Tennesseer
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Post by Tennesseer on Mar 29, 2015 13:58:01 GMT -5
What's Going to Happen to Your Stuff?
Other than some artwork of value, there will be a big dumpster in the driveway for about a week.
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Post by TheHaitian on Mar 29, 2015 14:00:14 GMT -5
What's Going to Happen to Your Stuff? Other than some artwork of value, there will be a big dumpster in the driveway for about a week. A week? You have that much crap :eek: Shouldn't take them more than a day for me...
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Post by msventoux on Mar 29, 2015 14:02:22 GMT -5
If it takes a week it will probably take more than one dumpster. When I decluttered my house I filled up a large dumpster in a weekend...and had another one delivered for a few more days.
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Post by Tennesseer on Mar 29, 2015 14:05:32 GMT -5
My family members are lazy. I will probably die in the summer and it is too damn hot here for those northerners to be in and out of the house for too long.
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Post by TheHaitian on Mar 29, 2015 14:17:29 GMT -5
My family members are lazy. I will probably die in the summer and it is too damn hot here for those northerners to be in and out of the house for too long. LMAO
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Post by Bonny on Mar 29, 2015 14:27:42 GMT -5
My god! After reading some of these stories I am sooooo glad my mother chose to downsize after my dad died. She moved from a 2,400 square foot house to a 700 square foot apartment. She only took what is important to her. And only has about a closet of 'storage' items. She gave me a bunch of boxes to 'keep, give to the kids, sell, throw away because I don't care'. If I was ruthless, it would take me 1 day and a bottle of wine to deal with everything she owns now. I think I'll go out today and buy her a case of her favorite merlot in gratitude!
She did start in interesting habit. If one of my kids (the only ones in the family) express a deep interest in one of her items, she labels it with their name and puts it in a locked trunk. When the time comes, I am to go thru the trunk and ship the items off to each kid. As they should be out of college and into the 4 winds by then................ The kids all know this but there is very little they have asked for. 90% of the items are quilts she has made. Those quilts are family heirlooms! I can definitely understand your kids wanting one. What a nice way to remember one's grandmother.
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Post by WholeLottaNothin on Mar 29, 2015 14:59:38 GMT -5
My father died a few years ago and my mom still lives in the house. She has been there over 40 years now so lots of time for accumulation but she keeps on top of it the best she can. I don't have to do much anyway because my sister is a hoarder and will take everything. Now her place is the one I'll have to worry about. She and her husband are both that way. He has an older brother but I am younger than her by 9 years so odds are I'll be the one left to deal with it. They don't have any kids so I won't have any help there.
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Post by daisy on Mar 29, 2015 16:20:03 GMT -5
My oldest is the sentimental one here so she will end up with my bits of 'stuff'. I have some Amish made furniture that she will get and I've already divvied up my good jewelry between her and her sister. I have an unusual little knick-nack box made from a log that my grandfather had made for my grandma at the World's Fair in Chicago, not sure which kidling will want that. Also two pictures that a cousin of my grandmother's painted for $$ back when Czechloslovakia was behind the iron curtain, pics of the town where my great-grandmother grew up. Hopefully they will appreciate those. The rest, eh, sell and move on.
My father passed many years ago, his estate was a breeze. My mom, well, she still lives in the 4-story 4,000 sq ft Victorian I grew up in. Not much has changed. All of my childhood still exists in that house. She is not 'old' in that she is early 70's and works full time, travels and lives life, but I do not look forward to cleaning it out. Hopefully she will get a bug and do it, move to a nice condo and all will go smoothly. I had hoped my brother's words would light a fire under her but not so far. He said, "if you die without cleaning out that pile I will just throw a match on it". He lives 2,000 miles away and my sister lives in Europe. Guess who will be stuck with it.....
my husband is a quasi-hoarder, but that will be his children's problem, they inherit all of his stuff.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Mar 29, 2015 18:07:19 GMT -5
I am a collector of Beatles memorabilia. Some of it is valuable. I have instructed my executor, my nephew, to sell it and I've given him the names of places that sell such items.
