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Post by MarleyKeezy78 on Dec 18, 2014 21:44:58 GMT -5
My Grandma hosts holidays and she has a dog. I go over and deep clean before hand so DS won't break out in hives and have a asthma attack. I also have allergies but not as bad as DS. My Grandma also appreciates the cleaning and I don't mind doing it Most houses we go to don't have pets so not a issue and if they do they generally host summer parties that are outside and it makes it way easier.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 18, 2014 22:01:23 GMT -5
I have a cat, period. And I have a husband. You will be advised about both of them so if you are allergic to either or both, please STF home. If you come and the cat gets pissy, I'll kick his backside into the garage like I do when he gets a case of smartass with me. If DH gets mouthy, you can deal with him yourself because he's a big boy and responsible for his own actions.
If I go to your home and you have an animal you are too clueless to control, please understand that I will control it for you. I haven't yet met the dog that doesn't understand jumping on me produces a knee in its chest and a pin to the floor on its back. When it relaxes and submits, it can get up and we'll be great friends because it will now know the proper way to greet human visitors.
I find most pets to be smarter than their owners.
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Post by weltschmerz on Dec 18, 2014 23:25:21 GMT -5
Eh, I have cats... they hide when I have guests. For the big holiday events I host - I make sure they have food/water/cat boxes in the room they like to hide in. If I didn't have pictures of the cats on the Fridge - no one would know what they look like - they've never been seen by visiting family or friends. I tend to try to get my vacummning/dusting done 24hrs before the allergy sufferers are due to come over. I put clean covers on the living room furniture (after it's been vacummned/wiped down from the night before) the morning of the event (usually by time I'm vacummning/cleaning the cats know something 'bad' is coming and they usually head for their bedroom and watch the activity from there.) The allergy sufferers all tend to take some 'allergy drugs' either before or right after arriving. the people with the worse allergies tend to only stay a couple of hours. Apparently, their allergies are bad enough that my house is not the only place they have to cope with so they know to do the drugs and plan to not stay long. I make sure to use the couch covers and guest towels that are ONLY used when people are over. I launder all of those things separately from my regular stuff (which is filled with cat dander/hair/cat spit) I also store this stuff in a closet with non-cat coated stuff that the cats don't have access to. Not sure if any of that makes a difference... All I can say is - it sucks to have allergies. Sushi is the exact opposite. He loves having guests over and makes sure each and every one gets a turn at having His Esteemed Highness on their laps. (He sits on everyones' lap but mine)
He also likes it when guests bring dogs over. He's fascinated by them and trots behind them from room to room.
Weird cat.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 19, 2014 10:32:17 GMT -5
I have 3 dogs and 3 cats so I am selective about who I have over. If you have allergies I feel sorry for you but I'd say you have a losing battle coming to my place. Take lots of Benedryl before you come by. Why do people pet the cats and and let the cats rub all over them then say "oh i'm deathly allergic to cats". Our dogs are kind of touchy dogs, I usually have to give people the speech before they come over. Ok - when you first come in dont' talk to the dogs, it just makes them more excited, do not try to pet them or talk in high pitched voices, just let them calm down. At some point a dog will manage to get their tongue in your mouth. You won't see them coming. They are small but I swear they can jump from across the room before you get a chance to defend yourself. Just roll with it. If the older female starts making high pitched noises, just back away slowly - that is kind of a warning signal she is going over the edge with excitement and could bite you. We usually try to take the dogs for a very long walk and tire them out in the afternoon if we are having someone for supper. If it is going to be too chaotic, or if we have people over who arent' "animal" people, we will crate the dogs in another room. Occasionally you get that one person, usually a man, who likes to tease the dogs. Terriers dont' appreciate being teased and they have teeth, please dont' create a situation. We do not have children over. If peopel have kids we go to their place. I won't pet the cat but I assume you'd rather I not nudge them away from me in any way that could be construed as kicking. So, they'll rub against my leg and I can generally avoid touching that part of my clothing for the evening. My reactions do seem to be getting worse instead of better though. 2 hours at my aunt's the other night and my throat felt like it was closing up on my drive home. Thankfully a dose of Benedryl and my inhaler were enough and I didn't have to make any urgent care visits.
