Phoenix84
Senior Associate
Joined: Feb 17, 2011 21:42:35 GMT -5
Posts: 10,056
|
Post by Phoenix84 on Mar 1, 2014 17:12:27 GMT -5
Your husband must be like a scarecrow. Anyway, not that I'm attracted to guys, but the really skinny ones look weird to me. Lol! I'll have to suggest a scarecrow for Halloween! He guessed that he's 160, bastard never pays attention when he gets weighed at the doctors. There's thin and there's super skinny. Super skinny I assume he needs a sandwich and to stop booting heroin, thin I just assume he has a good metabolism. So long as I weigh less than my spouse then I'm happy! Now that I think about it, he probably would seem too thin the way I describe him on here. We were at Target earlier getting some new stuff for our trip in a few weeks (!!!!) and the shorts he bought were a 30 waist. I'm 6'2" and consider 220 my ideal weight (and the doctor agrees). I have been below 200 lbs before, and I start to look like skeletor. I'm just built with some muscle, not like a line backer or anything, but I do have some meat on my bones.
|
|
Apple
Junior Associate
Always travel with a sense of humor
Joined: Dec 17, 2010 15:51:04 GMT -5
Posts: 9,938
Mini-Profile Name Color: dc0e29
|
Post by Apple on Mar 1, 2014 17:26:13 GMT -5
I like a guy with a frame like Phoenix described. And, I do have an "instant attraction" to a certain type. However, personality strongly influences what I'll find attractive after that initial encounter. There are guys who are overweight, short, smaller framed, etc, who I didn't have an instant attraction to, but, under different circumstances I would date them in a heart-beat. My two serious relationships were with guys I was attracted to the moment I met them (and still think they are hot), but, I don't need that to find myself interested in a guy.
I do have some things I can't get past though-- someone mentioned smell, if a guy has BO, I just couldn't do it. Extremely overweight--I'm no model, but there is a limit to what I can find attractive.
|
|
InsertCoolName
Familiar Member
Joined: Mar 1, 2011 17:32:48 GMT -5
Posts: 972
|
Post by InsertCoolName on Mar 1, 2014 18:08:45 GMT -5
Too skinny, to me, is if the man looks better in skinny jeans than I do.
Too overweight, to me, is when there is higher risk for health issues.
Late DH weighed just under 160 when he passed away, he was 6'2, and he was starting to look like he was sick. I was verbally concerned. At his heaviest, he was 220. I never thought he was 'fat' at that weight.
I've several friends who are very much overweight. 350+ pounds. They all have many health issues. And if they don't lose weight, they will probably all die before they are 50, they are in their early 40's now.
But I still believe I am shallow. It is what it is.
|
|
zibazinski
Community Leader
Joined: Dec 24, 2010 16:12:50 GMT -5
Posts: 47,912
|
Post by zibazinski on Mar 1, 2014 19:07:15 GMT -5
Your husband must be like a scarecrow. Anyway, not that I'm attracted to guys, but the really skinny ones look weird to me. Lol! I'll have to suggest a scarecrow for Halloween! He guessed that he's 160, bastard never pays attention when he gets weighed at the doctors. There's thin and there's super skinny. Super skinny I assume he needs a sandwich and to stop booting heroin, thin I just assume he has a good metabolism. So long as I weigh less than my spouse then I'm happy! Now that I think about it, he probably would seem too thin the way I describe him on here. We were at Target earlier getting some new stuff for our trip in a few weeks (!!!!) and the shorts he bought were a 30 waist. DF has a 30 waist and is 6 feet tall. Yup, scarecrow!!
|
|
truthbound
Familiar Member
Joined: Mar 1, 2014 6:01:51 GMT -5
Posts: 814
|
Post by truthbound on Mar 2, 2014 5:16:46 GMT -5
|
|
quince
Senior Member
Joined: Sept 23, 2011 17:51:12 GMT -5
Posts: 2,699
|
Post by quince on Mar 2, 2014 13:33:16 GMT -5
I don't know. I wouldn't be attracted to an asshole with a pretty face, if that's what it means. I did have preferences when it comes to looks, but I met my husband and somehow they all reoriented to him.
