How Old Am I supposet to be for people to...

[tloonya]

...shut ta fuck up about my hair color change, smoking, weight...whatever!!!!!!!!!!!

My husband is almost 60. He didn't want to shave. Everyone comes and comments on his newly grown beard!
I had changed my hair color. Everyone is asking why. What do you mean why? Is there answer to why people
dying their hair? Because Any other answer is required
What do they expect?

I went for a cigarette and my 84 years customer gave me a grief that I shouldn't.
She said she stopped 4 (FOUR, at 80 she stopped!!!) and she is lecturing me.

I said I HAVE A MOTHER to tell me what to do!

Seriously!

And when my DH was 260lb with belly - every 400lb person was telling him that he has gained weight!!!
His relative who could hardly walk because she is still 400lb told him every time that he is fat.

So, is there age when them people will stop

[Shooby]

People are rude nowadays and they think everyone else's business is their own. So, the best thing to do is glare at them or just tell them None of Your Business.

[tloonya]

Dec 25, 2014 12:30:59 GMT -5 Shooby said:

People are rude nowadays and they think everyone else's business is their own. So, the best thing to do is glare at them or just tell them None of Your Business.

Are we the only people who have nowhere to go today?

[Deleted]

Um...Merry Christmas?? 

[cronewitch]

Polite people don't say what they are thinking. Age hasn't got anything to do with it except we should have learned it doesn't help to say anything. I was 65 when my mom died and even the last week she told me what was wrong with me. Did she really think I didn't know my hair was too short so I looked like a boy? The flower basket I got her was too big for Mother's day, she was in hospice, what good is telling me so I won't do it next year?

[Shooby]

I think complaining is the Default mode for almost everyone. It's easy to do. And, easy to just blurt out something to rain on someone else's parade. Did you ever notice if you buy something new or have something in life you are excited about, there is a parade of naysayers to follow? Oh, you bought a new car? Well, you didn't get a good enough deal, or that car gets poor gas mileage or it isn't the car they would have bought. How about, 'that looks great, I am so happy for you'?

[Shooby]

And, the whole "well, I am just being honest" thing is merely a passive aggressive way for people to feel justified about blurting out whatever crap comes to mind.

[Deleted]

Peoples "comments" irritate me as well, a couple days ago I grabbed a piece of cake in the work cafeteria and this old bag had to comment "you sure reached for that fast" of course it irritated me and I responded "do you want me to grab another fork and we can share?" Why can't people just stfu with commentary.

[Peace Of Mind]

Dec 25, 2014 12:29:14 GMT -5 tloonya said:

...shut ta fuck up about my hair color change, smoking, weight...whatever!!!!!!!!!!!

My husband is almost 60. He didn't want to shave. Everyone comes and comments on his newly grown beard!
I had changed my hair color. Everyone is asking why. What do you mean why? Is there answer to why people
dying their hair? Because Any other answer is required
What do they expect?

I went for a cigarette and my 84 years customer gave me a grief that I shouldn't.
She said she stopped 4 (FOUR, at 80 she stopped!!!) and she is lecturing me.

I said I HAVE A MOTHER to tell me what to do!

Seriously!

And when my DH was 260lb with belly - every 400lb person was telling him that he has gained weight!!!
His relative who could hardly walk because she is still 400lb told him every time that he is fat.

So, is there age when them people will stop

They are asking you why you changed your hair color because they don't like it and that's way nicer than saying "Your hair looks like shit!  Why did you change it?".

The 84 year old is right.  That's why she lived to be 84 and can still let you know what she thinks.  

The 400 lb. person is right.  They are your DH's warning if he continues stuffing his face before he's 400 lbs. too.

When will they stop?  Never unless they die.  And then we will fill in for them when you start these threads. 

What?  I'm just being honest.    

[tloonya]

Dec 26, 2014 3:23:45 GMT -5 Peace Of Mind said:

Dec 25, 2014 12:29:14 GMT -5 tloonya said:

...shut ta fuck up about my hair color change, smoking, weight...whatever!!!!!!!!!!!

My husband is almost 60. He didn't want to shave. Everyone comes and comments on his newly grown beard!
I had changed my hair color. Everyone is asking why. What do you mean why? Is there answer to why people
dying their hair? Because Any other answer is required
What do they expect?

I went for a cigarette and my 84 years customer gave me a grief that I shouldn't.
She said she stopped 4 (FOUR, at 80 she stopped!!!) and she is lecturing me.

I said I HAVE A MOTHER to tell me what to do!

Seriously!

And when my DH was 260lb with belly - every 400lb person was telling him that he has gained weight!!!
His relative who could hardly walk because she is still 400lb told him every time that he is fat.

So, is there age when them people will stop

They are asking you why you changed your hair color because they don't like it and that's way nicer than saying "Your hair looks like shit!  Why did you change it?".

The 84 year old is right.  That's why she lived to be 84 and can still let you know what she thinks.  

