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Post by nutty on Jul 29, 2014 12:31:23 GMT -5
I feel like asking this question to get opinions on it. What is the difference between self esteem and self confidence. Can a person have one without the other? Edited to add Self Worth into the mix. Edited and Edited again to add Self Acceptance and Self Respect (Miss M. told me that one). Hey does the period go in or outside the bracket?
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Post by nutty on Jul 29, 2014 12:33:03 GMT -5
A quick google. It would seem that I have self confidence but low self esteem. Back to googling
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jul 29, 2014 12:37:54 GMT -5
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Post by nutty on Jul 29, 2014 12:40:19 GMT -5
I guess I am not really get it or my brain is on shut down mode today. One of the sites I googled said self esteem comes from outside influences like someone complimenting you .. PSSHHH that hasn't happened in years.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Jul 29, 2014 13:43:44 GMT -5
All I know is that I'm awesome... and you should think so, too!
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Post by nutty on Jul 29, 2014 14:03:22 GMT -5
I do honey I DO !!!!
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Post by Shooby on Jul 29, 2014 14:06:13 GMT -5
Well, why are you asking? You don't "need" to be anyone other than who you are.
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Post by jkapp on Jul 29, 2014 14:06:20 GMT -5
I feel like asking this question to get opinions on it. What is the difference between self esteem and self confidence. Can a person have one without the other? Edited to add Self Worth into the mix. Edited and Edited again to add Self Acceptance and Self Respect (Miss M. told me that one). Hey does the period go in or outside the bracket? I remember a teacher years gao explaining this in a funny way: Having self-confidence means knowing you can do something; having low self-esteem means you hate yourself for doing it.
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Post by nutty on Jul 29, 2014 14:09:27 GMT -5
I am asking because I can. It is something I have thought about over the years and never really understood the difference. I know I can read it but I am having trouble GRASPING the concept.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 29, 2014 14:10:36 GMT -5
Ok, I was just curious.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 29, 2014 14:12:01 GMT -5
I personally think these things are overrated. There are far TOO many people with cocky self assured "confidence" who really have no skills or knowledge whatsoever. They got a lot of trophies for breathing when they were kids so they think their shite doesn't stink when in fact they are just idiots. But, at least they feel good about themselves!
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Post by tloonya on Jul 29, 2014 14:35:16 GMT -5
Great thread, honey. I have a friend who's sister was always a beauty and she was the beast. And she isn't a beast. She is just not such a beauty. Good looking woman.
So the beast was living in a shadow of the beauty. Beast got married to a man who was good for nothing except they've got a beautiful child. Beauty got married to a man good for nothing with narsissic complex. They got 2 beautiful children.
At the end beast left her husband and got married again and happily ever after. The beauty kept forgiving her husband for affairs and kept taking him back until he left her for good for 20 y/younger woman.
So the moral is beauty had no self-esteem whatsoever. Even she was told her whole life she is a beauty - it done nothing to her self-esteem. She was still doubting everything she saw in the mirror and had heard from people. So ether you are born with it or not. You can't get it.
Beauty however was very good at her job and raising her kids, so when we talked about that she was always very confident in her professional skills and worthiness of her children. I say in this story self-worth for her would be same as self-confidence. I think now that self-confidence is collective of everything above. You can be self-confident at work and absolute mess at home. But with good self-esteem you can't be mess at home. You know you will not tolerate bull and he knows, so it is all good.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 29, 2014 14:39:10 GMT -5
All I know is that I'm awesome... and you should think so, too! And speaking of Honey BBQ....didya know it's National Chicken Wing Day?
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Post by nutty on Jul 29, 2014 14:50:13 GMT -5
I like my chickens medium hot.
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Post by tloonya on Jul 29, 2014 14:59:34 GMT -5
I like my chickens medium hot. Can you like chicken this way?
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Post by greeniis10 on Jul 29, 2014 15:00:32 GMT -5
Tloonya's story is a very good example of self-esteem vs. self-confidence. If you're told all the time how great and special you are but never develop any skills or become a productive member of society, you may have self-esteem but not self-confidence.
It works both ways, too. DS2 is told a lot that he's cocky and arrogant, but he's been berated and put down by his father his whole life so he lacks self-esteem, but he IS self-confident in his job, his abilities to care for himself, his home, his vehicles, his dogs, etc. and his musical talent.
BOTH self-esteem and self-confidence are necessary to be a happy, well-rounded person, IMO.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jul 29, 2014 15:02:44 GMT -5
All I know is that I'm awesome... and you should think so, too! We do
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Post by cronewitch on Jul 29, 2014 17:45:04 GMT -5
Self esteem or self respect is liking who you are if you have skills or talent or not. Even a special child is worth the air they breath and have a self worth, there isn't a reason they should be treated as less than the typical sibling. Self confidence is knowing you are good at things or will become good at them. Take a task like doing a gymnastic move, some can, some can't and some just didn't learn it yet. Arrogance is thinking you are better than you are. Telling a child keep trying you can learn this is better than telling them they are too unable to ever learn it if it is something they can do. I am old woman who will never do gymnastic moves, I still have self respect and self esteem it is one of hundreds of things I can't do. I still deserve to be to treated well even if I lack some skills and talents.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 29, 2014 18:08:44 GMT -5
Very well said Crone.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Jul 29, 2014 18:19:18 GMT -5
I think you need to have self-esteem in order to have true self-confidence.
Anyone who doesn't have self-esteem (pride in themselves and how they act or behave), and *thinks* they have self-confidence, probably more likely has a sense of conceit, ego, arrogance, self-importance - whatever title you want to put on it.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 29, 2014 18:23:11 GMT -5
Meh. Just be yourself.
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Post by kittensaver on Jul 29, 2014 18:49:58 GMT -5
But what if "yourself" is a hot mess?
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Post by Shooby on Jul 29, 2014 18:53:03 GMT -5
According to whom?
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Post by Shooby on Jul 29, 2014 18:54:17 GMT -5
I dunno. Life would be pretty boring without a few hot messes around. So what?
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 29, 2014 20:01:37 GMT -5
But what if "yourself" is a hot mess?
I'm an awesome hot mess!
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Post by nutty on Jul 29, 2014 20:51:56 GMT -5
I am an awesome hot mess who makes epic bad decisions right now, and I am okay with that for now.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 30, 2014 11:17:59 GMT -5
Why? So you aren't "allowed" to be emotional or express your feelings or whatever because someone ELSE has decided that you shouldn't? There are always going to be naysayers trying to tell you what is "wrong" with you. Maybe they are emotionless, dead, cold corpses. What makes THEM right?
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