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Post by Tiny on Dec 19, 2014 11:09:11 GMT -5
My rules for guests with pet allergies: Deal with it and get a real immune system already. Your ancestors didn't claw and scratch together miserable lives amongst piles of fetid corpses during the Spanish Influenza pandemic so you could be rendered incapacitated by little flakes of cat skin, you p*ssy. OMG! I'm gonna be chuckling all day (and feeling horrible about it, because people with allergies generally didn't do anything to get them and I know the 'drugs' to relieve them can have side effects just as annoying as the allergy symptoms). But, really, 2 of my siblings managed to have a whole passel of kids who are allergic to animals (and things that grow and sometimes things to eat). Only one sibling had kids that aren't allergic to anything. I feel bad for the red eyed, wheezing, coughing, barely breathing ones who are also breaking out in rashes/scratching while spending time in the bathroom with um, intestinal upset... but I often wonder how this happened when our ancesters managed to survive small pox, the plague, flu's galore, and other death dealing illnesses.... what went wrong with this generation?
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Post by Firebird on Dec 19, 2014 11:12:17 GMT -5
Ironically, I had a HORRIBLE allergic reaction yesterday. I was up half the night because I literally couldn't breathe unless I was sitting straight up. My usual coping methods weren't even making a dent in it. I love my little alien kitty to the point of mild insanity but I was very tempted to toss her out the window last night. Of course, the damage was done.
I think I brought it on myself by posting this thread yesterday.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 19, 2014 11:15:45 GMT -5
Sorry Firebird Tiny, I'm allergic to cats, shellfish and grass. Grass didn't irritate me until my teens, thankfully. My oldest DS has the cats (&dogs) and shellfish, as well as oak & pecan tree pollen. Guess which trees we're surrounded by? What was wrong with your generation's DNA that messed us up so much?
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Post by Opti on Dec 19, 2014 11:23:31 GMT -5
My rules for guests with pet allergies: Deal with it and get a real immune system already. Your ancestors didn't claw and scratch together miserable lives amongst piles of fetid corpses during the Spanish Influenza pandemic so you could be rendered incapacitated by little flakes of cat skin, you p*ssy. OMG! I'm gonna be chuckling all day (and feeling horrible about it, because people with allergies generally didn't do anything to get them and I know the 'drugs' to relieve them can have side effects just as annoying as the allergy symptoms). But, really, 2 of my siblings managed to have a whole passel of kids who are allergic to animals (and things that grow and sometimes things to eat). Only one sibling had kids that aren't allergic to anything. I feel bad for the red eyed, wheezing, coughing, barely breathing ones who are also breaking out in rashes/scratching while spending time in the bathroom with um, intestinal upset... but I often wonder how this happened when our ancesters managed to survive small pox, the plague, flu's galore, and other death dealing illnesses.... what went wrong with this generation? It might be exposure is worse in this era of food science with artificial flavors and colors being derived from many sources.
Food allergies have been known to some for more than a few generations.
For more than two thousand years there has been medical recognition that food can cause illnesses, diseases and health concerns for some people. Hippocrates was a Greek physician who is considered to be the Father of Medicine according the Merriam Webster Dictionary. Over two thousand years ago Hippocrates wrote about the negative efects that food could have on diferent people:
“For cheese does not prove equally injurious to all men, for there are some who can take it to satiety, without being hurt by it in the least, but, on the contrary, it is wonderful what strength it imparts to those it agrees with; but there are some who do not bear it well, their constitutions are diferent, they difer in this respect, that what in their body is incompatible with cheese, is roused and put in commotion by such a thing; and those in whose bodies such a humor happens to prevail in greater quantity and intensity, are likely to sufer the more from it. But if the thing had been pernicious to the whole nature of man, it would have hurt all.” thesuperallergycookbook.com/history.html
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Post by Tiny on Dec 19, 2014 11:28:14 GMT -5
Eh, I have cats... they hide when I have guests. For the big holiday events I host - I make sure they have food/water/cat boxes in the room they like to hide in. If I didn't have pictures of the cats on the Fridge - no one would know what they look like - they've never been seen by visiting family or friends. I tend to try to get my vacummning/dusting done 24hrs before the allergy sufferers are due to come over. I put clean covers on the living room furniture (after it's been vacummned/wiped down from the night before) the morning of the event (usually by time I'm vacummning/cleaning the cats know something 'bad' is coming and they usually head for their bedroom and watch the activity from there.) The allergy sufferers all tend to take some 'allergy drugs' either before or right after arriving. the people with the worse allergies tend to only stay a couple of hours. Apparently, their allergies are bad enough that my house is not the only place they have to cope with so they know to do the drugs and plan to not stay long. I make sure to use the couch covers and guest towels that are ONLY used when people are over. I launder all of those things separately from my regular stuff (which is filled with cat dander/hair/cat spit) I also store this stuff in a closet with non-cat coated stuff that the cats don't have access to. Not sure if any of that makes a difference... All I can say is - it sucks to have allergies. Sushi is the exact opposite. He loves having guests over and makes sure each and every one gets a turn at having His Esteemed Highness on their laps. (He sits on everyones' lap but mine)
He also likes it when guests bring dogs over. He's fascinated by them and trots behind them from room to room.
