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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2015 22:45:18 GMT -5
DH and I will use iMessage each other. It's a nice compromise between talking and texting. It's how we stay connected. Otherwise, I don't like to talk much on the phone. I missed that girl gene, and I'm tired of being "on" all the time. My hours are inconvenient, anyway. I can't really talk until 8:30, and I'm mentally toast by 9 usually. However, I'm ready to talk with folks at 6:30 in the morning...most wouldn't look upon that too favorably. I had coffee with a mom that wanted to chat with me. Her cell phone was going off like every 3 minutes, and she checked it. I was a little annoyed. What's the difference between and iMessage and a text?
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Mar 1, 2015 22:54:31 GMT -5
Cell phones on a call can have blanks where all the information is not heard. I also have difficulty understanding people on cell phones when they are on the move.
It's also no fun to be playing text tag trying to settle on a place to eat then not get the final message. This happened to us. We ended up in the right place but I don't like all this uncertainty.
All means of communication have their place but soon, our children will no longer be able to write as in penmanship.
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Post by msventoux on Mar 1, 2015 23:00:06 GMT -5
DH and I will use iMessage each other. It's a nice compromise between talking and texting. It's how we stay connected. Otherwise, I don't like to talk much on the phone. I missed that girl gene, and I'm tired of being "on" all the time. My hours are inconvenient, anyway. I can't really talk until 8:30, and I'm mentally toast by 9 usually. However, I'm ready to talk with folks at 6:30 in the morning...most wouldn't look upon that too favorably. I had coffee with a mom that wanted to chat with me. Her cell phone was going off like every 3 minutes, and she checked it. I was a little annoyed. What's the difference between and iMessage and a text? You can iMessage on all of your Apple devices (phone/iPad/iPod/ or Mac desktop/laptop). You don't need a cellular connection to send messages, it routes it through Apple's servers since you have an Apple ID.
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Post by giramomma on Mar 1, 2015 23:02:15 GMT -5
What's the difference between and iMessage and a text? You can iMessage on all of your Apple devices (phone/iPad/iPod/ or Mac desktop/laptop). You don't need a cellular connection to send messages, it routes it through Apple's servers since you have an Apple ID. I also don't think I'm bound to a 140 character limit like a text message.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Mar 1, 2015 23:50:32 GMT -5
I hardly ever talk on the phone. I'd much rather text or message. Well, then how do you two communicate? I purposely got myself a flip phone so I don't have to text. Need something? Call me!
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Mar 1, 2015 23:51:09 GMT -5
I spent an hour on the phone with XH today. I wish that phones had not been invented.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2015 0:54:07 GMT -5
You get the impression my husband makes things easy Chloe?
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Post by msventoux on Mar 2, 2015 1:10:42 GMT -5
You can iMessage on all of your Apple devices (phone/iPad/iPod/ or Mac desktop/laptop). You don't need a cellular connection to send messages, it routes it through Apple's servers since you have an Apple ID. Don't you still need an Internet connection? What would the benefit be, you don't use up your limited texting plan? Sometimes it's harder to get an Internet connection than a cellular connection. Yes and yes. The majority of texts I send are at home, so I can use my wifi. That way I'm rarely close to meeting the limit on my basic texting plan.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2015 8:30:13 GMT -5
What's the difference between and iMessage and a text? You can iMessage on all of your Apple devices (phone/iPad/iPod/ or Mac desktop/laptop). You don't need a cellular connection to send messages, it routes it through Apple's servers since you have an Apple ID. you can also send an email as a text..... I'm also not getting how iMessage is better than a text....
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2015 8:31:02 GMT -5
I purposely got myself a flip phone so I don't have to text. Need something? Call me! why does having a flip phone prevent you from sending a text?
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Post by mroped on Mar 2, 2015 8:47:44 GMT -5
My texting is minimal and is typically reduced to : Yes! No! OK! If I need more than that I'm calling. People text me but they know that they should expect a phone call from me if at my earliest convenience.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2015 8:58:13 GMT -5
Yes, looking back over his texts they generally run: Mountain. E called. No preference. Ok. Just Peachy.
My favorite exchange: Me: How are my cabbages doing? H: No. Me: Did they burn? H: No. Me: Husbands Name. H: No
The longest things he's texted me in months is: Game of Thrones in the house!
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Post by CarolinaKat on Mar 2, 2015 9:04:19 GMT -5
I just don't get how phoning is some huge imposition. If you're busy, you can just not answer the phone like in the pretexting Dark Ages... I usually call first, and if I don't get them, send a text saying what I was calling about. Then again, I'm from a talkative family, and married into a family of talkative women. Most of my friends talk on the phone as well. The men in our families aren't so much for talking on the phone. Although get some Skype going and it's all on. Heck, this weekend, my niece and my cat were 'playing' through Skype. I do stick to texting when I am at work, or know who I am texting is at work/somewhere they can't answer a call, and it's something I don't want to forget to tell them.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Mar 2, 2015 9:32:34 GMT -5
MJ, I totally agree with you. I think the coming of the digital age has meant the loss of the true social age. We are losing the art of face to face conversation (and don't even get me started on the art of letter writing) because it's easier not to talk to other humans and have to see them and tell them things we'd rather not tell them. Hook ups and break ups are so much simpler to do now. Just a few lines of text, and there's nothing personal about any it. You never see the tears and never hear the "Whys?"