I have a handmade quilt my mother's grandmother made. I hope my niece wants it or a wife of one of my nephews. That would have some value.
Furniture should be donated, maybe clothes. Everything else tossed.
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Post by kjto1 on Mar 30, 2015 7:15:31 GMT -5
Quote removed as quoted post has been deleted. MidJD Administrator If I remember correctly, it is Bonny's DH's stuff. He has to agree to how it is gotten rid of.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Mar 30, 2015 7:53:00 GMT -5
At this time, I really don't care what is to become of my stuff. I do care what is to become of my boys and DH should I pass. Most of my "stuff" really is just "junk". Other people's "junk" is just "garbage".
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Post by happyhoix on Mar 30, 2015 8:01:05 GMT -5
My father died a few years ago and my mom still lives in the house. She has been there over 40 years now so lots of time for accumulation but she keeps on top of it the best she can. I don't have to do much anyway because my sister is a hoarder and will take everything. Now her place is the one I'll have to worry about. She and her husband are both that way. He has an older brother but I am younger than her by 9 years so odds are I'll be the one left to deal with it. They don't have any kids so I won't have any help there. I sincerely hope you don't have to deal with this. My DS died last year and we had to clear out her little 500 square foot home. She had five cats and hadn't been able to take care of the or herself for a while, and refused to let anyone in the house to see how bad it was (I think she was afraid the cats would get taken away). Add to that a lifetime of saving everything she ever owned. Plus she was diabetic and kept her insulin needles shoved in cans and drawers all over the house. We had to tackle it in tyvek suits respirators and with snow shovels, in 90 degree heat (she had no air conditioning) - seriously, it was miserable. I hope you can convince your DS and her DH to tackle this before they pass.
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Post by Tennesseer on Mar 30, 2015 8:44:20 GMT -5
My god! After reading some of these stories I am sooooo glad my mother chose to downsize after my dad died. She moved from a 2,400 square foot house to a 700 square foot apartment. She only took what is important to her. And only has about a closet of 'storage' items. She gave me a bunch of boxes to 'keep, give to the kids, sell, throw away because I don't care'. If I was ruthless, it would take me 1 day and a bottle of wine to deal with everything she owns now. I think I'll go out today and buy her a case of her favorite merlot in gratitude!
She did start in interesting habit. If one of my kids (the only ones in the family) express a deep interest in one of her items, she labels it with their name and puts it in a locked trunk. When the time comes, I am to go thru the trunk and ship the items off to each kid. As they should be out of college and into the 4 winds by then................ The kids all know this but there is very little they have asked for. 90% of the items are quilts she has made. LOL! I'm so glad my 2 brothers were greedy bastards and stole or sold most of her stuff before I even had the chance to settle her estate. It pissed me off at first but then I realized that 40 years or more of stuff (mostly good but I didn't need or want any of it) was not what I wanted to deal with while handling crazy brothers and the legalities of her estate. A lot of her stuff was what I gave her and they didn't even bother to ask if I wanted any of it back. This is why I believe in abortion! That reminds me of the TV I bought my parents for Christmas one year. Their existing TV was like 20 years old. So I bought them a new one for Christmas. So I fly up for a visit six or so months later and notice their old TV is still in use. They told me the TV I bought I them was too complicated to figure out how to use so they gave it to my brother. The TV was barely out of the box-my brother could have paid me something/anything for his free TV I also bought them a Mr. Coffee machine as a gift so when I visited I could have coffee. So I am visiting them for Christmas and my brother is there too. The folks tell me they never use the coffee machine. My brother asks if he can have it. The folks ask me if that would be okay. I said it was yours to do what ever you want as it was a gift. They gave it to my brother. Karma got him though (for the TV) when he was leaving the house with the machine-he slipped on ice and the glass carafe broke. Brother was okay.
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Post by dancinmama on Mar 30, 2015 10:02:22 GMT -5
I am not a collector of "stuff". If it weren't for my stockpiles of drug chain non-perishable freebies, most of my cabinets would be bare.
