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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 17, 2014 20:43:45 GMT -5
A while back I started a thread about asking your parents' permission to marry.
But, regardless of your opinions on the formal process (or lack thereof) how did your parents feel about your spouse before you married? Did they like him/her? Or was there any disapproval and dislike? Has that changed at all?
What about the opposite, how did your SO's parents feel about you? Was there any disapproval there, and how has your relationship with your in laws changed and evolved?
What about those of you with ex spouses, do you still have a positive relationship with your ex's parents?
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Post by giramomma on Aug 17, 2014 21:09:39 GMT -5
My parents had misgivings about my husband.
Some of them were correct. I wish they would have said something to me about the lack of non-sexual intimacy DH and I had. But, then they would have had to admit that their example of a marriage was a very poor one. That was my one red flag about my H's addiction. I brushed it off, because I thought a marriage was not supposed to any emotional intimacy, since that is what was modeled for me. (I really was exposed to only one marriage. I grew up very isolated..)
If I would have listened to that one niggle, my path would have been much different. I never would have married my husband.
Others were not correct. My parents firmly believe that a man's job/worth is tied to his paycheck. It didn't matter to them, if having a DH be a SAHD meant that our family had acheived a good work/life balance. It didn't matter than our kids are happy and actually don't want both of us working full time. Being a SAHM was noble. Being a SAHD was being a user and shameful.
DH's parents weren't thrilled that we lived together before we got married. DH's mom thought we were playing house. If she had known me better, she wouldn't have said that. And, we also were living with 4 other people, so it wasn't like we were living together.
I think they like me well enough, though. We like each other enough to vacation together. We are the ones that are providing them with grandchildren.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Aug 17, 2014 23:03:04 GMT -5
My first marriage, my father tried his best to talk me out of it. Eight years later, I told him he was right and I was sorry and could he help me get out of it. He never gloated and helped me emotionally and financially.
My mother chooses my ex husband over me. I can't get over that and she doesn't understand why.
Because of my mother's reaction to my ex husband, I'd didn't care about her opinion about my second husband. My father thought my second husband is the best choice I or my.sisiters have made.
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Post by cronewitch on Aug 18, 2014 2:39:18 GMT -5
We married before my parents met him and he was an orphan. I had met his grand parents and they loved me. He kept telling me his mother had been beautiful and I would have loved her. I agreed I would have loved her so that made her the perfect mother in law I just had to agree she was wonderful without knowing her.
He met my parents about 6 months after we were married and they didn't say how they felt about him since it was too late. After divorced the told me everything they hated about him. I don't think he liked them at all either.
My parents thought my ISO is wonderful and he them. He spent an hour or more talking to my mom while she was on hospice and later she told me he told her he loved her and he loved me.
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Post by truthbound on Aug 18, 2014 4:47:31 GMT -5
How did your parents feel about your spouse? Vice Versa?
I dunno. I never asked. When my wife and I are old they will be long since dead. I could give a shit less what they think.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 18, 2014 6:56:37 GMT -5
My parents pressured me into número UNO. That didnt last and I got it annulled. Number two my mom warned me not to marry him and my entire family didn't attend because they were so opposed to it. They were right and I was wrong. But I knew not to anyway and did it in spite of them. I was wrong and they were right.
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Post by steph08 on Aug 18, 2014 7:00:22 GMT -5
If my parents ever had any misgivings about my DH, they never said anything to me. They might not have liked their 20-year-old dating a 26-year-old college dropout who worked in a factory but never said anything. Then he went back to college and got a good job.
My mom said that I was immeasurably happier once I started dating him, so I think that was enough for them.
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Post by cael on Aug 18, 2014 7:21:17 GMT -5
When DH and I started dating he was an 18yo high school dropout, so my parents did not like that. We lasted and went through a lot together (and he shaped the eff up), by the time we got engaged at 27 they loved him and they still do ("you're my favorite son-in-law!!" my mother tells him - he's her only SIL ) DH's mom liked me from the get go. Sometimes I think she has this picture of me as that DIL who encourages her little boy to not call her... however that's all him not wanting to call her! But overall she likes me. DH's dad liked me too despite the fact that I wasn't Greek, lol, I wish he was still kicking around to see us married.
