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Post by Deleted on Sept 12, 2014 19:32:13 GMT -5
The daughter, when she called back the woman who was calling, coulda/woulda/shoulda said: This is XYZ's daughter. XYZ has passed away. No service is planned.
Anyone who doesn't believe someone has passed away, simply has to check Obit notices online by using their name and location - and date (or closest date known) of their death.
As for dating a player (and a broke drinker to boot), I guess if all you want from the relationship is to be taken out for a good time or have a roll in the sack now and then, it's ok for some.
I wouldn't waste time on some guy who's only in it "for the action" - and getting more action on the side. Shows them as thinking that no relationship or person is all that important to them. not every woman is interested in a relationship, they can be in it just 'for the action' too.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Sept 12, 2014 20:47:59 GMT -5
But I wouldn't want to be getting action from someone who's also getting action from other multiple partners. If all you want is a casual relationship and to go out/have a good time and also have a physical relationship without any seriousness or commitment, fine - but sleeping with someone who you know is also getting busy in bed with one or more other people, doesn't speak highly of yourself. I wouldn't sleep with someone who's also actively sleeping with someone else while we're getting together.
I have way more self-esteem than that.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Sept 12, 2014 21:23:03 GMT -5
Way to say it, SL.
That is such bad form to have multiples. If the chart in the drs. office is right on the exponential factor of sleeping around, it doesn't take long to turn into a cesspool.
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Post by tloonya on Sept 13, 2014 8:24:26 GMT -5
Was he married?
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Sept 13, 2014 13:34:10 GMT -5
...:::"If I got along well with the guy I would respond to a call from the daughter. Especially if he wasn't responding to my calls. At the least I would figure he was in the hospital.":::...
If the caller identified him/herself as a child of the person I was dating, sure. If it was a total stranger, no way.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Sept 13, 2014 14:11:48 GMT -5
geez! tough crowd guy has 4 mystery women on his cell and he is labeled a player?
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Post by nutty on Sept 13, 2014 15:11:56 GMT -5
Being in the same situation I would absolutely want to know. Absolutely. I also want to know the date and time of my death so I can dispose of my cell before I pass.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Sept 13, 2014 15:14:17 GMT -5
My brother-in-law? No. He'd been divorced somewhere in the 15-20 year range.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Sept 13, 2014 15:18:55 GMT -5
So, update... or lack thereof.
As far as I know, the woman that the daughter called back never did call her. My BIL didn't have a ton of facebook friends...so not everyone he knew found out that way. My niece would check facebook to see if these women were facebook friends to see if they got the news that way.
BIL #2 was a drug and alcohol counselor and one of his "clients" called his cell phone and my niece answered it. My niece passed it along to my BIL's former boss and it seemed like that was probably a major no-no. But my niece is like well, my dad's dead so it isn't like they can't do anything to him.
My husband's sister was the one that posted it on facebook. My niece was not happy about that and the timing of it all. My niece, husband, BIL #1, and MIL are all extremely private people and the SIL is not. She overshares a lot.
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Post by Opti on Sept 13, 2014 15:28:19 GMT -5
died suddenly, how would you want to hear about it? Back story, my BIL (DH's brother #2) passed away suddenly on Saturday. While going through his stuff, his brothers and daughter found out that BIL was a bit of a player and was "seeing" 4 different women! One of them has called his phone 7 times in the last couple days. So my niece calls the lady back on her phone (so the lady would not have recognized the number) and left a message. "This is Je. John's daughter. Umm... call me". We are curious to see what happens. We've never met or heard of any of these women. On a side note, why in the world would anyone date him, let alone 4 women! He was 51 years old, lived with his mother, had maybe $3k to his name and a car worth maybe a $1000! He had charisma, I'll give him that. My parents always thought he was great, but I'd heard too many stories about his narcissistic alcoholic side to trust him completely. What I would do if I were the one answering my Dead sib's phone calls. Dead sib is no longer available at this number. Dead sib died/passed/made their transition on Month, Day, year. I do not recognize your name or number. If you want further information please call me at <phone number> after two weeks or so. (Optional, listing funeral services, etc. if open to family friends.)
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Post by Spellbound454 on Sept 13, 2014 15:36:51 GMT -5
I'd just send a well worded text on his address list.........and not mention a funeral, thus insinuating its private.
Couldn't really cope with a load of female strangers fighting over him at a funeral.
ie To the phone address list of "Henry Smith"
As the daughter of Henry Smith I sadly have to inform you all that my beloved father passed away on................. May he rest in peace.
S Smith.
