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Post by hurley1980 on Feb 25, 2014 13:46:02 GMT -5
Watch the credit card debt and be young and party while you can, because you'll hit 30, wonder why you didn't party more, and be too tired to do it. Oh, more importantly - don't let being shy and anxious make you not try new things. Interesting, people who partied a lot regret partying so much and wish they saved more. People who don't party a lot wish they partied more. I definitely don't regret partying like a rockstar when I was younger, I just wish hadn't thought I needed a new outfit every weekend just to go out drinking.
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Post by swamp on Feb 25, 2014 13:46:40 GMT -5
I don't regret the partying either.
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Post by Rocky Mtn Saver on Feb 25, 2014 13:46:49 GMT -5
Oh, and self? Join YM earlier.
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 25, 2014 13:47:34 GMT -5
Do NOT marry that idiot. Also, grow the eff up! Have you just called your ex an idiot? Can you do that without banning yourself for at least a few days? I know he is not a member here but My second husband passed away nearly 6 years ago, Tloonya. The idiot of whom I speak was my first husband, who I married before my brain had completed its development. In other words, I was dumb as a post! He was a drunk, and he was a mean drunk. He did two decent things in his whole life. Those two are my daughter and my son. Yes, I can call my ex-husband an idiot. He's dead, too, so I'm sure it won't bother him a bit. It wouldn't anyway, as I called him far worse than that to his face.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 25, 2014 13:54:03 GMT -5
Be smart like my girlfriend. Date the bad boys but marry the nerd. My life would have been so much happier and stable had I done so. I also regret not pursuing my dream career. Not very YM and I appreciated the stability and hours of a teaching career but I always regretted not following my passion and dreams. Now I'm old and its too late.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2014 13:55:43 GMT -5
take better care of yourself.....you only get one body
dont be in such a hurry to grow up
be adventurous but not stupid
trust your gut....when someone feels wrong it usually is
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Post by sunshinegal1981 on Feb 25, 2014 13:57:30 GMT -5
Watch the credit card debt and be young and party while you can, because you'll hit 30, wonder why you didn't party more, and be too tired to do it. Oh, more importantly - don't let being shy and anxious make you not try new things. Interesting, people who partied a lot regret partying so much and wish they saved more. People who don't party a lot wish they partied more. Along the lines of this, I actually wish I had capitalized better on my "18-25 yr old cute girl" status, and dated more interesting, older, financially solvent men. (I DID date older interesting men.. just wish there had been MORE of them. Make sense?) I only got whisked away on one epic long-weekend to the south of France (all expenses paid, natch), and enjoyed it immensely. In retrospect, I could have probably been invited on more such trips. ;-) (I was smart enough as an 18-25 yr old to tell the respectful gents (who simply enjoyed the company of a young lady and were more than happy to foot the bill) from the creeps, so I'm not even going to address that part of it.) I have the whole rest of my life to be financially responsible with my amazing DH. Wish I had enjoyed the "other life" more fully when I had the chance. :-) Flame away.
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Post by swamp on Feb 25, 2014 14:02:57 GMT -5
No flame here.
I wish I would have sent my hot self out to find some financially solvent gentlemen.
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Post by midjd on Feb 25, 2014 14:05:10 GMT -5
How bad is it that I'd rather go back in time and tell DH's younger self a few things?
(at least - don't play football! And don't go to that surgeon!)
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2014 14:05:10 GMT -5
Interesting, people who partied a lot regret partying so much and wish they saved more. People who don't party a lot wish they partied more. Along the lines of this, I actually wish I had capitalized better on my "18-25 yr old cute girl" status, and dated more interesting, older, financially solvent men. (I DID date older interesting men.. just wish there had been MORE of them. Make sense?) I only got whisked away on one epic long-weekend to the south of France (all expenses paid, natch), and enjoyed it immensely. In retrospect, I could have probably been invited on more such trips. ;-) (I was smart enough as an 18-25 yr old to tell the respectful gents (who simply enjoyed the company of a young lady and were more than happy to foot the bill) from the creeps, so I'm not even going to address that part of it.) I have the whole rest of my life to be financially responsible with my amazing DH. Wish I had enjoyed the "other life" more fully when I had the chance. :-) Flame away. Lol. It is interesting to wish that you had whored yourself out a little more.
