I agree, but her neighbor still lost a small child, and it was extremely traumatic for my boss (who is a she, not a he, by the way), but certainly nowhere nearly as traumatic as it was for the mom. Yes, she made a lot of wrong decisions that day, I'm sure she's played them over in her mind for most if not all of her waking hours for the past 18 months, and she'll probably continue to do so till she dies.
But I'm not sure what the point of your post / playing the "blame game" is.
I'm just trying to encourage Carl NOT to build any pond on his land, for many, many years.
You are playing the blame game/story game to scare Carl into
not putting a fish pond on his land.
My point is that it is not the pond, per se, that is to blame.
There have been ponds all over the US the entire time I've been alive.
Not having one isn't going to guarantee no tragedies happen to small
children.
I have no idea what the neighbor does feel and did feel. I wasn't there.
My original rest of that post was going to suggest that perhaps the neighbor
also mistakenly blamed your boss instead of herself or even accepting
sometimes things don't work out the way we would like. (Some people
would blame everyone but themselves for the child's death others: themselves.
Hard to know which one she was without an interview IMO.)
As a firm believer in reincarnation, I also believe some people's life paths
definitely include short lives for whatever reason. You can not ever guarantee
someone's safety simply by not having a fish pond, pool, or bathtub.
(Every year some kids will drown in a tub. Some in as little as 4" of water.)
That was my point. And I'll correct the bosses' gender pronoun now.