that from a very young age I had to make my own health decisions.

[souldoubt]

[chen35]

I don't have a ton of regrets. Not to say I haven't made mistakes, but I'm in a good place now, and they all led me here, so I don't spend too much time thinking about what could have been.

That being said, I do wish I would have pushed back on our fertility Dr. a few years back when he said he thought we could get pregnant on our own. I knew something was wrong, but trusted his judgement. Now things are worse, so who knows if we'll be able to have children.

[whoisjohngalt]

screwing with my hair and not getting CPA when I was younger and not working in public accounting

[emma1420]

Not learning to like myself earlier, and for not losing the excess weight I had earlier.  But, I'll take late over not at all 

[Lizard Queen]

As mentioned elsewhere, not going away to college after high school.  Other aspects of my life led me to DH, so all's well that ends well in that regard.

Another is having spent much of my life sort of living in fear of people. I'm getting better with that one as I get older.  (I don't know if I should go back and try to figure out the origin of that is.  Maybe there's something there that I still need to resolve.  I've gone over some other aspects of my past recently, and I'm not sure that it's helping at all with my present state of mind.). Anyway, I could have gotten a lot more out of everything if I weren't so anxious all the time.

[taz157]

Not skinny dipping with the boy I had a crush on when I had a chance.    I was too chicken.   

But like what chen35 said - I don't have a ton of regrets. Not to say I haven't made mistakes, but I'm in a good place now, and they all led me here, so I don't spend too much time thinking about what could have been.

[wvugurl26]

The car accident in February 2014. Wish I had gone a different way or something. I never dreamed the physical injuries would stretch out beyond a year.

[mmhmm]

I'd regret my first marriage, I suppose, but it was from that marriage that my children were born. For that reason, I can't regret the marriage. Otherwise, I'm reasonably happy with the way my life has gone. I have no regrets.

[Tennesseer]

I suppose I have a regret ot two.  But I don't give them much time of day.  It's done.  Its over.  I am what I am today.  Nothing I can change about it either other than not doing something in the future I may regret.  I have the life experience to recognize potential regretable things now.

[thyme4change]

Honestly, my biggest regrets are when I was mean, or even just totally inconsiderate to other people.  I didn't gain from most of those - I should have been nicer.

[whoisjohngalt]

Mar 31, 2015 21:52:31 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

Honestly, my biggest regrets are when I was mean, or even just totally inconsiderate to other people.  I didn't gain from most of those - I should have been nicer.

Your honesty and openness is so freaking refreshing.

[moneymaven]

A boy. Wish it wasn't the case, but it is. He's the one that got away.

Also staying in a shit hole work environment far longer than I ever should have and allowing myself to be treated poorly. I'm glad I'm on the other side of that now and absolutely love my company and career now.

[Shooby]

Hmm.... For one, I wish I would have not quit the band in 7th grade when I got braces. I played the trumpet and it was hurting so I decided to quit.  And, in retrospect, I think I would have especially enjoyed marching band. I play other instruments but think the Band thing would have been fun.

I wish I would have grown out my hair long when I was younger. My mom cut it when I was a kid and I always just left it that way without much thought. DD has long hair and it is actually much more fun and versatile.

[happyhoix]

I wish I had self esteem in HS and as a young adult. I wish  could go back to myself at that age and whisper in my own ear that I was at least as smart or smarter than my classmates and I shouldn't be hiding that light under a bushel.

If I had self esteem I would have gone to one of the top universities I got accepted to, rather than settled for the state university with a mundane program in my field of studies - but I was afraid I would fail at one of the big schools. And if I had self esteem I could have gotten hired much faster, to a better paying job right out of college.

However, I met DH at that State school, and he's the dad of DS and the two of them are the very best parts of my life, so I can't regret that I went to the State school at all.

[Deleted]

Mostly I regret the $$$ I threw down the drain trying to keep my first husband happy. It started when we were dating. I'd saved a lot. He had nothing but a pile of credit card debts and a new Camaro on order. I took on the loan for the Camaro; it was close to 1/4 of my gross income. He wanted custom-made slipcovers and matching drapes in his condo (he'd been raised in a wealthy family and that's how he lived). I paid for those. He loved deep-sea fishing, which involved going pretty far offshore (we lived in NJ) to get the Gulfstream, in a chartered boat, at $1,500 a pop in the early 1908s. I probably paid for 3 or 4 of those.   For my part, I yearned to go to Europe, but didn't feel I could spend the money.  I'm happy to say there have been MANY trips to Europe with current DH and we leave for Iceland in August.

