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Post by mmhmm on Feb 13, 2014 15:12:44 GMT -5
Amen. A friend of mine has a 60 something year old sister who was living with their 90 year old mother. The sister has always had mental health issues, but she was doing well enough she could help her mother. Unfortunately over the last few years she's had multiple breaks with reality, at which point she gets abusive and physical. Different siblings have tried to help her but she pretty much burned all those bridges. After her last melt down, my friend was able to get her admitted to a psychiatric ward in the nearest city, about 45 minutes away. Unfortunately, with no insurance, they would only keep her 72 hours, after which they called various family members to come pick her up. When they all refused (they had all agreed it wasn't safe for sister to keep living with the fragile 90 year old mom anymore) the hospital actually got the local police to drive her home in a squad car. Dropped her off at the front door and drove off. Sister is still angry, physical and abusive to mom. Siblings don't want her living with mom, and don't want to take her in. Sister doesn't want to be there, but has no where else to go. Sister has never worked, has no money, and no friends willing to take her in. Hospital won't take her back because they claim she isn't dangerous (although they would probably be glad to take her if she had insurance). Miserable situation. OMG, happy, that is a miserable situation to say the least!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2014 15:50:49 GMT -5
Amen. A friend of mine has a 60 something year old sister who was living with their 90 year old mother. The sister has always had mental health issues, but she was doing well enough she could help her mother. Unfortunately over the last few years she's had multiple breaks with reality, at which point she gets abusive and physical. Different siblings have tried to help her but she pretty much burned all those bridges. After her last melt down, my friend was able to get her admitted to a psychiatric ward in the nearest city, about 45 minutes away. Unfortunately, with no insurance, they would only keep her 72 hours, after which they called various family members to come pick her up. When they all refused (they had all agreed it wasn't safe for sister to keep living with the fragile 90 year old mom anymore) the hospital actually got the local police to drive her home in a squad car. Dropped her off at the front door and drove off. Sister is still angry, physical and abusive to mom. Siblings don't want her living with mom, and don't want to take her in. Sister doesn't want to be there, but has no where else to go. Sister has never worked, has no money, and no friends willing to take her in. Hospital won't take her back because they claim she isn't dangerous (although they would probably be glad to take her if she had insurance). Miserable situation. OMG, happy, that is a miserable situation to say the least! Yes it is. I guess I can count my blessings that DH's meltdown was pretty massive to the point that the state put in orders for protection and he wasn't just dropped off at anyone's house. It's a small town jail and they held him felony charges for a long time while things were worked out, then dismissed them. The year prior was getting progressively worse and he was slowly convincing me that I was the crazy one. He even had me going to therapy claiming I was bipolar (this coincidentally is one of the things he was diagnosed with). The therapist said I was depressed, but he'd be too. I don't know if I'm better or worse now. My house is a disaster and I don't know if it's because I just don't care or because I'm exhausted. It bugs me so I think I care.
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mmhmm
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Post by mmhmm on Feb 13, 2014 16:13:36 GMT -5
Sweetie, the last thing that's important right now is how your house looks. What's important is you. If you don't take care of yourself, you can't be there for anyone else, including the kids. Don't sweat the freakin' house. You can get to that when you have the strength, both emotionally, and physically. Right now, you're probably at the end of your rope and I can certainly understand that. Be good to yourself. Let the kids help to keep things reasonable, but you don't have to sweat the small stuff.
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Post by sapphire12 on Feb 13, 2014 16:13:46 GMT -5
MPL -- hugs to you and yours. Hopefully, you all are on a better path.
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Post by Cass on Feb 13, 2014 16:18:20 GMT -5
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Post by les63 on Feb 13, 2014 16:21:26 GMT -5
Hugs MPL. I wish your situation was better. Like mmhmm said, try not to sweat the small stuff.
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Post by zibazinski on Feb 13, 2014 16:29:56 GMT -5
I can't believe the police just dropped the person off. What if there was no one home? But the nursing care after hospital made DFs aunt come and get her husband. Although what an 80 year old woman was supposed to do with a 86 year old man with dementia is beyond me?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2014 16:49:02 GMT -5
Sweetie, the last thing that's important right now is how your house looks. What's important is you. If you don't take care of yourself, you can't be there for anyone else, including the kids. Don't sweat the freakin' house. You can get to that when you have the strength, both emotionally, and physically. Right now, you're probably at the end of your rope and I can certainly understand that. Be good to yourself. Let the kids help to keep things reasonable, but you don't have to sweat the small stuff. I'm supposed to get all his stuff packed up and put in the motorhome. He said he didn't want anything, but his attorney asked me to, plus, I don't want all his personal belongings anyhow. Then I need to get the basement cleared in prep for another potential flood this spring. And I really need to think about what to do with the farm. I've been on this property for 15 years and it was nothing but a hayfield when I got it 20 years ago, but the payment is more than I make and it's a money pit. But, generally what happens is I get home, get the kids fed, do barn chores, get the kids through the homework/bath/bedtime reading, then collapse on the couch with a movie and a bowl of popcorn. I'll get more energy when the weather finally changes and the days get longer.
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