Tiny
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Post by Tiny on Feb 25, 2014 15:47:38 GMT -5
Watch the credit card debt and be young and party while you can, because you'll hit 30, wonder why you didn't party more, and be too tired to do it. Oh, more importantly - don't let being shy and anxious make you not try new things. Interesting, people who partied a lot regret partying so much and wish they saved more. People who don't party a lot wish they partied more. Probably because the "party people" all have such good stories and wink winks with others who shared that kind of an experience. I didn't go away to college, so, back in the day I was the odd woman out when co-workers bonded over "college stories" or "crazy crap" they kept doing into their 30's. On the other hand, the party people are NOW seeing the good stuff that comes with not having spent every penny of their paychecks as youngun's and they now wish they didn't "eat and drink" so much of their past paychecks. It's a grass is always greener kinda thing.
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Post by Tiny on Feb 25, 2014 15:50:14 GMT -5
to answer the question... I guess the thing I'd tell my younger self would be "you've got a backbone... use it! You know the 'right thing to do' - DO IT! don't just stand there." That and I'd suggest paying more attention to the investments (401k and some individual stocks) and contribute a little bit more.
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swamp
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Post by swamp on Feb 25, 2014 15:51:35 GMT -5
Stop worrying about hurting someone's feelings and do what you want.
And the drunk loser.
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Post by Bonny on Feb 25, 2014 16:07:07 GMT -5
the lazy loser boyfriend. Do not feel sorry for him, do not support him.
While it's good to be generous friend, stop trying to take care of everyone. You will have down times in your life and you need to take care of yourself.
Grow a thicker skin. Some people are just naturally critical. That's their problem not yours.
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hurley1980
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Post by hurley1980 on Feb 25, 2014 16:17:34 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure my young self wouldnt have listened to a damned thing my old self said anyway, but its fun to think about. I mean, my mom told me all the same stuff, and isn't she kind of my old self anyway, since we all eventually turn into our mothers?
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Feb 25, 2014 16:47:53 GMT -5
Finish college the first time, because you won't go back later like you think you will. Change majors to business or finance like you want, don't let people guilt you into computer programming.
Hit the weights more often.
Keep in touch with your friends after you leave. People that would help you hide a body and keep their mouths shut about it are hard to find.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Feb 25, 2014 16:58:47 GMT -5
I struggle with this one all the time, because really every decision I made, good and bad, led me to where I am today, who I am, and to my two boys who are my world. Had I went away to graduate school instead of staying in my hometown, invested a fortune in MSFT in the 80's, didn't buy the expensive house, avoided the really bad choice in husbands, had I done ANY of these things, it's doubtful my kids would exist. So, I'm not sure I would change anything. Ok, maybe the MSFT one. In theory, your kids might not exist, but you likely might have had kids, and due to your personality, you likely would have loved those kids as much as your current kids. In this alternate reality, you might have the same response to the same question, and state how your altnerate universe kids are the justification for your choices.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2014 17:03:02 GMT -5
Take care of yourself! Save more money! You don't have to be so serious all the time. Don't let fear stop you from trying new things. Don't worry so much about people judging you and what they think you should do, it's your life. Live it on your own terms. Take care of yourself! Save more money!
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Phoenix84
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Post by Phoenix84 on Feb 25, 2014 17:13:28 GMT -5
How bad is it that I'd rather go back in time and tell DH's younger self a few things?
(at least - don't play football! And don't go to that surgeon!) Getting a visit from your future self would be creepy enough, can you imagine getting a visit from your future spouse.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Feb 25, 2014 17:15:15 GMT -5
No flame here. I wish I would have sent my hot self out to find some financially solvent gentlemen. What exactly do you and Sunshinegal mean by "financially solvent men." Are we talking about guys taking you out to dinner and a movie, or and all expense paid trips overseas.
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Post by Gardening Grandma on Feb 25, 2014 17:15:26 GMT -5
Finish your education and experience the world a bit before marrying.
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swamp
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Post by swamp on Feb 25, 2014 17:43:15 GMT -5
No flame here. I wish I would have sent my hot self out to find some financially solvent gentlemen. What exactly do you and Suinshinegal mean by "financially solvent men." Are we talking about guys taking you out to dinner and a movie, or and all expense paid trips overseas. For me, it would have been dinner and a movie, or skiing, or al ball game. Not 10 cent wing nite.
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Post by JustLurkin on Feb 25, 2014 18:19:53 GMT -5
I struggle with this one all the time, because really every decision I made, good and bad, led me to where I am today, who I am, and to my two boys who are my world.