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2015 9:41:32 GMT -5
But even our short interchanges provide adequate communication for this stage in our relationship. There was no reason for me to excuse myself from the baby shower to call husband and remind him what would happen to his appendages if he let my cabbages burn while I was off sniffing diapers full of candy bars...
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Post by Deleted on Mar 2, 2015 10:05:41 GMT -5
MJ, I totally agree with you. I think the coming of the digital age has meant the loss of the true social age. We are losing the art of face to face conversation (and don't even get me started on the art of letter writing) because it's easier not to talk to other humans and have to see them and tell them things we'd rather not tell them. Hook ups and break ups are so much simpler to do now. Just a few lines of text, and there's nothing personal about any it. You never see the tears and never hear the "Whys?"You say that like it's a bad thing.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 2, 2015 10:09:48 GMT -5
Texting allows people to absolve themselves of the responsibility of dealing with someone's hurt feelings. While yes, it's very uncomfortable and no one wants to deal with that, I feel like it's an essential part of growing up and becoming a more compassionate person. Taking the personal aspects out of personal relationships seems counterproductive.
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Post by swamp on Mar 2, 2015 10:11:02 GMT -5
Texting allows people to absolve themselves of the responsibility of dealing with someone's hurt feelings. While yes, it's very uncomfortable and no one wants to deal with that, I feel like it's an essential part of growing up and becoming a more compassionate person. Taking the personal aspects out of personal relationships seems counterproductive. .
I'm all for texting short messages.
Otherwise, talk to me.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 2, 2015 10:11:46 GMT -5
But even our short interchanges provide adequate communication for this stage in our relationship. There was no reason for me to excuse myself from the baby shower to call husband and remind him what would happen to his appendages if he let my cabbages burn while I was off sniffing diapers full of candy bars... and I get that. What my OP was really about was texting in the initial dating stages.
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Post by Ryan on Mar 2, 2015 10:21:12 GMT -5
You can iMessage on all of your Apple devices (phone/iPad/iPod/ or Mac desktop/laptop). You don't need a cellular connection to send messages, it routes it through Apple's servers since you have an Apple ID. you can also send an email as a text..... I'm also not getting how iMessage is better than a text.... I don't think the advantages are that big with imessage, but there are a couple. 1) Syncs across multiple devices 2) Uses wifi or cellular to send messages. Other than that, I don't think there is a difference.
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Post by bean29 on Mar 2, 2015 10:27:39 GMT -5
I feel that way about my kids -- they're bright and social, but I have had to work with them to develop phone skills -- that they may never use. Am I a Luddite? Or, are phones already destined to go the way of the typewriter? I was texting my husband Saturday b/c DD said he needed a drum for his copy machine. My phone pulled in all my facebook contacts pictures and it pulled my DH's picture in for both my DH and DS. DS has a FB account but for some reason my phone absolutely refuses to recognize DS as DS. So I went to text DH and accidentally texted DS - which is easy to do b/c same name and same picture. I edited DH's contact info and added his middle name so I could tell the difference. Later, I got a text at 8pm asking for someone in the family to pick him up at 12:00 am at another friend's house.
I had a few conversations with DS this weekend and all of it was via text. I usually text my kids b/c I know they keep their phones close. I also often text DH...texting is great for things you need to communicate that don't require an immediate response. I text my brother, my nephew, occasionally my DS. I also use FB messenger for a few relatives...just if I know they use FB, and not everyone that uses FB uses messenger.
DH was at his office this weekend and I sent him a text and asked him to stop at the hardware store on his way home and replace a shelf we have under the kitchen sink. I took a picture of the shelf I was talking about and a picture of the pipes under the sink so he could visualize how it was going to fit under there. Sometimes you can communicate more info via text.
An interesting question are we more connected now or less connected?
I would say almost more. If you feel that texting isn't communicating effectively then just pick up the phone an call. Sometimes a phone call does work better.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Mar 2, 2015 10:37:12 GMT -5
In MJ's example, yes phone calls are better. I think some people suck at knowing when a text will do and when you should call. Some things are much easier to settle via a phone call.
