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Post by nutty on Jul 31, 2014 7:53:56 GMT -5
It's a guy that lives in this complex, his apartment directly faces mine but across the courtyard. We started saying hello about six weeks ago as I smoke outside on my balcony (I KNOW BAD) so would see everyone. One day he came over with a chair that he had on his patio and said he didn't want me to sit on the balcony floor anymore (aww how sweet) and we have chatted outside a lot since then.
I declined but I was tempted as I have no car and it would be nice to get out for a change.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 31, 2014 7:55:20 GMT -5
I'd have told him that now isn't the best time for you but you'll take a Raincheck.
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Post by nutty on Jul 31, 2014 7:56:51 GMT -5
I did, I told him thank you for the invitation, it is not the right time for me.
Actually I think I said it is not a good time for me.
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Post by The Captain on Jul 31, 2014 7:59:05 GMT -5
 Nice little esteem boost, eh?  Smart choice. Which begs another question, have you given any serious thought as to how long you will wait before dating again? You've been on a long term relationship for awhile and I honestly don't know what's best in this situation (as I would be in if DH and I were to split). I know when you've been dating for awhile you're not supposed to rebound quickly, but don't know the "rules".
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 31, 2014 8:00:58 GMT -5
She isn't divorced yet and I'm not sure even filed. Plenty of time to date. There's a huge process involved, emotional as well as legal. All stages need to be gotten through. I'm not saying wait until the ink is dry but there's a lot of emotional stuff going on. You don't want to rebound because you're feeling lonely one night.
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Post by nutty on Jul 31, 2014 8:02:16 GMT -5
I have thought about that, I have plenty of time to think and very much overthink LOL. Right now I do not want to be bothered, rebounds are real and I think in the long run unsustainable. I was thinking next year.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 31, 2014 8:19:39 GMT -5
I've been separated for 13 months, divorced for almost 6 and I still have zero desire to date. I don't know. Maybe it was the crazy way things went down with no closure, but I still feel married.
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Post by nutty on Jul 31, 2014 8:31:56 GMT -5
MPL, everyone is different and certainly you and I's situation is different though from the same source. You have little ones, I do not. You had a situation thrust upon you that you were not prepared for, well I did too but certainly not as dramatic as him going to jail, working full time, taking care of two kids etc. I feel that I probably have the time and funds (therapy) to fully heal and get to understand myself better more than you at this time.
I didn't think of that aspect Sroo, I declined so not really an issue at the moment
I know right Captain, quite an ego boost and at a good time !!
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Jul 31, 2014 12:26:49 GMT -5
I think it depends on what you want from dating. If you just want to get out of the house and have a few laughs, why wait? If you want to look for your next serious relationship, it's still a bit soon.
When I split with ex-h, I was on my first date within days. But, I was only interested in laughs and sex, not a relationship.
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Post by nutty on Jul 31, 2014 12:29:43 GMT -5
If I were to date any time soon I am certainly not looking or ready for a relationship so it would be for some laughs, adult time ( I don't mean sex ) get out of the apartment etc.
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Post by nutty on Jul 31, 2014 12:43:40 GMT -5
An invitation to dinner is certainly no "let's be serious and exclusive" I know that |
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Post by tloonya on Jul 31, 2014 13:30:52 GMT -5
It's a guy that lives in this complex, his apartment directly faces mine but across the courtyard. We started saying hello about six weeks ago as I smoke outside on my balcony (I KNOW BAD) so would see everyone. One day he came over with a chair that he had on his patio and said he didn't want me to sit on the balcony floor anymore (aww how sweet) and we have chatted outside a lot since then. I declined but I was tempted as I have no car and it would be nice to get out for a change.  nutty, I KNEW you are a hot piece of ass! Go for it and don't think about anything. You are a free woman! And why everybody is assuming nutty doesn't want to date? I don't see her saying that. And declining today might be just that. Today.  BTW I have no idea how divorce ended? Where is that thread? |
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Post by t-dog on Jul 31, 2014 14:20:54 GMT -5
I have been widowed for 5.5 years and really only just started to feel like its time to date.
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