michelyn8
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Post by michelyn8 on Apr 23, 2014 15:29:38 GMT -5
I know I am in a minority on this one, but when I had one boss yell at me, I just really REALLY didn't care. A few people came up to me and asked me if I am going to report her to HR and when I said "no", they were acting like I committed some mortal sin - you know, she'll do it to someone else and I need to stand up for myself, blah blah blah. I just rolled my eyes and said that I don't take crap like that personally. There are so many bosses and/co-workers out there who are moody and rude and stupid and lazy- if I ever tried to find a job with a perfect "cast", I would have never worked. I leaned a long time ago - be great at your job, avoid gossip and personalities issues and you'll be golden. Since it didn't bother you and you were able to let it go, then all I can say is good for you. I'm sure if it had bothered you, you would have handled it differently. It probably would have bothered me and I would have dealt with it at that time. The OP was apparently bothered by her boss's boss yelling at her so she needs to address the issue with him.
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whoisjohngalt
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Apr 23, 2014 16:26:07 GMT -5
I know I am in a minority on this one, but when I had one boss yell at me, I just really REALLY didn't care. A few people came up to me and asked me if I am going to report her to HR and when I said "no", they were acting like I committed some mortal sin - you know, she'll do it to someone else and I need to stand up for myself, blah blah blah. I just rolled my eyes and said that I don't take crap like that personally. There are so many bosses and/co-workers out there who are moody and rude and stupid and lazy- if I ever tried to find a job with a perfect "cast", I would have never worked. I leaned a long time ago - be great at your job, avoid gossip and personalities issues and you'll be golden. Since it didn't bother you and you were able to let it go, then all I can say is good for you. I'm sure if it had bothered you, you would have handled it differently. It probably would have bothered me and I would have dealt with it at that time. The OP was apparently bothered by her boss's boss yelling at her so she needs to address the issue with him. My point wasn't about just yelling. My point is that there are so many different types of co-workers and bosses, that if you keep taking all the work things personally, you are only hurting yourself.
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Ava
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Post by Ava on Apr 23, 2014 16:45:29 GMT -5
Are you still going to school part time and planning to move to Florida when you graduate? It may help you to remind yourself that you are a short timer, and will move on from this within a couple years after you have the experience and training that it can provide. Yes, that's the plan. But a couple of years can be a very long time if you feel miserable. I'm not there yet, but sometimes this job looks like it has some potential for becoming miserable. Besides, even if I move to Florida I may find a similar situation there, and I want to learn to deal with it.
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Ava
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Post by Ava on Apr 23, 2014 16:52:52 GMT -5
I don't think yelling and having meltdowns is acceptable, really. But what can I do? The first thing I thought when I saw my boss crumbling down was that he shouldn't be managing people if that's the way he treats employees when he's stressed. Besides the "knucklehead" comment he was rude. I had a short and sweet conversation with him on Tuesday, not about what happened last week, I just made small talk and smiled at him. He's talking to me again and being courteous, but he's not as friendly as before the incident. Fine with me; we are back to having a good working relationship and the incident won't even be a memory soon. If he does it a second time, then I'll keep contact with him to a minimum. The boss' boss is out since Tuesday. I really feel impotent about him. He's a screamer and he's very powerful in the company. I think the only option for now is to approach him wearing a mental and emotional raincoat. Time will tell. As for the Senior Analyst; I went to him asking for a meeting and he said there was no need, even though I explained my confusion and my desire to understand his method. He said no need to meet, ask me questions. Since he turned me down for a meeting, I resorted to asking him a ton of questions while I'm completing an assignment, and little by little I'm learning, though it's more difficult this way.
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movingforward
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Post by movingforward on Apr 23, 2014 17:01:48 GMT -5
I worked for someone who used to throw 3 year old temper tantrums. She once stomped her feet at a fellow employee. I thought it was hilarious because she looked like a complete fool... some people told me that I wouldn't think it was funny if I was the person she was yelling at. I don't really want to say she knew better than to treat me that way but she sort of did... She was the type that knew who she could treat like dirt and who she couldn't. The thing is that I really may have laughed in her face (which would NOT have been good) because I tend to react that way to actions I find utterly ridiculous. I think Lena has a point. There are times when I just don't care. Honestly, the person who looses their cool is the one who comes across as the idiot IMO.
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Apr 23, 2014 17:50:41 GMT -5
I had a PI that I used to work with who would go off like this. He had done this to a lot of people, never me. Finally it was my turn. I let him rant and rave, just watching him. When he finally ran out of steam, I asked him if he was done and could he please answer a question for me before he went back to his office.
He started laughing, I laughed too and it was over.
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whoisjohngalt
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Apr 23, 2014 18:41:46 GMT -5
For the record - I don't think it's appropriate to yell or throw temper tantrums at work or do a lot of other things people do. But it's not my job to teach them how to behave and complaining about it rarely works.
I chose to concentrate on being excellent at what I was doing and building myself a great resume. This way if I had to find another job, I always could.
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