zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 23, 2014 10:01:37 GMT -5
If your daughter is interested Rukh, this style consultant blogger is very well endowed. She has a ton of style posts on how to dress with a large bust that doesn't involve having to wear a burka or turtleneck 24/7. www.insideoutstyleblog.com/?s=large+bustThat's an awesome article.
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Post by movingforward on Apr 23, 2014 10:14:13 GMT -5
My obgyn finally convinced me... She said she's only ever heard two regrets from women who had a breast reduction... Why didn't i do it soon, and why didn't I make them smaller... Now I do have a friend who wishes, somewhat, that she had waited till after kids becuse she couldn't solely breastfeed... But never regrets for actually doing it. Health insurance paid fir mine and most people I know who've had it done... I had a breast reduction when I was 26 yrs old and have never regretted it. I still have plenty - lol!
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Post by CarolinaKat on Apr 23, 2014 10:30:32 GMT -5
zib - take a look at the picture I posted. The models breasts center roughly in between the underarm and elbow. For me and dd - our breasts center about 1 inch below the underarm. DD is 5'3" and barely squeeze into DD cups. Check out the picture again. above the neckline, there is a "deposit photo" below the models' clavicles. DD has cleavage starting at that point, perhaps a bit higher. In this exact same "showing nothing" tshirt, DD has 4" of huge boobs smooshed together line of cleavage. She started talking breast reduction surgery at 15. I'm really sorry our society is so hung up on this idea of "cleavage", but if a girl is wearing a standard issue t like in the picture, cleavage/not cleavage is a byproduct of anatomical variation. And I'm tired of my DD paying the price for it. I would like to see THAT kind of cleavage. I can not seriously imagine boobs starting right where the neck is ending. Will google. Another one who has that issue here. BFF has it even worse (36O cups). In school we had a 'no cleavage' rule. I broke it all the time wearing just normal shirts. Hell I couldn't meet it wearing the provided gym uniform. No one said boo to me because it was a small school and I was top of my class. Here at work, no one cares. No one has cared at my other jobs either. I just make sure the girls aren't all hanging out all over the place (those are weekend shirts, lol) and it's fine.
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Post by CarolinaKat on Apr 23, 2014 10:34:33 GMT -5
There are benefits to waiting till after you have kids to do the breast reduction thing. But honestly, it was the best thing I ever did for myself. she has been having backaches, and has given up on jogging - so it may be something that she considers down the line. Like tattoos, her adult decision under her own steam. I just hope she thinks it over carefully - and makes the best decision for her. My BFF is putting off the breast reduction until after she's done with kids and breastfeeding. EVERYONE, including her DH, is trying to talk her into going ahead since she won't be done with kids for at least 6 years. I fortunately am small enough (38G) that I can buy expensive bras and be ok, but she's not that lucky.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Apr 23, 2014 10:45:41 GMT -5
I let DD negotiate the situation as she saw fit. I offered to go in, but she declined and handled it however she handled it. The school has never called me about anything, so I guess she negotiated it good enough. It is the emphasis and attention on those with particular body shapes and different standards that I object to - not having a dress code. As an example, DD's friend wears these low scoop neck shirts that literally go down to the center between her boobs. But as she has tiny A's - no one notices. No one says anything. But DD wears much higher neckline and gets told to cover up. It is not the cut of the neckline, but the body type. That is what is the issue. I really don't think it is the body type. If the school doesn't want cleavage shown, and our opinions as to if this is good or bad don't count, then the shirt a girl wears has to fit that part of the dress code. That may mean one girl won't get to wear the exact tshirt another girl can wear, but the shirts they both wear should start on the same places on their bodies. Skirts are one example schools use based on the individual's body rather than a style all the time and I think it takes the emphasis away from the exact skirt. A skirt has to go at least to blank inches above the knee. So the girl with short legs can wear a skirt that is shorter than the girls who are long legged. The same as the girl who has higher cleavage can't wear the shirt that falls to low but the girls who don't can. My DD is short legged. She regularly wears skirts that would get a girl with average length legs sent to the office to change. Why is one half of this so bad but the other part okay? It really is two halfs of the same coin imo. Skirts come in all kinds of lengths, shirt necklines, not so much.....