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Post by ArchietheDragon on Aug 18, 2014 7:25:04 GMT -5
We dated for a long time before getting engaged and then married, so we each knew the inlaws pretty well. There is not much to not like about either of us. We may not be that exciting, but we fairly likable. So far as I know, no issue on either side.
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Post by tractor on Aug 18, 2014 7:41:53 GMT -5
My parents never really said anything. My mom and dad saw girl friends come and go. They were always kind to them and never tried to interfere with my choices. When I finally got engaged, my parents were in the middle of their divorce so they had other things to focus on. My dad liked to tell everyone that one marriage was ended, and a new one began, so things balanced out.
My wedding was the first time my patents were in the same room since their divorce, there was more than a little tension, but everything worked out.
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Post by happyhoix on Aug 18, 2014 7:51:55 GMT -5
Well, my mom is a control freak who expected all her daughters to marry WASP (of our denomination only) who was either a lawyer, a doctor or an MBA and live in houses just down the street from her, so she could continue to 'advise' us on how to live our lives on a daily basis.
I moved as far from home as I could when I graduated from high school, and purposely didn't tell my mom a thing about the guys I was dating because I knew she would pick holes in all of them. When I decided to get married, she viewed it as the worst decision of my life because DH was working as a bartender (getting his masters degree on the side), because he was Southern (southern people are all backwoods inbred hillbillies), his mother worked (only poor women worked, because they married badly) and because DH"s father wasn't socially prominent in his community. Mom hated DH, looked down on his family, hated our wedding (not fancy enough, no sit down dinner afterwards - but she never offered to pay a penny towards the kind of fancy wedding she expected me to have). For about five years she never had a good thing to say about DH, even when he turned out to be hard working and the perfect match for me.
After five years, one of my other sisters married someone who mom thought was even worse (a guy who was previously married and divorced - unforgivable, according to Mom). She became preoccupied with hating that SIL more than my DH, and then we had a beautiful baby and DH turned out to be a really great dad to him, so by about ten years in, DH had moved up to the 2nd SIL spot, behind her favorite daughter's husband.
I never thought DH would ever overtake the golden child's husband (everything about the golden child is perfect) but it turned out golden child's DH has a temper, never helps around the house and spends all his spare time working out, rather than being with his kids, so at this point, 30 plus years in, DH is her favorite SIL, amazingly enough.
Which just goes to show you, if you have a crazy parent, ignore them when they try to tell you who you have to marry or not marry.
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 18, 2014 7:58:39 GMT -5
My parents weren't thrilled about my choice in life partner but always work to stay positive. I know my mom would be happier if dh had taken on more household chores and not brought home a bunch of animals for me to take care of. They know he is a great dad. He see's my folks almost more than I do since I work during the week.
Dh's parents told me that I would never be welcome in their home which lasted 7 months or so until they decided that dh might come to his senses about me if he didn't have to prove anything to them. 17 years later I'd say they like me well enough. We'll never have much in common, but that's ok too.
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Post by thyme4change on Aug 18, 2014 8:03:23 GMT -5
My parents seem to like him. If they didn't I wouldn't have known before we were married. I suspect if they had misgivings I would have suspected by now. I'm under the impression my mother is more worried about what havoc I would bring to my husband's life rather than vice-versa.
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Post by The Captain on Aug 18, 2014 8:03:34 GMT -5
Wow...this is so loaded on so many levels.
When DH and I got engaged I'm know my parents both liked him (and vice versa). I know (it's been confirmed) that his parents did not approve of me and felt DH was marrying beneath him.
Then DH put us through some rough times and frankly, took much longer to grow up then he should have. We worked it out and our marriage is stronger for it, at least I think so.
That rough patch changed my parents perception of DH, and I won't go into details, but there were some interesting discussions. OTOH I know that DH's mother (at least) has a change of view towards me after I stuck through things with her son.
DH's father can pound sand. That's all I will say.
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Post by TheHaitian on Aug 18, 2014 8:40:51 GMT -5
Loaded question...
I will start with my in-law's.
My MIL I think after 11 years likes me and warmed up to me. I think the same can be said for my in-laws but it wasn't always the case.
They all felt my wife could have done better: - I am Haitian - I am black - My family wasn't known on the Haitian social scene.
