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Post by achelois on Jul 21, 2014 17:37:33 GMT -5
I have never seen that movie. Guys remember that movie because of Phoebe Cates, not because it was such a great movie
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Post by Plain Old Petunia on Jul 21, 2014 18:23:56 GMT -5
I wonder if they screen for things like extensive consumer indebtedness. I'd be pretty ticked if I had an arranged marriage and then learned I was now saddled with a ton of debt. I know I was pretty ticked when I had an unarranged marriage and then found out.
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Post by truthbound on Jul 22, 2014 4:58:30 GMT -5
All reality tv is staged. If you believe anyone actually got married you are a sucker.
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Post by taz157 on Jul 22, 2014 5:10:40 GMT -5
Justlurkin, you better find out who this Dr is and call him!!!!
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Post by resolution on Jul 22, 2014 7:00:28 GMT -5
I think The Biggest Loser has a better success rate at contestants getting married than any of the dating shows.
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Post by Opti on Jul 22, 2014 8:58:30 GMT -5
I watched the posted videos and it will be interesting to see if any of the marriages last. Most of the arranged marriages the people actually meet more than once before the ceremony.
This is totally different in that they didn't meet prior to the ceremony and it appears the pool of candidates are just the 50 people who decided they were still in to try the show.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Jul 22, 2014 10:53:41 GMT -5
No wayyyyyyy! There are enough reasons that marriages "crash & burn" nowadays. Having no part in the selection process would be a thousand times worse. This is only true if you believe that individuals are better at picking compatible partners than someone who is an expert in human relationships. I'm not sure I believe that to be true. The only reason I'd believe experts weren't better, is that people tend to lie about who they are and what they're looking for when asked. A big reason marriages crash and burn, imo, is that people rely too heavily on "feelings" and not heavily enough on "compatibility". We have gotten a lot of Indian nationals in the lab over the years. Most of them come from arranged marriages. Some were rather strange pairings, but they did seem to work. You can't say it was because the wife was uneducated, because many times it was the wife was as educated as the husband. Thinking back at the 4 I know about, one has a fairly rocky marriage but the other 3 I know of are pretty good and have had marriages of 20+ years. I'm guessing that that's better than the stats of you choosing your spouse.
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Post by truthbound on Jul 23, 2014 3:47:56 GMT -5
I watched the posted videos and it will be interesting to see if any of the marriages last. Most of the arranged marriages the people actually meet more than once before the ceremony.
This is totally different in that they didn't meet prior to the ceremony and it appears the pool of candidates are just the 50 people who decided they were still in to try the show. No it is no different than any other reality show. The reason the 'candidates' are participating is to get their fifteen minutes. Albeit 15 minutes on a network over half the country has never heard of.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jul 23, 2014 8:16:52 GMT -5
I know three couples who have arranged marriages. All are Hindu. Two have superb marriages, and the third couple has a way to go, but they also have a baby, and are going to stick it out. They are living with his family in Mumbai, and all the only space they have to themselves is a bedroom, by report. However, if someone enters into an arranged marriage vitrually sight unseen, then they must take their chances. It's silly to tell people from here that our marital system is terrible, and then complain about their custom-bound arranged marriage situation if problems arise.
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Post by JustLurkin on Jul 23, 2014 17:37:37 GMT -5
Justlurkin, you better find out who this Dr is and call him!!!!
Hahaha...ok, so I did my internet stal...errrr..."sleuthing"...he's like a decade younger than me and I think he has 2 young daughters. I am finished with kids, sorry, kinda. I'm 40, my kid is weeks away from 18, I am done with daycare, and school projects, and teachers, and diapers, and teething, and anything else kid related--definitely no babies mommas! It was just so weird, he blushed so hard that I started wondering if I knew him from somewhere...then I thought my head was melting and didn't care if I knew him or not, just make my head stop hurting! This is why I think I probably would consider some sort of matchmaker. I don't want anyone who thinks who I will change my mind about kids, that's annoying, and a time-waster. It's just harder at this age, most people either have young-ish children, or are ready to start families.
Eh, if it's meant to be it'll happen.
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Post by tskeeter on Jul 23, 2014 18:38:18 GMT -5
LOL! I was going to say I'd choose married at first sight (if it were MY sight) vs. arranged marriage until you put the aka. I'd trust my judgment of "at first sight" to somebody else arranging a marriage for me especially if it was my parents/family. My mother, father and siblings had the worst taste in men/women. Horrible! I'd flip a coin or play spin the bottle before I'd let them make choices on my behalf. DH2 and I shacked up after dating for 6 weeks (and that was with self control) and we lived together for 5 years before marrying. It's been 27 years and I'm still not sure I made the right choice. Marriage is picking the person you are going to be annoyed with for the rest of you life. Or, at least for a long, long time.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2014 18:42:03 GMT -5
The thing with the real arranged marriages is they don't really have the option of divorcing (for the most part anyway). I know a Pakistani guy from college, who was a huge partier, who ended up getting married to a Pakistani girl that was arranged by their families. I am not sure how much of a say either had but seeing how wonderful their dating period and now marriage is I assume they had a say in it. They have 3 kids and seem very happy and they are a good match.
I think if my parents picked someone for me he would be much better for me than the ones I picked for sure! But I don't know if the feelings/attraction would be there.
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 23, 2014 18:57:33 GMT -5
I think The Biggest Loser has a better success rate at contestants getting married than any of the dating shows. I'm pretty sure the only success story from the Bachelor(ette) world, and any others that are out there (I've only seen this flavor, and not in a long damn time) is the very first Bachelorette - Trista and Ryan Sutter. she had been the last rejection for the original Bachelor, and I'm pretty sure everyone that watched was shocked by that. ABC made her the first Bachelorette, and last I saw in the tabloids she and Ryan are still happily married out in Colorado somewhere, with a couple of kids. yay for them, but shit....those shows are total staged BS now. at least the first couple passes through, there were some people that weren't just looking for their 15 minutes of fame.
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