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Post by tloonya on Jan 31, 2014 13:04:00 GMT -5
I was thinking...if I can not afford full time housekeeper - I opt for cleaning lady once in 2 weeks. What if I want to live like a more sophisticated person but can't afford it? What if I hire a butler that will come in the morning to open door when I live for work for me and after 5pm to open door when I am back from work? And maybe serve my dinner...2 hours tops. That would make me feel...appreciated and not fully broke.
Questions are - 1. what about uniform? Will I have to provide it or do they come fully dressed? because I want an experienced one! I don't want one that will be looking for a door until it hit him in the butt. I want one with class and white gloves and all...
2. What is approximate butler age if my Dh is 57? Like 65 maybe so there is gonna be no problems if you know what I mean...
3. I have NO idea what they charge.
4. If he serves dinner, does he supposed to stay until the end and wash dishes? Because if I am washing it after - it will automatically make me like I was yesterday...just me. and I am looking for changes in my life.
5. If I have a butler does it mean I have to hire one for my child? And if there are a few people there should they split the cost of his services? Go ahead, share your ideas.
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Post by hoops902 on Jan 31, 2014 13:14:13 GMT -5
I think the problem you're going to have is finding someone who wants to give up both their early morning and their dinnertime without working in between.
I can't imagine why an "experienced one" would want to do what you're looking for.
If they are serving your dinner, who is cooking your dinner?
In comparison to a cleaning lady, this is a bit like asking the cleaning lady to come to your home from 8-8:30 to clean up the dirty clothes you left on the floor and the bathroom after you've gotten ready for work. 12-12:30 to pick up after lunch. 6-6:30 to clean up after dinner. And 10-10:30 to pick up after you've gone to bed for the night. People who are good won't do it without charging you for essentially the entire day.
::4. If he serves dinner, does he supposed to stay until the end and wash dishes? Because if I am washing it after - it will automatically make me like I was yesterday...just me. and I am looking for changes in my life.::
He's a butler, not a dishwasher.
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Post by sesfw on Jan 31, 2014 13:25:36 GMT -5
I'm the old fashioned type ........... want a cleaning lady to come in every other week. LOL
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Post by tloonya on Jan 31, 2014 13:31:13 GMT -5
hoops, great question! Who cooks my dinner? Olive garden? Idk... Well...I didn't say butler is a dishwasher however I would not call cleaning lady to wash dishes every day! So he as well gonna have to do it or I will have to fire him.
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Post by midjd on Jan 31, 2014 13:33:24 GMT -5
Could you use paper plates?
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 31, 2014 13:41:15 GMT -5
No self respecting butler is going to serve you dinner on paper plates.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 31, 2014 13:45:40 GMT -5
Loony, what you might want isn't really a butler, but possibly a personal chef. Someone who comes in with all the ingredients, cooks everything, serves it, cleans up and leaves. They can cook one meal, or a whole week's worth, put the food in containers and refrigerate or freeze everything. All you need to do is heat and eat. www.personalchef.com/questions2ask1.htm
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Post by hoops902 on Jan 31, 2014 13:46:18 GMT -5
No self respecting butler is going to serve you dinner on paper plates. No self respecting butler is going to show up purely to open your door in the morning and then go back home.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 31, 2014 13:46:19 GMT -5
Can I date your butler?
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 31, 2014 13:52:46 GMT -5
True, but you might be able to talk a stay at home spouse in your neighborhood into doing it for a bit of cash. I hear they're willing to watch screaming fussy children for 10 hours a day at $2 an hour. I'm sure they'd put on a silly suit and open your door for you for like $5.
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Post by tloonya on Jan 31, 2014 13:58:38 GMT -5
No self respecting butler is going to serve you dinner on paper plates. Exactly! You would think people understand that!!! Right? I am like...whaaat? What is the purpose of having a butler if you eat from paper? I supposed they want me to use plastic tools That's a riot!
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Post by tloonya on Jan 31, 2014 14:03:07 GMT -5
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Post by doxieluvr on Jan 31, 2014 14:05:52 GMT -5
Loony, what you might want isn't really a butler, but possibly a personal chef. Someone who comes in with all the ingredients, cooks everything, serves it, cleans up and leaves. They can cook one meal, or a whole week's worth, put the food in containers and refrigerate or freeze everything. All you need to do is heat and eat. www.personalchef.com/questions2ask1.htmBut you still have to buy the groceries. Might as well just eat out or have carry out.
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Post by resolution on Jan 31, 2014 14:07:17 GMT -5
I vote for buying your husband a tux and telling him that you think it's sexy when he opens doors for you.