Why do I say Haitian when my wife family is Haitian? Because I truly believe my wife family is doing like Argentina and erasing the black from their gene pool or diluting it as much as possible. They promote and encourage their kids to date outside of their race, aka non-Haitian/non-black
I should say my wife family is mixed to begin with, her grandfather was French that fell in love with a Haitian/black girl and had 6 kids. I guess they never truly accepted the Haitian/black side and have been actively working on erasing it.
My wife is the only one out of her 9 cousins that married someone that that is a) black b) Haitian. And her mom was the only one of the six children that did the same (married someone black and Haitian) but my deceased FIL got a pass for being black and Haitian because he was rich, was a Senator at the time he passed away and his family was well known.
My wife even went as far as to suggest if we go the the sperm donor route we should pick someone that is white, mixed or Asian... This way our kids will look/fit in with their cousins. My answer was: maybe the cousins on her side, but not the ones on my side.
While on my side we still haven't venture much outside of our culture/race. Can count on one hand how many in my family that are not married/dating or have babies with someone that is a) not Haitian b) not black.
On the other hand, my mom liked my wife well enough at the beginning, thought she was too quiet to fit in in our family (we are a loud bunch) and too snobbish (while my wife and her family considers my family ghetto). 11 years later, she loves her and even goes out of her way to call my wife and talked to her... More so lately that she wants grand kids. My wife is still the outsider when it comes to my family, seat on the side and acts polite.
My dad: don't know... I never asked him and I figure wether he approves or not after 4 failed marriages, 7 kids by 4 different baby mamas he really wasn't an authority on marriage. He felt I got too serious way too young and every year I stay married I think it pisses him off more because that is another year he has to wait to tell me: I told you so.
My dad is one of those that believe that none of his failed relationships was his fault, that he is the victim in all this and women should not be trusted...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2014 8:45:44 GMT -5
What about those of you with ex spouses, do you still have a positive relationship with your ex's parents?
My ex and I didn't have in-law problems. Nobody disliked anyone. I loved it that his Mom was kind, but she stayed out of our business.
We maintained a positive relationship for years after my ex and I divorced. They still helped me with the kids, still called to see how we were doing and to ask to see the kids, things like that. Then I got kind of pissed with them because they treated DD like a princess her senior year in high school, then when DS was a senior the next year, it was like he didn't exist. Only my side of the family went to his graduation, which was the last straw for me. DD had moved out of my house her senior year and barely graduated, DS earned a sponsored (all expenses paid) trip to California to compete in a national art competition his senior year and had no problem graduating. I didn't understand why they weren't equally supportive of him, especially since he'd done so much better in school than DD did.
We all still have amicable relationships. Most of our ties and communication was because of the children. Now the children are adults and we don't talk or see each other often.
My in-laws didn't care for my ex's 2nd wife because she was a real piece of work, and they disapproved of his 3rd marriage and declined to attend the ceremony. I was his 1st wife.
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Post by alabamagal on Aug 18, 2014 8:56:54 GMT -5
My DH's grandfather was a Baptist preacher. When he told him he was going to marry me (I was Catholic) he didn't say much, but had a stroke later that day. Now there were other contributing factors to his stroke, but that may have just put him over the top.
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Post by Jake 48 on Aug 18, 2014 9:00:03 GMT -5
My parents are both deceased, they did know my ex and treated her wonderfully. they never met DW or my DSD but I'm sure they would have got along fine. DW and my mom both nurses, so they would have talked shop. My dad loved everyone, could fine good in the worse person. He would love DSD, she has a soft spot for little old men and my dad would love the attention. I still see my ex's parents on occasion,we get along fine, her dad is stand offish,ex did not have much of a relationship with him, oh well. Still talk to my ex's sisters, get invited to family gatherings DW has not spoken to her parents or siblings in 5 years, when SIL got divorced, DW would not take sides against SIL's soon to be ex, created a lot of animosity and they are all stubborn DW's parents love me, I did after all take DW and DSD off their hands ( they were living in the basement apartment of their house when we met) I remind my FIL of the fact I'm waiting on my dowry still I get invited to all family gatherings, holidays etc.. DW is fine with me going and I figure it keeps the door open if they all pull their heads out of their arses and bury the hatchet
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 18, 2014 9:02:36 GMT -5
That would do it. My grandparents were baptist and they didnt care much at all for Catholics. My grandma said something to my mom about me "dating" a boy that was catholic and my mom said at my age, 13, she wasnt overly concerned about it since our dates consisted of bike rides and ice cream.
