MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 9, 2015 10:26:16 GMT -5
I wouldn't say that I hate little kids. They are just so noisy and generally tend to have parents that are oblivious to the fact that their hellions are running around screaming because they lack parenting skills. My kids never acted like that when they were little because I didn't put up with it. Why should I have to deal with their devil child because they can't be bothered? Just making sure I understand - you are either 1) not liking little kids bc of their parents or 2) not liking little kids bc yours were so much better And for the record - there are A LOT less devil children, there are, however, a LOT of ignorant and intolerant adults I'd also like to add that it's unreasonable to expect kids to sit quietly with their hands folded in all public situations. I've had numerous situations where DS was acting up in public. After telling him numerous times to stop, I usually just scoop him up or find some other way to restrain him until we're done doing what we're doing. I can't prevent/stop all his meltdowns and I can't always walk out of the situation we're in.
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Post by The Captain on Mar 9, 2015 10:38:33 GMT -5
I did a boatload of babysitting from the time I was 11 and was a part-time nanny in college. I do surprisingly well (considering how introverted I am) with kids under the age of 12. How well I do with tweens, teens, etc is yet to be seen.
DD's friends (one in particular) seem to be pretty ok with me. I'm actually a bit surprised at the one because her parents are, to be honest, not up to the challenge of raising a headstrong child. She actually seemed surprised at first when I explained that our house had rules and everyone had to follow them. We butted heads a few times but she came around quickly. I could be wrong but I think the kid likes having a bit more structure and knowing someone else is actually in charge.
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Post by midwestlily on Mar 9, 2015 15:40:29 GMT -5
Not good with kids. Not interested. Well aware that if everyone felt the way I do, it would be terrible. Glad that I came of age in a time when it was possible and acceptable to avoid having them.
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Post by andi9899 on Mar 9, 2015 16:28:00 GMT -5
I wouldn't say that I hate little kids. They are just so noisy and generally tend to have parents that are oblivious to the fact that their hellions are running around screaming because they lack parenting skills. My kids never acted like that when they were little because I didn't put up with it. Why should I have to deal with their devil child because they can't be bothered? Just making sure I understand - you are either 1) not liking little kids bc of their parents or 2) not liking little kids bc yours were so much better And for the record - there are A LOT less devil children, there are, however, a LOT of ignorant and intolerant adults Maybe a little of both. There are plenty of little ones I either know or have seen out and about in public that are well behaved, so I wouldn't really say that I don't like any little kids at all.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Mar 9, 2015 16:37:13 GMT -5
I really like babies and toddlers. Once they start to go to school I find them annoying - don't know why, I just do.
That said, I have a hard time playing with the toddlers as I don't move as well as I did when I was younger and can't get down to their level, although I enjoy playing games and coloring with them. MY DGD loves to play dress up and we do that as well as do manicures on each other. Her choice of polish doesn't appeal to me (bright green/magenta/bright blue), but I can always take it off when they leave.
They like helping me in the kitchen so we often make cookies or bake something which they really like.
The older boys love helping granddaddy in the garage or working around the house, so I don't have to deal with them. We have a neighbor who has a 12 yo daughter and she and I get along fine. Her dad is a single dad and I think she likes to sound things out with me. I try to listen and not judge, but I've also been giving her some advice when she talks about what she wants to do for education. She recently mentioned that she'd like to be a SAHM, and I told her it's really important to get a good education in an area where she can support herself since she doesn't know what will happen in life. I mentioned that if she got married and had kids but something happened to her husband, then she'd need to support herself and her kids.
Don't know if that kind of talk does any good, but at least she hears it from someone.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Mar 9, 2015 19:02:28 GMT -5
If it wasn't for the last few weeks, I would have said that I am great with MY kids. I am pretty sure I am terrible with everyone else's. And it's not bc of the kids, it's bc of their parents. I never know what is OK or not OK to say or do with another person's child. So, I just try to stay away from them, if possible.
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Post by Bob Ross on Mar 10, 2015 10:21:05 GMT -5
I'm good at telling kids to get offa my lawn.
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Post by happyhoix on Mar 10, 2015 11:26:00 GMT -5
Not that good with kids, but fortunately, I was good enough with my own, although I think DH was a far better parent than I was, especially when DS was going through his know-it-all sarcastic 11 year old phase.
Kids tend to be enthusiastic and noisy, especially when they travel in packs, and I understand that's their nature, but being a very introverted person, the noise and energy wears me out and makes me hide. One of the major reasons DH and I only had one kid.
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Post by giramomma on Mar 10, 2015 12:27:39 GMT -5
I'd also like to add that it's unreasonable to expect kids to sit quietly with their hands folded in all public situations. I've had numerous situations where DS was acting up in public. After telling him numerous times to stop, I usually just scoop him up or find some other way to restrain him until we're done doing what we're doing. I can't prevent/stop all his meltdowns and I can't always walk out of the situation we're in. It depends on the kids. My first two, absolutely, I could expect them to listen, sit still/be quiet, in public most of the time when they were 2-3. But, it's personalities/how they are wired.. My first two bypassed the terrible twos and the threes. Never had meltdowns in public. Hardly any at home. Then I got #3. We'd been parents for 9 years, and when #3 was 18 months, that's when we saw our first arm/leg flailing, screaming melt-down/tantrum. DH and were like WTF is this? My third humbled me in ways I never would have thought possible.
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Post by cktc on Mar 10, 2015 15:43:30 GMT -5
I like kids, I wouldn’t go so far as to say I’m good with them. I’m hoping that changes once I have wee ones of my own.