I got out of my first marriage with a nice chunk of equity in the house, which we wouldn't have been able to buy without the down payment from his mother's estate, so it's not like I lost everything.  Still, I hate the doormat behavior that led me to do things to my own detriment to placate him.  I blame my biological clock.  At least I got DS out of it!

[mollyanna58]

Mar 31, 2015 17:58:46 GMT -5 Jaguar said:

Mar 31, 2015 17:54:24 GMT -5 mollyanna58 said:

Why would a 7yo be making decisions about her surgeon?

Because my mother wouldn't make decisions, it was a huge stink in my family that from a very young age I had to make my own health decisions.

That is incredibly sad.  I'm sorry your mother wasn't enough of a grown-up.

[Phoenix84]

I wish I had been more social in college. Having just about everyone you know the same age in the same place... It never got easier than then.

I wish I had been more serious about learning my profession sooner, as well as working in a professional environment and managing people.

That's reaaly about it.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

How much time do you have?

I regret being so myopic about my career choices when I was in my teens/early 20's. I had professors and bosses try to warn me but I kept going. I should have taken the time to analyze other career options while I was still single and not tied down by responsibilities.

I regret not working harder to reduce my college costs. To be fair a lot has changed since I went to college making it easier to be a transfer student. I made the decisions I did with what was available at the time.

I regret letting people talk me out of investing in retirement at Creighton b/c I was young. I missed out on all that compounding. Wish I had found YM sooner!

[The Captain]

True story.

Went back to my college for my 5 year reunion (many moons ago).  Meet up with some of the folks (full time employees as opposed to student employees) I used to work with in the snack bar the night before homecoming.

The lady who basically taught me everything I knew about running a short order shop asked me - "Hey, did XXX ever track you down"?

!?!

Turns out this guy who was a frequent customer (and used to sit with me during slow periods and talk and do homework) was apparently majorly crushing on me.  On graduation day he went back to the snack bar trying to get my home address or phone number because he FINALLY worked up the courage to ask me out.

No, he never did track me down and since I just started dating DH at the time (5 years after graduation) there was no real reason for me to do so.

The guy was even more of an introvert than I was.  He was a major nerd who had a hard time looking someone straight in the eye let alone talking to them or asking someone out on a date.  Yes, he was totally adorkable and I would've been happy to date him.

My marriage is good, but I've always hoped this guy became more comfortable with himself and found someone to share his life with. 

[Sam_2.0]

My only true regret is letting them stop labor with Aubree 10 days before she was born. I had the chance to meet her possibly alive and I missed it. However, then we would have been forced to make a lot of very difficult decisions that ultimately we were spared from, so that is how I try to comfort myself.

I do regret some mistakes in the past, ways I hurt people or they hurt me. I've mostly learned to forgive those and move on as all of those experiences have shaped who I am now. Some of those aren't regrets as much as they are just embarassing to think about. Forgiving myself is often harder than forgiving others.

[Spellbound454]

No regrets.

I have carefully considered my options at the time....... and taken chances when they have been there.

You can only go on the information you have in front of you at the time.

If it turns out not to have been a good decision....there shouldn't be regret. You know that you did your best.

I have failed at a lot of things....but it isn't because I didn't try.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing....but its not the real world.

[Spellbound454]

My only true regret is letting them stop labor with Aubree 10 days before she was born. I had the chance to meet her possibly alive and I missed it. However, then we would have been forced to make a lot of very difficult decisions that ultimately we were spared from, so that is how I try to comfort myself.

Losing a child must be a life-times regret.

Nothing can ever justify this situation.....and nothing ever will.

[Angel!]

My biggest regret is hurting my 1st ex. I was young & stupid & caused someone I cared about a lot of pain.  But, I did learn a lesson from that & will never repeat the mistake.

While I shouldn't have married my ex & really should have left him much sooner, I really can't regret that because I have 3 adorable kids that I absolutely don't regret & can't imagine my life without them.

I wish I was less shy & quiet for the first 25 years of my life, but it was who I was at the time.

I can say I regret not seriously saving for retirement way sooner & regret wasting so much on my first house. 

I regret not living it up more before kids - traveling, living elsewhere, etc.  But that goes a little bit back to my shy, quiet personality at the time.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I regret not rocking trashy clothes when I was 18 and had the body to pull it off.

I want to yell out the window every time I drive by the HS "Wait till you have children!"

[giramomma]

Apr 1, 2015 12:39:14 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I regret not rocking trashy clothes when I was 18 and had the body to pull it off.

For me it was pom-poms. Totally regret not doing it.