Why wasn't I invited? how rude?

[tloonya]

Is it rude to ask 'why wasn't I invited to...'
We know some people that we do not party with.
However related somehow.
My daughter found sweet 16 of their kid and asked my why weren't we invited. Like 'that's rude!
I said who cares?
She said 'but I thought we were friends'...
It took me a lot of nerves to explain it to her that this is rude to ask why wasn't I invited.
And it is perfectly ok to not to invite people you don't think about at the moment.


To me now I am happy if they forget me and if they remember me I am like...mad.
Because I do not have life where I can have strength to party. So I am happy not to.

I need to direct her to some sources where it says about 'etiquette'.
However I had been reading so much and people are never in tune on these subjects.

[swamp]

Your daughter is in college. Why would she want to go to a sweet 16 party?

[Rocky Mtn Saver]

I thought everyone loved Loony's well-spoiled daughter! 

[tloonya]

Mar 17, 2014 14:55:50 GMT -5 swamp said:

Your daughter is in college. Why would she want to go to a sweet 16 party?

My friend's college graduate DD comes to my daughter's college parties...

[tloonya]

Mar 17, 2014 14:57:24 GMT -5 Rocky Mtn Saver said:

I thought everyone loved Loony's well-spoiled daughter! 

I am afraid they love her but they aren't my fans. So they couldn't invite just her. That would be rude!

[Otto the Orange]

Loony- they know you are the life of the party and didn't want u upstaging the daughter.....take it as a compliment

[swamp]

Mar 17, 2014 15:06:57 GMT -5 tloonya said:

Mar 17, 2014 14:55:50 GMT -5 swamp said:

Your daughter is in college. Why would she want to go to a sweet 16 party?

My friend's college graduate DD comes to my daughter's college parties...

I'm confused.

You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

[Otto the Orange]

Mar 17, 2014 15:19:11 GMT -5 swamp said:

Mar 17, 2014 15:06:57 GMT -5 tloonya said:

My friend's college graduate DD comes to my daughter's college parties...

I'm confused.

You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

you're axing too many serious questions on a Loony thread, babe.....just relax and enjoy the ride

[sarcasticgirl]

Mar 17, 2014 15:19:11 GMT -5 swamp said:

Mar 17, 2014 15:06:57 GMT -5 tloonya said:

My friend's college graduate DD comes to my daughter's college parties...

I'm confused.

You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

Joining swamp here in the confusion... 

[Rocky Mtn Saver]

Mar 17, 2014 15:19:11 GMT -5 swamp said:

Mar 17, 2014 15:06:57 GMT -5 tloonya said:

My friend's college graduate DD comes to my daughter's college parties...

I'm confused.

You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

Wait, I think I actually got this one!  I think Loony is saying that it's not strange for a college student to go to a 16 year old's party because a post-college young adult goes to college parties.  She's equating the two age differences for illustrative purposes. 

I think. 

[NancysSummerSip]

Mar 17, 2014 15:34:42 GMT -5 sarcasticgirl said:

Mar 17, 2014 15:19:11 GMT -5 swamp said:

I'm confused.

You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

Joining swamp here in the confusion... 

Sometimes, a ride on the Loony crazy train makes me want to throw myself off...

[Green Eyed Lady]

So the party is for the younger sister of the girl that goes to your daughter's events?   It is not rude for your daughter to ask you why you feel they weren't invited, but you are right.  It would be rude to ask them why she wasn't invited.

[NancysSummerSip]

Mar 17, 2014 15:36:09 GMT -5 Rocky Mtn Saver said:

Mar 17, 2014 15:19:11 GMT -5 swamp said:

I'm confused.

You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

Wait, I think I actually got this one!  I think Loony is saying that it's not strange for a college student to go to a 16 year old's party because a post-college young adult goes to college parties.  She's equating the two age differences for illustrative purposes. 

I think. 

And stop thinking. You're just making it worse!

[Rocky Mtn Saver]

Mar 17, 2014 15:07:54 GMT -5 tloonya said:

Mar 17, 2014 14:57:24 GMT -5 Rocky Mtn Saver said:

I thought everyone loved Loony's well-spoiled daughter! 

I am afraid they love her but they aren't my fans.

I refuse to believe this.

