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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2014 10:41:40 GMT -5
My little cousin just finished grad school and accepted a job offer almost 1000 miles from home. He asked my son to help him move and somehow that turned into "hey, you don't have anything tying you to home except family, why don't you stay a while and see if you can find a job there". My son agreed, various family members gifted them furniture and things to furnish the apartment, and money. My older cousin is flying out tomorrow to their new city to help them get settled in. My son doesn't know it, but since I don't want my cousin to have to support him, I will help my cousin with the expenses until my son finds a job, and my family members have offered to help too. God, I love them. For now though, he thinks he's starting his new life with just several hundred dollars to last until he has a job. They're in a moving van now, on the road, headed to new lives. Two young guys and a dog. My son and my little cousin have never actually lived together, but his Mom and I worked together to get him and my kids back and forth from school for years, let them spend days and nights together at our houses, family babysat them all at the same time and we all traveled together, so they basically grew up together. I think it's a good thing for my son to get away from here and have the opportunity to get a fresh start in a different kind of environment. If he's not working by June, we'll revisit the issue to see if he has to come back here then. The only way he can stay indefinitely if he doesn't find a job, is if he goes back to college like my little cousin and his aunt are encouraging him to do. I really hope he's matured enough to make this move a positive change. But I'm use to seeing him several times a week and man am I sad about him being so far away from me. On a lighter note, he also has me spoiled. He hasn't lived with me in over a year, but he still took care of my yard, washed my car for me, and did odd jobs for me around the house. Now what am I going to do? LOL!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2014 10:42:18 GMT -5
I meant to post this in YM Off-Topic. Oops!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2014 10:47:47 GMT -5
Ah man, I miss those days. I had no idea what a special time that was at that time.
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Post by Rocky Mtn Saver on Feb 26, 2014 10:49:36 GMT -5
That'd be tough for any parent, hang in there! Hopefully, he's becoming an adult, but it's a double-edged sword, isn't it?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2014 10:50:11 GMT -5
I hope your DS thrives in the new city! As for lawncare and such, you should see if Colleenz 's new guy has a brother.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Feb 26, 2014 10:52:06 GMT -5
I hope your DS thrives in the new city! As for lawncare and such, you should see if Colleenz 's new guy has a brother. and good luck getting Colleenz' attention at this point to even ask. Hottie Contractor is keeping her busy with, shall we say, indoor projects.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2014 11:05:36 GMT -5
Yeah, it's great to be young and free to take off and chase new things. And it can be hard on the parents when their child does exactly that. Exciting and scary all at the same time. I sure do hope he thrives. Lol on colleenz being busy. A hottie contractor sounds great! Sroo, I sincerely hope that ends up being my son's story, or something similar. I'd be one proud Momma. As far as his situation, he's 20, dropped out of college and has just been sort of drifting, mostly finding work through temp agencies. One thing I'm glad about is that he'll be away from his "friends" and around people that are doing good things with their lives.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Feb 26, 2014 11:18:58 GMT -5
Sounds like a great adventure to me. In my mid twenties I packed up and moved across the country and i don't regret it. OKay... maybe a little during the peak of this miserable winter... It has been a fantastic adventure and I always look forward to my visits home and my family visiting me here. I am probably closer to my parents now (at 1000+ miles away) than when I lived 20 minutes away.
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Post by greeniis10 on Feb 26, 2014 11:27:31 GMT -5
Good for him! Sorry it's so hard on you - I completely understand. He might as well do this while he can.
What field or career choice is he looking at? What did he start studying in college? This may open up a whole new world of ideas for him that he finds he's well suited for. Good luck to you both!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2014 11:28:51 GMT -5
Sounds like a great adventure to me. In my mid twenties I packed up and moved across the country and i don't regret it. OKay... maybe a little during the peak of this miserable winter... It has been a fantastic adventure and I always look forward to my visits home and my family visiting me here. I am probably closer to my parents now (at 1000+ miles away) than when I lived 20 minutes away. It sounds like a great adventure to me too. I know I'll miss him being so close, but I'm excited for him. He's excited and a little nervous. I have 2 weeks of vacation time scheduled for May. I've never been to the city he's moving to and it's somewhere I'd like to visit anyway. Sooo.......
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Feb 26, 2014 11:31:00 GMT -5
Sounds like a great adventure to me. In my mid twenties I packed up and moved across the country and i don't regret it. OKay... maybe a little during the peak of this miserable winter... It has been a fantastic adventure and I always look forward to my visits home and my family visiting me here. I am probably closer to my parents now (at 1000+ miles away) than when I lived 20 minutes away. It sounds like a great adventure to me too. I know I'll miss him being so close, but I'm excited for him. He's excited and a little nervous. I have 2 weeks of vacation time scheduled for May. I've never been to the city he's moving to and it's somewhere I'd like to visit anyway. Sooo....... sounds like Pink will have an adventure of her own! My mom loves to come visit me in Chicago. She has a fantastic time. I'm sure you'll have a great time visiting your son!