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Post by 973beachbum on Mar 2, 2015 10:55:35 GMT -5
Yes, looking back over his texts they generally run: Mountain. E called. No preference. Ok. Just Peachy. My favorite exchange: Me: How are my cabbages doing? H: No. Me: Did they burn? H: No. Me: Husbands Name. H: No The longest things he's texted me in months is: Game of Thrones in the house! I only recently got a phone that didn't require hitting the numbers two or three times for each letter and then hitting another button to get to the punctuation and emoticons. Everyone knew it was a pain to text. My then 18 year old daughter used to do it all the time anyway. If she really couldn't talk I was okay with it but if she was just in I don't wanna call mode it annoyed me to no end. My longest text then was after what felt like an hour of back and forth texting about something that should have been a 2 minute phone call was, "Just fucking call me!" Seriously.
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Post by PK Bucko on Mar 2, 2015 11:06:25 GMT -5
But even our short interchanges provide adequate communication for this stage in our relationship. There was no reason for me to excuse myself from the baby shower to call husband and remind him what would happen to his appendages if he let my cabbages burn while I was off sniffing diapers full of candy bars... and I get that. What my OP was really about was texting in the initial dating stages. Texting in the initial stages also allows for a little thought before hitting send. Maybe just a bit of a filter eh. But I'm with you. I'd rather talk on the phone unless for example, I'm home with the kiddo that night. In that case texting is easier as I try to make the most of my time with my son. Dating sucks! LOL
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Post by dancinmama on Mar 2, 2015 11:30:03 GMT -5
That is one thing that has really been getting on my nerves with this dating stuff. It's all text text text.... After like 50 texts back and forth within a 20 minute time frame, wouldn't it be easier to just actually talk? Now I feel like I have to ask if we can talk on the phone! Completely ridiculous! Maybe the solution is to drop texting on your phone. That way the guys have to call instead of text; but these days, that might make you seem "weird". I get the texting/data thing, but it appears that for many it has turned into an addiction. People can't go anywhere without their "electronic leash". I, myself, would probably be one of the worst offenders, but I have a YM approved "dumb phone" with texting blocked ($69/mo. family plan with 3 lines) and so far have been able to resist having anything more. I know myself pretty well, and once I have the texting and data (more importantly the data), I won't be able to "live without it".
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Post by Angel! on Mar 2, 2015 11:38:04 GMT -5
I didn't like talking on the phone BEFORE texting came along. Now at least people can communicate with me. I would shut my phone off all the time to avoid calls. LOL I used to dread calls from certain people. The ones that would call to tell you one little thing, but then would never get off the line. An hour later they're rambling on about their hang nails and I'm pounding my head against the wall. Those people, I still don't answer the phone for them a lot of times. They've learned that if they really want something specific, it's best to text me. I'll respond to that but I probably won't answer a call. I still think dating is a different kind of situation. I'm not against texting, it's actually more convenient in some circumstances. I just don't think it should completely replace conversations when you're getting to know someone. You still get the conversations when you are out on dates. Texting just allows another aspect of communication. Now I don't have to call to say I'm on my way. I can still chat when in an environment where I would never make a call, like when at work or on a bus. Also, it allows me to talk about stuff when my kids are present that I can't say in front of them. Like this weekend I vented about my ex to my BF, but I certainly would not have wanted the kids to overhear what I was saying, so I opted to text.
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Post by Angel! on Mar 2, 2015 11:41:01 GMT -5
You can iMessage on all of your Apple devices (phone/iPad/iPod/ or Mac desktop/laptop). You don't need a cellular connection to send messages, it routes it through Apple's servers since you have an Apple ID. I also don't think I'm bound to a 140 character limit like a text message. Are there phones with 140 text limit? I can send texts as long as I like. It sometimes will split up the message into parts & sometimes doesn't. I don't know if that depends on the phone or the service.
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Post by Opti on Mar 2, 2015 11:44:53 GMT -5
I also don't think I'm bound to a 140 character limit like a text message. Are there phones with 140 text limit? I can send texts as long as I like. It sometimes will split up the message into parts & sometimes doesn't. I don't know if that depends on the phone or the service. I have a very old dumb phone. My text limit is likely around that.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Mar 2, 2015 12:00:08 GMT -5
Those people, I still don't answer the phone for them a lot of times. They've learned that if they really want something specific, it's best to text me. I'll respond to that but I probably won't answer a call. I still think dating is a different kind of situation. I'm not against texting, it's actually more convenient in some circumstances. I just don't think it should completely replace conversations when you're getting to know someone. You still get the conversations when you are out on dates. Texting just allows another aspect of communication. Now I don't have to call to say I'm on my way. I can still chat when in an environment where I would never make a call, like when at work or on a bus. Also, it allows me to talk about stuff when my kids are present that I can't say in front of them. Like this weekend I vented about my ex to my BF, but I certainly would not have wanted the kids to overhear what I was saying, so I opted to text. and I understand all that... and I do text in those circumstances. I'm talking about if I'm alone not doing anything, and the person I'm texting with is alone and not doing anything, then wouldn't a call just be easier?
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Post by joemilitary on Mar 2, 2015 12:30:35 GMT -5
people don't like to talk to people
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