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Post by Tennesseer on Oct 30, 2014 20:24:02 GMT -5
Using this post to bounce a thought, so this is not directed toward pinkcashmire. Say your child needed a kidney and you were willing to donate one of yours but you were not a match. Say another monther's child needed a kidney and the child's mother was willing to donate hers but she too was not a match for her child. Say the other mother was a match for your child and you were a match for the other mother's child. Would you donate your kidney to the other child in exchange for the other mother's kidney for your child? Isn't that pretty much the same as donating to your own child? It is. But someone might think differently about it. So I asked.
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Post by Shooby on Oct 30, 2014 20:25:51 GMT -5
I would definitely donate a kidney to one of my children if I were a match..... Using this post to bounce a thought, so this is not directed toward pinkcashmire. Say your child needed a kidney and you were willing to donate one of yours but you were not a match. Say another monther's child needed a kidney and the child's mother was willing to donate hers but she too was not a match for her child. Say the other mother was a match for your child and you were a match for the other mother's child. Would you donate your kidney to the other child in exchange for the other mother's kidney for your child? Yes.
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Post by Tennesseer on Oct 30, 2014 20:26:47 GMT -5
I just thought about moving the goal posts by adding to the question, but I will leave the question as is, even if it is the same as donating your own.
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Post by Shooby on Oct 30, 2014 20:43:47 GMT -5
Go ahead.
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Post by teen persuasion on Oct 30, 2014 21:28:22 GMT -5
This is a tough question for me. For my children, yes. Beyond that, I'd be thinking long and hard. My maternal grandfather died of kidney failure. As I understand the story, no one knew he only had one functioning kidney until it failed. The doctors at the time theorized that his other kidney had been damaged in childhood due to scarlet fever, and it atrophied. Of course, he died because there wasn't dialysis at the time. I'm not sure what caused the kidney failure, I think I've heard it was a kidney infection.
So, rational or not, I'm a bit worried that I might just need that other kidney some day.
I have no qualms about donating my organs after I die - I hope someone could use them. A cousin died unexpectedly at age thirty of an aneurysm; I believe 30 people received transplants from her.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Oct 30, 2014 21:34:27 GMT -5
Perhaps for a close relative, but otherwise, no.
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Post by Pants on Oct 30, 2014 21:59:02 GMT -5
Interestingly, I had a similar inquiry pop recently - I registered for the bone marrow.donor.registry in college, so 15 years ago. I got a call 2 months ago that I was a.potential.match for a 28 year old.woman in CA with bone cancer. The chances of being a match for a stranger are infinitesimal. Unfortunately, I was not eligible to.donate due to undergoing IVF. And the pregnancy took, so I'm still ineligible. But I decided after getting that call that if I didn't get pregnant this round that I was willing to take 3 months off trying to have a baby in order to save someone's life. How many chances do you get to do.that? It breaks my heart that I was unable to.donate to her when she needed it. I hope she finds another match, or can hang on until July after this one is born so I can help her then.
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Post by cronewitch on Oct 30, 2014 22:44:09 GMT -5
I would if the other person was younger than me or in otherwise great health. I wouldn't for my brother but would for his wife. He has a bad liver and not expected to live to old age he has been fighting liver issues for years and in clinical test, not cancer and doesn't drink but almost died a couple of times during tests. I don't know if I could take the chance and handle the pain if it might not help him much. He married his wife in 1968 when she was 17 so I have known her most of her life. Saving her would make my brother, his children and grandchildren happy, she has been a wonderful wife, mother and grandmother even took care of my mom for a few years. She is only 63 so it might buy her 30-40 more years where my brother might only get months or nothing.
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Post by weltschmerz on Oct 30, 2014 22:54:51 GMT -5
My mother had to a kidney removed after it was damaged during a breech birth. She lived a perfectly normal life after that for half a century. That's what's affecting my decision.
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Post by Shooby on Oct 30, 2014 23:27:30 GMT -5
It's a noble thing to do. But there are also good reasons not too. Nobody should be pressured .
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Post by truthbound on Oct 31, 2014 4:56:13 GMT -5
Would you consider donating a kidney? I would do it for anyone who would do the same for me. So the answer is no.
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Post by marvholly on Oct 31, 2014 6:14:28 GMT -5
family -yes
friend - would have to ber VERY close & VERY long term
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Post by mollyanna58 on Oct 31, 2014 7:43:58 GMT -5
Would you consider donating a kidney? I would do it for anyone who would do the same for me. So the answer is no.