DH on the other hand, has a hard time parting with things. I am slowly but surely getting him to things that haven't been used in years. We recently cleaned out the garage and got rid of A LOT of stuff. We also have a mezzanine above the garage where he has various items stored. I'm going to have to get him to tackle that too.
My mom is the queen of saving stuff. She is 88 and has lived in a 3500 sq. ft. home with A LOT of closet/storage space since 1964. Most of what she has is worthless - old sewing patterns and fabric, recipes that she's cut out from newspapers for years, etc.; but some of her stuff is valuable because she and my dad were world travelers and collected art work from the various countries they visited.
For the worthless stuff, we will have to rent a dumpster that will be filled many times over. For the valuable stuff, we will have to hire an estate person to sell it. It is going to be a huge PITA. I have two brothers, but I have a feeling it will be up to my sister and I to clean it all out.
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Post by lynnerself on Mar 30, 2015 10:12:24 GMT -5
I admit I have a hard time getting rid of sentimental stuff. I have paintings my Grandmother did, that aren't that great nor fit my décor. But in 20 years I still haven't been able to just get rid of them
And then every time I get in a good declutter mood, DH is even worse than I am.
Thank heavens when my parents died and we went through all their stuff I lived 2000 miles away. So I had to be very selective about what I shipped home. My sisters acquired tons of stuff.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 30, 2015 12:51:05 GMT -5
I don't really have much of any value. I'm sure if I died most of it would end up in the trash.
Most of my furniture is the cheap particle board stuff.
My parents would probably take my computer, TV, and car, and maybe a few other odds and ends, and probably throw away the rest. The might try and sell a few things, like my washer and dryer.
My money would likely go to my parents, as next of kin.
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Post by kittensaver on Mar 30, 2015 18:22:53 GMT -5
My kids can send it all to auction and sell it. This.
I've told the girls to go through the house and take what they want, then call one of those estate sale dealers to haul away the rest of the contents for one lump sum price. Or put it out to auction. Then sell the house. And drop the cars off at one of those "we buy any car in any condition" places.
Hopefully this will not be too hard on them. Everything we own fits into the house and the garage, so there's not a lot of extra "stuff." My housewares are not "extra" for me, but they will be for them. The family heirlooms [mostly artwork by a relative who was a known 20th Century artist] are already documented in a binder, so hopefully there will be little or no accidental giving away of stuff merely because someone cannot identify it. If they give it away or sell it knowing what it is, that is fine. I'd just hate for them to unknowingly drop off something at Goodwill - - and a few years later see it on Antiques Roadshow valued for thousands of dollars .
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Post by Bonny on Mar 30, 2015 20:21:41 GMT -5
Quote removed as quoted post has been deleted. MidJD Administrator If I remember correctly, it is Bonny's DH's stuff. He has to agree to how it is gotten rid of. Although it came from DH's family, DFIL made a point that what he gave was to both of us. I'm pretty sure that I've shared the story of getting a phone call from DFIL saying the family furniture was on a moving van and headed to our house. We were living in 1100 sq.ft. house. -yikes-I've lived with DH saying everything was valuable but him not cleaning or taking care of it. When I wanted to do the sword donation, I did all the work including researching appraisers, discussions with the museum, shipping et cetera.
The good news is DH is finally weakening. He said he was willing to start parting with some of the family stuff.
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Post by cronewitch on Apr 4, 2015 15:13:55 GMT -5
My stuff is becoming less stuff from donations and giving away. Since ISO got his own house I gave him a lot of furniture and tools and things I didn't want and keep taking him more things like today I put a hatchet in the car to take him and I have a dowel and old broomsticks he can use to make perches for chickens so that can go too and if the chickens refuse to sit on them he can chop off the heads with the hatchet.
I helped mom get rid of everything she owned we had 3 yard sales, donated, runs and still when we moved her she was giving stuff the the moving people after it was on the truck. When she died a few of us took a few little things and the rest was garbage or donated within a couple of days thanks to us getting rid of stuff when she moved.
My stuff has no real value, I learned that from watching mom get rid of stuff so getting rid of it sooner if I don't want it, then leave it to my heirs to dispose of what is left. They would prefer cash if they want stuff I will give it to them sooner.
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