ArchietheDragon
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Aug 27, 2014 8:14:59 GMT -5
I think Nutty's point is don't tell her they are doing something and then not do it. Under promising and over delivering is so much a better way to keep clients happy versus blowing smoke up their asses and not meeting deadlines. But also, sometimes shit happens. No deadline was blown. No request for temporary relief is delayed. It's not the end of the world. A self set deadline was blown. Not the end of the world. But not a happy client.
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Post by michelyn8 on Aug 27, 2014 9:01:22 GMT -5
Ok so they didn't get it filed in the timeframe stated. Not a big deal really. Are you going to get bent out of shape when your lawyer tells you the judge will get to it in a certain time frame and the judge decides there are other cases that take priority?
Nothing about divorce is quick and easy. When I decided to pursue mine in 1992 I had been working in law offices for attorneys practices domestic relations for nearly 5 years. I knew that statute allowed an attorney to file in one of three court locations - city/county where couple were married, city/county they last resided as husband and wife or current city/county either party had resided the last six months. I lived in a county with a smallish population and knew if filed there it would get in front of the judge within a month. However, my attorney chose to file in the county we had last lived together which was twice the size of mine. So instead of having my divorce within a month or so filing, it took closer to five before my divorce was final. I wasn't happy when I saw the court he chose but since he was giving me a discounted rate and it was no-fault divorce I just dealt with it. The end result was the same.
In VA you wouldn't even be able to file your divorce petition with the court under one of two situations: 1) you had been living separate and apart for more than six months and had a separation agreement or no minor children of the marriage; or 2) had been living separate and apart for more than one year. I don't remember your exact situation but I'm fairly certain you wouldn't meet either of these standards yet and would still be waiting to start the process.
ETA: the process does go quicker for cases involving adultery but from what I understand one party pretty much has to personally catch the other in the act for such a case to be expedited.
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Post by tloonya on Aug 27, 2014 9:21:48 GMT -5
She is a lawyer. What did you expect? You not afraid of swamp a bit, right?
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Post by Formerly SK on Aug 27, 2014 9:45:28 GMT -5
Just because you need an address from your XH doesn't mean you need to tell him when he'll be served. If he asks, you just say "I don't know." Initiating contact for subject X doesn't not require you to talk about Y and Z.
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Post by whoami on Aug 27, 2014 9:47:09 GMT -5
"Don't lie to me, it doesn't set the stage for the future." My guess is you are not ready so you are looking for any excuse. Of course this is it. Its also the reason she told him he is being served. She wants him to beg her to change her mind and come home. She gave him an ultimatum and he called her bluff. He doesn't care one way or the other whether they are married or not.....she continues to try and manipulate the response she wants from him.
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Post by Angel! on Aug 27, 2014 9:52:59 GMT -5
I think Nutty's point is don't tell her they are doing something and then not do it. Under promising and over delivering is so much a better way to keep clients happy versus blowing smoke up their asses and not meeting deadlines. I agree. Personally I hate the people that over-promise & under-deliver, some just seem to have that in their personality & do it all the time. But no telling if the lawyer is like that or if shit just blew up & she couldn't get it done like she thought. If it keeps happening though, then I would get annoyed.
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Post by billisonboard on Aug 27, 2014 10:06:51 GMT -5
We call her "nutty" but her attorney calls her "new car".
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 27, 2014 10:54:53 GMT -5
clerk. Just because it's normal procedure to assign a case number within X minutes or hours after receiving the filing doesn't mean every specific case follows this timeline
In the land of academia the amount of middle men I have to deal with is insane. Normally getting a PO takes 24hrs or less. That didn't happen last week and I needed the PO ASAP. Turns out to get approved the order has to go thru four different people and the fourth person was taking his time. It couldn't go forward till he signed off.
I can't control what that fourth person does. I didn't lie about putting in the order at all, it got stuck in the red tape.
When it comes to deadlines my boss and myself have had to make decisions because EVERYONE wants their stuff done "yesterday" and we can't realistically accommodate that. So sometimes we decide based who we want to curry favor with more. This summer we decided to piss off one collaborator because the other collaborator offers us more opportunities for work in the future which equals more grant money. So SR had to get in line behind them.
I completed everything and I did it within a month. I just didn't dance to the tune SR wanted me to.
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 27, 2014 10:58:23 GMT -5
"Don't lie to me, it doesn't set the stage for the future." My guess is you are not ready so you are looking for any excuse. Of course this is it. Its also the reason she told him he is being served. She wants him to beg her to change her mind and come home. She gave him an ultimatum and he called her bluff. He doesn't care one way or the other whether they are married or not.....she continues to try and manipulate the response she wants from him. Let's not assume we know what another is thinking, or what they want, or why they're doing a given thing. We don't know and it's not our business to tell other people what they're doing and why. Give an opinion, or advice, but don't put people down while doing so. It doesn't serve to further the conversation. It doesn't serve any good purpose at all.
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Post by Regis on Aug 27, 2014 12:00:24 GMT -5
I'm also curious as to why it's assumed the lawyer lied, rather than the clerk. Isn't effective lying actually taught to lawyers in law school? I'm sure the clerk didn't take that course! And you know I only kid with you because I know you can take it, right Mid?
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