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Post by tloonya on Jan 31, 2014 14:08:07 GMT -5
True, but you might be able to talk a stay at home spouse in your neighborhood into doing it for a bit of cash. I hear they're willing to watch screaming fussy children for 10 hours a day at $2 an hour. I'm sure they'd put on a silly suit and open your door for you for like $5. I am crying, Dark! I am literally crying because you are the only one who took this to the next level unlike Nancy here who simply is trying to sabotage my effort of having a BUTLER and suggesting some...chef! YUCK! Like them chefs will wear white gloves and bow and call me maaam... Did you see her suggesting frozen food in plastic containers Imagining dressed up butler in white gloves serving me defrosted pretzel on a paper plate just make me wanna slap somebody over the head!
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 31, 2014 14:11:42 GMT -5
Loony, what you might want isn't really a butler, but possibly a personal chef. Someone who comes in with all the ingredients, cooks everything, serves it, cleans up and leaves. They can cook one meal, or a whole week's worth, put the food in containers and refrigerate or freeze everything. All you need to do is heat and eat. www.personalchef.com/questions2ask1.htmBut you still have to buy the groceries. Might as well just eat out or have carry out. Not true in all cases. Depends on who you hire. Some chefs will do the buying, prepping, cooking, packaging and cleanup. Some will cook what you buy. All personal chefs tailor the menu to your tastes and needs. I've interviewed personal chefs, and they all work differently (and charge accordingly). And personal chefs are not just for rich celebrities, either. Busy families use them, too. They can get a week's worth of dinners only, or 21 full meals, or whatever they need, all tailored to their tastes and budgets.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Jan 31, 2014 14:15:11 GMT -5
No self respecting butler is going to serve you dinner on paper plates. No self-respecting butler is going to serve dinner either. That's not job requirement of a Butler.
A true butler is more a "household manager" or "boss" of the other staff (housekeeping, maids, cooks, etc). He's also usually in charge of maintaining the wine cellar and choosing the wines.
A real butler wouldn't even consider tloonya's loony idea. Real ones make a boatload of money- tloonya would never be able to afford one.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 31, 2014 14:16:52 GMT -5
But you still have to buy the groceries. Might as well just eat out or have carry out. Not true in all cases. Depends on who you hire. Some chefs will do the buying, prepping, cooking, packaging and cleanup. Some will cook what you buy. All personal chefs tailor the menu to your tastes and needs. I've interviewed personal chefs, and they all work differently (and charge accordingly). And personal chefs are not just for rich celebrities, either. Busy families use them, too. They can get a week's worth of dinners only, or 21 full meals, or whatever they need, all tailored to their tastes and budgets. Oh man...I want one of those. But, by the time I can afford one, the kids will be gone and might as well go with a stack of Lean Cuisines in the freezer. LOL
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Post by tloonya on Jan 31, 2014 14:16:54 GMT -5
I vote for buying your husband a tux and telling him that you think it's sexy when he opens doors for you. I don't want a taxed butler. I am envisioning one in suite with tassels and hat. I wanted to show you the picture and I had typed it into google and LOOK!!!!!!!!!!!!! I want that one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! www.google.com/search?q=butler&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=FPXrUpq9Lu2MyAGci4H4Ag&ved=0CAcQ_AUoAQ&biw=1366&bih=673...and I will cook for him and my husband will open doors etc. whatever he wants... -drool-I think...
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Post by doxieluvr on Jan 31, 2014 14:34:21 GMT -5
Not true in all cases. Depends on who you hire. Some chefs will do the buying, prepping, cooking, packaging and cleanup. Some will cook what you buy. All personal chefs tailor the menu to your tastes and needs. I've interviewed personal chefs, and they all work differently (and charge accordingly). And personal chefs are not just for rich celebrities, either. Busy families use them, too. They can get a week's worth of dinners only, or 21 full meals, or whatever they need, all tailored to their tastes and budgets. Oh man...I want one of those. But, by the time I can afford one, the kids will be gone and might as well go with a stack of Lean Cuisines in the freezer. LOL Yeah me too. Our entire grocery and dining out budget is $400. I doubt a personal chef can work with that and still make money.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 31, 2014 14:53:09 GMT -5
Oh man...I want one of those. But, by the time I can afford one, the kids will be gone and might as well go with a stack of Lean Cuisines in the freezer. LOL Yeah me too. Our entire grocery and dining out budget is $400. I doubt a personal chef can work with that and still make money. Is that per month or per week? I don't have kids or dogs, so I have to ask. If it's per month, you might be surprised. Remember, they only show up once a week, cook everything, and store it all. They are trained to shop locally and economically, all while catering to you. Pay ranges I've heard vary quite a bit, but $400-$650 per week, depending on food costs and number of servings and meals made, seems to be the norm. And you are saving yourself time and gas and personal wear-and-tear, because the chef does all the driving, buying, food prep and cleanup. Add the cost of gas and time to your budget and you realize some savings. And remember, you don't have to do all your meals with a chef. Just seven dinners might be worthwhile.