The 400 lb. person is right.  They are your DH's warning if he continues stuffing his face before he's 400 lbs. too.

When will they stop?  Never unless they die.  And then we will fill in for them when you start these threads. 

What?  I'm just being honest.    

Thanks for you honesty, but could I also slap you from being honestly outraged by your honesty?

[Shooby]

You can't slap them but you can certainly tell them to Shut the Front Door!

[tloonya]

Dec 26, 2014 11:03:40 GMT -5 Shooby said:

You can't slap them but you can certainly tell them to Shut the Front Door!

I would prefer slapping.

[Artemis Windsong]

My friends usually tell me they had been to the hairdresser to get colored.  All of us complained about retaining holiday calories.  I pointed out the the scales are like the clocks in the fitness center, they all read something different and are wrong most of the time.   Then we moved on to clothing being too tight, moving slower, and feeling the sugar high.

No need to slap. 

The one that got me was I had really reduced my body weight.  A big effort.  One person I hadn't seen in that month's time asked me if I was on drugs. -faint-So much for starving to reduce. 

[zibazinski]

I find that "bite me" gets the point across. More ladylike than fuck you. 

[cronewitch]

Dec 26, 2014 18:10:56 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

I find that "bite me" gets the point across. More ladylike than fuck you. 

I had a coffee mug at work that said bite me fish and tackle on it with a picture of a lure. A coworker from China said I know bite and I know me but what is bite me. We had to teach her slag and some other American terms. I tried to get her to go to her American husband's Christmas party and call him stud muffin in front of his coworkers. She wasn't stupid but she tried it at home alone and he said that's me. She learned to tell me bite me about most of what I told her, I don't think she trusted my advice, don't know why.

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

Just use your "Saturday Night Live" Dana Carvey "Church Lady" character voice, and reply in a southern drawl:

"Well, isn't that special!"

[Deleted]

Dec 26, 2014 20:32:24 GMT -5 ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ said:

Just use your "Saturday Night Live" Dana Carvey "Church Lady" character voice, and reply in a southern drawl:

"Well, isn't that special!"

[jinksd1]

Tell me about it.  My MIL told me this morning, as I was pouring creamer in my coffee, that she takes hers black to save on the "milk calories".  In other conversations, she's always maintained that she can't stand creamer in her coffee, so I'm pretty sure it was meant as a dig to me (not the first on this most recent trip to visit her, I might add).

Later in the conversation, she complained that the bakery has raised its prices on donuts, so she's cut back on buying them to only about once a week.  I nodded politely and kept my thoughts to myself.

I personally don't care that I'm carrying some extra pounds, but it's pretty insulting to have to put up with her jabs about something that's none of her business.  I would never comment on her extra weight (or anyone else's, for that matter).

[NoNamePerson]

Dec 26, 2014 18:10:56 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

I find that "bite me" gets the point across. More ladylike than fuck you. 

I used to say "bite me" till I realized it wasn't working. Now I just say "fuckin'  bite me"!! Usually makes them back up a tad   

[ZaireinHD]

how is this angle tloonya
people care about you.

though most of the time people around you are quite and may not say anything. until such a change about you has brought up a feeling that they feel the need to mention they noticed a change. people handle change in different ways within their personal life, and most people don't want change in their life and just get stale.

I think it's great to mix or shake things up once in a while. so what does growing a beard or changing hair color have to do with change in some else life? probably nothing, other then having to figure out who you are again. I'm sure other comments you both received were "I almost didn't recognize you"


I do like your come back answer and she did deserve it!
but the smoking thing, is she just got on the no smoking, bad for your health, bandwagon, and is now into promoting it, mainly because she is trying to stop smoking herself and might be looking for more support.

and Shooby is right with the bigger people telling your husband he's getting fat! is obviously they care and don't want him to go in the direction they are already in.

<<I'm getting the fat thing now from people bigger than me and it was really upsetting me>>

[NancysSummerSip]

Some people have no barrier between brain and mouth, therefore whatever comes into their head exits their oral orifice pretty fast.

That barrier, known as common sense, would go a long way towards making the world a nicer, saner place. But some people will just never develop common sense. Either no one teaches it to them, or if they learned it, they forget it because their minds are so tiny, other stuff comes along and fills up the space, thus kicking common sense to the curb.

[NoNamePerson]

Jan 1, 2015 16:05:35 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Some people have no barrier between brain and mouth, therefore whatever comes into their head exits their oral orifice pretty fast.

That barrier, known as common sense, would go a long way towards making the world a nicer, saner place. But some people will just never develop common sense. Either no one teaches it to them, or if they learned it, they forget it because their minds are so tiny, other stuff comes along and fills up the space, thus kicking common sense to the curb.

You do know that Common Sense and Elvis left the building long ago  

[tloonya]

Dec 26, 2014 18:10:56 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

I find that "bite me" gets the point across. More ladylike than fuck you. 

its kind of depends...what are you looking for