[alabamagal]

Kind of the opposite of "Why was I invited to the wedding when I don't know bride and groom."

[tskeeter]

Mar 17, 2014 14:54:50 GMT -5 tloonya said:

Is it rude to ask 'why wasn't I invited to...'
We know some people that we do not party with.
However related somehow.
My daughter found sweet 16 of their kid and asked my why weren't we invited. Like 'that's rude!
I said who cares?
She said 'but I thought we were friends'...
It took me a lot of nerves to explain it to her that this is rude to ask why wasn't I invited.
And it is perfectly ok to not to invite people you don't think about at the moment.


To me now I am happy if they forget me and if they remember me I am like...mad.
Because I do not have life where I can have strength to party. So I am happy not to.

I need to direct her to some sources where it says about 'etiquette'.
However I had been reading so much and people are never in tune on these subjects.

Emily Post has been considered the US expert on etiquette for several generations.  You might want to point your DD in the direction of one of her books.  However, I'm sure that once your DD is well versed in proper etiquette, she will find that, although many of us try our best, we're not all that well versed in proper formal etiquette.  Hopefully she will forgive our shortcomings. 

[tloonya]

Mar 17, 2014 15:19:11 GMT -5 swamp said:

Mar 17, 2014 15:06:57 GMT -5 tloonya said:

My friend's college graduate DD comes to my daughter's college parties...

I'm confused.

You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

Out of all! She strikes again! DIFFERENT venues...different times...different people.
Why? Am I supposed to talk about same people in one thread?

[tloonya]

Mar 17, 2014 15:36:09 GMT -5 Rocky Mtn Saver said:

Mar 17, 2014 15:19:11 GMT -5 swamp said:

I'm confused.

You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

Wait, I think I actually got this one!  I think Loony is saying that it's not strange for a college student to go to a 16 year old's party because a post-college young adult goes to college parties.  She's equating the two age differences for illustrative purposes. 

I think. 

Exactlly! And how was I supposed to say it for swamp and Co to understand it?

Next time I will say 'ATTENTION: I am talking about different person now!'...would that help?

[tloonya]

Mar 17, 2014 15:45:14 GMT -5 Rocky Mtn Saver said:

Mar 17, 2014 15:07:54 GMT -5 tloonya said:

I am afraid they love her but they aren't my fans.

I refuse to believe this.

I know, right? They had missed few funny insults and at least one big put down! I am not even mentioning my signature drunken rampage about food and how cheap it all is!  Its their loss anyway...

[tloonya]

Mar 18, 2014 9:37:54 GMT -5 lazysundays said:

$25 max once a year, more likely every 2 years. $15 haircut with $10 tip. I let it grow out and chop it all off for a wig donation. I wear my hair half up half down. Very low maintenance.

yes! I AM the one hard to understand...

[Value Buy]

Maybe it had more to do with the mother of the dear daughter not getting invited.................

In the real world, college girls do not get invited to sweet sixteen parties, unless they are to provide the beer bongs and the beer, and some mothers actually have a problem with that.

[mmhmm]

Mar 18, 2014 9:53:34 GMT -5 tloonya said:

Mar 18, 2014 9:37:54 GMT -5 lazysundays said:

$25 max once a year, more likely every 2 years. $15 haircut with $10 tip. I let it grow out and chop it all off for a wig donation. I wear my hair half up half down. Very low maintenance.

yes! I AM the one hard to understand...

Just a post that ended up in the wrong thread, tloonya.  I've moved it.

mmhmm, Administrator

[sarcasticgirl]

Mar 18, 2014 9:35:48 GMT -5 tloonya said:

Mar 17, 2014 15:36:09 GMT -5 Rocky Mtn Saver said:

Wait, I think I actually got this one!  I think Loony is saying that it's not strange for a college student to go to a 16 year old's party because a post-college young adult goes to college parties.  She's equating the two age differences for illustrative purposes. 

I think. 

Exactlly! And how was I supposed to say it for swamp and Co to understand it?

Next time I will say 'ATTENTION: I am talking about different person now!'...would that help?

you finish the actual sentence/thought in order to make your point and therefore clarify your meaning.

