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Post by nutty on Jun 2, 2014 15:53:30 GMT -5
Cancelled my MI trip as tension in here was getting bad. I move into my apartment on thurs, YAY. He can do whatever the frick he wants, I'm OUT.
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Post by busymom on Jun 2, 2014 16:56:57 GMT -5
Wishing you peace. Is it a relief to have your own place?
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Post by mmhmm on Jun 2, 2014 16:59:12 GMT -5
I hope you can get moved without incident and start untangling your life, nutty. Best wishes to you.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2014 17:17:00 GMT -5
Absolutely best wishes. Look at it as the ultimate decluttering since you only have to move the stuff YOU want to.
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Post by Jake 48 on Jun 2, 2014 18:04:41 GMT -5
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Post by nutty on Jun 3, 2014 0:13:43 GMT -5
Four months from the argument that started all this to moving out, pretty pleased with myself, I am so relieved to have my own place on thurs. Not that this is what I want to go through but I can't help him so he is going to be alone and I don't care.
Thanks for all your support and continued support as I go through this.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2014 0:15:09 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear it. You sounded like you were so looking forward to the trip. Good Luck with the move!
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Post by Jaguar on Jun 3, 2014 0:21:01 GMT -5
Naggie go forward and conquer.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Jun 3, 2014 9:14:16 GMT -5
Best of luck to you, naggy. The next few months may be exhausting, but I hope that you have many happier days ahead of you!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 3, 2014 9:17:30 GMT -5
Damn, you missed a chance to see Lake Superior with big chunks of ice on the shoreline on a hot warm day!
Hugs Naggie. Stay strong.
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Post by nutty on Jun 3, 2014 10:26:57 GMT -5
I know, I love it up there but we want to bring the baby there so will schedule it another time. In other news, H is freaking losing it. He keeps talking to DD about our business. DD and I talked today about boundaries and hopefully she will be able to not engage with him. she is losing so much respect for him.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2014 10:33:09 GMT -5
If things are tense there why would you cancel a vacation AWAY from it?
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Post by nutty on Jun 3, 2014 10:37:13 GMT -5
Because I needed the money for the apartment, with the plane ticket and then renting a car, money better spent to get me an apartment where I can heal without him.
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Post by sheilaincali on Jun 3, 2014 12:05:57 GMT -5
FWIW- if canceling the vacation guaranteed you'd be able to afford to move out than you definitely made the right decision.
I am disappointed that your H is sharing your private business with your daughter. Granted she's old enough to know the basics but he doesn't need to be going into detail about things that frankly are none of her business and sounds like things she doesn't care to know.
Stay strong
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2014 12:09:47 GMT -5
If things are tense there why would you cancel a vacation AWAY from it? Actually when I read about her planned vacation I wondered what the heck she was doing spending that money right now.
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Post by nutty on Jun 3, 2014 12:10:06 GMT -5
Just signed my lease, OMG, I just don't know what to think. Just my mind is blown.
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Post by nutty on Jun 3, 2014 12:12:21 GMT -5
What the heck, I am signing it online and it's like a zillion pages long.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2014 12:14:45 GMT -5
Naggie you need to come up with a broken record phrase that will become the only thing you say about your marriage/divorce. Something along the lines of "We had a lot of good years together and I have 2(?) wonderful children from it, but we have gone in different directions and that phase of my life is done." You say the whole spiel to people a couple of times if he comes up and then shorten it to "We are not together now, that phase of my life is done" From my experience the less thought and attention you give to him the quicker you will move on and be happier.
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Post by nutty on Jun 3, 2014 12:16:55 GMT -5
That is great advice later, I will.
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Post by nutty on Jun 3, 2014 12:18:43 GMT -5
I feel kinda sick.
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Post by achelois on Jun 3, 2014 12:19:49 GMT -5
You sound much calmer and more together, nutty. Glad for you about that.
What are you sick about/from?
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Post by Peace77 on Jun 3, 2014 12:22:04 GMT -5
You will get through this. Now repeat after me: I will get through this.
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Post by nutty on Jun 3, 2014 12:25:28 GMT -5
I am much calmer and it really helped to post on here, it really did. I was able to post about my confusion, hurt, despair and get it out. Now I feel sad on occasion, but what lead me to this is that I have to be happy in myself, and I will not stay in a situation that is not good for me. I was not going to do it. I have read stories of women hanging around for a reconcilliation that never happens, I have to get on with my life and he can figure his own shit out. I am out.
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Post by The Captain on Jun 3, 2014 12:28:58 GMT -5
Nutty - have you come up with any thoughts or a plan for school/work? Sometimes focusing on the future helps us to forget the past.
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Post by nutty on Jun 3, 2014 12:54:16 GMT -5
My nose is twitching because I am about to cry as I look at my doggies and have to leave them behind.
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Post by tloonya on Jun 3, 2014 13:19:30 GMT -5
My nose is twitching because I am about to cry as I look at my doggies and have to leave them behind. Weren't there apt that allowing pets? What are they? Is he going to be good to them? You know what? Pets are overrated anyway. What are they? Just shitting fur balls. hang in there.
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Post by nutty on Jun 3, 2014 17:48:00 GMT -5
I went out to a movie with a friend last night and H came home to see the boxes so he ran off. He keeps running away instead of getting things hashed out. I called him as he was texting me stuff and I said to that these things need to be discussed in person or on the phone.
He sounded miserable, I think it is kicking in that I am leaving, he might have had an ephiphany about the marriage but I am leaving.
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Post by nutty on Jun 3, 2014 17:49:15 GMT -5
Looney, I came to the conclusion today that NO, he will not be good to them, he never played with them and they will be home all day by themselves when they have always had me.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jun 3, 2014 18:33:24 GMT -5
Good for you, Naggie. You will make it. You're already doing better, I think. Best wishes.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 3, 2014 20:44:53 GMT -5
He sounded miserable, I think it is kicking in that I am leaving, he might have had an ephiphany about the marriage but I am leaving. Sorry but no, he hasn't. It is just uncomfortable to deal with the details of dissolving a marriage. He thought about this a long time before saying anything to you. This is what he wants.
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