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Post by 973beachbum on Apr 23, 2014 13:00:43 GMT -5
I really don't think it is the body type. If the school doesn't want cleavage shown, and our opinions as to if this is good or bad don't count, then the shirt a girl wears has to fit that part of the dress code. That may mean one girl won't get to wear the exact tshirt another girl can wear, but the shirts they both wear should start on the same places on their bodies. Skirts are one example schools use based on the individual's body rather than a style all the time and I think it takes the emphasis away from the exact skirt. A skirt has to go at least to blank inches above the knee. So the girl with short legs can wear a skirt that is shorter than the girls who are long legged. The same as the girl who has higher cleavage can't wear the shirt that falls to low but the girls who don't can. My DD is short legged. She regularly wears skirts that would get a girl with average length legs sent to the office to change. Why is one half of this so bad but the other part okay? It really is two halfs of the same coin imo. Skirts come in all kinds of lengths, shirt necklines, not so much..... Yet we never had a problem finding them in necklines that didn't drop too low for school for DD who is also a 38 DD. What looks like the right neckline for one person doesn't look the same on another. And we haven't been buying clothes for senior citizens either. The clothes might have been meant to hit at the clavicle for a less endowed woman, but hit low enough to be right where the other girls tshirts land for DD so it doesn't look like a weird grandma shirt. The net effect is a top that hits where it should on her for a place like school. We have bought plenty of shirts that when she put them on at home it was obvious that it was too low for school even though I'm sure it would have been fine on other girls. Complaining about it really doesn't help much IMO. We just move on and keep trying on clothes until we find ones that she likes that do fit the way we want.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Apr 23, 2014 13:37:39 GMT -5
Skirts come in all kinds of lengths, shirt necklines, not so much..... Yet we never had a problem finding them in necklines that didn't drop too low for school for DD who is also a 38 DD. What looks like the right neckline for one person doesn't look the same on another. And we haven't been buying clothes for senior citizens either. The clothes might have been meant to hit at the clavicle for a less endowed woman, but hit low enough to be right where the other girls tshirts land for DD so it doesn't look like a weird grandma shirt. The net effect is a top that hits where it should on her for a place like school. We have bought plenty of shirts that when she put them on at home it was obvious that it was too low for school even though I'm sure it would have been fine on other girls. Complaining about it really doesn't help much IMO. We just move on and keep trying on clothes until we find ones that she likes that do fit the way we want. Your DD and I are similar sized, I too can find things that are not too low. My cleavage doesn't start near the collarbone though. For those that do, I can see how it is tiresome and almost impossible to find something that will work within certain fuddy duddy guidelines.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2014 14:06:22 GMT -5
I got my reduction after I was done with kids, but not before I realized I was done... I figured if I had another one it wouldn't have been easy yo breastfeed anyway, given the gymnastics required at that point to feed a baby without smothering it...
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Post by CarolinaKat on Apr 23, 2014 15:09:36 GMT -5
Yet we never had a problem finding them in necklines that didn't drop too low for school for DD who is also a 38 DD. What looks like the right neckline for one person doesn't look the same on another. And we haven't been buying clothes for senior citizens either. The clothes might have been meant to hit at the clavicle for a less endowed woman, but hit low enough to be right where the other girls tshirts land for DD so it doesn't look like a weird grandma shirt. The net effect is a top that hits where it should on her for a place like school. We have bought plenty of shirts that when she put them on at home it was obvious that it was too low for school even though I'm sure it would have been fine on other girls. Complaining about it really doesn't help much IMO. We just move on and keep trying on clothes until we find ones that she likes that do fit the way we want. Your DD and I are similar sized, I too can find things that are not too low. My cleavage doesn't start near the collarbone though. For those that do, I can see how it is tiresome and almost impossible to find something that will work within certain fuddy duddy guidelines. I had cleavage in the symphonic band uniform, and the gym uniform, and the soccer uniform.....
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Apr 23, 2014 15:14:51 GMT -5
My husband was working in a different state and 99% of the time I drove him to the airport in whatever I was wearing around the house and I never got the kids dressed either.
It was all nice and dandy until one time on the way back one of my kids had to go to the bathroom and the only place I had to stop was a fairly nice restaurant. They were nice enough to let me use their bathroom, but I was completely freaking out that they would call CPS on me bc we kind of looked.....dirty and homeless...
Now I get dressed even if I am outside in the yard with my kids.
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