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Post by constanz22 on Feb 25, 2014 14:06:17 GMT -5
Money wise? Live within your means. I amassed an ungodly amount of CC debt over the years, partly due to working in a low paying field and the other just cuz I wanted "stuff". I think I also spent a lot of money in my 20's and 30's trying to "buy" love and attention from others, particularly boyfriends.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Feb 25, 2014 14:10:47 GMT -5
I don't regret not partying/dating more when I was a teen. It's just not my thing, we've established I'm a nerd so don't say it. I DO regret not rocking my 18 year old body more b/c I'm never going to be that flat again. I should have spent more time at the pool in a bikini.
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Post by souldoubt on Feb 25, 2014 14:12:34 GMT -5
I don't regret partying at all. I was a reserved kid through HS then at 19 I started to make up for lost time and more than made up for it for 8-9 years with the first 6 or so being a blur at times. I had a blast and came out unscathed but at times it impacted my mood or personality and that's the only thing I wish didn't happen.
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Post by busymom on Feb 25, 2014 14:14:49 GMT -5
Telephone those friends you rarely hear from more often. (I had 2 good friends from school who died too young. And I didn't find out either of them had passed away until long after their funerals.)
To my 20-something self: put more money into those company retirement plans. You'll thank me later...
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Feb 25, 2014 14:32:50 GMT -5
Lay off the carbs a little. your body doesn't process them easily...
oh and spend a little less money on 4" heels while dating that 6'5" jerk... he's going to cheat and your back issues turn all those heels into closet decor.
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Post by sunshinegal1981 on Feb 25, 2014 14:34:23 GMT -5
Along the lines of this, I actually wish I had capitalized better on my "18-25 yr old cute girl" status, and dated more interesting, older, financially solvent men. (I DID date older interesting men.. just wish there had been MORE of them. Make sense?) I only got whisked away on one epic long-weekend to the south of France (all expenses paid, natch), and enjoyed it immensely. In retrospect, I could have probably been invited on more such trips. ;-) (I was smart enough as an 18-25 yr old to tell the respectful gents (who simply enjoyed the company of a young lady and were more than happy to foot the bill) from the creeps, so I'm not even going to address that part of it.) I have the whole rest of my life to be financially responsible with my amazing DH. Wish I had enjoyed the "other life" more fully when I had the chance. :-) Flame away. Lol. It is interesting to wish that you had whored yourself out a little more. Lol right back. As far as I understand it, 'whoring oneself out' refers to the performance of sexual activities that one would NOT otherwise engage in, for financial/material gain. Since I was dating wonderful and interesting gentlemen ANYWAY, I merely remarked that I should have preferentially been choosing wonderful and interesting gentlemen who also had the ability and willingness to take me places and show me things that I would not otherwise get to experience. (And that I would never in a million years want to spend MY financial resources on.) (For the record, one of my exes gave me my first copy of The Millionnaire Next Door, and encouraged me to keep up my college grades above all else. I dated some truly classy dudes, back in the day. I remember my experiences fondly.)
