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Post by alabamagal on May 16, 2014 7:14:03 GMT -5
My DS19 (home from college for summer) was invited to a brunch to celebrate the high school graduation of a friend and former classmate at the friend's parent's house. Is it appropriate to bring a hostess gift? If so what?
More background, the graduate is a girl who had a crush on my son in high school. He has seen her a few times when he is home, but according to him they are not "dating". She got accepted to a top level state school, and soon after my son applied and was accepted to the school in the Fall (coincidence, I think not). The girls mom was my sons (and her daughter's) tennis coach is high school so she knows him pretty well. I know her as an acquaintance, mainly chatting during high school tennis season and high school football games (kids were football player and cheerleader).
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2014 7:23:17 GMT -5
When in doubt, get a gift. Flowers or a plant, maybe?
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2014 7:24:22 GMT -5
Two small boxes of good chocolates? Mother and daughter... Unless he's getting daughter something else.
I doubt its necessary, but guess its nice...
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Post by Peace77 on May 16, 2014 7:27:13 GMT -5
No, I would suggest a graduation gift for the young lady. Perhaps a nice gift pen (not too expensive- $15-$25).
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Post by milee on May 16, 2014 7:33:40 GMT -5
If your son is interested in dating her, a small graduation gift is a good idea but if he's not, then it might send the wrong message. Not to be sexist, but boys aren't usually as thoughtful about giving gifts so when they do, people often impute extra meaning to them. (I have boys. YMMV.)
A hostess gift is never a bad idea. Beer's idea of bringing the hostess/mom a small, blooming plant is perfect. It's polite and appropriate without being over the top. |
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Post by bookkeeper on May 16, 2014 7:35:08 GMT -5
It is planting season, get a nice plant for the hostess she can put outdoors and a card or gift for the graduate.
If he is into this girl, it should be something personal, not a fan for the dorm room or a power strip for her computer. |
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Post by bean29 on May 16, 2014 9:18:40 GMT -5
When my Son started dating his girlfriend and they went to her grandma's for a family dinner I had him take cut flowers from our grocery store. My local grocery has a floral dept. So you can get a nice boquet for $15.00 or so. Word is the Grandma loves DS and she really likes getting flowers.
For Mother's day I had him take a hanging basket $9.00 or so from Home Depot on Saturday. There are very nice patio pots available too.
When DS graduated from HS, most of the gifts were cash, but my DN's wife did a laundry basket, collapsible hamper, dishtowel, some silverware, shower caddy etc etc. Everything packed inside the basket. I really appreciated it when it came time to send him off to college...I think girls are more likely to plan this stuff out, DS didn't even give it a thought until a day or two before he was to leave for school.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on May 16, 2014 13:14:02 GMT -5
I think flowers are appropriate.
or if you have a local bakery that does petit fours or truffles. A nice box of something along those lines would work too.
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Post by kittensaver on May 16, 2014 13:47:17 GMT -5
If this is a small or more intimate gathering then yes, I would take a small hostess gift - you have gotten many good suggestions here.
If this is a large blow-out type party specifically for celebrating the graduating girl, then I would only take the honoree a card with a small gift. In my experience, hostess gifts tend to get "lost" amid very large parties when the focus is not on the host/hostess (you can always send a small hostess gift later as a Thank You). JMHO.
If he is "not dating" this girl and doesn't want to give her something to hang her crush on, it should be neutral - NOT jewelry, clothing, roses, etc. Maybe a gift card to amazon.com so she can download books or music? A balloon bouquet? Nothing where she can (or can try to) "read" a dating or romantic relationship into the gift . . .
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Post by Deleted on May 16, 2014 15:04:19 GMT -5
If he really doesn't want to date her, may I suggest a self help book.  |
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Post by Regis on May 16, 2014 15:34:24 GMT -5
Typically in our area, a gift is given to the graduate but there is no hostess gift.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on May 16, 2014 17:38:23 GMT -5
How about some Hostess Cupcakes ? Sorry, I couldn't resist.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on May 17, 2014 19:15:33 GMT -5
If he goes, he should bring a graduation gift. If he isn't wanting to date her, just sign the card "from the Georgia gal family"
i was was taught to always take a hostess gif, and I agree with plant/flowers suggestions.
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