MJ2.0
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Post by MJ2.0 on Feb 24, 2015 12:49:14 GMT -5
And I feel like the shittiest person to walk the earth.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Feb 24, 2015 12:52:31 GMT -5
Lots of virtual hugs and good thoughts.
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Post by Shooby on Feb 24, 2015 13:08:39 GMT -5
What happened?
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The Captain
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Post by The Captain on Feb 24, 2015 13:09:03 GMT -5
Hope you feeling better soon, for whatever that happened...
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Post by chiver78 on Feb 24, 2015 13:10:06 GMT -5
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Post by Shooby on Feb 24, 2015 13:13:00 GMT -5
Yes, I hope you are feeling better.
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Post by Lizard Queen on Feb 24, 2015 13:20:03 GMT -5
What I learned by helping my brother through it, is it's never easy no matter what side of it you're on.  |
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Sam_2.0
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Feb 24, 2015 13:46:40 GMT -5
So sorry, MJ. Things didn't turn out the way you had hoped when you started that journey. I wish you all the best as you start on your next adventure. And you got one super cute little guy out of that deal, so it wasn't all bad  |
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Feb 24, 2015 15:13:23 GMT -5
Aw, MJ. You did your best. It's all you can do.  Sometimes there is no happily ever after. Most of the time there is, but sometimes it's not where you expected it to be. Your happily ever after isn't where you first planted it, sweetie. But that's fine. You're a good person with a Chapter Two still in the works. Concentrate on you, enjoy a Mr. Right Away (or two) and live for the next few days, until the new normal settles in. |
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Post by lexxy703 on Feb 24, 2015 15:18:53 GMT -5
I don't know why you feel like the shyttiest person in the world but it is over now & you both are free to move on with your lives. It's not easy but it is the first step.
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Post by taz157 on Feb 24, 2015 15:25:52 GMT -5
So sorry, MJ. Things didn't turn out the way you had hoped when you started that journey. I wish you all the best as you start on your next adventure. And you got one super cute little guy out of that deal, so it wasn't all bad Yeah that. ((((Hugs)))) |
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Feb 24, 2015 15:44:57 GMT -5
And I feel like the shittiest person to walk the earth. It will take time so hang in there, sweetie! Most people think being the one dumped is the worst but being the person who ends a marriage is very, very hard. I was in my 20's when I did it and it took me about 5 years to get over the guilt. He even talked me into trying again. FYI: Don't be talked into trying again if/when you are feeling weak. Nothing changes how you felt in the first place. But the good news is you'll realize you made the right choice and have less guilt. I see in your future a big ole glass of wine or 3! |
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Feb 24, 2015 15:45:48 GMT -5
I don't know what happened, but big hugs to you.  And a beer. Is there a previous post I should look for? |
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Post by giramomma on Feb 24, 2015 15:55:49 GMT -5
Just go easy on yourself.
You've got a lot to work through (I can imagine a fair amount of conflicting feelings), and it's just going to take time.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Feb 24, 2015 15:56:53 GMT -5
So sorry, MJ. Things didn't turn out the way you had hoped when you started that journey. I wish you all the best as you start on your next adventure. And you got one super cute little guy out of that deal, so it wasn't all bad  |
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Feb 24, 2015 16:12:35 GMT -5
I guess some people know what's going....oh well
In any case, I am pretty sure you are not the shittiest person who walked the earth
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Feb 24, 2015 16:14:31 GMT -5
Hugs MJ.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 24, 2015 16:17:09 GMT -5
I guess some people know what's going....oh well In any case, I am pretty sure you are not the shittiest person who walked the earth Maybe she killed him? Of course, that probably doesn't qualify you as shittiest person on earth either. |
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Post by t-dog on Feb 24, 2015 16:43:04 GMT -5
Hugs
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Feb 24, 2015 16:47:36 GMT -5
I guess some people know what's going....oh well In any case, I am pretty sure you are not the shittiest person who walked the earth Maybe she killed him? Of course, that probably doesn't qualify you as shittiest person on earth either. Aw, of course not. Especially if she cleaned up the evidence. |
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Feb 24, 2015 18:54:57 GMT -5
I guess some people know what's going....oh well In any case, I am pretty sure you are not the shittiest person who walked the earth Maybe she killed him? Of course, that probably doesn't qualify you as shittiest person on earth either. I have no idea who is "him" you are talking about, but again, I am pretty sure she didn't kill anyone |
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Post by Tennesseer on Feb 24, 2015 19:07:22 GMT -5
Be kind to yourself, MJ.
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 24, 2015 19:10:22 GMT -5
You'll be okay, hon. It's just going to take time. The fact that you're feeling the way you do is proof you're certainly not a lower form of life! You're a caring person who doesn't like to hurt others. Sometimes, though, it's necessary in order for everyone concerned to move on with life. Hugs to you. I know it hurts but it will get better.  |
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Feb 24, 2015 19:19:03 GMT -5
 You are a good person who was in a bad circumstance. The best thing to do is move forward.
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Post by geenamercile on Feb 24, 2015 19:25:16 GMT -5
Hugs, you are not a bad person. I wish you the best of luck and happiness.
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Post by Timberwolf on Feb 24, 2015 20:09:41 GMT -5
Some people say the first one is just for practice. The second time was the charm for me. Hang in there. Oh, by the way, the first guy you date afterward is always the rebound guy so I hope you're not too attached to him.  Hang in there. |
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Post by NastyWoman on Feb 24, 2015 20:14:57 GMT -5
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Post by Malarky on Feb 24, 2015 20:18:13 GMT -5
MJ is finalizing (?) a divorce.
It's never easy to experience the death of a relationship.
MJ, it isn't like you didn't try. You didn't just randomly toss it all away. It hurts. It will hurt for a long time. And it's sad. But you will have a new/different relationship because you have your son. And hopefully you will get the the point where you are civil and then maybe friends again.
The recent thread about "would you live with your ex for monetary reasons" made me think about my ex. No kids and many years later, but yes, I think maybe I could. I'm finally past the hurt and the bitterness and remember that there were good things about him and us. We couldn't go back to our married selves, but we could go back to the place where we were friends and appreciated each others strengths and weaknesses.
Now is really hard. And it will be hard for a while. But I also believe you made the right choice for all of you.
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Post by Happy prose on Feb 24, 2015 20:23:48 GMT -5
I wish you all the best in part 2.
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Post by busymom on Feb 24, 2015 21:38:00 GMT -5
Hon, if you were the worst person in the world, we would've found him in the EE freezer.
Go easy on yourself. Time is your friend. And maybe one or two of these...  |
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