Ted Talks Discussion Club: Body Language

[thyme4change]

www.ted.com/talks/amy_cuddy_your_body_language_shapes_who_you_are?language=en

The video is 20 minutes.  My daughter's teacher had all her students watch this so we have been talking about it a lot.

What is your normal stance?
Can you look back in your life and see situations where you were effected by low or high pose?


One of the throw away things that she said near the beginning was about politician's success or failure can be determined by a facial expression for 1 second.  I wonder how different politics was before television.  Do you think we made better voting decisions?

So much good stuff in this one.  

[MJ2.0]

I know I have been afflicted with RBF. (Resting Bitch Face)

[b2r]

  RBF with consternation. 

[Artemis Windsong]

I have been interested in body language for years.  I'm glad to have seen the video.

I will try the superwoman pose before playing tennis.

With a new tennis pro, my game has become sooo much better.

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Mar 22, 2015 12:44:16 GMT -5 b2r said:

  RBF with consternation constipation. 

Fixed!

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I try to walk and stand with a straight posture (not always easy traversing uneven ground with a cane), and I hold my head up, as well as keep eye-contact when speaking with someone, rather than looking down or averting my eyes.

I want to exude an air of self-confidence - not one of timidity or self-consciousness. Facial expressions matter too. I'd rather have a smile or half-smile than a frown or scowl.

I don't like public speaking, but when forced to, I've always tried to make a point of addressing the entire room, rather than looking down or directly ahead at the wall to the back of the room.

[Shooby]

Mar 22, 2015 12:44:16 GMT -5 b2r said:

  RBF with consternation. 

or constipation.

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Pretty powerful video. I've got a good stage presence after 10+ years in Toastmasters but some of those body language tricks might have helped me earlier on in my career.

One thing that struck me: DH and I watch too many true crime shows and a lot of times in the interrogation room the suspect hunches down, pulls his (usually his) hands into his sleeves, and may even put up his hoodie to obscure his face as much as possible. VERY defensive. I wonder if it's to disarm the interrogators and make them think the suspect is scared and defenseless.

The anecdote about the young student who never participated in class touched on something I notice in high-power, high-stakes environments:  in the Q&A session, most of the questions come from guys, even if the room is 50% male/female.  It drives me crazy!  I'm glad she was able to coach the student to act confident and it changed her life.

[Jaguar]

Here's the Video for those that don't want to click on links.

[Peace Of Mind]

What is your normal stance?

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