[tloonya]

Mar 18, 2014 10:33:35 GMT -5 sarcasticgirl said:

Mar 18, 2014 9:35:48 GMT -5 tloonya said:

Exactlly! And how was I supposed to say it for swamp and Co to understand it?

Next time I will say 'ATTENTION: I am talking about different person now!'...would that help?

you finish the actual sentence/thought in order to make your point and therefore clarify your meaning.

That was stand alone post! One sentence! So no excuses, please.

[sarcasticgirl]

Mar 18, 2014 10:39:23 GMT -5 tloonya said:

Mar 18, 2014 10:33:35 GMT -5 sarcasticgirl said:

you finish the actual sentence/thought in order to make your point and therefore clarify your meaning.

That was stand alone post! One sentence! So no excuses, please.

Don't ask a question if you don't want the answer. The post was confusing to several posters, so clearly it wasn't a "stand along post"

[NancysSummerSip]

Mar 18, 2014 10:46:51 GMT -5 sarcasticgirl said:

Mar 18, 2014 10:39:23 GMT -5 tloonya said:

That was stand alone post! One sentence! So no excuses, please.

Don't ask a question if you don't want the answer. The post was confusing to several posters, so clearly it wasn't a "stand along post"

Actually, that could be the issue.  A lot of Loony's post stand alone. Really, really alone. Which leaves us dazed and confused as to their true meaning.

We need IowaSwirl to come back to the boards. She was an outstanding translator. Remember the wedding dress thread? She untangled that one in a jiffy. I bet she could unscramble Loony faster than you could say, "The Amish chicken man made off with my melons" ten times fast.

[tloonya]

Mar 18, 2014 10:46:51 GMT -5 sarcasticgirl said:

Mar 18, 2014 10:39:23 GMT -5 tloonya said:

That was stand alone post! One sentence! So no excuses, please.

Don't ask a question if you don't want the answer. The post was confusing to several posters, so clearly it wasn't a "stand along post"

You have NO idea what is going on here do you?
We are talking about following...
...my stand alone sentence when I said:
My friend's college graduate DD comes to my daughter's college parties...
and swamp said:
You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

And what are YOU talking about, girl?

[NancysSummerSip]

You have NO idea what is going on here do you?
We are talking about following...
...my stand alone sentence when I said:
My friend's college graduate DD comes to my daughter's college parties...
and swamp said:
You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

Repeating it does not make it seem any more sensible. It's like trying to read a Google map for the first time when you've only seen caveman drawings all your life.

[tloonya]

Mar 18, 2014 10:52:52 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Mar 18, 2014 10:46:51 GMT -5 sarcasticgirl said:

Don't ask a question if you don't want the answer. The post was confusing to several posters, so clearly it wasn't a "stand along post"

Actually, that could be the issue.  A lot of Loony's post stand alone. Really, really alone. Which leaves us dazed and confused as to their true meaning.

We need IowaSwirl to come back to the boards. She was an outstanding translator. Remember the wedding dress thread? She untangled that one in a jiffy. I bet she could unscramble Loony faster than you could say, "The Amish chicken man made off with my melons" ten times fast.

There is nothing to unscramble when ones noodles are not so mushy! and not wrapped around same thoughts (amish chckens and mellons in every post).

[sarcasticgirl]

Mar 18, 2014 10:54:04 GMT -5 tloonya said:

Mar 18, 2014 10:46:51 GMT -5 sarcasticgirl said:

Don't ask a question if you don't want the answer. The post was confusing to several posters, so clearly it wasn't a "stand along post"

You have NO idea what is going on here do you?
We are talking about following...
...my stand alone sentence when I said:
My friend's college graduate DD comes to my daughter's college parties...
and swamp said:
You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

And what are YOU talking about, girl?

Your original statement wasn't a stand alone comment, it was in RESPONSE to Swamp's question:

Swamp: Your daughter is in college. Why would she want to go to a sweet 16 party?

You: My friend's college graduate DD comes to my daughter's college parties...

Swamp: I'm confused. You said it was a Sweet 16 party, which are usually junior or senior year of High School. Is the party for the same person who goes to your daughter's parties? If so, why is she a college graduate at age 16?

It was confusing... why can't you just clarify what you mean instead of getting all worked up and point out how clear you were. Doesn't that seem easier?