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Post by tloonya on Feb 25, 2014 14:35:34 GMT -5
Along the lines of this, I actually wish I had capitalized better on my "18-25 yr old cute girl" status, and dated more interesting, older, financially solvent men. (I DID date older interesting men.. just wish there had been MORE of them. Make sense?) I only got whisked away on one epic long-weekend to the south of France (all expenses paid, natch), and enjoyed it immensely. In retrospect, I could have probably been invited on more such trips. ;-) (I was smart enough as an 18-25 yr old to tell the respectful gents (who simply enjoyed the company of a young lady and were more than happy to foot the bill) from the creeps, so I'm not even going to address that part of it.) I have the whole rest of my life to be financially responsible with my amazing DH. Wish I had enjoyed the "other life" more fully when I had the chance. :-) Flame away. Lol. It is interesting to wish that you had whored yourself out a little more. Archie...ask your wife, I am sure if she is honest she will tell you the same thing. I am just shocked at the honesty of the sunshine.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2014 14:36:50 GMT -5
Lol. It is interesting to wish that you had whored yourself out a little more. Archie...ask your wife, I am sure if she is honest she will tell you the same thing. I am just shocked at the honesty of the sunshine. She is not honest. The slut.
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Post by tloonya on Feb 25, 2014 14:38:15 GMT -5
Archie...ask your wife, I am sure if she is honest she will tell you the same thing. I am just shocked at the honesty of the sunshine. She is not honest. The slut. Your wife? WTH are you talking about? Are you drunk?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2014 14:38:59 GMT -5
She is not honest. The slut. Your wife? WTH are you talking about? Are you drunk? I wish I was drunk. I am drunk on accounting. That is not the fun kind of drunk. It is mean, angry kind of drunk.
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Post by tloonya on Feb 25, 2014 14:40:32 GMT -5
Lol. It is interesting to wish that you had whored yourself out a little more. Lol right back. As far as I understand it, 'whoring oneself out' refers to the performance of sexual activities that one would NOT otherwise engage in, for financial/material gain. Since I was dating wonderful and interesting gentlemen ANYWAY, I merely remarked that I should have preferentially been choosing wonderful and interesting gentlemen who also had the ability and willingness to take me places and show me things that I would not otherwise get to experience. (And that I would never in a million years want to spend MY financial resources on.) (For the record, one of my exes gave me my first copy of The Millionnaire Next Door, and encouraged me to keep up my college grades above all else. I dated some truly classy dudes, back in the day. I remember my experiences fondly.) I see now. Archie is just jealous. He didn't date cool cougars. No one sent him to Europe in exchange for sex. No wonder why he ended up that way he did...married with children. Just like a sitcom!
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Post by tloonya on Feb 25, 2014 14:41:24 GMT -5
Your wife? WTH are you talking about? Are you drunk? I wish I was drunk. I am drunk on accounting. That is not the fun kind of drunk. It is mean, angry kind of drunk. We agreed, Arch, that the only time it is ok to answer just a last question when you are TEXTING!
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Post by imawino on Feb 25, 2014 14:44:55 GMT -5
LMAO. Some days I think I would sit my young self down and say "Every decision you make - just do the fucking opposite. Trust."
Honestly, there were times when I should have worked harder and worried more, and times when I worried for no reason at all. I'm not sure that my old self has any useful advice for my young self. Why rain on her parade?! Bitch is having an awesome time! Most of the time, anyway. Maybe not so much when she cashed out her first IRA for a trip to vegas. LOL.
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Post by imawino on Feb 25, 2014 14:47:12 GMT -5
Interesting, people who partied a lot regret partying so much and wish they saved more. People who don't party a lot wish they partied more. Along the lines of this, I actually wish I had capitalized better on my "18-25 yr old cute girl" status, and dated more interesting, older, financially solvent men. (I DID date older interesting men.. just wish there had been MORE of them. Make sense?) I only got whisked away on one epic long-weekend to the south of France (all expenses paid, natch), and enjoyed it immensely. In retrospect, I could have probably been invited on more such trips. ;-) (I was smart enough as an 18-25 yr old to tell the respectful gents (who simply enjoyed the company of a young lady and were more than happy to foot the bill) from the creeps, so I'm not even going to address that part of it.) I have the whole rest of my life to be financially responsible with my amazing DH. Wish I had enjoyed the "other life" more fully when I had the chance. :-) Flame away. I hope you don't perceive this as flaming, but all older gents who pay to "enjoy the company of a young lady" are creeps.
