mroped
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Post by mroped on Dec 1, 2014 18:21:08 GMT -5
There is in fact something about having a smile hanging all the time. Nobody is approaching you unless they have to because they have business with you. I am generaly a happy person and honestly I smile a lot! It helps with my customers because well we have business to tend to and keeps the unwanted contacts away. What women wants to go up to this weird smiling dude and spill her guts or what man wants to do that? Nobody because it feels creepy!!! And that makes me smile
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happyhoix
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Post by happyhoix on Dec 1, 2014 18:22:55 GMT -5
I don't know what's better, looking bitchy like me or nice and approachable, like my husband. For awhile, I stopped going to stores with him bc I would turn away for a second and the next thing I know - someone is chatting him up. And he doesn't stop them!!!! Once he went to the scrapbooking store with me and while I was signing up for a class, he sold two ladies some cutting machine. Nope, he wasn't working there. They asked him about it and he went into the whole explanation and they bought it. When I was pregnant with my oldest, we were in a baby-items store. I went to look at some stuff, come back a few minutes later and he is yapping with two women - mother and daughter. Evidently, they felt so close to him that they decided to try to touch my stomach. Needless to say, it didn't end well....... Oh and whenever people meet me first and then him - it's pretty much unanimous that he is the "nice" one in the family. This is me and my husband to a T. He is the nice Southern gentleman. He has an especially hard time being mean to religious people who come to our door to try to convert him. He was so nice to some Jehovah's witnesses they kept coming back every week, until finally the guy came back with his wife, so SHE could talk to ME, too. DH was in the back yard and I was sweaty/nasty from house cleaning, so I was in the perfect mood to tell them where they could stuff their religious pamplets - especially the ones about women being subservient to their husbands. They never came back
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Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2014 19:00:17 GMT -5
DH will talk to a tree stump as long as it lets him talk. Me, I have no patience. And the added bonus of next to no hearing so I usually can't hear people anyway. Hell, we've been out places and DH will start talking to someone, whom we will never see again ever but that doesn't stop him, I will walk away, do my thing and come back 20-30 minutes later and they will be best friends. It just seems so strange to me. I really cannot fathom wanting to talk to people that much. I'd rather read.
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Knee Deep in Water Chloe
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Dec 1, 2014 21:45:10 GMT -5
I was raised to have a holier-than-thou attitude. I realized at about age 24ish that that wasn't appropriate. It took several incidents in late teens and early 20s of people telling me how horrible I was (crass, bitchy, spiteful were a few of the adjective said directly to me) before I understood I didn't have to be that way and that my parents weren't in charge of my personality. It took a few years to remove change the dial from "constant bitch" setting.
Before I started teaching, I had a supervisor tell me once at work to just paste the fake smile on my face the moment I got out of the car to walk into work. She didn't care if it was fake, but it had to be there when I came into work. At first I thought she was nuts, but we're 15 years out from that conversation and I still remember it vividly.
I now actively attempt to have at least a pleasant face if not a smile when I'm in public not just at work. I really don't think I'm a naturally rude person; but, it's hard to overcome what one is indoctrinated with as a child who desperately wants to please.
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Knee Deep in Water Chloe
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Dec 1, 2014 21:46:29 GMT -5
Oh, and both my ex-husband and my husband are the type of social extroverts who love to talk to people in public and are often approached by others.
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