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Post by doxieluvr on Jan 31, 2014 15:20:15 GMT -5
Thats $400 per month.
It does not include dog food.
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Post by NoNamePerson on Jan 31, 2014 15:30:57 GMT -5
Hell, I want to marry her butler
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 31, 2014 15:45:27 GMT -5
Thats $400 per month. It does not include dog food. OK, so check some personal chef websites, contact a few and let them know your budget and how many meals you want. See what any of them can do with it. No harm, no foul in asking.
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Post by doxieluvr on Jan 31, 2014 15:52:07 GMT -5
Thats $400 per month. It does not include dog food. OK, so check some personal chef websites, contact a few and let them know your budget and how many meals you want. See what any of them can do with it. No harm, no foul in asking. I would be shocked if a personal chef could provide us 90-93 meals a month for $400. I just dont see it happening. Or everyone would have a personal chef.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 31, 2014 15:58:24 GMT -5
So don't get 90 meals. Even you should be able to make a bowl of cereal, or a pot of oatmeal. Get the personal chef to make dinners. And your $400 a month in groceries isn't everything you spend on food. You'd have to add your eating out money as well. If you have a personal chef making every single meal you don't need to eat out again like ever, so add that however many hundreds it is.
You said you guys eat out or get take out almost every night. That's gotta add up to a pretty penny.
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Post by dannylion on Jan 31, 2014 16:01:59 GMT -5
I vote for buying your husband a tux and telling him that you think it's sexy when he opens doors for you. I don't want a taxed butler. I am envisioning one in suite with tassels and hat. I wanted to show you the picture and I had typed it into google and LOOK!!!!!!!!!!!!! I want that one!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! www.google.com/search?q=butler&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=FPXrUpq9Lu2MyAGci4H4Ag&ved=0CAcQ_AUoAQ&biw=1366&bih=673...and I will cook for him and my husband will open doors etc. whatever he wants... -drool-I think... Some guy who shows up in your hotel suite in nothing but tassels and a hat is not a butler. "Butler" may not mean what you think it means. What kind of hat?
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 31, 2014 16:03:51 GMT -5
OK, so check some personal chef websites, contact a few and let them know your budget and how many meals you want. See what any of them can do with it. No harm, no foul in asking. I would be shocked if a personal chef could provide us 90-93 meals a month for $400. I just dont see it happening. Or everyone would have a personal chef. I'm shocked at very little. Then again, I've been around. And I write about food. And I've done the research. And interviewed a few personal chefs. And don't confuse a private chef and a personal chef. They are two different things. Private chefs are costly. Personal chefs don't have to be. Don't make excuses, make the call.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 31, 2014 16:07:24 GMT -5
Some guy who shows up in your hotel suite in nothing but tassels and a hat is not a butler. "Butler" may not mean what you think it means. What kind of hat? If it's the same one Pharrell Williams wore to the Grammy Awards, is it still sexy as long as the rest of him wears just the tassels?
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Post by lynnerself on Jan 31, 2014 16:08:57 GMT -5
Did you see the placement ads on the site Sroo listed?
Experienced Head butler-House manager for Middle East
Top salary & package for an experienced Butler/ House manager for household in Middle East. Other staff employed. Must have excellent management and communication skills and a knowledge of Arabian customs and advantage. Supervision of other staff, management of stock and provisions. A knowledge of Hindi would be advantageous.
Butler-Steward (Female) Middle East
Very experienced butler/ Steward to work in Middle Eastern household. The role is for the female floors within the household and preference will be given to female candidates. Supervision of staff, service of meals and liaising with the rest of the household staff. Top salary for right candidate!
Butler House-Manager, Southern United States of America
Very experienced mature Butler Household manager for a high profile employer in the deep south. Full staff employed, Chefs, Security and Housekeepers. Service of meals, Liaising with outside contractors, planning dinner parties. Separate accommodation provided. Full benefits package. Excellent salary package. Must be a Green-card holder, No exceptions.
I really want to know who the "high profile" employer in the "deep south" is.
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