I do think he's way more attractive than me though- I'd say I'm a 4-6 (depending on the day) with an 8, although I'm probably a bit biased. So he's not shallow, or he's a chubby chaser...( I asked him this question, and he said no, though, so I'm going with him not being shallow.)
|
|
grits
Senior Member
Joined: Dec 17, 2012 13:43:33 GMT -5
Posts: 3,185
|
Post by grits on Mar 2, 2014 15:12:34 GMT -5
When considering a person's weight, one needs to take many things into account. A tall man with a small frame, and wiry type muscles will be at his ideal weight at a lower number. A tall man with a large frame, and bulky muscles would indeed be underweight at a lower number.
|
|
grits
Senior Member
Joined: Dec 17, 2012 13:43:33 GMT -5
Posts: 3,185
|
Post by grits on Mar 2, 2014 15:21:56 GMT -5
I always swam in the deep end of the pool not the shallow end. None of you would be able to differentiate between the causes of bubbles.
|
|
dcmetrocrab
Familiar Member
Joined: Dec 19, 2010 19:50:51 GMT -5
Posts: 527
|
Post by dcmetrocrab on Mar 2, 2014 23:20:38 GMT -5
I don't consider myself shallow.
First thing I notice will be the physical attributes. Whether I am attracted to the individual, depends on what comes out of their mouths. Do I enjoy their company and vice versa, are they kind, generous, and most important, are they confident. Physical short comings can go to the background if their person shines through. I have been attracted to both women and men who were not physically wow but had such natural charisma that being short/overweight/bad skin all fades away.
|
|
milee
Senior Associate
Joined: Jan 17, 2012 13:20:00 GMT -5
Posts: 12,344
|
Post by milee on Mar 3, 2014 8:22:28 GMT -5
Bad breath would be tough to overcome. Since you're vegan I have no idea how you can even stand to be in the same room with most omnivorous people, much less kiss them. The times when I've been vegetarian, I thought the breath of people who ate meat was totally disgusting, so I'm guessing for vegans even the vegetarians smell bad.
|
|
dcmetrocrab
Familiar Member
Joined: Dec 19, 2010 19:50:51 GMT -5
Posts: 527
|
Post by dcmetrocrab on Mar 3, 2014 14:41:11 GMT -5
I don't consider myself shallow. First thing I notice will be the physical attributes. Whether I am attracted to the individual, depends on what comes out of their mouths. Do I enjoy their company and vice versa, are they kind, generous, and most important, are they confident. Physical short comings can go to the background if their person shines through. I have been attracted to both women and men who were not physically wow but had such natural charisma that being short/overweight/bad skin all fades away. How about bad breath? Heh, there's always going to be some personal subjective "deal breaker" here. Bad breath (clinical halitosis) is not one of them for me, but bad natural body odor MIGHT be because I just have a personal thing about that. I say might, because the love chemistry might over power even that too. Sometimes the chemistry is and is not strong enough to overcome some physical attributes, but I'd be hard pressed to name every combo and permutation of said combo possible. Also, dude may be such a fright physically that I'd high tail it without some major pluses. If this is shallow, so be it.
|
|
HoneyBBQ
Junior Associate
Joined: Dec 27, 2010 10:36:09 GMT -5
Posts: 5,395
Mini-Profile Background: {"image":"","color":"3b444e"}
|
Post by HoneyBBQ on Mar 3, 2014 15:06:46 GMT -5
Are you shallow when it pertains to the opposite sex? Would you date a person that was overweight? Even if they were the nicest person you had met in a long time? Do or did you have a certain standard you looked for? I know people are more than their weight or looks. Just curious what the attractions are/were for posters out there. Maybe. As pointed out, I have to be attracted to them. I prefer athletic build. A few extra pounds is ok. I dated a rugby player for many years (on of the front line guys, not the little 105 lb dude they dangle from their shoulders), and he definitely could be described as overweight. However, he was extremely strong and athletic. As long as they can keep up with me and my lifestyle, it's fine with me. I like hiking and backpacking, so as long as they can walk up a mountain with a pack on--- fine by me.
|
|
CarolinaKat
Junior Associate
Joined: Dec 21, 2010 16:10:37 GMT -5
Posts: 6,364
|
Post by CarolinaKat on Mar 3, 2014 15:08:35 GMT -5
Yes. I have a different sense of aesthetic than most. So you don't have to be super handsome by society's standards. But I do have to admit that long, dirty nails turn me off. Well, dirty nails, period. And you'll be surprise by how many people have dirty nails. I clean my hand (nails and all) like I'm preparing for surgery, but I'm a bit OCD.
