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Post by Blonde Granny on Jun 21, 2014 13:01:39 GMT -5
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Post by dannylion on Jun 21, 2014 13:03:47 GMT -5
Don't the Duggars have very strict dating and courtship rules?
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jun 21, 2014 13:04:19 GMT -5
OK ladies, listen up: Here is the advice from Michelle Duggar to her daughter Jill.
“Be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels,” Michelle said, explaining that was the best advice she ever received. “I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.” Mr. Duggar needs to get acquainted with and then date his hand. Geeze, what about *her* needs ? Doesn't the senior Mrs. Duggar have any needs of her own ? Maybe to be able to take a nap without Mr. Duggar "needing" her if she's " exhausted and big pregnant ?" What a "great" relationship they must have.
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Post by Blonde Granny on Jun 21, 2014 13:14:35 GMT -5
Duggar dating rules:
Rule 1: Courting is not dating; it’s “dating with a purpose.”
Rule 2: Three (or four, or 15) is NOT a crowd: There’s always a chaperone.
Rule 3: Brothers know best. All of the Duggar boys have been chaperones to Ben and Jessa, even the younger ones who will go along with them to a coffee shop or out to dinner.
Rule 4: Texting? Ur parents r watching. 4 real. Since Ben lives about four hours away from the Duggars, he asked if he could text Jessa. The Duggars agreed, but only if Jim Bob and Michelle are included on every text.
Rule 5: No kissing or hand-holding.
Rule 6: To court a Duggar girl, you have to go through Dad.
Rule 7: You can’t fail at courtship. Ultimately, the goal of courting is to find out if you are compatible with the other person. It is about getting to know someone, says Jim Bob, who believes that half of courtships do not end up in marriage. “There is no failed courtship,” says Michelle. “A parent that loves and cares for their children, they want the best relationship for their child. It’s fun to be involved in the whole process in choosing it.”
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Post by dannylion on Jun 21, 2014 13:17:14 GMT -5
So, it would seem that "dating the hand" might run into some obstacles. Or maybe not, if it's meant to be.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jun 21, 2014 14:49:49 GMT -5
Down the road rule:
8. Check to make sure it isn't one of your brothers or sisters first.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 21, 2014 23:42:16 GMT -5
Down the road rule: 8. Check to make sure it isn't one of your brothers or sisters first. They are in the South....
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Post by Blonde Granny on Jun 22, 2014 7:04:51 GMT -5
Did anyone know that the toothbrush was invented in Arkansas
Yep, it was......otherwise it would have been known as the teethbrush.
Another interesting question: In Arkansas if a man and woman get a divorce, does that mean they are no longer brother & sister?
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Post by truthbound on Jun 23, 2014 4:43:46 GMT -5
WTF is a Duggar and why should I care?
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jun 23, 2014 11:48:48 GMT -5
actually, I don't see a problem registering for duct tape and lint remover and all those silly things you need in a house but don't have the money to go buy.
The best wedding presents we got were a heavy duty wheelbarrow and a chainsaw. Totally agree. I don't think we ever ended up using our wedding china. But I've used my chainsaw many times and that would have been an awesome gift.
Also, as a guest at a wedding sometimes I get put off by really over the top registries. Yeah, I know that's judgy, but I don't like getting a registry full of expensive, useless stuff and having to choose between buying a $200 crystal pickle dish or a $250 monogrammed picnic basket or getting something not on the registry. If I got a registry list with interesting, random, fun and practical things, I'd really get into the gift buying and make a huge basket of stuff with an accompanying letter that had a funny story of how the couple was going to use it. In fact, I'd probably be so tickled by their down to earth requests, I'd spend much more on the gift than I would otherwise.
My friend that got married this weekend registered for a lot of practical/more inexpensive things. We ended up getting the wine glasses and board games they asked for, and added in a couple bottles of wine and a note about enjoying a game night.
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Post by justme on Jun 23, 2014 11:59:00 GMT -5
OK ladies, listen up: Here is the advice from Michelle Duggar to her daughter Jill.
“Be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels,” Michelle said, explaining that was the best advice she ever received. “I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.” I don't care that you're in labor honey, I have a need. We'll keep going until I hit the head as it's crowning.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jun 23, 2014 12:05:34 GMT -5
OK ladies, listen up: Here is the advice from Michelle Duggar to her daughter Jill.
“Be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels,” Michelle said, explaining that was the best advice she ever received. “I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.” I know the way this is being taken isn't really popular advice, but I got out of it that we need to attend to our spouse's needs above our own, which is what DH and I try to do. Not just sexual needs, but anything really. Isn't that what the whole point is? To put the other person first?
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Post by justme on Jun 23, 2014 12:40:58 GMT -5
Yeah, but at least the way they talk about it on their show it's quite obvious Michelle is talking about sex.
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Post by swamp on Jun 23, 2014 12:42:18 GMT -5
OK ladies, listen up: Here is the advice from Michelle Duggar to her daughter Jill.
“Be available, and not just available, but be joyfully available for him. Smile and be willing to say, ‘Yes, sweetie I am here for you,’ no matter what, even though you may be exhausted and big pregnant and you may not feel like he feels,” Michelle said, explaining that was the best advice she ever received. “I’m still here for you and I’m going to meet that need because I know it’s a need for you.” I know the way this is being taken isn't really popular advice, but I got out of it that we need to attend to our spouse's needs above our own, which is what DH and I try to do. Not just sexual needs, but anything really. Isn't that what the whole point is? To put the other person first? You should put the other person first. But it sounds like MIchelle's only need is to serve Jim Bob.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jun 23, 2014 12:46:30 GMT -5
Nothing saying he didn't get the same advice to put his wife first, probably from his parents.
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Post by WholeLottaNothin on Jun 23, 2014 14:37:43 GMT -5
Guessing by how many times she has been pregnant, her needs come second.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2014 15:40:49 GMT -5
Guessing by how many times she has been pregnant, her needs come second. No, I think she wanted all those kids, too. Still, the advice rubs me the wrong way. I think either party should be able to say once in awhile, "Honey, I'm burned out right now and I love you and the kids but an hour or so of uninterrupted peace and quiet/a bubble bath with no intrusions/a walk by myself would really help." It means you recognize your own needs, you're not asking them to have ESP and figure it out, and you're letting them know that this is temporary and that you can't keep giving unless you have some time to replenish yourself. And yes, it's OK to be too tired/distracted/wired to feel sexy right now, as long as that doesn't happen every single night.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jun 23, 2014 19:27:05 GMT -5
Wonder if she is going to try and outdo her mother in number of kids to have? Wonder if she has a prenup? I guess I need to go an read up on these folks. I am really uninformed except for a blurp here and there online. Off for some serious reading
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