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Post by bookkeeper on Sept 6, 2014 8:39:29 GMT -5
Our sons trained around age 2 and a half. Our daycare provider encouraged us to not use pull ups. Fun patterned underwear had some appeal, as did peeing on tires outside. (we lived in the country)
The thing that worked the best, and my friend who has run daycare for 20 years in her home uses the same trick, was M&M's.
Fill a quart jar with a lid with M&M's. Place it in the bathroom in a conspicuous spot. The child will notice the candy same day for sure. When they want the candy, you explain the potty process. You potty in the toilet, you get the candy. Most children will do the deed to get the one or two M&M's.
It is important for the children to have unrestrictive clothing for the process. They need to be able to pull down undies and pants or shorts by themselves. Summertime is easy for that reason, the kids can just run around the house in their underwear until the time has come.
Each child is different when it comes to toilet training. It takes a large measure of patience and lot of laundry.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2014 8:43:48 GMT -5
I don't like pull ups because they are too much like a diaper so the child doesn't feel the consequences of peeing in them. I waited until my oldest was absolutely ready. I was pregnant when she turned 2 so the pediatrician told me to wait until the baby came to avoid her backtracking. So she was almost 2 1/2. The week after I delivered we started. She peed herself once, was totally grossed out by it and never peed herself again. I'm not sure if it was so easy because I didn't push it when she was really young or the fact that I went straight to underwear. Whatever the reason, I had a very easy time with her Yeah, when your son is old enough (21 months isn't) ditch the Pull Ups. My younger son wore them for a year and we weren't getting anywhere. We had the discussion about preschool and how he couldn't go unless he was potty trained and it was underwear from there on out. Within a couple days he was asking me to pull over while we were driving because he had to go "RIGHT NOW". He wet himself a few times that first week or two, but not much.
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Post by MJ2.0 on Sept 6, 2014 9:48:57 GMT -5
Bribing sounds good - he likes gummy bears and jelly beans
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Post by swamp on Sept 6, 2014 10:47:53 GMT -5
I used peer pressure. He didn't want to potty train. I sent him to preschool at 3.5 and told him his friends would make fun of him if he still wore a diaper.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2014 19:41:03 GMT -5
We started when DS was 18 months old by keeping him naked with a potty and sitting him down on it frequently - like once an hour. The first time he peed we gave him a cookie. He was squeezing out small little pees all afternoon and getting cookies after that. It took another year and a half to be fully potty trained during the day and he stopped having accidents at night around 5. He has super sensitive skin and was getting rashes wherever the diaper/pullup touched so we were kind of motivated. That's why I gave up on the early starting with DS2. The "half-assed" trained is the worst time to me. You're constantly reminding, putting them on the toilet and dealing with the accidents, then BAM somewhere around 3 to 3.5 they have it down no matter when you start. I'd rather just keep them in diapers or Pull Ups until then.
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Post by finnime on Sept 7, 2014 8:42:00 GMT -5
This thread makes me laugh. My DD trained at 2.5 with no issues at all. Eight years later, DS was not interested. I asked his pediatrician why boys take longer typically - after all, they can see what is going on right in front of them. "Yeah, but boys just don't care," he replied. And so it is.
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 7, 2014 8:49:19 GMT -5
Exactly right
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 7, 2014 9:56:24 GMT -5
It's DNA not upbringing. I made DS actually swear on a bible that he would never sit in the toilet for hours and read because it sure as hell does not smell like roses and the idea that any guy enjoys sitting in their own stink is sickening. Women do their business and get the hell away from the smell.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Sept 7, 2014 9:57:26 GMT -5
I think babies being fully potty-trained at 12 months is a myth. Most don't come close to mastering the skill for at least 2 yrs without 'accidents'.
But you can start training boys early by teaching them how to to write their name in the snow. They'll master their aim in no time. . Absolutely not a myth. I was potty trained at 9 months and so were pretty much all other kids where I am from. Mothers were going back to work when kids turned 1 and we didn't have disposable diapers. So, 1+1= potty training before 1
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Post by Deleted on Sept 7, 2014 10:01:50 GMT -5
I think babies being fully potty-trained at 12 months is a myth. Most don't come close to mastering the skill for at least 2 yrs without 'accidents'.