And, smell is what is important to me. You got to smell right to me.
You'd hate my DH. He comes in from the garage smelling like grease and diesel and dirt with stains on his hands and nails that take days to go away and busted knuckles and scrapes he doesn't remember getting. Smells like home to me. For me, I have to be attracted enough to them that the physical part of the relationship works. If there's not that spark, then it's a no-go. That being said I've been attracted to the entire range of guys from very pretty to overweight D& D nerds. depends on the guy. But my heart went to the family-man mechanic with the goofy sense of humor. Plus he's hot... and good in bed!
|
|
flutterby
Familiar Member
Joined: Jan 22, 2013 9:16:42 GMT -5
Posts: 738
|
Post by flutterby on Mar 3, 2014 15:19:13 GMT -5
Now tell me if this is shallow. I went out with a guy. Even before the date I was thinking he probably wasn't my type, but figured I'd follow through since it was just meeting for coffee. So he was talking about a winery he went to the previous weekend. And then he said, and I quote: "The wine was to die for." Those actual words. I looked at him to see if he was joking or being sarcastic or what, but, no, he was being serious! I should've just gotten up and left right there and then. I just can't be with anyone who would seriously use that phrase. I'm laughing right now as I'm typing this because I know I sound ridiculous. But seriously, those words just killed any interest I may have had in him. Yeah, call me shallow!
|
|
NomoreDramaQ1015
Community Leader
Joined: Dec 20, 2010 14:26:32 GMT -5
Posts: 48,085
Member is Online
|
Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 3, 2014 15:29:56 GMT -5
I dated all of two guys before I ended up with DH so I really have no clue if I am shallo. DH is overweight, in fact all three guys I dated were so I can't say I'm super shallow about weight. I do have a threshold. I wouldn't be with someone who is bed bound due to weight or has to ride around on a rascal for example. DH is able to keep up with me and the toddler just fine. I do worry about his health as he ages but so far every physical has come back perfect except for his BMI. Despite what he thinks about himself he's not unattractive. I've even had co-workers say he's not bad looking. So it's not just "me being nice" like he claims. He comes in from the garage smelling like grease and diesel and dirt with stains on his hands and nails that take days to go away and busted knuckles and scrapes he doesn't remember getting. DH used to smell like that when he worked for an oil refinery. Made me happy and I couldn't figure out why. My mom said my dad used to reek like that when I was a kid. So DH smelled like childhood. The smelling like bacon grease every day got really sickening/unattractive, I'm glad he doesn't work there anymore. There is such a thing as too much bacon.
|
|
CarolinaKat
Junior Associate
Joined: Dec 21, 2010 16:10:37 GMT -5
Posts: 6,364
|
Post by CarolinaKat on Mar 3, 2014 15:35:19 GMT -5
I dated all of two guys before I ended up with DH so I really have no clue if I am shallo. DH is overweight, in fact all three guys I dated were so I can't say I'm super shallow about weight. I do have a threshold. I wouldn't be with someone who is bed bound due to weight or has to ride around on a rascal for example. DH is able to keep up with me and the toddler just fine. I do worry about his health as he ages but so far every physical has come back perfect except for his BMI. Despite what he thinks about himself he's not unattractive. I've even had co-workers say he's not bad looking. So it's not just "me being nice" like he claims. He comes in from the garage smelling like grease and diesel and dirt with stains on his hands and nails that take days to go away and busted knuckles and scrapes he doesn't remember getting. DH used to smell like that when he worked for an oil refinery. Made me happy and I couldn't figure out why. My mom said my dad used to reek like that when I was a kid. So DH smelled like childhood.
