tloonya
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Post by tloonya on Oct 27, 2014 10:13:20 GMT -5
Why is sharing a good stuff is bragging? Sharing bad stuff is not, right? Also I think if you posted pictures of a gorgeous view and wrote that you had been suffering from poison ivy at that field - it might make your jealous 'friends' less itchy. Also 'stubbed my toes in Rome so walking was out of questions so we rented limo for a day (oops) that had 250K miles on'...give them something
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Post by shanendoah on Oct 27, 2014 10:56:52 GMT -5
My FB content is very carefully chosen. And yes, it's the "good parts" version of my life. I see no problems with other people posting their good stuff, too.
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TheHaitian
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 27, 2014 11:08:10 GMT -5
As I call it "The Greatest Hits" version of my life. Basically this x 100
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aprilleigh
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Post by aprilleigh on Oct 27, 2014 12:08:15 GMT -5
Would you mind sharing some of the places you visited in Iceland?? PM is totally fine! We're going next June, and I'd love to get tips from someone that's been. Thanks so much!!
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Post by jinksd1 on Oct 28, 2014 8:09:34 GMT -5
I don't think it's bragging, even if you say you're having a great time or the view is pretty or whatever. My main thing is to limit the number of photos I share of one event/trip. I only put up the best of the best photos when I have a lot of them, and/or the ones that I think others would find interesting.
When we went to England for our honeymoon, I took about 800 photos. I only posted about 10-15 total, most of them with us in them, only a few of pretty views or sites we saw without us in them. Those are the photos I thought our friends and family would most want to see, and there weren't so many that someone's eyes would start to glaze over. I was the same way with our wedding photos...I only posted about 10 of the best ones. Only our parents would want to look through more wedding photos than that!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2014 8:14:34 GMT -5
Would you mind sharing some of the places you visited in Iceland?? PM is totally fine! We're going next June, and I'd love to get tips from someone that's been. Thanks so much!! I will. Give me a few days and I'll message you
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Post by cael on Oct 28, 2014 8:23:04 GMT -5
I think bragging is different from sharing something awesome you're enjoying like traveling, when many people probably just are excited to see pictures. I don't know.. I don't think it's braggy to post about trips. If other people are jealous or make snarky comments that's kind of their problem. I would never go on facebook and be like "HEY FRIENDS, I just landed this sweet job that makes me $300k/year so now I'm going to buy a mansion, several brand new cars, a vacation home, trips, a $1923905 coach bag AND a shitload of crab legs!!!" <-- that's bragging and shitty. I will share vacations or whatever though...
A different but similar thing to this is something we experienced with my mom recently... my dad retired 2 years ago at 67 after almost 40 years working for the state. In our opinion (DH and I) he deserved a party!! My mom said that they knew so many people who were under-or-unemployed they (read: she) would just feel funny having a party to celebrate him being able to retire with a pension. Personally I think that's cuckoo and their friends I can think of who they'd invite would be so happy to go... DH is insisting on planning a party next summer for dad's 70th birthday and making it a retirement party too. I think it's stupid and they should've had a party. I doubt any of their friends are so miserable or stupid that they would've begrudged my poor dad celebrating his retirement. (and my dad is the most likeable guy in the world too)
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Post by thyme4change on Oct 28, 2014 8:26:24 GMT -5
Once, my husband and I stayed out until midnight, and I posted something. That was totally bragging. The next morning, my friends were quite impressed.
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cael
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Post by cael on Oct 28, 2014 8:26:46 GMT -5
Wow... you guys only post 10-20 photos from vacations? ::goes to pare down 150-photo album from Africa trip:: I just get too excited about shit!
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Post by Lizard Queen on Oct 28, 2014 8:34:46 GMT -5
I get jealous of some people on FB that seem to get to go to cool places all the time, but I don't feel like they're bragging (for the most part). It's just too hard for us to manage with the little ones, while we see others get A LOT more support (I.e., grandma watching the kiddos while parents go to the Dominican republic for a week). Good for them-- it just sucks to be us right now.
As far as vacation photos-- I love to see them, even if it gives me a twinge of jealousy. Even my old band teacher, who I didn't particularly like, has great photos since he moved to Japan. I never realized how beautiful Japan was before seeing his pics on FB. I'm sure the same could be said for the countries that you visited as well.
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jinksd1
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Post by jinksd1 on Oct 28, 2014 9:04:41 GMT -5
Wow... you guys only post 10-20 photos from vacations? ::goes to pare down 150-photo album from Africa trip:: I just get too excited about shit! Sorry! That's just me. If I post photos, I'm hoping people that I care about will want to look through them, and I think that's more likely to happen if there are only a few (truly, I would never look through 150 vacation photos...not trying to offend you). Plus, with the honeymoon photos, I really didn't want it to look like I was bragging about getting to go on such a sweet honeymoon. A lot of people I know couldn't afford that (we are pretty low income and had to save carefully for three years to do it, while also saving up to pay for our wedding). But I wouldn't think you putting up so many photos was bragging. It would just be too many for me to want to look through.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Oct 28, 2014 9:14:17 GMT -5
On Thursday afternoon my dad posted a picture from the patio of his Florida home. It was of his martini with the pool and blue sky in the shot. It was windy and cloudy up here. La-di-da. Obviously I like seeing my Dad enjoying himself, but if anyone else posted that (and people have), gee, I still would have enjoyed the picture. I am pleased with the fact that I seem to surround myself with good people who enjoy their lives.
