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Post by Shooby on Jun 24, 2014 20:38:41 GMT -5
Lol zib!
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 24, 2014 20:45:26 GMT -5
Sorry, too many meals in restaurants in Florida. The highlight of their conversation is to outdo each other with medical crap and just plain crap!!
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Post by TheOtherMe on Jun 24, 2014 21:35:35 GMT -5
Also, we don't need to hear whether or not you took a shit today. This was the first topic of conversation with my mother. That I do not miss. I am 62 and only hope I live as long as she did--90. She was a wise woman, as is my father.
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Post by Ryan on Jun 24, 2014 21:43:50 GMT -5
Have you ever thought that younger people dislike people offering opinions they didn't ask for as much as older people do? I'm 36, so hardly a spring chicken, but most advice i hear from older people is a variation of 'play it safe'. But even if it's good advice, it's usually delivered in the 'you are young and therefore know nothing. Let me tell you how it works....' Tone. Feel free to tell older folks their advice is unwanted. Older folks will not break. Life has toughened them up. Just keep in mind that everything happening now has pretty much happened before. They might have learned some life lessons, but if they haven't learned any tact then it will fall on deaf ears.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jun 25, 2014 0:38:01 GMT -5
Feel free to tell older folks their advice is unwanted. Older folks will not break. Life has toughened them up. Just keep in mind that everything happening now has pretty much happened before. They might have learned some life lessons, but if they haven't learned any tact then it will fall on deaf ears. Hey Ryan. Wanna smell my farts? Pull my finger!
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Post by truthbound on Jun 25, 2014 1:42:04 GMT -5
In general, I've noticed that acknowleding someone is old, or older, discussing age in general seems to be a taboo subject. Admittidly, some of it is tounge in cheek, but I've seen many people get geniunely offended at the idea of age and aging. The question is, why? People coin phrases like "50 years young" and "60's are the new 40's" and things like that. And one can't aknowledge the age of others without risking being offensive.IS it because we're a culture fixated on youth? I would think living a long life should be celebrated and should be endearing. Offensive huh? The ones that don't acknowledge it are the old people. They made up those silly sayings. Not the ones referring to them.
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Post by cronewitch on Jun 25, 2014 1:42:06 GMT -5
I find it offensive to be treated like being old is bad like saying 50 years young instead of 50 years old. I don't mind if people guess that I am old but hope they aren't lying when they pretend I couldn't be that old.
There are good and bad things about being old. I am getting weaker, starting minor hearing loss and weak vision, one ankle hurts but in generally k health. I love being able to retire and hire my chores done. I got a new furnace today and didn't stress at all about the money. It sucks losing parents and grandparents and my brothers are in bad health so I might end up the oldest in the family. I am becoming my mom and she became her mom so I am becoming my grandmother. My memories are very long now my grandmother was 40 when I was born so I remember her clearly at 50 now I am 66 so much older than my grandmother. I am almost as old as great grandma when I first knew her, I have her skin on my hands. I loved playing with her skin you could take a pinch of it and it would stay up.
One nice thing is people are treating me like I need help. My nephew and my cousin have offered to put in my window air conditioners.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 25, 2014 8:10:42 GMT -5
I know that DH is terrified to turn 42 in February. His dad died at 42 and 2 years later his only uncle died at 42.
Suggest to your DH that he goes in for a check-up and tell the Dr about his dad and uncle. Nephew in law at age 48 just had a heart attack and the Dr asked if he had any brothers. He is one of 4 and he was told to let the others know for a check-up. His heart condition is genetic.
My DH#1 died of unexpected heart attack at age 59 ........ also genetic. Terrible time of my life.
I know neither of my g-dtrs want any suggestions from me. They are 31 and 26, and making decisions typical of their age group. Both are college grads but neither have any common sense. And I know this is my age talking.
When I was that age ......... blah, blah, blah. ....... LOL I will encourage him to get a physical but his dad and uncle both died in airplane crashes so no amount of check ups would have prevented that. Both were pilots. In his dad's case they sued the Air Plane manufacturer and won and in his uncles case the pilot of the other plane was negligent and caused a mid-air collision with uncle's plane.
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Post by michelyn8 on Jun 25, 2014 8:31:56 GMT -5
Sorry, too many meals in restaurants in Florida. The highlight of their conversation is to outdo each other with medical crap and just plain crap!! Have you been listening to my mother? She gets to me so much lately (mid-life hormonal mood swings on my part) that I have to make sure I'm in at least a decent frame of mind before I go visit or call her about anything. Between the complaints about her sisters, my son, and various others and her medical issues which include constant complaints about the doctors and their staffs it takes all I have not to scream at her to just shut up some times. And based on a post my cousin put on FB about her mother (Mom's older sister), its something a family trait to bitch, moan, and groan and be negative so I try really hard not to be that way now so I'm less likely to be that way in 30 years.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jun 25, 2014 8:36:06 GMT -5
I know that DH is terrified to turn 42 in February. His dad died at 42 and 2 years later his only uncle died at 42.