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 26, 2014 11:36:26 GMT -5
I have a great picture in my mind of two young lads and a dog heading off to win the world, Pink! Yes, it's hard when the younguns fly away, but it's a time on which you'll look back with pride, even if it's bittersweet. Thanks for sharing!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2014 11:38:57 GMT -5
Good for him! Sorry it's so hard on you - I completely understand. He might as well do this while he can. What field or career choice is he looking at? What did he start studying in college? This may open up a whole new world of ideas for him that he finds he's well suited for. Good luck to you both! When he went to college, it was an art college. Which gave me fits because it was very expensive and I'd talked to him about "starving artists". But he said it was his dream. He's still kind of into the arts, but I think he's over chasing that particular dream. I think this new city has more "flavor" than home, so that will probably suit him well. I don't know what field or career choice he's considering. The last thing he talked about before this came up, was getting a CDL. Right now he's just been trying to find a way to support himself until he figures out what's next. Thank you all for the good luck wishes!
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Post by shanendoah on Feb 26, 2014 12:08:50 GMT -5
Just remember, if he wants to go back to school, he should be in the new place at least a year before applying to establish residency. Establishing residency means he should get his driver's license changed right away, too. (It also used to mean opening a local bank account and getting a local phone number, but with cell phones and the deregulation of interstate banking laws, that no longer matters.) It also means he needs to have some sort of work history in the new area to show that he really is intent on being a resident. He needs to get in with temp agencies in the new place (and if he was working temp through Manpower or one of the other national companies at "home", he should make sure to register with the same agency in the new place) or find some sort of a McJob.
edited to add: And I also think this is hugely exciting for him. He's away from the safety blanket of Mom, but still with a great support network.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2014 12:47:30 GMT -5
Pink, I know you're going to miss him to bits, but it sounds like a great opportunity for your son! He gets a new start in a new place, while still being with family. (And it sounds like you have a really close, fantastic family).
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Post by pinkbow832 on Feb 26, 2014 12:56:11 GMT -5
Wow, I could have written this about my life 6 years ago! I hope it works out well for him, because it sounds like a great opportunity! I moved about 6 away from my hometown, no job lined up and about $1k in my bank account, and lived in my friend's living room "bedroom" (huge living room converted to 3rd "bedroom") for $500/mo. Found a part time job, got a full-time temp job, worked both of those until the temp job went permanent, found what I thought was my dream job 8 months later. Fast forward to now and I was laid off from "dream job", found another job to make due, have been promoted twice at the same company and am working in a position I never thought about but enjoy. It sounds like he's not afraid of hard work, so as long as he's will to do a "something for now" job, I'm sure he'll be fine making ends meet. It's an exciting time!
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Post by tloonya on Feb 26, 2014 12:58:49 GMT -5
My little cousin just finished grad school and accepted a job offer almost 1000 miles from home. He asked my son to help him move and somehow that turned into "hey, you don't have anything tying you to home except family, why don't you stay a while and see if you can find a job there". My son agreed, various family members gifted them furniture and things to furnish the apartment, and money. My older cousin is flying out tomorrow to their new city to help them get settled in. My son doesn't know it, but since I don't want my cousin to have to support him, I will help my cousin with the expenses until my son finds a job, and my family members have offered to help too. God, I love them. For now though, he thinks he's starting his new life with just several hundred dollars to last until he has a job. They're in a moving van now, on the road, headed to new lives. Two young guys and a dog. My son and my little cousin have never actually lived together, but his Mom and I worked together to get him and my kids back and forth from school for years, let them spend days and nights together at our houses, family babysat them all at the same time and we all traveled together, so they basically grew up together. I think it's a good thing for my son to get away from here and have the opportunity to get a fresh start in a different kind of environment. If he's not working by June, we'll revisit the issue to see if he has to come back here then. The only way he can stay indefinitely if he doesn't find a job, is if he goes back to college like my little cousin and his aunt are encouraging him to do. I really hope he's matured enough to make this move a positive change. But I'm use to seeing him several times a week and man am I sad about him being so far away from me. On a lighter note, he also has me spoiled. He hasn't lived with me in over a year, but he still took care of my yard, washed my car for me, and did odd jobs for me around the house. Now what am I going to do? LOL! Hello, mother... -rofl-I love you for being so...gullible and thinking you are the only member of the family who is also member of this forum -hug-you are the best. ~Your Son~
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Post by Deleted on Feb 26, 2014 13:17:27 GMT -5
It's good to hear from posters that moved far away from home when they were young and ended up being successful. It's comforting knowing he's with my cousin that's responsible and about his business instead of being all alone or with some rooty-poot friend of his. tloonya, LOL! I'd be thrilled if my son was lurking on this message board. There's a wealth of good information here.
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Post by Colleenz on Feb 27, 2014 4:38:55 GMT -5
I'm here (occasionally ). Did I miss it - is he moving to WI?
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