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Post by wmpeon on Sept 14, 2014 15:19:44 GMT -5
My dad passed two years ago, deep in debt and losing his home. He kept every receipt and piece of mail he'd ever received, and we learned he had two "relationships". One was with A, who had a daughter and lived in another state. She would send letters thanking my dad for money, stamps, and small gifts for her daughter. The little girl would of course ask her "godfather" to send more gifts. My sister did actually call this woman to let her know dad passed. I was angry and never would have done that. Apparently they had a nice conversation, and this woman was someone my dad had dated a few years before. He had stayed in touch with them and the woman spoke kindly about my father. The other woman was C, and the main source for my anger. C was an inmate, and had been sucking my dad dry for years, even before going to prison. We found dozens of wire transfer receipts, where he sent her money. He kept notes about her going on trips and having manicures, yet he barely had money to eat. But he still kept wiring her money. Once she was in prison, ever single letter she sent asked him to send money. Oh how she loved him and she missed him and oh he needs to send money right away! There were tons of phone bills from collect calls. And the entire week after dad passed, the phone rang, asking if we wanted to accept a collect call from a federal prison. No, no we did not. I am still bitter about the choices my dad made, but realize he was very lonely. This woman preyed on him and none of us knew. Even if we did, it wouldn't have changed anything, because we were his kids and he didn't want us butting into his life. It also hurts knowing that each time I thought I was helping my dad by sending him money, he turned right around and sent it to C. We never corresponded with C, or answered any calls. It was healthier for us.
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Post by Artemis Windsong on Sept 14, 2014 19:12:27 GMT -5
wmpeon - I hope you are in a better place.
I have known 3 men in my family who threw money at tramps while in a good relationship with a quality woman. It's impossible to stop.
Today we learned through FB that my DH's younger brother's GF died suddenly yesterday. Both have been on this board but I don't know what their board names are. They lived together for 31 years at her house. She was raising her grandson.
Most of the family is estranged but the information did get to MIL in the nursing home. She got the name wrong when she repeated it.
RIP.
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Post by wmpeon on Sept 14, 2014 19:53:41 GMT -5
Artemis, thank you, we're fine, it's just that sometimes the flood of emotions come back. Mostly anger and guilt, because I could have corresponded more, or been there more or...something. When in truth it wouldn't have changed anything. Wishing all of us well.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Sept 14, 2014 20:18:18 GMT -5
My dad passed two years ago, deep in debt and losing his home. He kept every receipt and piece of mail he'd ever received, and we learned he had two "relationships". One was with A, who had a daughter and lived in another state. She would send letters thanking my dad for money, stamps, and small gifts for her daughter. The little girl would of course ask her "godfather" to send more gifts. My sister did actually call this woman to let her know dad passed. I was angry and never would have done that. Apparently they had a nice conversation, and this woman was someone my dad had dated a few years before. He had stayed in touch with them and the woman spoke kindly about my father. The other woman was C, and the main source for my anger. C was an inmate, and had been sucking my dad dry for years, even before going to prison. We found dozens of wire transfer receipts, where he sent her money. He kept notes about her going on trips and having manicures, yet he barely had money to eat. But he still kept wiring her money. Once she was in prison, ever single letter she sent asked him to send money. Oh how she loved him and she missed him and oh he needs to send money right away! There were tons of phone bills from collect calls. And the entire week after dad passed, the phone rang, asking if we wanted to accept a collect call from a federal prison. No, no we did not. I am still bitter about the choices my dad made, but realize he was very lonely. This woman preyed on him and none of us knew. Even if we did, it wouldn't have changed anything, because we were his kids and he didn't want us butting into his life. It also hurts knowing that each time I thought I was helping my dad by sending him money, he turned right around and sent it to C. We never corresponded with C, or answered any calls. It was healthier for us. Wow, I'm frustrated just reading this. I cannot imagine being in your situation. I'm so sorry.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Sept 15, 2014 8:29:41 GMT -5
My dad passed two years ago, deep in debt and losing his home. He kept every receipt and piece of mail he'd ever received, and we learned he had two "relationships". One was with A, who had a daughter and lived in another state. She would send letters thanking my dad for money, stamps, and small gifts for her daughter. The little girl would of course ask her "godfather" to send more gifts. My sister did actually call this woman to let her know dad passed. I was angry and never would have done that. Apparently they had a nice conversation, and this woman was someone my dad had dated a few years before. He had stayed in touch with them and the woman spoke kindly about my father. The other woman was C, and the main source for my anger. C was an inmate, and had been sucking my dad dry for years, even before going to prison. We found dozens of wire transfer receipts, where he sent her money. He kept notes about her going on trips and having manicures, yet he barely had money to eat. But he still kept wiring her money. Once she was in prison, ever single letter she sent asked him to send money. Oh how she loved him and she missed him and oh he needs to send money right away! There were tons of phone bills from collect calls. And the entire week after dad passed, the phone rang, asking if we wanted to accept a collect call from a federal prison. No, no we did not. I am still bitter about the choices my dad made, but realize he was very lonely. This woman preyed on him and none of us knew. Even if we did, it wouldn't have changed anything, because we were his kids and he didn't want us butting into his life. It also hurts knowing that each time I thought I was helping my dad by sending him money, he turned right around and sent it to C. We never corresponded with C, or answered any calls. It was healthier for us. Wow, I'm frustrated just reading this. I cannot imagine being in your situation. I'm so sorry. How awful for you.
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