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Post by Deleted on Dec 3, 2014 18:17:00 GMT -5
Okay, now I'm catching flak about not having a REAL wedding since I have a dress. It's not a wedding dress but just a nice dress. But maybe it's too nice? After all, it's becoming just something to get thru so why make a big fuss? Maybe I'm missing the point? I It doesn't matter what you wear as long as you look good and feel good! (Don't sweat the small stuff--you're nervous enough!)
Congratulations! I hope you have many happy years together!
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 3, 2014 18:30:50 GMT -5
Whew! Thanks, I needed that.
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Post by dannylion on Dec 3, 2014 18:35:35 GMT -5
It's your wedding. You can make it whatever you and your DF want it to be, and you can wear whatever you want.
If others feel the need to comment on your choices, you can just thank them for sharing and continue doing what you want.
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Post by Jaguar on Dec 3, 2014 18:38:57 GMT -5
Zib it's YOUR day, wear what YOU want and do it YOUR way.
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Post by Bonny on Dec 3, 2014 18:59:33 GMT -5
Okay, now I'm catching flak about not having a REAL wedding since I have a dress. It's not a wedding dress but just a nice dress. But maybe it's too nice? After all, it's becoming just something to get thru so why make a big fuss? Maybe I'm missing the point? I Some people aren't happy unless they are complaining.
Scr*w 'em; it's your day and you'll wear what you want!
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Post by Tennesseer on Dec 3, 2014 19:33:35 GMT -5
Congrats!
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Post by taz157 on Dec 3, 2014 19:41:35 GMT -5
Congrats! Can't wait to hear about it!
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 4, 2014 14:18:45 GMT -5
Fly in ointment. My retired minister from my old church won't marry us without premarital counseling, a few months worth. So that's out. Or he's out anyway. DF is calling his old rabbi whom I'm sure stays on the east side of the state but I've called someone who advertised in the newspaper. For Pete's sake. It's not like I'm asking for a church wedding but 15 minutes of someone's time.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Dec 4, 2014 15:44:21 GMT -5
Okay, now I'm catching flak about not having a REAL wedding since I have a dress. It's not a wedding dress but just a nice dress. But maybe it's too nice? After all, it's becoming just something to get thru so why make a big fuss? Maybe I'm missing the point? I Who is giving you flak about a dress? It's not your first wedding, nor is it DF's first wedding. And even if it was, what difference would it make? It's not about the dress, it's about the day and the two of you. Wear what you want, get a notary or go to the courthouse and have a big honking party afterwards. And we want pictures!
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Post by Ombud on Dec 5, 2014 9:16:34 GMT -5
Congratulations! !
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Post by skubikky on Dec 5, 2014 9:29:08 GMT -5
Fly in ointment. My retired minister from my old church won't marry us without premarital counseling, a few months worth. So that's out. Or he's out anyway. DF is calling his old rabbi whom I'm sure stays on the east side of the state but I've called someone who advertised in the newspaper. For Pete's sake. It's not like I'm asking for a church wedding but 15 minutes of someone's time. Could you get married at the courthouse and then just go on to the party/celebration/dinner?
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 5, 2014 11:05:07 GMT -5
Not on a holiday or a Sunday.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Dec 5, 2014 11:08:41 GMT -5
Not on a holiday or a Sunday. A rabbi on a Saturday night could be problematic, depending on how religious the rabbi is. If it's a Saturday after sunset, it might work. Heck, a Saturday night party, and a Sunday to recover...that would be kinda sweet. Not that work is really an issue; I know DF does still work, but heck, you are going to wear him out anyway, so he will need at least an additional day off.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 5, 2014 11:10:48 GMT -5
Please, there's been no sex for months. Drugs don't interact well with other drugs.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 5, 2014 11:12:38 GMT -5
If you've got a minister whining about not making you jump through hoops, I can't imagine a rabbi not messing with you as well.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Dec 5, 2014 11:30:41 GMT -5
Zib it's YOUR day, wear what YOU want and do it YOUR way. My heart is like an open highway Like Frankie said I did it my way From Bon Jovi's "It's My Life"
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 5, 2014 12:20:36 GMT -5
I may have found an officiant. A former teacher that I knew who transferred to a new school when it was built and has since retired is supposed to be one. My girlfriend is calling her to see if she is and if she is one, is she available.
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Post by myrrh on Dec 5, 2014 12:21:55 GMT -5
Congratulations Zib, and definitely post pictures!
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 5, 2014 12:27:45 GMT -5
Aww, zib. I know this has been difficult for you, and I understand. Now that the decision is made and you're on your way, put those fears behind you and look to the future with the man you love and have loved for quite awhile. As to the wedding, do what makes YOU TWO comfortable. These are your memories, so keep them YOURS. Others can pound sand! Be happy, sweetie.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Dec 5, 2014 14:03:52 GMT -5
Please, there's been no sex for months. Drugs don't interact well with other drugs. See, that's my point. All that time in the desert is getting you both primed for a trip to the oasis. I will be listening for the screaming.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 5, 2014 14:37:17 GMT -5
Yay!
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Dec 5, 2014 15:40:58 GMT -5
Congrats!
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 6, 2014 22:37:40 GMT -5
Well, $250 later, I have an officiant. The service hires former male models so they're pretty in pictures. Good grief. But he will do it New Years day which I wanted. Easy to remember on a holiday I'm hoping the day will be nice because my back yard is water and it's pretty view
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Post by Jaguar on Dec 6, 2014 22:39:30 GMT -5
Oh.My.Gawd, she's got the date !!! << screaming like a banshee here >>
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 6, 2014 22:40:34 GMT -5
I know. Can you believe it? I may actually do it.
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Post by Jaguar on Dec 6, 2014 22:42:05 GMT -5
I know. Can you believe it? I may actually do it. I'm happy for you.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2014 22:42:41 GMT -5
DON'T DO IT!!!! (just kidding)
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2014 22:43:40 GMT -5
I think we might have to crash this party!
eta: I was kidding. Don't get scared.
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