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Post by tloonya on Jun 16, 2014 10:08:16 GMT -5
I had heard men talking and I was amazed because I would never expect to hear this kind of talk from men.
So one says his friend is in love with the woman who is not his wife and both are married.
Kids married and out of the both houses.
Both are living with their spouses and meeting at friends and family gatherings.
Sometimes in church. Sometimes at the neighborhood supermarket.
Those 2 were never sexually involved. Somehow they had managed.
Age is around 50.
And I was thinking Holly Shit!
Is this better to live like that or it would be more honest to get together and maybe be happy.
2 unhappy families worth 1 happy one or not?
Why are these fine people (I say it because they aren't doing any crazy shit yet...and it had been going on as I understood for years)
have to suffer in loveless and sexless marriages instead of maybe let their spouses know and have it ALL.
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Post by hoops902 on Jun 16, 2014 10:27:25 GMT -5
Who says they are suffering? I could picture myself being very happy being around a spouse who had turned more into a best friend than any kind of "romantic partner" and finding that romantic side with someone else.
There's also something to be said for the fact that a lot of times these affairs are only happy because they are affairs. There's excitement, and no day-to-day monotony to bore you. And how do you know their marriages are sexless? Surely you're not watching them to find out  |
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Post by tloonya on Jun 16, 2014 10:33:27 GMT -5
Who says they are suffering? I could picture myself being very happy being around a spouse who had turned more into a best friend than any kind of "romantic partner" and finding that romantic side with someone else.
There's also something to be said for the fact that a lot of times these affairs are only happy because they are affairs. There's excitement, and no day-to-day monotony to bore you. And how do you know their marriages are sexless? Surely you're not watching them to find out I am assuming if one person doesn't love another one - they would avoid it as hard as they can. |
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Post by hoops902 on Jun 16, 2014 10:35:43 GMT -5
Ummmm, I've had sex with a LOT of people I didn't love.
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Post by tloonya on Jun 16, 2014 10:37:15 GMT -5
Ummmm, I've had sex with a LOT of people I didn't love. At 50 of age? |
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Post by hoops902 on Jun 16, 2014 10:41:29 GMT -5
Not at 50. Will I suddenly develop some kind of moral resistance to having sex with people I don't love when I'm 50? Especially if it's my wife, who is probably all over me 24/7 because I'll be such a good looking 50 year old  |
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Post by alabamagal on Jun 16, 2014 11:01:59 GMT -5
People over 50 have sex. Sometimes more than in their 20s
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Post by tloonya on Jun 16, 2014 11:16:52 GMT -5
People over 50 have sex. Sometimes more than in their 20s I supposed not when they are in love whith other person |
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Post by achelois on Jun 16, 2014 11:31:36 GMT -5
People over 50 have sex. Sometimes more than in their 20s I supposed not when they are in love whith other person Do you actually know any real live men? The guy in your OP is probably having sex with both women--the wife and the girlfriend--n and the wife probably has no idea. |
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Post by tloonya on Jun 16, 2014 11:42:45 GMT -5
I supposed not when they are in love whith other person Do you actually know any real live men? The guy in your OP is probably having sex with both women--the wife and the girlfriend--n and the wife probably has no idea. How dare you? I said 2 men talked. If there was something going on - trust me, these guys wouldn't be talking about it at all. |
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Post by achelois on Jun 16, 2014 15:07:28 GMT -5
Do you actually know any real live men? The guy in your OP is probably having sex with both women--the wife and the girlfriend--n and the wife probably has no idea. How dare you? I said 2 men talked. If there was something going on - trust me, these guys wouldn't be talking about it at all. Ok, sure.  |
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Post by JustLurkin on Jun 16, 2014 16:52:36 GMT -5
I supposed not when they are in love whith other person Do you actually know any real live men? The guy in your OP is probably having sex with both women--the wife and the girlfriend--n and the wife probably has no idea. I wouldn't assume that...many women take the "as long as the check is in the bank every two weeks" approach. |
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Post by achelois on Jun 17, 2014 4:00:22 GMT -5
Do you actually know any real live men? The guy in your OP is probably having sex with both women--the wife and the girlfriend--n and the wife probably has no idea. I wouldn't assume that...many women take the "as long as the check is in the bank every two weeks" approach. I guess that might be true in many cases. I see you don't disagree with the beginning of the sentence, though.  |
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Post by nutty on Jun 17, 2014 8:11:34 GMT -5
I have met a few men in their forties say they are not looking for a relationship. What is up with that?
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Post by Deleted on Jun 17, 2014 8:48:10 GMT -5
I have met a few men in their forties say they are not looking for a relationship. What is up with that? Um - they're not looking for a relationship? Yeah. I get it. I'm not either. I have enough on my plate as it is. Two of my brother's are the same way. They don't want to be tied down with a girlfriend or family. The one is kind of in love with himself I think and the other one just loves solitude. Both are known to just pack up and head off to some other part of the world to live at a moments notice. |
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Post by billisonboard on Jun 17, 2014 8:51:07 GMT -5
I have met a few men in their forties say they are not looking for a relationship. What is up with that? Opening car doors is too much of a PITA? |
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 10:00:56 GMT -5
I have met a few men in their forties say they are not looking for a relationship. What is up with that? Um - they're not looking for a relationship? Do we have to post for you twice from now on? |
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Post by tloonya on Jun 17, 2014 10:07:16 GMT -5
I wouldn't assume that...many women take the "as long as the check is in the bank every two weeks" approach. I guess that might be true in many cases. I see you don't disagree with the beginning of the sentence, though. I actually live with one but how do I determine if he is real? I think when you live with someone for ages - its like...its just there... And where had I ever clamed I was a romantic  |
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