Suggest to your DH that he goes in for a check-up and tell the Dr about his dad and uncle. Nephew in law at age 48 just had a heart attack and the Dr asked if he had any brothers. He is one of 4 and he was told to let the others know for a check-up. His heart condition is genetic.
My DH#1 died of unexpected heart attack at age 59 ........ also genetic. Terrible time of my life.
I know neither of my g-dtrs want any suggestions from me. They are 31 and 26, and making decisions typical of their age group. Both are college grads but neither have any common sense. And I know this is my age talking.
When I was that age ......... blah, blah, blah. ....... LOL I will encourage him to get a physical but his dad and uncle both died in airplane crashes so no amount of check ups would have prevented that. Both were pilots. In his dad's case they sued the Air Plane manufacturer and won and in his uncles case the pilot of the other plane was negligent and caused a mid-air collision with uncle's plane. Those are very tragic accidents. Who would have thought that similar accidents would take the lives of two brothers in the same family !
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 25, 2014 8:37:08 GMT -5
Sorry, too many meals in restaurants in Florida. The highlight of their conversation is to outdo each other with medical crap and just plain crapLOL. My MIL likes to play "Guess which old person at church has something wrong with them?" with DH and me every time we're down there. It's like a weird version of six degrees of separation because it always starts with how we should somehow know who this 90 year old person is and why we should care. Then it eventually leads into whatever they have MIL either has it or has had it 20 times worse. Last time DH told her "Why don't you just chop off your leg, that will solve the problem". She didn't find it funny.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 25, 2014 8:45:16 GMT -5
Maybe because when we are kids, every year is a year we get a new privilege and a year closer to having that awesome "grown-up" life. When we pass a certain age, some people only see it as being another year closer to death. (Maybe - I don't know.)
I didn't have a problem with any of the numbers - didn't freak out when I turned 30 or 40 or 45. In fact, I rounded up a lot - when I was 43 I'd say I was 45, because being specific sounded weird - like I was counting every day, and rounding down seemed vain, so I said I was 45 for 3 or 4 years.
What has upset me is when I got reading glasses. I feel like that is a specific deterioration of my physical abilities that can only be the marker of more to come. You also can't hide your age when you are peering over your Walgreen's readers when someone shrinks the print-out less than 125%. Maybe it is because the readers give me a headache. Yes, I got prescription readers, and they still give me a headache - I have pretty much stopped reading all together - which sucks. Maybe it is because I haven't really had many physical problems and the readers came along with all this other bullshit that seems unfixable, (improvable, but not fixable) and I just wonder if this is it - I'm just going to feel worse and worse, and lose the ability to do simple things like read a book. It is a little bleak for me and I wonder if I will be able to keep up with my plans, not because of age, but because of health issues attached to age.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 25, 2014 8:58:40 GMT -5
DH has been trying to claim for years now that he has "blonde highlights" in his hair. He has finally accepted that those are all his gray hairs. His stylist when to go answer the phone and came back and DH was looking at all the cut hairs on his black smock thing. She said "are you playing with your hair like the little kids do?" He told her "Nope, I'm just trying to find the ones that are still brown and it's nearly impossible"
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Post by Shooby on Jun 25, 2014 9:02:38 GMT -5
The problem with getting older is that you know a hell of lot more but nobody wants to benefit from what you know. Everyone just chooses to learn life the hard way. Yeah, we all did too. But, it is kind of a cruel joke of nature that when you finally have hit a certain level, your body starts going down the tubes.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 25, 2014 9:18:09 GMT -5
The problem with getting older is that you know a hell of lot more but nobody wants to benefit from what you know. Everyone just chooses to learn life the hard way. Yeah, we all did too. But, it is kind of a cruel joke of nature that when you finally have hit a certain level, your body starts going down the tubes. Nature has a twisted sense of humor.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jun 25, 2014 9:31:55 GMT -5
DH has been trying to claim for years now that he has "blonde highlights" in his hair. He has finally accepted that those are all his gray hairs. His stylist when to go answer the phone and came back and DH was looking at all the cut hairs on his black smock thing. She said "are you playing with your hair like the little kids do?" He told her "Nope, I'm just trying to find the ones that are still brown and it's nearly impossible"
LMAO! I'm at the point where there's no point in looking for brown hair on the smock or anywhere else. Gray happens early in my family, but it's a slow process. I started going gray in my 20s and thirty years later, I'm about 50-50 gray to brown.
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Post by Shooby on Jun 25, 2014 9:44:57 GMT -5
My dad went completely grey in High School. My sister went grey in her early 20's. Now my hair would be totally gray if I didn't color it. I think I will continue to color it for another year or two, then I think I might just give in and see how it looks if I don't.