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tloonya
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Post by tloonya on Oct 28, 2014 9:30:35 GMT -5
"HEY FRIENDS, I just landed this sweet job that makes me $300k/year so now I'm going to buy a mansion, several brand new cars, a vacation home, trips, a $1923905 coach bag AND a shitload of crab legs!!!" <-- that's bragging and shitty. I will share vacations or whatever though... Waaait a minute. Are you knew here? $300K/year will buy you no mension and no carZ and no coach bagZ. Crab legs maybe but...we frawn upon this here at YM.
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Post by ohmomto2boys on Oct 28, 2014 9:49:12 GMT -5
I get jealous of some people on FB that seem to get to go to cool places all the time, but I don't feel like they're bragging (for the most part). It's just too hard for us to manage with the little ones, while we see others get A LOT more support (I.e., grandma watching the kiddos while parents go to the Dominican republic for a week). Good for them-- it just sucks to be us right now. I don't really get "jealous" of the vacations, but the "help" that some of our friends get from family is tough. Friends always have a "free" babysitter at the drop of a hat. We don't have the luxury from family. It is sometimes annoying.
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Post by cael on Oct 28, 2014 9:49:55 GMT -5
You mean.... when I get that $300k/year job, I *shouldn't* over-extend myself financially so that when I get laid off I have to file bk and lose all my nice things and cry about how unfair it is?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2014 9:59:50 GMT -5
I think bragging is different from sharing something awesome you're enjoying like traveling, when many people probably just are excited to see pictures. I don't know.. I don't think it's braggy to post about trips. If other people are jealous or make snarky comments that's kind of their problem. I would never go on facebook and be like "HEY FRIENDS, I just landed this sweet job that makes me $300k/year so now I'm going to buy a mansion, several brand new cars, a vacation home, trips, a $1923905 coach bag AND a shitload of crab legs!!!" <-- that's bragging and shitty. I will share vacations or whatever though... A different but similar thing to this is something we experienced with my mom recently... my dad retired 2 years ago at 67 after almost 40 years working for the state. In our opinion (DH and I) he deserved a party!! My mom said that they knew so many people who were under-or-unemployed they (read: she) would just feel funny having a party to celebrate him being able to retire with a pension. Personally I think that's cuckoo and their friends I can think of who they'd invite would be so happy to go... DH is insisting on planning a party next summer for dad's 70th birthday and making it a retirement party too. I think it's stupid and they should've had a party. I doubt any of their friends are so miserable or stupid that they would've begrudged my poor dad celebrating his retirement. (and my dad is the most likeable guy in the world too) I think it's kind to be considerate of other people's feelings, but that shouldn't stop anyone from having fun. Real friends should be able to celebrate good things happening in their friends' lives even if their own situation is less than ideal. They should've had the party.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 28, 2014 10:42:52 GMT -5
I love pictures. I don't flip through a ton, but I still like to see what people are up to way more than sharing every inspirational, religious, political, crap that someone reads.
It wasn't until recently that I could relate to people saying that facebook makes them depressed, but the last few months I admit to a bit of a feeling of depression with most of SIL's posts. It's not that I want to be going out to the fancy restaurants, clubs, games, etc. that she is, but reading this thread pretty much clarified it for me. It's realizing that we are not part of HER greatest hits. We were really close, and I get it--we just don't have much in common right now which is fine. It just bums me out I guess.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Oct 28, 2014 11:10:25 GMT -5
Ok. I did gush about Iceland I think. Said it was Awesome and if anyone could they should... I probably should have kept to my generic listing of who what where. It is awesome though! In my defense.. Your posts on FB were just fine. People who think other people are bragging will find the "bragging" in anything.
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Post by cael on Oct 28, 2014 14:59:43 GMT -5
Pat makes a good point - here I might talk about money related things but never on facebook - for example I posted here about paying off my credit cards and the savings I hope to do for a house (with numbers). I wouldn't post that on facebook.
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Post by swamp on Oct 28, 2014 16:50:32 GMT -5
I posted about paying off DH's student loan sine between the two of us, we had been paying for 14 years. That's the only money related post I ever made.
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Post by Abby Normal on Oct 28, 2014 17:00:34 GMT -5
Posting a picture of something amazing because you're excited and want to share with your friends who aren't there= sharing Posting a picture of something amazing because you want to rub it in to your friends who aren't there= bragging/ douche
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 28, 2014 17:01:34 GMT -5
You post about money... Just in other forms.
- Vacations: not many people can afford them and they can ballpark the cost.
- new car : wether financed or cashed you can afford it while some are still driving their clunkers.
- house purchase : same thing, some are renting while others are posting about their new house purchase or for some friends of mine their second (upgrade) house purchase
I just don't worry about it, haters are going to hate so might as well give them something to hate about!!
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TheHaitian
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Post by TheHaitian on Oct 28, 2014 17:03:49 GMT -5
I personally don't want to hear about your troubles, baby daddy drama, Etc on facebook.
Give me the amazing vacations, nice houses, nice cars, hot new girlfriend, parties Babies, new babies, pets etc.
I go on Facebook to escape the "boring" life, if all I wanted is people bitching about their life I can just stay at work or call a few cousins up.
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Post by cktc on Oct 28, 2014 17:36:21 GMT -5
Posting my investment balance or salary would be bragging. Posting about vacations isn't bragging. If anyone takes offense to vacation pictures they are just jealous and most likely made poor choices in life. That is on them not meI do tell people that are posting fabulous vacation picture that I'm jealous...not because in any afford to go but because at that moment I'm not also on vacation so I'm jealous! But that is different than being offended that someone was posting fabulous pictures. But then I'm not a hating bitch :-p Yep! If someone can't bear to see me enjoying myself, good. They should probably just un-friend me. There is a lot of effort and sacrifice behind those happy photos. I'm not going to begrudge someone their joy because I make different choices.
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