MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 31, 2015 8:29:36 GMT -5
Without you, I wouldn't have found out that my grandmother died last night. Your platform makes it easy for people to never actually communicate one-on-one so they could, oh I don't know, tell each other about a family illness. Instead they can just all change their profile pictures and post cryptic status updates asking for prayers.
I hope the next person in her room enjoys the flowers that I sent to arrive tomorrow.
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Post by TheHaitian on Mar 31, 2015 8:32:41 GMT -5
My sincere condolences
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Mar 31, 2015 8:42:10 GMT -5
sorry about your grandma.
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Post by dannylion on Mar 31, 2015 8:50:05 GMT -5
Sorry, MJ.
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Post by Formerly SK on Mar 31, 2015 8:51:19 GMT -5
I'm so so sorry.
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Post by ken a.k.a OMK on Mar 31, 2015 8:58:14 GMT -5
Sorry MJ.
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Post by 973beachbum on Mar 31, 2015 9:11:41 GMT -5
Awww. I'm so sorry for everything!
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Post by Peace77 on Mar 31, 2015 9:22:48 GMT -5
Can you call and cancel the flowers? So sorry that you heard via Facebook. Our sympathies for your loss.
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Post by kittensaver on Mar 31, 2015 9:24:37 GMT -5
OMG that sucks. Sorry for your loss.
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Post by zibazinski on Mar 31, 2015 9:54:26 GMT -5
I'm sorry for your loss plus the way you found out about it.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Mar 31, 2015 9:55:16 GMT -5
I'm sorry MJ. I also found out a friend of mine died an early and tragic death on FB. It's horrible.
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Post by busymom on Mar 31, 2015 10:05:20 GMT -5
So sorry MJ!
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MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 31, 2015 11:14:07 GMT -5
That's my dad's family - very inclusive but only with certain "important" family members. They suck. The only good ones were my grandmother and some of my cousins.
I'm a bit annoyed at my mom for not telling me she was ill sooner but I understand her reasoning. I just hope that I'll be treated like an adult in the future.
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Post by jitterbug on Mar 31, 2015 11:25:09 GMT -5
I am sincerely sorry on the loss of your grandmother.
I have to disagree, though, that Facebook is not always a bad way to communicate this kind of news. Do I want to read that my mom died via Facebook? No. But with relatives farther down the line, with Facebook, everybody hears the news at the same time. There's no "she called Sue before she called me." There's no distortion of information as it gets pushed down the telephone lines. My husband's grandmother has 8 kids and numerous grand children, great-grandchildren and great-great grandchildren. We all want to know if something happens - Facebook lets us know instantly. We recently had our own brou-ha-ha over this, though, as a daughter put a "pray for mom, as she's in the emergency room" message out. I, personally, was happy to receive this news over Facebook and from a sibling in the know. Others got all panicked about it and were angry at the daughter for posting it. So you can never win.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 31, 2015 11:29:23 GMT -5
Ughh... I wish that FB had a warning msg when it detected posts that contain certain words together. The warning msg could read... "You know this is a shitty way to let others know of this news. Perhaps you ought to step away from the keyboard and pick up the phone instead" I'm sorry to hear about your loss. The worst part is they don't usually just straight out give the details. It's always these cryptic "ask me more" posts. The regular media knows enough to keep names out of things until family is notified, why this isn't common sense for everyone is beyond me. Unfortunately, I think the Facebooks and Twitters are going to make this pretty common. Sorry about your loss MJ.
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Post by mollyanna58 on Mar 31, 2015 11:33:05 GMT -5
I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Post by mmhmm on Mar 31, 2015 11:34:47 GMT -5
Without you, I wouldn't have found out that my grandmother died last night. Your platform makes it easy for people to never actually communicate one-on-one so they could, oh I don't know, tell each other about a family illness. Instead they can just all change their profile pictures and post cryptic status updates asking for prayers. I hope the next person in her room enjoys the flowers that I sent to arrive tomorrow. I'm so sorry, sweetheart. That must have hurt! I'm sorry, as well, for your loss. I hope your grandmother passed with peace and dignity. My condolences to all who knew and loved her.
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Post by shanendoah on Mar 31, 2015 11:39:34 GMT -5
*hugs* MJ. Sorry for your loss.
I agree FB notices of death are a mixed bag. When my grandfather's health was failing, my father got really mad at my Aunt (his sister), who would post that they were at the hospital via FB before even attempting to call either of her brothers (my dad and uncle). And when Papa did pass, my dad basically threatened her about not posting on FB until he had had a chance to call both my brother and I.