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Post by Pants on Aug 18, 2014 9:08:59 GMT -5
My parents wanted me to marry someone educated and ambitious, not the bouncer from a dive bar. That said they've very much come around and absolutely treat him like family and accept him and may even love him.
I believe his parents WANT to love me, and may even believe they do. But honestly, in their eyes I'm a breadwinning atheist liberal who (they believe) turned their son against Christ and against the GOP. None of those things are acceptable to them. They might be sorry if I dropped dead tomorrow, but mostly it would be because they didn't have a chance to lead me to the love of the Lord.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Aug 18, 2014 9:17:00 GMT -5
My parents, especially my father, disliked DH intensely. DH was a huge slacker living off of the bank of mom and dad when we met. While I doubt my dad would have liked any guy of any age with that attitude it was made worse by the fact DH is 10 years older than me.
My dad's fears were valid, I just didn't appreciate the method of delivery. If he had talked to me like an adult rather than expecting me to obey because "me parent, you child" he would have understood I'd already addressed all that with DH and had no intentions of ever walking down the aisle if DH didn't grow up.
It also doesn't help that DH is the most oblivious person I've ever met. I've told him I am going to record conversations on certain subjects and play them back because he has no clue how he comes across to other people. He went and asked for my hand in marriage and basically came across as a man with no ambition beyond waiting for his rich parents to die so he could continue to sit on his ass.
DH swears he didn't mean it like that but my brother and mom heard the same thing. I asked DH to repeat the conversation to me and geeze louise. I told him I wouldn't have approved of my kid marrying him either!
My dad and I fought over DH all the way till the start of the wedding. I finally told him don't come, but I was going thru with it he couldn't tell me what to do.
In face of losing his relationship with me my dad sucked it up and my parents worked really hard to at least tolerate DH after that.
They've since come around because DH did finally pull his head of his ass and grow up. Seeing what a good father DH is to Gwen has also really helped improve his public image.
DH's family has always been very welcoming of me. I was a breath of fresh air compared to the last two girlfriends DH had apparently.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 18, 2014 9:26:21 GMT -5
Isn't that funny? One time DD dated someone she was sure I'd approve of. On the surface he looked good and considering what she had brought around in the past I was thrilled for her and for me. Then she goes to meet his family and his grandmother commented to her on her nice manners and how relieved she was for her grandson to finally be dating someone decent. DD repeats this to me thinking I will be thrilled that she made such a good impression and that his family liked her. When I heard this I asked DD if she REALLY liked this guy or liked his background, career choice, family? She kind of hesitated and I told her that if she got involved with this guy he would break her heart because he likes dating losers that he can rescue and that are hugely inferior to him. She wasnt any of that and he wasnt going to be able to deal with her or that fact. About 5 minutes later he dumped her for one of his former train wrecks.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 18, 2014 9:27:42 GMT -5
My mom was not thrilled at the concept of DH - 17 years older than me, not college educated. As soon as she met him, she liked him (or at least acted like it). My Dad seems like to like my DH. Since we've been married they treat us like we are both their kids. That is what they do with my sibling's spouses as well. We are all one big happy family. (It is probably a little sickeningly sweet for outsiders to see). My mom's mom can be very difficult and one night my dad and I went over to have supper with her while mom was out of town. Afterwards I asked my dad about how he can get along with Grandma while she drives me nuts. He simply said she is family and we do our best to get along with family. He and my mom truly believe that it is better to have a loving relationship than an adversarial one. And I love them to do death for that attitude. My MIL was just so thrilled that her 40 year old son was getting married that she loved me on the spot. I don't have a close relationship with her, but she is very hands off with her grown kids. I think it is a little too hands off, but if the alternative is that she is in our space all the time and trying to break us up, than I'll take what we have.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Aug 18, 2014 9:30:32 GMT -5
My mom REALLY liked my husband from the moment she met him
My dad didn't take any of my relationships seriously until they were serious - at least engagement, so didn't really try to get to know my husband while we were dating.