The smelling like bacon grease every day got really sickening/unattractive, I'm glad he doesn't work there anymore. There is such a thing as too much bacon. That's exactly why I like it, but I knew that going in. My grandfather was a mechanic and always came home smelling like grease and oil and dirt. My grandparents kept me when I was a child, so it's a very positive association from my childhood. Occasionally I'd get to run around granddaddy's shop (it had an old-timey oil change pit!) and then I would smell like oil and grease and dirt! Although I don't think I could do bacon either...yuck!
|
|
Spellbound454
Senior Member
"In the end, we remember not the words of our enemies but the silence of our friends"
Joined: Sept 9, 2011 17:28:42 GMT -5
Posts: 4,096
|
Post by Spellbound454 on Mar 3, 2014 15:36:49 GMT -5
I favour dating ugly men. They are just so happy to be getting some action.... that they treat you really well They have to be rich of course
|
|
NomoreDramaQ1015
Community Leader
Joined: Dec 20, 2010 14:26:32 GMT -5
Posts: 48,085
Member is Online
|
Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Mar 3, 2014 15:40:54 GMT -5
Although I don't think I could do bacon either...yuck
Have you seen bacon perfume/colonge? I saw it and thought "My husband reeks like that every day, WHY would you douse yourself in it on purpose?!"
|
|
Green Eyed Lady
Senior Associate
Look inna eye! Always look inna eye!
Joined: Jan 23, 2012 11:23:55 GMT -5
Posts: 19,629
|
Post by Green Eyed Lady on Mar 3, 2014 15:42:22 GMT -5
Confidence....I forgot confidence. It's such a sexy trait. A lack of it is a definite turn off. I don't mean arrogance. I can't explain the difference, but I know it when I see it.
ETA: Maybe this: A confident man puts on a shirt he likes and out he goes. He doesn't have to ask if it looks ok and he doesn't have to tell you before you ask that it's a great shirt. He just puts it on.
|
|
Sunnyday
Well-Known Member
Joined: Aug 3, 2013 0:36:39 GMT -5
Posts: 1,425
|
Post by Sunnyday on Mar 3, 2014 15:52:58 GMT -5
Yes. I have a different sense of aesthetic than most. So you don't have to be super handsome by society's standards. But I do have to admit that long, dirty nails turn me off. Well, dirty nails, period. And you'll be surprise by how many people have dirty nails. I clean my hand (nails and all) like I'm preparing for surgery, but I'm a bit OCD.
And, smell is what is important to me. You got to smell right to me.
You'd hate my DH. He comes in from the garage smelling like grease and diesel and dirt with stains on his hands and nails that take days to go away and busted knuckles and scrapes he doesn't remember getting. Smells like home to me. For me, I have to be attracted enough to them that the physical part of the relationship works. If there's not that spark, then it's a no-go. That being said I've been attracted to the entire range of guys from very pretty to overweight D& D nerds. depends on the guy. But my heart went to the family-man mechanic with the goofy sense of humor. Plus he's hot... and good in bed! Most people would prefer stained hands than my hands, which are pretty much wrecked from my constant hand washing! They are cracked, dry and sometimes they bleed from the skin cracking. I don't mind cigarette smoke on a man. Most people would be grossed out by that. Most tobacco, leather are really sexy, masculine smells to me. Grease and diesel, not so much. lol
|
|
Abby Normal
Senior Member
Joined: Dec 22, 2010 12:31:49 GMT -5
Posts: 3,501
|
Post by Abby Normal on Mar 3, 2014 16:37:04 GMT -5
I'm only shallow in the spring. When the sun comes out here, so does the eye candy!
|
|
zibazinski
Community Leader
Joined: Dec 24, 2010 16:12:50 GMT -5
Posts: 47,912
|
Post by zibazinski on Mar 3, 2014 17:25:39 GMT -5
I'm shallow now that I'm older. Not dating broke or criminal or anything that just is too much drama. At 19, whatever. Forty years later, no Fing way.
|
|