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Post by truthbound on Nov 1, 2014 5:15:32 GMT -5
I would do it for anyone who would do the same for me. So the answer is no. I agree it is sad.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 1, 2014 7:17:46 GMT -5
In my last job, our Admin sent out an e-mail that she was going to be on medical leave for several weeks. Not wanting to pry, I just expressed my best wishes for her recovery from whatever it was. She volunteered that she was donating a kidney to a family member of someone else in the company. (The donor was maybe 50, so past childbearing age but with potentially many years ahead of her.)
This is a company that refers to itself as "The (name of company) family" and will gently correct you if you use the term "employee" instead of "associate". Too bad I encountered more people I couldn't trust in my 18 months there than in 38 years elsewhere, but I guess she took all that "family" stuff seriously. It was a noble gesture.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Nov 1, 2014 7:50:02 GMT -5
I would donate a kidney to a close family member or my husband, who already has kidney damage. Other than that, probably not. If I had more than two kidneys, then I would be glad to donate to others. But, I don't.
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Post by Peace77 on Nov 1, 2014 12:25:02 GMT -5
Could I still make sweet love without a kidney? Yes. You can do everything you did before.
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Post by Peace77 on Nov 1, 2014 12:39:24 GMT -5
And if so, would you only do it for a family member, or also among your circle of friends? I already did so I can't do it again.
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Post by chalupabatman on Nov 1, 2014 14:16:02 GMT -5
I lost one of my kidneys a couple years ago, but if it were not for that I would for my children, husband, brother, and parents. I don't think I would have considered it for anyone other than the above.
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Post by toomuchreality on Nov 4, 2014 15:40:19 GMT -5
While it's true, all those people needing a kidney used to have two. So maybe that's a good reason to hang on to both of mine. On the other hand, all those people needing a kidney, that used to have two, clearly have (or have had) extenuating circumstances come up, that luckily, I have not. That's why I still have two and they have next to none. Because I have lived in relatively good health, I don't foresee myself having an issue in which living with one would be a problem. Of course at any moment, any of this could change. But knowing what I know now, if I felt like the person was deserving and would appreciate what they had been given, then yes, I would donate one of my kidneys. Part of my decision to do so, is based on what I would want, or hope others would do, if I/my child were in that situation. I have to have hope . And I want to provide hope, if/when I can.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Nov 4, 2014 20:40:16 GMT -5
No. I was asked this for a cousin. I answered no. I'd be left with one and she'd have two good kidneys.
I do not love anyone that much.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2014 21:08:49 GMT -5
I'm like Crone, there are situations where I would donate a kidney but it's not based on being family or friend. For me it would depend on how much risk there is to me and how much potential benefit for the donee. And I'm not chopping up my body for someone that has done nothing to take care of their own. You went to the dance, you pay the piper.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2014 21:10:38 GMT -5
No. I was asked this for a cousin. I answered no. I'd be left with one and she'd have two good kidneys. I do not love anyone that much. If someone has one good working kidney I don't think they look for donors.
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Post by Peace77 on Nov 4, 2014 22:32:28 GMT -5
One working kidney is all you need.
If someone is on the list or looking for a donor, it's because they have very little to no functioning kidney at all.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Nov 5, 2014 9:11:05 GMT -5
No. I was asked this for a cousin. I answered no. I'd be left with one and she'd have two good kidneys. I do not love anyone that much. If someone has one good working kidney I don't think they look for donors. This request was in the 1970s. All I remember about it is the request and my answer. The person is alive and well with one kidney.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2014 9:13:25 GMT -5
If someone has one good working kidney I don't think they look for donors. This request was in the 1970s. All I remember about it is the request and my answer. The person is alive and well with one kidney. That is weird. I wouldn't give up a kidney in that situation either.
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Post by CarolinaKat on Nov 5, 2014 11:18:30 GMT -5
This request was in the 1970s. All I remember about it is the request and my answer. The person is alive and well with one kidney. That is weird. I wouldn't give up a kidney in that situation either. That's really strange. Perhaps they were expecting the 2nd one to fail fast and were trying to line up a donor as a 'backup' plan?
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Nov 5, 2014 17:36:06 GMT -5
I agree, Carolina Kat. I think they were in panic and shock that such a young person of 20 would have kidney disease.
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