Sharing v Bragging

[Deleted]

I generally share more here than on facebook, etc, because I know I get to do things a lot of others don't.

We just got back from a long trip. It was primarily to see my husbands mother in Romania, but we popped in one place to explore and pop out another. 

We started in London. I didn't post to facebook. But Husband's brother who is there did and tagged me, and so friends commented, etc. 

We got to Romania. I didn't post to facebook. But nephew did and tagged me, etc...

At this point my sister asked for more pictures (especially since our Mom was with us). So I posted a few days from Romania. Then friends asked for pictures when we got to Iceland. 

Ok. That was long. Anyway, on my last post someone said about how lucky I am. 

My father was in Newfoundland hunting the same time, the new stepmom posted pics and someone on her thread posted about how she was living everyone's dream. 

I don't know. I just feel bad. I want to share, but I don't want it to seem like I'm bragging... Thoughts? Anyone else have similar thoughts? 

[nutty]

I no longer post about stuff like that. I post pics of Scarlett and some quotes and songs. It seems like someone always has a problem so I keep stuff to my IRL friends.

[busymom]

Those times when life is going well, I usually don't post about it. To me, it does sound like a brag-fest. One of my good friends married into money, & it seems, although I do still like her a lot, that they only post when they're eating at the finest restaurants, going on frequent trips, etc. You know, stuff that the average family cannot afford. So, I agree that I would post infrequently in your situation so it doesn't look like you're full of yourself.   (Yes, I know you're not full of yourself.)

[Deleted]

I love seeing people's travel pictures or fun times! I have folks on facebook cause I want to know what they are up to and live vicariously through them. I hope none of my friends stop posting their pictures. I post lots of travel pictures. If folks don't want to see it they can hide me or unfriend me.

[midjd]

I think the difference lies in "we went to Romania to see family and made a few pitstops on the way back" vs "OMG LOOK AT THIS VIEW! #livingthedream #highrollin #donthatemecuzimfab

[Deleted]

I think sharing pictures of travels isn't necessarily bragging. Some people interpret it that way, but that's usually their issue.

[alabamagal]

One trip to Europe to visit family is not bragging.

Now my former boss on his 6 month trip to Europe posting almost daily, that is bragging

[thyme4change]

Oct 26, 2014 12:25:10 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

I think sharing pictures of travels isn't necessarily bragging. Some people interpret it that way, but that's usually their issue.

Also, I wouldn't necessarily think people saying "You are living the dream" or even "I'm jealous" means they think you are a bragging bitch.  It very well might mean they think you are doing something cool that they would like to do but haven't yet.  

[swamp]

Oct 26, 2014 12:31:01 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

Oct 26, 2014 12:25:10 GMT -5 @pinkcshmere said:

I think sharing pictures of travels isn't necessarily bragging. Some people interpret it that way, but that's usually their issue.

Also, I wouldn't necessarily think people saying "You are living the dream" or even "I'm jealous" means they think you are a bragging bitch.  It very well might mean they think you are doing something cool that they would like to do but haven't yet.  

If I comment that I'm jealous, it's not because I'm hating the poster, it's because I'd really like to go, and "I'm jealous" seems to convey the longing I feel to go to that place.  But if I don't go, taht's my issue.  I need to do what I have to do to make it happen.

Or I could just also be commenting to be nice, or to appreciate the view, or know that is a place where someone else really wanted to go, is enjoying it immensely, and I want to be nice about it.

[Deleted]

I limit my FB contacts ... anyone on FB who sees our vacation pictures already knows where we're going.    

I agree that it's easier to say "we went to visit family in Romania and stopped (wherever) for a few days"


 

[Deleted]

Ok. I did gush about Iceland I think. Said it was Awesome and if anyone could they should... I probably should have kept to my generic listing of who what where.

It is awesome though! In my defense.. 

[Ryan]

Normal people can post vacation pictures on facebook and it'd be fine.  Other people can post the same pictures and they are total douches.

This is your standard loser-ish picture that even somewhat normal ladies fall victim to

#beach #cocktails #burnedbabyburned #wheresmydrink #lovemylife #poolboy

[thyme4change]

Oct 26, 2014 12:54:13 GMT -5 oped said:

Ok. I did gush about Iceland I think. Said it was Awesome and if anyone could they should... I probably should have kept to my generic listing of who what where.

It is awesome though! In my defense.. 

I guess I don't think gushing is a problem.  I would rather hear what is actually enjoyable about a place rather than "I travel from point A to point B."  That doesn't help me understand if either of those points should be on my bucket list, or what things are worth doing when I do plan my trip.  

Maybe people who have more restrictions have a different take on it.  The only people that irritate me are the people who post constant travel, and then complain that they are broke.  Duh.  

[swamp]

Oct 26, 2014 12:54:13 GMT -5 oped said:

Ok. I did gush about Iceland I think. Said it was Awesome and if anyone could they should... I probably should have kept to my generic listing of who what where.

It is awesome though! In my defense.. 

No, I agree. Iceland looks awesome. I'm jealous.

[Deleted]

I post travel pictures but not a lot of them. No one really wants to go through 40 of them except maybe my mother and she's not on FB.