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Post by tloonya on Feb 25, 2014 14:51:41 GMT -5
Along the lines of this, I actually wish I had capitalized better on my "18-25 yr old cute girl" status, and dated more interesting, older, financially solvent men. (I DID date older interesting men.. just wish there had been MORE of them. Make sense?) I only got whisked away on one epic long-weekend to the south of France (all expenses paid, natch), and enjoyed it immensely. In retrospect, I could have probably been invited on more such trips. ;-) (I was smart enough as an 18-25 yr old to tell the respectful gents (who simply enjoyed the company of a young lady and were more than happy to foot the bill) from the creeps, so I'm not even going to address that part of it.) I have the whole rest of my life to be financially responsible with my amazing DH. Wish I had enjoyed the "other life" more fully when I had the chance. :-) Flame away. I hope you don't perceive this as flaming, but all older gents who pay to "enjoy the company of a young lady" are creeps. From who's point of view? One person in Internet forum?
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Post by imawino on Feb 25, 2014 14:54:00 GMT -5
I hope you don't perceive this as flaming, but all older gents who pay to "enjoy the company of a young lady" are creeps. From who's point of view? One guy in Internet forum? I was pretty sure I'm a girl. Hang on, let me check under the skirt.....yep, girl. Oh, but to further answer - from the point of view of a little something I like to call "Reality".
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Post by Jake 48 on Feb 25, 2014 14:57:17 GMT -5
It's OK to have your heart broken practice moderation in all you do get an education save for a rainy day patience don't put the kids before your SO, when the kids leave all you have is each other treat others the way you want to be treated
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Post by tloonya on Feb 25, 2014 14:57:55 GMT -5
From who's point of view? One guy in Internet forum? I was pretty sure I'm a girl. Hang on, let me check under the skirt.....yep, girl. Oh...then you just one of those who had never had any relationships with older dudes who are far from creepy? (then shut up! please)...you lost so much and its too late to catch up...unless you will be willing to date Woody Allen...
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Post by Deleted on Feb 25, 2014 15:24:00 GMT -5
From who's point of view? One guy in Internet forum? I was pretty sure I'm a girl. Hang on, let me check under the skirt.....yep, girl. Oh, but to further answer - from the point of view of a little something I like to call "Reality". I agree, but I don't think the guys Suneshinegal was talking about were "paying" to date her. She said she was actually interested in them, so I'm not getting the impression that she was some kind of escort.
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Post by sunshinegal1981 on Feb 25, 2014 15:42:20 GMT -5
Along the lines of this, I actually wish I had capitalized better on my "18-25 yr old cute girl" status, and dated more interesting, older, financially solvent men. (I DID date older interesting men.. just wish there had been MORE of them. Make sense?) I only got whisked away on one epic long-weekend to the south of France (all expenses paid, natch), and enjoyed it immensely. In retrospect, I could have probably been invited on more such trips. ;-) (I was smart enough as an 18-25 yr old to tell the respectful gents (who simply enjoyed the company of a young lady and were more than happy to foot the bill) from the creeps, so I'm not even going to address that part of it.) I have the whole rest of my life to be financially responsible with my amazing DH. Wish I had enjoyed the "other life" more fully when I had the chance. :-) Flame away. I hope you don't perceive this as flaming, but all older gents who pay to "enjoy the company of a young lady" are creeps. I disagree completely, and am saddened that this has been your experience. But I also want to distinguish: I am not talking about being paid for ones company. I am talking about being in a consensual, mutually enjoyable relationship with someone on a 'higher financial plane', such that when he wants to travel somewhere nice and stay in an expensive hotel, he pays the way for his college-student girlfriend to accompany him without batting an eye, because he realizes she can't afford such luxuries on her own, but wants to share the experience with her. You've never been taken out to a nice dinner by a boyfriend? Well, this is the same thing. Just that dinner was on a different continent.
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