My IL's.....well, my MIL told my husband, in front of me, on the day of our engagement that he should be really careful in marrying me bc I will not be a good supportive wife to him. That was only the second time she met me.
My FIL told me on the same day that unless I do x, he will not welcome me into HIS family. I told him I needed time to think about it.
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Post by sheilaincali on Aug 18, 2014 9:42:18 GMT -5
My parents absolutely HATED my first husband. From the day they met him they hated him. But they never said a negative word about him until we got divorced (4 months into the marriage). Then my dad was all "let me tell you everything we have left unsaid for the past 2 years". I wish they would have spoken up sooner but I don't know that I would have listened.
DH and I eloped so neither set of parents met their new SIL or DIL until 4 months after we were married.
With regards to my DH. My parents like him fine. But we frustrate them because we aren't as needy and my siblings. We just kind of do our own thing and don't ask for their advice in advance. My siblings don't switch brands of toilet paper without getting my parent's input first. My husband works within our industry (we are a road construction company and he is a Project Manager for an engineering firm) so Dad will call up DH and ask his advice on things and run ideas past him. We are cordial but not particularly "close" if that makes since. Although some of that has to do with my idiot brother.
My MIL hates me. She used to fake it for years but finally admitted 5 or 6 years ago that she doesn't like me. We don't speak at all. She has offered to pay for a divorce several times and makes comments to DH about former girl friends. Things like "it's really too bad things didn't work out with you and Jody". MIL hasn't seen DH or DS since 2009. DH is an only child. She know sends a FB message two or three times a year and that's it for communication with her.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 18, 2014 11:46:14 GMT -5
They never said anything, but I didn't think they liked him. They were right. After the divorce, I never saw him or the in-laws again. No reason to, no kids.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Aug 18, 2014 13:04:57 GMT -5
My mom wanted me to marry the gorgeous lawyer I was dating when I was 19. She LOVED him but hated the ball player I ended up dating after. But I never intended to get married so it was all moot at the time. So imagine her surprise when during a conversation with her a couple of years later I said "Oh. I'm getting married." She flipped out! She never even met him yet. He was the District Manager of Burger King. She REALLY flipped out over that because I was marrying some hamburger flipper. LOL! I never was a snob about those things but he ended up being the V.P. of the Corporation (the owner owned various restaurants and fast food places and a grocer, etc.) and President of one of their franchises and he made over double what her Commander in the Navy ever made. My step dad told me she kept him up all night crying and yelling about the entire situation and was so glad she calmed down after she met him. She fell in love with him and was planning on moving in with us in her old age after we built our beautiful home on a lake. So you can imagine her surprise when I told her I was divorcing him. And then when I told her I was in love with now DH2 who she knew since he was a little boy she thought I went mad. He was broke and was living aimlessly and she and my soon to be ex made me go see a marriage counselor because I clearly had lost my mind or my hormones were screwed up. Guess who referred me to the counselor. The lawyer I used to date who was also going through a divorce. LMAO!! He wanted to hook up again but I already was in love with DH2 who my mom adored once she got to know him as an adult! So my very long answer is: She loved them more than me and always took their side no matter what the situation was but only after bitching at me until she got to that point.
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Post by quince on Aug 18, 2014 13:31:24 GMT -5
My parents think my husband is a good match for me and an awesome father, and with the example of my last boyfriend, they certainly should be falling over themselves to make him feel welcome. They also think his shirts are too small and he's a bit strange, but that just makes him a better match for me. I don't know what his parents think of me- probably not much, but I don't care, so that's OK. His mom does periodically thank me for loving her son, and I think she is just happy he settled down and had a child, because when we started dating she would ask him every week when she called him if he'd met anyone yet.
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Post by emma1420 on Aug 18, 2014 14:51:42 GMT -5
My mother can't stand my SIL. She thinks she's white trash and that my brother is good for her. My SIL can't stand my mother, so at least the feeling is mutual. It was hate at first sight.
My grandmother waxes poetic about my aunt's first husband (who cheated on her and left for another woman), but hates her current husband (who also cheated on her, but they worked through it). I don't really get it myself.
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Post by zibazinski on Aug 18, 2014 14:53:59 GMT -5
I want to think "my kid got lucky" when they marry their future partner. I don't want to think the future partner got lucky.
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