But you can start training boys early by teaching them how to to write their name in the snow. They'll master their aim in no time. . Absolutely not a myth. I was potty trained at 9 months and so were pretty much all other kids where I am from. Mothers were going back to work when kids turned 1 and we didn't have disposable diapers. So, 1+1= potty training before 1 I went back to work when my son was 3 months and didn't use disposables.
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Post by zibazinski on Sept 7, 2014 10:02:09 GMT -5
How the heck did you do it?
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Sept 7, 2014 10:15:33 GMT -5
Absolutely not a myth. I was potty trained at 9 months and so were pretty much all other kids where I am from. Mothers were going back to work when kids turned 1 and we didn't have disposable diapers. So, 1+1= potty training before 1 I went back to work when my son was 3 months and didn't use disposables. I am not working and by the kid #2 switched to disposables
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Post by Deleted on Sept 7, 2014 10:29:12 GMT -5
I went back to work when my son was 3 months and didn't use disposables. I am not working and by the kid #2 switched to disposables I used disposables with both of mine, but not until about the one year mark. That was about how long the whole nursing/cloth diaper thing took to lose it's appeal. Then I handed them a sippy cup and a Pull Up and said "I'm done!". LOL
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Post by swamp on Sept 7, 2014 11:19:41 GMT -5
Ugh... So the other night, my 9yo is in the kitchen and decides he has to go pee so bad that he almost wets his pants so instead of listening to his body and getting himself down the hallway to the bathroom, he stands at the open slider and pees outside. I was livid! Boys are gross! DS prefers to pee off the deck
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Post by Deleted on Sept 7, 2014 15:48:21 GMT -5
I have 3 boys (16-28). They are all toilet trained LOL.
Personally I think your son may not be ready. But it's summer and easier now, so try it. We tried the summer they turned 2. DS2 (born in May) picked it up more easily than DS1 (born in Sept).
I met this grandmother in the park DECADES ago when my two Big Boys were babies, and she was bragging about how her grand daughter was toilet trained at 11 mo, and utterly disgusted because her grandson was "slow" so he was only trained at 21 months, the poor idjut. I thought she was completely insane and felt REALLY sorry for her kids and grandkids.
We put a potty in the downstairs 1/2 bathroom (toilet) and also a toilet seat "adapter" so they had a choice. I'd run the tap (just a trickle). If something happened, the kid got a few Smarties (the French version of M&Ms). If nothing happened, no problem, we'll try again later. But no Smarties either.
So, both encouragement and bribery LOL.
My late dad always used to say, he never saw anybody walk down the aisle wearing diapers, wetting the bed, carrying a lovey, or sucking their thumb or a pacifier. (Not that marriage is the be-all, end-all of existence, but I still think my dad had a good point.)
Also, at the time, we never knew when a kid should be dry at night. We finally figured out that DS1 was old enough to be dry at night when his younger brother (20 months apart) was. So, that took a little longer.
In the scheme of things, what's the rush? (Rainyday, I'm not saying you're rushing things, it's a rhetorical question.)
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 8, 2014 7:10:16 GMT -5
I don't think that my son will understand if I tell him to try to pee on a cheerio. I think that he's not verbal enough. So all boys are potty trained standing up? And why am I infected? what does that mean? Do I have ebola or something? is this a new game? We started training Cabe to pee sitting down at first. First in the potty chair and eventually on the toilet. Assorted thoughts, in no particular order: 1. Peeing came first and pooping took FOREVER, he was scared. 2. We had a bribe bag with cheap stuff from Target. He peed in the toilet or on the potty chair, he got to pick something. I tried to avoid food as a reward for the most part but on the days my Mom had him, he got 1-2 M&Ms for using the toilet/potty chair. 3. We sat him down and read to him. Endlessly. We focused on Potty by Leslie Patriceilli. But find a potty book your kid seems to like and read it to them. 4. Talk about how everyone pees and poops. 5. Find old posts about potty training on the Pregnancy Thread. 6. We potty trained the slow and painful way (from a parental standpoint) and while it worked, it took forever. 7. Pee pads can be very helpful if you move straight to underwear. 8. Clothing that is easily removable is a big plus for potty training. And Moon must have restarted the Zombie game and you're infected, which makes you a Zombie and capable of biting anyone who's got a bite button in the area of their avatar. The whole board is sort of beta testing it for proboards, as I understand it. I'm hoping Moon keeps it until Halloween.
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