Weird cat.
No, you don't have a wierd cat - you have an outgoing cat. There's lots of them in the world. I just have 'shy' or 'timid' cats. I specifically went looking for the more 'introverted' cats when I went to the shelter. I figured I had the perfect lifestyle for such kitties and I knew the Adult shy/timid kitties sometimes have trouble getting adopted and that the shelter is very stressful for them. It was a Win Win for all of us. I have cats that do all the fun/wonderful things that cats do with me and they have a nice stress free (for them) house to rule over. I have friends with outgoing cats - the kitties greet every one at the door, and then go from person to person for pets or lap sitting (or treats!) and then since there's usually a cat toy handy (OR the cat will bring a cat toy to a person!) they get played with too. Totally fun kitties.
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Post by Pants on Dec 19, 2014 11:29:43 GMT -5
There are a lot of different theories on allergies. I like Hygiene theory, which says we're too clean and don't give our bodies things to fight off, so the immune system attacks itself. Mostly I like it because I don't want to clean my house, soooo.... However, it doesn't explain my late-breaking allergies to ibuprofen and a couple of antibiotics. I certainly didn't get cleaner in the last few years...
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Post by wvugurl26 on Dec 19, 2014 13:57:47 GMT -5
I was born allergic to all kinds of crap. The fun one was soy when it turned out mom didn't produce enough milk for me. 15 kinds of formula later they found one I tolerated. I had pet rabbits as a small kid. By the time I was 10 I was deathly allergic. My eyes will swell shut and I learned to check sweater labels to make sure it's not made of angora.
I was at a friend's lake house. His aunt/uncle were also there with their cat. It attached itself to me. My friend couldn't get it off my lap for anything. Luckily avoiding touching my face, a thorough hand and arm scrubbing, changing clothes before bed and a good dose of Benadryl got me through. I didn't seek it out this thing attached itself to me from the minute I got there.
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Post by cronewitch on Dec 19, 2014 16:30:49 GMT -5
I had a cat and guest over. My cat decided to walk across all the laps getting petted. The man visiting wouldn't pet the cat no matter what the cat did. I offered to remove the cat to the bedroom but he said no it was fine. The cat continued trying to get him to pet him, rubbing and nudging nothing worked. The cat finally bit him. I said I was sorry but he said it was his own fault he just wanted to see what the cat would do if he refused to pet him.
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Post by weltschmerz on Dec 19, 2014 17:18:54 GMT -5
My rules for guests with pet allergies: Deal with it and get a real immune system already. Your ancestors didn't claw and scratch together miserable lives amongst piles of fetid corpses during the Spanish Influenza pandemic so you could be rendered incapacitated by little flakes of cat skin, you p*ssy. OMG! I'm gonna be chuckling all day (and feeling horrible about it, because people with allergies generally didn't do anything to get them and I know the 'drugs' to relieve them can have side effects just as annoying as the allergy symptoms). But, really, 2 of my siblings managed to have a whole passel of kids who are allergic to animals (and things that grow and sometimes things to eat). Only one sibling had kids that aren't allergic to anything. I feel bad for the red eyed, wheezing, coughing, barely breathing ones who are also breaking out in rashes/scratching while spending time in the bathroom with um, intestinal upset... but I often wonder how this happened when our ancesters managed to survive small pox, the plague, flu's galore, and other death dealing illnesses.... what went wrong with this generation? Our ancestors' children were exposed to all manner of germs and built up hardy immune systems. People didn't even wash their hands. God forbid our special treasures touch something that hasn't beeen disinfected to within an inch of its life.
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Post by raeoflyte on Dec 19, 2014 21:39:54 GMT -5
We have 3 dogs and 3 cats as well (god help us!) Dh is horrifically allergic to all of them, but working in an animal shelter for several years was better than any allergy shot regimen he had tried. (Dh brought the animals home--I didn't want them but couldn't say no). About 9 years ago I kicked the animals out of the bedrooms and that helped his allergies exponentially. Eventually I said no pets in the kitchen, bedrooms, or "formal" living room because somehow dusting and vacuuming twice a day, every day, plus washing sheets and couch covers every.single.day just got to be too much for me. When the critters had free run of the house, we warned people upfront and pretty much told them to stay away unless they could tolerate it. At this point there is plenty of space in the house that isn't directly impacted by animals that I don't even think about it. My level of accomodation depends greatly on who it is. For my kids, and eventually their so's I would do everything I could to make them comfortable. My parents would be the same, and if I ever get neices and nephews I really hope that they could be close with our kids so I'll definitely make a concerted effort. Most other people...that's what there are restaurants for.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 20, 2014 9:50:33 GMT -5
I had cats all of my life, and so did my kids. But my daughter-in-law is allergic to cats. My daughter has two, anyway, which is probably a passive aggressive move on her part. My daughter-in-law takes pills to visit my daughter's house, which isn't often.