Still, we have found out about the deaths of close friends and other family members via FB. In one case, when I sent the condolence note, the deceased's sister was instantly like "omg we should have called you guys, I'm so sorry" (it was C's cousin). But I get it- someone just died unexpectedly and they just didn't think of EVERYONE they should have called. And with another friend who passed last year, his partner did not have the numbers to be able to call everyone who should have been called, nor could have have known everyone who should have been called (there were family issues there). On some level, it was best for C to find out the news via FB because then he got to react in his own instant grief and not have to console someone else - someone who hadn't even known the deceased for 1/10th as long as C had.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 31, 2015 11:40:44 GMT -5
I am sincerely sorry on the loss of your grandmother. I have to disagree, though, that Facebook is not always a bad way to communicate this kind of news. Do I want to read that my mom died via Facebook? No. But with relatives farther down the line, with Facebook, everybody hears the news at the same time. There's no "she called Sue before she called me." There's no distortion of information as it gets pushed down the telephone lines. My husband's grandmother has 8 kids and numerous grand children, great-grandchildren and great-great grandchildren. We all want to know if something happens - Facebook lets us know instantly. We recently had our own brou-ha-ha over this, though, as a daughter put a " pray for mom, as she's in the emergency room" message out. I, personally, was happy to receive this news over Facebook and from a sibling in the know. Others got all panicked about it and were angry at the daughter for posting it. So you can never win. as tacky as I find that, I would have much preferred that over them changing their profile pictures to ones of her and asking for prayers. No real information was given.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Mar 31, 2015 11:41:20 GMT -5
Aw, MJ. On top of everything else, this sucks big time. Especially if she was the kind and decent soul out of the rest of that side of the family. I hate to ask this, but can you/would you go to her funeral/memorial service, now that you know? And if you do, can you restrain yourself from drawing blood on anyone else? Not that I'd blame you, but the paperwork and all is so complicated, plus the headlines can be sort of interesting: "Grieving Granddaughter Gives Granny's Family What They Deserve; Says Night in Jail 'Worth It!' "
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 31, 2015 11:45:43 GMT -5
I told my mom (yes, told) her to tell me when the funeral was so that I can go. I told her I don't care when it is or what time of day - I will be there. I already told X and he said he'd make accommodations regarding DS so that I can attend.
I don't want to bring DS as I believe he's too young, but I feel that this may be the only time that my dad's family will actually meet him.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Mar 31, 2015 11:47:37 GMT -5
My condolences for the loss of your beloved gramma. I would rather know from FB or a text than be skipped entirely. At an office I worked at one of the employees was so delighted with his 104 y.o. aunt. Someone called the office all upset but wouldn't leave a message. The way he found out she had died was me saying I was sorry about your aunt. That's like being stabbed in the heart. Then his supervisor who was a pay-back artist, was miffed because he didn't get to break the news. Years ago a prank that was going around is they would call someone and say they were so sorry the spouse had died. Cruel.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 31, 2015 11:53:30 GMT -5
Years ago a prank that was going around is they would call someone and say they were so sorry the spouse had died. Cruel. there would have then been a call going around later that day to that person's spouse that the prankster had died.
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Post by lexxy703 on Mar 31, 2015 13:43:29 GMT -5
That is a crappy way to find out. I'm sorry it happened this way & for the loss of your grandma.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Mar 31, 2015 14:09:01 GMT -5
I'm sorry for the loss of your grandma, MJ. That sucks how you found out. If it's not too late can the flowers be sent to the funeral home instead of the hospital? (((Hugs)))
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Post by cronewitch on Mar 31, 2015 15:14:47 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss and the way you found out. I am more direct on Facebook but do post bad news. When mom got cancer I posted she was in the hospital and they thought it was Pancratic cancer. That was the only way I could really get to all her grandkids and great grandkids since we don't know each others phone numbers or email addresses. Even my brother in Mexico I don't know other ways to contact him so he heard the minute we knew on facebook so he could call our other brother and make travel plans to see her. When she died I posted on Facebook so those who had to return home before she died would know it was done but they knew she was on hospice so not really much surprise that she died. All the locals and Mexico family were with her when she died and we called her sister.
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Post by moneymaven on Mar 31, 2015 22:36:36 GMT -5
I'm so sorry, MJ. Thinking of you!
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Post by quince on Apr 1, 2015 0:29:14 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss.
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Post by toomuchreality on Apr 1, 2015 3:56:02 GMT -5
Ugh. I have found that reading FB is not necessarily in my best interest, mentally; or in the best interest of my relationships. I'm sorry. Lots of BIG hugs ((((MJ))))
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Post by toomuchreality on Apr 1, 2015 3:56:33 GMT -5
Ugh. I have found that reading FB is not necessarily in my best interest, mentally; or in the best interest of my relationships. I'm sorry. Lots of BIG hugs ((((MJ))))
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