It kind of depends on the kid, but mostly I’m just hands off. Other people’s kids are kind of terrifying. Infant through toddler years especially they just seem so emotionally and physically fragile, bursting into tears at the drop of a hat. I don’t want to force my presence where it isn’t wanted, so I won’t touch a kid unless the parent asks, or the kid initiates.
My sister keeps making comments about how she thinks I favor her older two kids over her youngest. I don’t. The older ones are always dragging me around and hopping on me, and the youngest usually hides behind her parents. She’s asked me multiple times if I “hate” her 4 year old. I mean, seriously? Hating a 4 year old is pretty much the most ludicrous thing I can imagine. Not really sure what to do there other than tell my sister to stuff a cork in it.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 10, 2015 15:48:11 GMT -5
I haven't sold my kids to the gypsies, so I think that makes me pretty good with them.
Other kids? They're fair game.
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Post by happyhoix on Mar 11, 2015 7:36:51 GMT -5
I like kids, I wouldn’t go so far as to say I’m good with them. I’m hoping that changes once I have wee ones of my own. It kind of depends on the kid, but mostly I’m just hands off. Other people’s kids are kind of terrifying. Infant through toddler years especially they just seem so emotionally and physically fragile, bursting into tears at the drop of a hat. I don’t want to force my presence where it isn’t wanted, so I won’t touch a kid unless the parent asks, or the kid initiates. My sister keeps making comments about how she thinks I favor her older two kids over her youngest. I don’t. The older ones are always dragging me around and hopping on me, and the youngest usually hides behind her parents. She’s asked me multiple times if I “hate” her 4 year old. I mean, seriously? Hating a 4 year old is pretty much the most ludicrous thing I can imagine. Not really sure what to do there other than tell my sister to stuff a cork in it. I vote for telling your sister to put a cork in it. She has three kids, she should understand by now that all kids have different personalities, and forcing yourself on an introverted kid is about the last thing you want to do.
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Post by Icelandic Woman on Mar 11, 2015 14:14:37 GMT -5
I am not good with kids which is why I also chose not to have any. I am okay dealing with teenagers if I have to but under 12 forget about it. Luckily for me most the people I do socialize with either don't have kids or their kids are grown and on their own.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Mar 11, 2015 15:03:11 GMT -5
So far, all 3 of mine are still alive, so that means I'm good enough. I don't like babies/toddlers but from about 4/5 on up is ok. Well, so far. We'll see if I still think so once my youngest is in his teens. If he lives that long.
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Post by Robert not Bobby on Mar 11, 2015 16:39:36 GMT -5
Kids, bah humbug...mine are starting to turn my hair gray. Or is that just an over 40 thing?
I wouldn't have it any other way...but that didn't answer the question: I'm pretty good with kids, I suppose.
No one in my care has ever been hurt (well ok, some scrapped knees and the like) or died. That has to count for something.
Actually, I'm extremely proud of my sons and the way they are turning out. I should take some credit for that...and I will. lol
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Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2015 20:43:44 GMT -5
Not good with them at all. In fact, I generally really dislike being around them. It started when I was a preteen and my dad was going through a religious phase so we had to hang out with the pastor's tribe of 12 savages, otherwise known as children. Excellent form of birth control. Bet my parents never thought it would be so effective that they would never, ever have grandchildren. However, I'm really good with animals. Most seem to be drawn to me, even the ones who generally don't like strangers. For me, the excellent form of birth control was the brat that lived next door to me growing up. God almighty I wanted to run her over.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 14, 2015 8:52:49 GMT -5
I'm starting to think I'm not. DS has been sick all week and this is the 3rd day in a row that it's been just him and me. It's been 3 days of kicking, spitting, yelling, whining, crying (he's been getting time outs for his acting up), fighting sleep and getting up at night.... I really don't think I could do this again because I am barely dealing with it now. I'm ready to hurl myself down a laundry chute.
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Post by swamp on Mar 14, 2015 12:07:38 GMT -5
I'm starting to think I'm not. DS has been sick all week and this is the 3rd day in a row that it's been just him and me. It's been 3 days of kicking, spitting, yelling, whining, crying (he's been getting time outs for his acting up), fighting sleep and getting up at night.... I really don't think I could do this again because I am barely dealing with it now. I'm ready to hurl myself down a laundry chute. Is he 3? 3 year old are monsters.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 14, 2015 12:20:04 GMT -5
I'm starting to think I'm not. DS has been sick all week and this is the 3rd day in a row that it's been just him and me. It's been 3 days of kicking, spitting, yelling, whining, crying (he's been getting time outs for his acting up), fighting sleep and getting up at night.... I really don't think I could do this again because I am barely dealing with it now. I'm ready to hurl myself down a laundry chute. Is he 3? 3 year old are monsters. Yup, 3.5.... And he doesn't know just how close he's been to getting put up for adoption lately. Anyone want to buy a kid? He's cute and will probably make cute babies someday...
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Post by yogiii on Mar 14, 2015 12:22:49 GMT -5
4 is a lot better than 3. There is hope.
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Post by weltschmerz on Mar 14, 2015 13:25:18 GMT -5
Is he 3? 3 year old are monsters. Yup, 3.5.... And he doesn't know just how close he's been to getting put up for adoption lately. Anyone want to buy a kid? He's cute and will probably make cute babies someday... Nah, I can't eat a whole kid, and there's no room in the freezer.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Mar 14, 2015 15:46:42 GMT -5
Is he 3? 3 year old are monsters. Yup, 3.5.... And he doesn't know just how close he's been to getting put up for adoption lately. Anyone want to buy a kid? He's cute and will probably make cute babies someday... He is cute. Can I give him back later?
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