I've posted the occasional "I'm jealous" comment but I mean it in a very light-hearted way, i.e. I'd rather be with you in the Caribbean than here at home with a driveway full of snow that needs shoveling.  I accept that FB is carefully-selected positive snippets of the lives of most people and that everyone has bad stuff happen that they don't share.  So yes, it puts a positive spin on most lives.

[swamp]

Oct 26, 2014 13:06:31 GMT -5 @athena53 said:

I post travel pictures but not a lot of them. No one really wants to go through 40 of them except maybe my mother and she's not on FB.

I've posted the occasional "I'm jealous" comment but I mean it in a very light-hearted way, i.e. I'd rather be with you in the Caribbean than here at home with a driveway full of snow that needs shoveling.  I accept that FB is carefully-selected positive snippets of the lives of most people and that everyone has bad stuff happen that they don't share.  So yes, it puts a positive spin on most lives.

You need more drama queens on your FB news feed.

[thyme4change]

Oct 26, 2014 13:06:31 GMT -5 @athena53 said:

 I accept that FB is carefully-selected positive snippets of the lives of most people and that everyone has bad stuff happen that they don't share.  So yes, it puts a positive spin on most lives.

As I call it "The Greatest Hits" version of my life.  

[sesfw]

You need more drama queens on your FB news feed.

No thanks ....... LOL

I have enough of that in real life.

I enjoy seeing pictures of family doing things.  Nephew and wife do a lot of travelling to Thailand.  She is from there and they go about once a year to see family.  She posts just a few pictures and they are so interesting.  I enjoy their trips from afar.

The things I don't allow on FB are political or religious.  IMO both are matchboxes.

[Deleted]

As far as I'm concerned FB is for all the good/fun stuff and the big events that are not so great like letting people know someone has passed or you are dealing with an illness or something. I don't want to read about every squabble you have and your rants about whatever. I see nothing wrong with saying "this is great" when you are enjoying something you are doing. Brag away as far as I'm concerned.

[MarleyKeezy78]

I enjoy vacation photos, it's a chance to see some cool things I may never see and that's just fine by me   Lots of people on my fb page post vacation photos and I may wish I was there but would never be a whiney bitch about it, lol! You earned that vacation, enjoy and post photos, cause I wanna see cool places   

[Cookies Galore]

My life rules, why hide it? When I was in Aruba in March, I shared pictures on Facebook and Instagram. We suffered through the winter from hell, you think I'm not rubbing my vacation in everyone's faces?!

[bean29]

Oct 26, 2014 14:31:56 GMT -5 MarleyKeezy78 said:

I enjoy vacation photos, it's a chance to see some cool things I may never see and that's just fine by me   Lots of people on my fb page post vacation photos and I may wish I was there but would never be a whiney bitch about it, lol! You earned that vacation, enjoy and post photos, cause I wanna see cool places   

I agree. My brother and SIL went to Europe for their 25th Anniversary this year. SIL posted lots of pics. I don't lnow if we will ever get to Europe, but I enjoyed their pics. Friends went to Georgia a few weeks ago to see Bears play...like 4 couples we know, I enjoy the pics and you have more to talk about when you do see them. My friend, who went to college with DH (he is friends with her DH and BIL) said they try to do 1 away game per year.

[Deleted]

I like travel photos in small doses.  That's perfectly fine.  Pre-Facebook I got asked on a date and he had 600 photos of his vacation.  (Yawn).  Obviously there was no second date.

[lynnerself]

I'd much rather see someone's awesome vacation photos than

1. Hear what's for dinner every night.
2. Read their political rants
or
3. Look at "inspirational" pics and sayings.

[Miss Tequila]

Posting my investment balance or salary would be bragging. Posting about vacations isn't bragging. If anyone takes offense to vacation pictures they are just jealous and most likely made poor choices in life. That is on them not me

I do tell people that are posting fabulous vacation picture that I'm jealous...not because in any afford to go but because at that moment I'm not also on vacation so I'm jealous! But that is different than being offended that someone was posting fabulous pictures. But then I'm not a hating bitch :-p

[Miss Tequila]

Oct 26, 2014 20:23:14 GMT -5 @patstab said:

Some of the vacations I can afford the problem is taking my DD out of the country but I'm not trying to make anyone feel sorry for me. So I go and do what I can and still have a heck of a good time.

Why can't you take her out of the country? I have a special needs child and we have travelled internationally with her without an issue. 

[Apple]

I don't know exactly where the line is between the two, but post your photos!  I would rather see someone post photos they took on vacation than vague "why do people do this to me?" type comments (can't think of a real example, fortunately haven't seen it for a little while, but it was constant...)

[ZaireinHD]

Oct 26, 2014 12:18:22 GMT -5 midjd said:

I think the difference lies in "we went to Romania to see family and made a few pitstops on the way back" vs "OMG LOOK AT THIS VIEW! #livingthedream #highrollin #donthatemecuzimfab

this is perfect - I feel the same way

[Miss Tequila]

Oct 26, 2014 22:34:32 GMT -5 Apple said:

I don't know exactly where the line is between the two, but post your photos!  I would rather see someone post photos they took on vacation than vague "why do people do this to me?" type comments (can't think of a real example, fortunately haven't seen it for a little while, but it was constant...)

Aww, the cryptic, whiney posts for attention...now THOSE are annoying. 

[ArchietheDragon]

Why would I post something that I didn't want to brag about?