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Post by CarolinaKat on Jun 25, 2014 10:04:50 GMT -5
DH has been trying to claim for years now that he has "blonde highlights" in his hair. He has finally accepted that those are all his gray hairs. His stylist when to go answer the phone and came back and DH was looking at all the cut hairs on his black smock thing. She said "are you playing with your hair like the little kids do?" He told her "Nope, I'm just trying to find the ones that are still brown and it's nearly impossible"
LMAO! I'm at the point where there's no point in looking for brown hair on the smock or anywhere else. Gray happens early in my family, but it's a slow process. I started going gray in my 20s and thirty years later, I'm about 50-50 gray to brown. BFF started going gray at 13. When I style her hair, I have to 'hide' all the gray ones!
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Post by Shooby on Jun 25, 2014 10:09:01 GMT -5
I never understood lying about your age. What is the point of that anyway? Well, I mean other than trying to get booze at a bar, lol.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 25, 2014 10:14:07 GMT -5
DH has been trying to claim for years now that he has "blonde highlights" in his hair. He has finally accepted that those are all his gray hairs. His stylist when to go answer the phone and came back and DH was looking at all the cut hairs on his black smock thing. She said "are you playing with your hair like the little kids do?" He told her "Nope, I'm just trying to find the ones that are still brown and it's nearly impossible"
LMAO! I'm at the point where there's no point in looking for brown hair on the smock or anywhere else. Gray happens early in my family, but it's a slow process. I started going gray in my 20s and thirty years later, I'm about 50-50 gray to brown. DH has been going gray since his mid 20's. It was pretty gradual for a few years there but now it's turned a corner and is more gray than brown. Full head of thick hair it's just gray (which he'd prefer over going bald he says). He's lucky in that the shade of brown the other hairs are tend to camouflage the grays pretty well. It's not until you see him in certain lights that you realize how gray he is. That's why he's always so shocked when he gets it cut- against the black of the smock it's quite noticeable the percentage of gray he actually has.
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Post by tskeeter on Jun 25, 2014 11:27:33 GMT -5
The problem with getting older is that you know a hell of lot more but nobody wants to benefit from what you know. Everyone just chooses to learn life the hard way. Yeah, we all did too. But, it is kind of a cruel joke of nature that when you finally have hit a certain level, your body starts going down the tubes. Tskeeter Specializing in unsolicited advice
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jun 25, 2014 11:35:57 GMT -5
By the way, there is nothing offensive in being older. Everyone will hopefully get the opportunity to experience it.
A better question to ask would be 'Why do some young people find older people offensive'. *Shrugs* don't know. Sometimes I get along better with older people than those my own age.
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Post by movingforward on Jun 25, 2014 11:37:53 GMT -5
I actually find older people to be quite interesting and delightful to be around. When traveling in other countries I typically run into older people from the USA. They are all so interesting... they have experienced so much and traveled to so many places. In many ways they are more fun to be around than people my own age. They seem to have a lot more to say/talk about. I love hearing about the places they have been and their life experiences.
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Post by cronewitch on Jun 25, 2014 11:39:29 GMT -5
I never understood lying about your age. What is the point of that anyway? Well, I mean other than trying to get booze at a bar, lol. I don't but my BFF never told anyone her age even men she married. People judge you on age so when people don't know they can't judge you. She told me she was older than her third husband but he never knew. I knew one of her sons was 42 so she must have been not too young but no idea if she was 12 when he was born or 30 but she was probably about 60 maybe 65 but could have been younger or older. She wasn't pretending to be 40, she was just ageless. She would date men who might assume she was whatever age they wanted to assume a guy might have a problem dating her if she was older than him or much older but he can tell himself she must be his age and just look bad for her age.
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Post by movingforward on Jun 25, 2014 11:42:20 GMT -5
I find nothing wrong with being ageless... really it is just a number that shouldn't matter... until you are able to start collecting SS that is
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jun 25, 2014 11:42:40 GMT -5
I had a lovely chat floating in the middle of the ocean with a elderly English couple while in Malayasia. I also spent a lot of time talking to older Australian travels. I guess going to Borneo/Indonesia is quite popular because for them it's a reasonable and cheap flight out there. Then there were the bitchy elderly English women at the airport who loudly complained about "Americans". The desk wanted us all together since we were part of the same group so they could check all our luggage at the same time. It made things a bit awkward since there were 30 of us but it had nothing to do with being "rude Americans".
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Post by Tennesseer on Jun 25, 2014 12:01:20 GMT -5
By the way, there is nothing offensive in being older. Everyone will hopefully get the opportunity to experience it.
A better question to ask would be 'Why do some young people find older people offensive'. *Shrugs* don't know. Sometimes I get along better with older people than those my own age. You may have an older soul, Phoenix. Nothing wrong with that.
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Post by tloonya on Jun 25, 2014 12:09:51 GMT -5
I sooooooooo agree with michelyn8. Our culture worships youth . . . or at least our cultural media and especially our media marketing machine worships youth, and the sheeple follow meekly along. Tell this to Betty White in Hot in Cleveland. And Larry King. And bunnie's owner. And a lot of others...I can google a few more for you...
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