There was a commercial on months ago for a talk show, probably on Lifetime, and the host was asking audience members "what would you tell your 14-year-old self?" One lady thought about it, and started laughing. She said "Ya know, my 14-year-old self was pretty together, I wonder what she would tell me!" I kinda feel that way, my views on life were much more black and white, which made decision making easier.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2014 18:34:40 GMT -5
Pay a lot less attention to what other people think or say and a lot more attention to your own heart.
Clean house less and have sex more.
Realize it's not your fault if your partner's head is messed up. You are only responsible for your own grey matter.
Absolutely nothing will ever be better than a good night's sleep without fear of anything.
Nothing that was done to you as a child is your fault.
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Post by sunshinegal1981 on Feb 25, 2014 18:49:58 GMT -5
No flame here. I wish I would have sent my hot self out to find some financially solvent gentlemen. What exactly do you and Sunshinegal mean by "financially solvent men." Are we talking about guys taking you out to dinner and a movie, or and all expense paid trips overseas. My vote is for swanky vacations overseas. Sorry, Swamp.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2014 19:00:30 GMT -5
You are beautiful - NOT fat! You know yourself better than you think you do. Enjoy your youth and freedom and don't be in such a rush to settle down. Stop taking the path of least resistance and trust that you can do what you put your mind to. LOVE YOURSELF.
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Post by Regis on Feb 25, 2014 19:02:56 GMT -5
Work ain't everything.
Which happens to be the same thing I need to tell my 50-year old self.
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Post by raeoflyte on Feb 25, 2014 20:57:44 GMT -5
This is such a tough one for me, but really I'd say put yourself first. Don't assume that everything or even anything will be reciprocated down the road. Listen to what your mother means even if her words are hard to hear.
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Post by tskeeter on Feb 26, 2014 13:41:26 GMT -5
Do not invest time and energy in really pretty girlfriends with alcohol and psychological problems. It's too stressful and you can't help fix it. them quick and run like hell.
Put in your 40 hours and go home. Nobody really appreciates the effort you make and they certainly aren't going to pay you enough to justify the effort. If you really feel driven to work, take a second job. It'll pay better than twice as many hours on your first job.
You're single. You really don't need three cars.
Plan to be retired by 45. You might make it by 50 or 55. After 55, you'll probably be worn out, disinterested, and ready to retire. If not, party on and bank some more bucks.
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Post by Sunnyday on Feb 27, 2014 11:03:35 GMT -5
have sex with more people.
Don't let your one- night stands become year long relationships.
invest in Apple.
don't let the people at school intimidate you. It's all just a facade.
And you really should have slept with Steve, instead of talking with him for 18 hours on his bed. now, you'll never know.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2014 11:07:47 GMT -5
I did sleep with Steve and he wasn't that great.
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Post by gambler on Feb 27, 2014 11:16:33 GMT -5
I was going to list a lot of past mistakes and regrets but after deep reflection i decided I really would not change a thing. It is the past experiences good bad that made me the sob I am today. there was a old song said something like regrets i have a few but i took the blows and did it my way.
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Post by Sunnyday on Feb 27, 2014 11:42:58 GMT -5
I did sleep with Steve and he wasn't that great. That would be hilarious if it was the same Steve. Was your Steve blond and into history with his tongue pierced? It's probably a good thing that I didn't sleep with Steve. Yhe reality would never have matched up to the fantasy.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2014 11:44:48 GMT -5
He was blonde, but no tongue piercing. The piercing would have improved his score!
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swamp
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Post by swamp on Feb 27, 2014 11:49:03 GMT -5
I slept with steve too. I don't remember his last name.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 27, 2014 11:55:36 GMT -5
DANG! Steve really got around!
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Post by wyouser on Feb 27, 2014 11:58:03 GMT -5
gasp.....a thought just ran through my head. What if you are a senior citizen and have already entered your second childhood. Should said child be bebopping back in time to give a child advice?
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Post by genericname on Feb 27, 2014 13:09:55 GMT -5
Learn to play hockey earlier than 30!
Don't waste $40K and 3 years on that master's degree you will never use.
Learn a second language, any second language.
Don't marry that dope, hold out for the right one. You will know him when he checks you into the boards, haha!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Feb 27, 2014 13:12:05 GMT -5
Hmmm...I like where I am right now so I really don't know that I would change anything. Well, maybe I wouldn't have spent $50K on a house that I would sell 3 months later (in the northeast, there isn't much value add for a pool).
But looking back at pictures I would tell myself that the big hair looks ridiculous!
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Post by Miss Tequila on Feb 27, 2014 13:13:50 GMT -5
Do not invest time and energy in really pretty girlfriends with alcohol and psychological problems. It's too stressful and you can't help fix it. them quick and run like hell.
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