So when I finally got a pet after the divorce, we got a dog. I've never had a dog before . . . or not since a cocker spaniel knocked me down when I was three. Ironically, the dog we rescued is a cocker spaniel. OMG, I never knew the joys of being a pet owner.
She is astonishingly good with children. The grandchildren are young and think it is fun to throw her toys all at the same time. She just stands there and looks at them with a really puzzled look. She doesn't lick or jump on you. Everyone wants to walk her, and everyone wants to give her a treat afterwards so I have to break treats into pieces. I think the grandkids want to visit Abby more than us. On the "I'm thankful" picture one drew that is on the refrigerator, it says "I love grandmother because she lets me walk her dog."
All that said, the dog ends up in a bedroom with a baby gate for meals. The kids want to sneak her food from the table, and she's not allowed to beg or bother people when they eat. So the bedroom is for the dog's protection, not the guest's.
Dogs are so much a part of our culture that it must be very difficult to be allergic to them.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 20, 2014 10:03:28 GMT -5
I'm not a dog person. I grew up with them and was glad to move onto my own house and life. After getting rid of my ex, first thing I got was a cat. She's been with me and is with me still. When she goes, a huge chapter of my life will go with her. An interesting chapter. That being said, DD and DS's girlfriend both have dogs. They were with us at thanksgiving and there were no issues. DS is not a dog person either so it will be interesting if he stays with this girl, how he handles her dog. So far he's okay with it but time will tell.
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Post by marvholly on Dec 21, 2014 6:59:36 GMT -5
First thought that crossed my mind (before reading any posts):
Guests are NOT allowed to bring their pets!
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Post by weltschmerz on Dec 21, 2014 14:02:14 GMT -5
I went to a big Christmas bash at my sister's yesterday. About 40 people. My sister has a big Weram Wiemar Weimer dog who mingled with the guests and was very well-behaved. He even wore reindeer antlers without putting up a fuss. The guests know the dog will be out, and if their allergies are severe enough, I guess they don't come.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Dec 21, 2014 19:39:15 GMT -5
I have had cats my entire adult life. If anybody is going to visit me, they know that or are told that. Lucy has the run of the house, as have all of my cats. All of my cats have been indoor cats. If you are allergic, please do not come. I know cat dander is in all of the furniture and carpet.
Lucy is the type of cat who thinks visitors came to see her. They have to deal with it as they know she is like that. Great niece is highly allergic and they do not visit.
Niece used to ask to bring her huge dogs to my house. After they scratched my brand new hard wood floors, she no longer asks. I'd let her Sofia dachsund visit me. It was her huge dog that did the damage.
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Post by cronewitch on Dec 21, 2014 20:07:02 GMT -5
I had a perfectly trained black lab who knew all the commands. A friend had a soft spoken 4 year old girl who wanted to walk the dog, I was sure she couldn't speak loud enough to command the dog so I told the dog, sit/stay and handed her the leash, she enjoyed having the leash for a pretend walk.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Dec 22, 2014 10:32:47 GMT -5
OMG! I'm gonna be chuckling all day (and feeling horrible about it, because people with allergies generally didn't do anything to get them and I know the 'drugs' to relieve them can have side effects just as annoying as the allergy symptoms). But, really, 2 of my siblings managed to have a whole passel of kids who are allergic to animals (and things that grow and sometimes things to eat). Only one sibling had kids that aren't allergic to anything. I feel bad for the red eyed, wheezing, coughing, barely breathing ones who are also breaking out in rashes/scratching while spending time in the bathroom with um, intestinal upset... but I often wonder how this happened when our ancesters managed to survive small pox, the plague, flu's galore, and other death dealing illnesses.... what went wrong with this generation? Our ancestors' children were exposed to all manner of germs and built up hardy immune systems. People didn't even wash their hands. God forbid our special treasures touch something that hasn't beeen disinfected to within an inch of its life. Nope, I never got treated like a special treasure, spent tons of time outdoors as a kid and washed my hands only if Mom ordered me to. Still allergic to the animals and the shellfish. Grass came on in my teens, gave me enough hives that they ran together on my legs when I walked through tall grass/weeds in shorts. That was after I'd spent years outside playing with my friends in the grass and beating each other with the same weeds I'd walked through. (those things stung if put in a bunch, we called them whipping weeds)
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